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The Secret of Eliminating Female Competition – The Feminine Woman – Dating, Love & Relationship Advice for Women
Are you wondering how to compete with another woman for a man? Or maybe you’re currently in the midst of competing with another woman for a man, and you want to give yourself the best chances.
There are few things that can be as defeating as the feeling that another woman is better than you, or that she might take what is rightfully yours, just because she seems to have a few advantages…
First, I want to tell you that it’s OK that you have that feeling.
It’s not evil, or wrong. I’d have to search far and wide to find a woman who (if she was totally honest with herself) hasn’t ever felt sad or upset over the thought that another woman is better than she is – and may take a man away from her.
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How To Compete With Another Woman For A Man: Offer THIS
The first step to successfully competing with another woman for a man is to focus on offering him the gift of your feminine radiance.
Related: What Exactly IS Feminine Radiance & Why You Need It As A Woman.
Why would you want to focus on offer your feminine radiance?
Well, firstly it would be for your own sanity. It’s never nice as a woman to have to compete with another woman for a man’s affection, love and commitment.
Competition doesn’t really serve or enrich your feminine soul – the feminine thrives on praise, whilst the masculine thrives on challenge.
This means that when you compete with another woman for a man, you’re going to be engaging your masculine energy somewhat, and there’s nothing wrong with that – it’s necessary to get the job done.
Regardless, you need to nurture your feminine in order to actually win the man as well!
A man is not going to perceive much value in you for a relationship if you’re always in your masculine.
So this is the first step. Plus, no woman who is feminine at her core is truly happy unless she is giving her feminine gift to the world.
All of us, man or woman, want to give our feminine or masculine gifts, and if we ever feel as though we cannot do this, it dampens our spirits, defeats us and it can be crippling.
One of the best gifts of femininity is radiance.
Radiance encompasses the following things:
- Integrity
- Beauty
- Compassion
- Personal happiness
- Charm
- Sexiness
- Honesty
- Vulnerability.
Having deeper radiance as a woman makes you more competitive for the best men in the dating pool. Because as my husband D.Shen once said:
“Radiance is for a woman what confidence is for a man.”
True radiance is not something many women currently have, as this modern society causes many women to lose their natural radiance through work , pressure to chase masculine hobbies or ambitions, being overwhelmed by too many responsibilities, and being fed with BS from trashy media.
The overwhelming feeling among many women is that they are not enough, and it’s just not possible to be truly radiant when you feel this way.
It’s a big encumbrance. When you feel like you are not enough, it’s easy, and very possible, for you to start feeling upset or defeated over your perception that another woman has everything you don’t, at every little external trigger.
Then you become a walking, gaping sore. The slightest trigger and you succumb to the feeling of low self worth.
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Living life this way is pretty crap, no?
Most women deal with the feeling that they are not enough by acting pitiful.
We do things like trying to control our man, we act and feel inferior (almost as if our existence is not meant to be).
We bitch about (or actively try to destroy) other women who are a ‘threat’, making the people around us suffer by doing depression.
Ultimately, women try to deal with their insecurity in low value ways by:
- Getting bigger boobs
- Buying shoes with a bigger price tag
- Getting blonder or faker hair
- Bigger and more plastic lips… and so on.
Men don’t perceive actual value in these things. They are simply things that women do in order to avoid feeling like they are ‘not enough’.
Remember that.
If you’re competing with another woman for a man, you should try to remember that to win him, you have to add real value to him and his life. That’s where the real answer lies.
But a lot of women don’t see this…they focus too hard on ‘the other woman’ and what she has, what she is doing, and how she’s trying to ‘one up’ them.
Don’t put your focus there!
While you think your competition is that woman over there; your real competition is actually just hopelessness.
A sense of feeling un-empowered, defeated and thinking that you have no control or power over the situation.
Your competition really is not Jan, Hannah, Sarah, or Miss stuck-up. It’s hopelessness. It’s passiveness. It’s choosing the low value mindset of mediocrity.
Mediocrity is what many people settle for, out of fear and desire for comfort.
