Toxic mom quiz
Toxic parents test: Are your parents toxic?
by Hanan Parvez
While any family member can be toxic, parental toxicity is the most prevalent and damaging to an individual. Parental toxicity is characterized by a persistent pattern of toxic interactions where the victim is subjected to physical or psychological abuse. In short, any parental behavior that harms you in any way is toxic behavior.
When parents are toxic, they refuse to give autonomy and independence to the child. All their behaviors revolve around the common theme of non-acceptance. They reject the child’s individuality and identity. Healthy parenting, in contrast, is characterized by openness and acceptance of who the child is or wishes to be.
Families differ in their levels of parental toxicity. Sometimes, one parent is more toxic than the other. In worst-case scenarios, both parents are highly toxic. This quiz is based on the patterns that are repeatedly observed in toxic families.
There are a total of 25 items with options ranging from Strongly agree to Strongly disagree. Answer each item honestly and how it applies to both your parents. This is a combined parental toxicity test which means you need to think of both your parents when doing the test. If an item applies only to one of your parents, answer it accordingly irrespective of the other parent.
This test is not meant for children but for those who’re teenagers or have crossed their teenage years. Your answers are not recorded in our database, nor shared with anyone.
Toxic parents test
1. My parents have hit me or used physical pain to discipline me more than once.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neither agree nor disagree
Disagree
Strongly disagree
2. My parents criticize my physical appearance.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neither agree nor disagree
Disagree
Strongly disagree
3. My parents made hurtful statements to me such as “You’re a loser” or “You won't amount to anything.”
Strongly agree
Agree
Neither agree nor disagree
Disagree
Strongly disagree
4. I feel I have to walk on eggshells around my parents to avoid setting them off.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neither agree nor disagree
Disagree
Strongly disagree
5. My parents have threatened to disown me or hurt me for my choices?
Strongly agree
Agree
Neither agree nor disagree
Disagree
Strongly disagree
6. I have contemplated leaving home more than once because of my parents.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neither agree nor disagree
Disagree
Strongly disagree
7. My parents treat me poorly when they're in a bad mood.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neither agree nor disagree
Disagree
Strongly disagree
8. I feel uncomfortable approaching my parents with my problems?
Strongly agree
Agree
Neither agree nor disagree
Disagree
Strongly disagree
9. My parents overreact to minor things and blame me even when it's not my fault.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neither agree nor disagree
Disagree
Strongly disagree
10. My parents invade my privacy and snoop through my personal things.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neither agree nor disagree
Disagree
Strongly disagree
11.
My parents didn't appreciate my successes as much as I wanted them to.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neither agree nor disagree
Disagree
Strongly disagree
12. My parents made key decisons for me and paid no heed to my preferences or opinions.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neither agree nor disagree
Disagree
Strongly disagree
13. I feel like, as a child, my parents burdened me with more responsibilities than I could handle.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neither agree nor disagree
Disagree
Strongly disagree
14. I hide my true intentions, emotions, and opinions from my parents.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neither agree nor disagree
Disagree
Strongly disagree
15.
My parents compare me to my friends, siblings, and relatives.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neither agree nor disagree
Disagree
Strongly disagree
16. I feel I cannot open up to my parents.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neither agree nor disagree
Disagree
Strongly disagree
17. I have a hard time saying "No" to my parents.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neither agree nor disagree
Disagree
Strongly disagree
18. I've changed decisions or canceled plans because I thought a parent wouldn't approve of them.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neither agree nor disagree
Disagree
Strongly disagree
19. When I make mistakes, my parents make me feel bad about them.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neither agree nor disagree
Disagree
Strongly disagree
20. I feel like my parents never gave me any room to be independent. They did everything for me.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neither agree nor disagree
Disagree
Strongly disagree
21. I still have feelings of anger and resentment towards my parents from my childhood.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neither agree nor disagree
Disagree
Strongly disagree
22. I feel compelled to constantly please my parents and other people.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neither agree nor disagree
Disagree
Strongly disagree
23. My parents still treat me like a child sometimes.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neither agree nor disagree
Disagree
Strongly disagree
24. I have dreamt about my parents being toxic towards me more than once.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neither agree nor disagree
Disagree
Strongly disagree
25. My parents criticize my decisions, even though there's nothing there to criticize.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neither agree nor disagree
Disagree
Strongly disagree
Hanan Parvez( Author )
Hi, I’m Hanan Parvez (MBA, MA Psychology), founder and author of PsychMechanics. PsychMechanics has been featured in Forbes, Business Insider, Reader’s Digest, and Entrepreneur.
Toxic mother-daughter relationship quiz - PsychMechanics
by Hanan Parvez
Conflicts in close relationships are common.
The people you care about the most affect you the most. Sometimes, though, a line gets crossed, and conflicts in close relationships become toxic to your mental health.
Parents have a significant influence on the psychological development and well-being of their children. What kinds of adults people become is primarily influenced by how they were parented. Healthy parenting creates healthy children and toxic parents create toxic children.