Your focus should be on becoming a woman of value to men and to the people you love. Instead, you should trade in your low value mindset for a high value mindset. We can show you how to do this in our program High Value Mindsets.
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Your Competition is Not Other Women, It’s THIS
Stop comparing yourself to every other woman whom you may think is prettier, higher status, smarter, or who has a better body, and start putting in the time and effort towards the goals that really matter.
(Not everything that causes envy or jealousy inside you is worth competing for! You have to be sure that the goal is worth the energy.)
Always comparing yourself to other people’s lives and achievements is a good way to get connection with yourself, and to feel sorry for yourself.
The secret to beating female ‘competition’ is knowing that the competition is not them; it’s your negative thought patterns that lead to a sense of hopelessness. This is why it’s important you have high standards.
Most people try to feel certain and avoid disappointment by feeling as though they could never ‘compare’.
Rather the devil you know than the devil you don’t know, as the saying goes.
(They do this by feeling as though a good life, a good boyfriend, a good family, is beyond them.)
Want an exercise in futility? Then you can think that way. You could never ever feel empowered by doing this. You could never ever feel great about yourself.
how to compete with another woman for a man? Focus on Value, Not HER
Take your focus off the other woman. It will sap your energy and your dignity.
Face it:
There will always be some things, traits or achievements that ‘she’ has that you don’t have. And there will always be traits and achievements that you have, that she cannot replicate.
So, if your goal is to win the man, then focus on him and add real value to his life. Don’t focus on her!
You are playing a game you cannot win. To ‘compare’ yourself to Miss A or B is to drive yourself to a dead end. There’s no way you can ever win. Ever.
It’s just an illusion.
So, know that no matter how great you are, there’s always going to be someone prettier, hotter, taller, younger, older, smarter, having a better career, or having higher status.
As you read this sentence, another 2 dozen babies are born into this world, younger than you. You can’t ever ‘compare’.
And for those of you (which is all of us) who have ever compared yourself to someone whom you considered to be ‘lower’ than you, uglier than you, fatter than you, less intelligent than you – know that the high you get from this is ephemeral.
The key is to focus on what you can do, and what you can control. You can always contribute more, give more, love more, live more and be more. And that makes you ultimately worthy.
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Medically reviewed by Jacquelyn Johnson, PsyD. — By Nancy Lovering — Updated on Oct 6, 2022
Do women compete with each other? From best friends to archrivals, female peer relationships can be extreme and complex.
At first glance, it may seem like men are more prone to competition than women. They can be more risk-tolerant and use more physical aggression toward each other.
Their friendships are by and large transactional, and their conflicts are typically straightforward and direct.
Women on the other hand often experience emotional depth and complexity in both friendship and competition.
If they seem less competitive than men, it’s because they sometimes enact their rivalry drive in more covert and clandestine ways.
Language matters
Sex and gender exist on a spectrum. We use the terms “women” and “men” throughout this article to reflect the terms assigned at birth. But your gender identity may not align with the behaviors listed below.
A therapist may be able to help you better understand what gender-based competition may look like for you.
Female competitiveness predates the race for a seat at the boardroom table. Research from 2021 indicates that when women try to undermine each other’s success, it may be based on an evolutionary instinct to compete for limited resources like:
- food
- shelter
- mates
But unlike men who were also vying for assets, women in some cultures couldn’t place themselves in harm’s way because of their childbearing roles. So instead, some developed adversarial skills that were less direct and more manipulative.
A 2016 abstract of interviews with 30 college women found that females today compete to demonstrate they’ve achieved “feminine ideals” in areas such as:
- consumerism
- media portrayals
- perfection-seeking
- relationships
Competitive behaviors might not be as direct in females as they are in males, but according to an older study, they’re also less likely to fizzle. The study found that women are less prepared than men to resolve their conflicts with same-sex peers.
The instinct to one-up each other persists today. If you’ve experienced conflict between female friends or female jealousy in the workplace, it may be rooted in survival-oriented competitiveness or ideals.
If your female peers are competing with you, it might seem like they’re just being mean. They may engage in behaviors like:
- gossiping
- negativity
- sabotaging
- gaslighting
- nosiness
- boasting
- mimicking
- downplaying your successes
- discrediting you in front of others
The goal of these behaviors would be to reposition you further down in the social rank, so you’re less able to secure the assets that your rival wants.
For your ancestors, those assets might have included a mate to hunt for food and provide protection. Women still compete for mates, but now they also might vie for:
- athletic dominance
- a promotion at work
- popular appeal
Sometimes competition can inspire self-improvement. Your health-conscious cubicle neighbor who cycles 10 miles to and from work might motivate you to pack an apple each day and go for a walk at lunch.
Workplace rivalries may have other upsides too. They can make you more productive and engaged in your work and inspire you to enroll in additional coursework that could bolster your resume or qualify you for a new role within your company.
Female friendships aren’t immune to competition. Maybe there’s an outspoken member of your group who routinely sets the tone for your social events. She might simply be an extrovert, or she might be competitive.
Some competition between alpha females can prompt personal growth. Other times it can become toxic. If your competitive friend is causing you stress, it might be time to set some boundaries and have a conversation with them.
It can also help if you view the situation through the lens of competition as flattery. If your friend sees you as the high bar to reach, it may help to take it as a compliment.
The timeless objective of winning a mate is another way in which the competitiveness of men and women differ.
A 2020 meta-analysis found that men are jealous of their rival’s dominance. Women, meanwhile, experience jealously when their female rival is more attractive. Attractiveness can be an indicator of health and suitability to bear young, so it’s understandable why it’s a quality men might be drawn to, and women might covet.
If a female co-worker regularly takes credit for your achievements or a friend or relative gaslights you, they may be acting on the age-old instinct to suppress a rival. Men and women have a long history of competing with same-sex peers for survival, and it’s a behavior that persists today.
Women sometimes seem less competitive than men because they’re often not as direct in their efforts. Instead, they may engage in passive-aggressive tactics like toxic positivity or sarcasm.
Some competitiveness with a friend can be a productive influence and lead to personal growth. It’s wise to pay attention and set boundaries though, to ensure that a formerly friendly rivalry doesn’t cross a line to become a negative relationship.
Last medically reviewed on October 4, 2022
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Between us girls. Will Russian figure skaters conquer the world? | Reviews | Olympics 2014
The best of the Russians in Sochi will not be?
For a long time the Russian figure skating championship has not attracted as much attention as the completed tournament held at the Iceberg Olympic Arena in Sochi. This is quite understandable - after all, it was he who determined the preliminary composition of the national team at the home Olympics, and also allowed us to make a forecast of what we could expect there.
Ice and fire. Top 10 single skaters in the Russian Championship
10th place in the Russian Figure Skating Championship, Elizaveta Tuktamysheva, 17 years old, winner of the national championship and bronze medalist of the European Championship in the 2012/13 season. © RIA Novosti
9th place, Nicole Gosvijani, 17 years old, in the 2012/13 season won the Slovenian Trophy and the Nestle International Youth Tournament, in the 2013/14 season won the Golden Bear Cup in Croatia and took second place at the Ondrej Memorial Nepels in Bratislava. © RIA Novosti
8th place Anna Pogorilaya, aged 15, in the 2013/14 season finished third at the Grand Prix: Trophée Eric Bompard and won the Cup of China. © RIA Novosti
7th place, Evgenia Medvedeva, 15 years old, winner of the Russian Championship among boys and girls of older age 2012 in Nizhny Novgorod, Spartakiad of Russian students 2011, silver medalist of the Russian Cup final 2011 and 2012. © RIA Novosti