Toxicity in a parent-child relationship can have lasting consequences on the child’s psychology. Effects of toxic parenting include:
- Not developing a sense of self
- Finding it hard to be assertive
- Becoming a people-pleaser
- Low self-esteem
If you think both your parents have been toxic, I recommend taking the toxic parents test.
If you’re a son who suspects your mother has been a toxic influence in your life, I suggest reading about mother-son enmeshment.
If you’re a daughter and believe your relationship with your mother has been toxic, this mother-daughter relationship test is for you.
This quiz consists of 20 items on a 5-point scale ranging from Strongly agree to Strongly disagree. It’s designed for adult daughters to assess the level of toxicity in their relationship with their mother.
Answer each item based on what applies the most to your relationship currently, not what was true in the past. We don’t store your responses in our database, and your result will only be visible to you.
Toxic mother-daughter relationship quiz
1. I frequently disagree and fight with my mother.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neutral
Disagree
Strongly disagree
2. My mother makes me furious and bitter on a regular basis.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neutral
Disagree
Strongly disagree
3. She has a habit of blaming and shaming me and making me feel bad.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neutral
Disagree
Strongly disagree
4. She constantly criticizes and ridicules me.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neutral
Disagree
Strongly disagree
5. She disregards my boundaries and meddles excessively in my personal affairs.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neutral
Disagree
Strongly disagree
6. She wants to know everything about my personal life.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neutral
Disagree
Strongly disagree
7. She gives me unsolicited advice on how to manage my relationships.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neutral
Disagree
Strongly disagree
8.
She's hardly interested in what I have to say.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neutral
Disagree
Strongly disagree
9. She unnecessarily interrupts my conversations.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neutral
Disagree
Strongly disagree
10. She sees my self-care activities as a waste of time.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neutral
Disagree
Strongly disagree
11. I feel like she's over-protective of me.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neutral
Disagree
Strongly disagree
12. She still treats me as if I were a child.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neutral
Disagree
Strongly disagree
13.
She takes decisions for me without consulting me.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neutral
Disagree
Strongly disagree
14. She treats me more like a friend than a daughter.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neutral
Disagree
Strongly disagree
15. I'm afraid I'll become like my mother.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neutral
Disagree
Strongly disagree
16. She makes me feel like she's in competition with me.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neutral
Disagree
Strongly disagree
17. For her, nothing I say or do is good enough.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neutral
Disagree
Strongly disagree
18.
She downplays my accomplishments.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neutral
Disagree
Strongly disagree
19. She dismisses my opinions, choices, and feelings.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neutral
Disagree
Strongly disagree
20. Me and my mother lack an emotional connection.
Strongly agree
Agree
Neutral
Disagree
Strongly disagree
Hanan Parvez( Author )
Hi, I’m Hanan Parvez (MBA, MA Psychology), founder and author of PsychMechanics. PsychMechanics has been featured in Forbes, Business Insider, Reader’s Digest, and Entrepreneur.
Are my parents toxic?
From Susan Forward's Toxic Parents
Why do we need a test?
It's not always easy to realize what your parents were like.
Many people have difficult relationships with their parents, but this does not mean that their parents were emotionally destructive.
Many people are at this point of uncertainty, wondering if the abuse actually happened or if they are just being "over sensitive" themselves.
A list of questions has been prepared here to help you take the first steps towards resolving this doubt. Perhaps some questions will make you feel anxious or uncomfortable.
Don't worry. We always find it hard to tell ourselves the truth if the question we ask ourselves is about how much harm our parents have done to us. Although it can be very painful, emotional reactions in such cases are quite normal.
For simplicity, the questions mention "parents" in the plural, although it is possible that your answers will concern only one of them.
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Are your parents toxic? - Tricky - tests for girls
- Toxic parents - parental behavior based on strict control, suppression and devaluation.
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Question 1.
My parents took it out on me.
Sometimes.
False.
Right.
Question 2.
I had to take care of my parents despite being a child.
Right.
False.
Sometimes.
Question 3.
My parents used to drink alcohol a lot.
Sometimes.
Right.
False.
Question 4.
My parents often brought me to tears.
Sometimes.
False.
Right.
Question 5.
My opinion - depends on the parents.
Right.
False.
Sometimes.
Question 6.
I have set a screen lock password.
Sometimes.
False.
Right.
Question 7.
I had to clear my browser history.
Sometimes.
Right.
False.
Question 8.
I don't tell my parents secrets.
Right.
False.
Sometimes.
Question 9.
I was compared to someone.
False.
Sometimes.
Right.
Question 10.
My parents often manipulate me.
Sometimes.
False.
Right.
Question 11.
I see the bad traits of my parents in myself.
Right.
Sometimes.
False.
Question 12.
My parents criticized me.
Sometimes.
False.
Right.
Question 13.
My parents used physical force.
Sometimes.
Right.
False.
Question 14.
Parents made me feel guilty about something.
Correct.
False.
Sometimes.
Question 15.
I had no personal space.
Sometimes.
False.
Right.
Question 16.
I believe that someday my parents will change for the better.