6th place, Serafima Sakhanovich, 13 years old, winner of the 2012 Russian Cup final, the 2012 junior Russian championship in Tver and the 2012 Crystal Horse international tournament, as well as the 2012 Russian Cup stages as a Master of Sports. © RIA Novosti
5th place, Alena Leonova, 23 years old, bronze medalist of the 2011/12 Russian Championship, third place in the 2011/12 World Grand Prix final, silver medalist of the 2011/12 World Championship, silver medalist of the Russian championships 2010/11 and 2009/10. © RIA Novosti
4th place, Alexandra Proklova, 13 years old, winner of the Russian Junior Championship 2013 in Stary Oskol and the children's international tournament "Crystal Horse" 2013 in Odintsovo, bronze medalist of the Moscow Senior Championship 2013. © RIA Novosti
3rd place, Elena Radionova, 14 years old, winner of the World Junior Championship 2012/13, silver medalist of the Russian Championship 2012/13, winner of the Russian Championship among juniors 2012/13, winner of the final of the Junior Grand Prix 2012 /13. © RIA Novosti
2nd place, Yulia Lipnitskaya, 15 years old, winner of the 2013/14 Grand Prix stages in Sochi and Canada, as well as the Finlandia Trophy. World champion among juniors 2011/12, silver medalist of the World Championship among juniors 2012/13, silver medalist of the Russian Championship 2011/12. © RIA Novosti
1st place, Adelina Sotnikova, 17 years old, four-time champion of Russia, silver medalist of the European Championship 2012/13, silver medalist of the Youth Olympic Games, winner of the World Junior Championship 2010/11. © RIA Novosti
Ice and fire. Top 10 single skaters in the Russian Championship
10th place in the Russian Figure Skating Championship, Elizaveta Tuktamysheva, 17 years old, winner of the national championship and bronze medalist of the European Championship in the 2012/13 season. © RIA Novosti
9th place, Nicole Gosvijani, 17 years old, in the 2012/13 season won the Slovenian Trophy and the Nestle International Youth Tournament, in the 2013/14 season won the Golden Bear Cup in Croatia and took second place at the Ondrej Nepela Memorial in Bratislava. © RIA Novosti
8th place Anna Pogorilaya, aged 15, in the 2013/14 season finished third at the Grand Prix: Trophée Eric Bompard and won the Cup of China. © RIA Novosti
7th place, Evgenia Medvedeva, 15 years old, winner of the Russian Championship among boys and girls of older age 2012 in Nizhny Novgorod, Spartakiad of Russian students 2011, silver medalist of the Russian Cup final 2011 and 2012. © RIA Novosti
6th place, Serafima Sakhanovich, 13 years old, winner of the 2012 Russian Cup final, the 2012 junior Russian championship in Tver and the 2012 Crystal Horse international tournament, as well as the 2012 Russian Cup stages as a Master of Sports. © RIA Novosti
5th place, Alena Leonova, 23 years old, bronze medalist of the Russian Championship 2011/12 season, third place in the final of the World Grand Prix 2011/12, silver medalist of the World Championship 2011/12, silver medalist of the Russian Championships 2010/11 and 2009/10. © RIA Novosti
4th place, Aleksandra Proklova, 13 years old, winner of the 2013 Russian Junior Championship in Stary Oskol and the 2013 Crystal Horse Children's International Tournament in Odintsovo, bronze medalist of the 2013 Moscow Senior Championship. © RIA Novosti
3rd place, Elena Radionova, 14 years old, winner of the World Junior Championship 2012/13, silver medalist of the Russian Championship 2012/13, winner of the Russian Championship among juniors 2012/13, winner of the final of the Junior Grand Prix 2012/13. © RIA Novosti
2nd place, Yulia Lipnitskaya, 15, winner of the Grand Prix stages of the 2013/14 season in Sochi and Canada, as well as the Finlandia Trophy. World champion among juniors 2011/12, silver medalist of the World Championship among juniors 2012/13, silver medalist of the Russian Championship 2011/12. © RIA Novosti
1st place, Adelina Sotnikova, 17 years old, four-time champion of Russia, silver medalist of the European Championship 2012/13, silver medalist of the Youth Olympic Games, winner of the World Junior Championship 2010/11. © RIA Novosti
Russia will represent three sports couples, three dance duets, two single skaters and one single skater. In the sports couples tournament, we can count on gold, although our only contenders for it, Volosozhar and Maxaim Trankov, missed the competition in Sochi. In ice dancing, objectively, a bronze award will be a success for the Russians. The situation with a single man has been outlined many times, I don’t feel like talking about this endless series “The Return of Plushenko” again.
But the main intrigue of the Russian championship in Sochi was which of the Russian single skaters would be able to snatch the right to compete at the Olympics.
The battle was fierce. In this form, Russia now has a whole scattering of brilliant athletes, most of whom promise to become world-class stars in the future. Moreover, some of them are so young that, due to their age, they cannot participate in international competitions among adults, although they look better than their older competitors.
First of all, this concerns the 14-year-old Elena Radionova , who is tipped to win the laurels of the triumphant Olympic Pyeongchang-2018. Lena does not get to the games in Sochi due to her age, although she is confident in herself beyond her years. Having taken third place, Radionova remarked in an interview that I know that I performed the best, but “girls need to show themselves before the Olympics, so they are given high scores. ”
Bronze medalist of the Russian Figure Skating Championship in Sochi Elena Radionova at the awards ceremony. year 2013. Photo: RIA Novosti / Alexander WilfTuktamysheva postponed victories “until later”
With all due respect to the unconditional talent of the young figure skater, I would like to wish the coaches to nip such a mood in the bud, because it will not lead to anything good.
Moreover, a brilliant performance at a tender age does not guarantee a further trouble-free career. Just look at how painful growing up is for the two main Russian hopes of recent years, Adelina Sotnikova and Elizaveta Tuktamysheva .
Adelina Sotnikova's short program at the Russian Figure Skating Championships in Sochi. year 2013. Photo: RIA Novosti / Alexander WilfFor Tuktamysheva, the Olympic season turned into a disaster. Elizaveta did not rise above 3-4 places in tournaments, she finished 10th at the Russian Championship, saying goodbye to the dream of the Olympics. But the 17-year-old figure skater noticed that her career does not end there, and these games are not the last. That kind of resilience in the face of setbacks is to be commended.
Free program of Elizaveta Tuktamysheva at the Russian Figure Skating Championships in Sochi. year 2013. Photo: RIA Novosti / Alexander VilfNicole Gosviyani with Anna Pogorila , who took 9th and 8th places, respectively, will not get to the games. Nicole, who made it to the European Championship last year and showed herself worthy as the third number of the team, this time could not cope with her competitors. Pogorilaya, who won the Chinese Grand Prix at the start of the season and competed in the World Grand Prix Final, is now in a slump exacerbated by a back injury. However, her age also allows her to postpone the dream of the Olympics for four years.
Nicole Gosviyani at a training session ahead of the Russian Figure Skating Championships in Sochi. year 2013. Photo: RIA Novosti / Alexander VilfSotnikova and Lipnitskaya — a battle on equal terms
But it's time to move on to those who have succeeded more than others in a sharp struggle.
Adelina Sotnikova, on whom the experts counted as the "first number" of the Russian team at the Olympics, lived up to expectations and won the Russian championship, becoming a 4-time champion of the country at the age of 17.
The 2013/2014 season is also difficult for Sotnikova, but Adelina is getting in shape as the season progresses. Her performance at the Russian Championship was perhaps the best this season. Sotnikova looked an order of magnitude more confident than in the finals of the World Grand Prix, where she remained only fifth. It seems that she, unlike the eternal rival Tuktamysheva, managed to overcome the difficulties of growth. With the fact that Adelina showed at the Russian Championship, one can seriously qualify for the fight for Olympic medals.
15-year-old Yulia Lipnitskaya won the silver medal of the Russian Championship. This athlete, who missed half of the pre-Olympic season due to injury, looks simply brilliant this year. She has won a major tournament in Finland, Skate Canada, and the Russian Grand Prix. In the final of the World Grand Prix, only the vice-champion of the 2010 Games Mao Asada was able to get ahead of Lipnitskaya.
Yulia Lipnitskaya's short program at the Russian Figure Skating Championships in Sochi. year 2013. Photo: RIA Novosti / Alexander WilfAt the Russian Championship, Yulia was also good, but not flawless, which deprived her of the gold medal. At the same time, Lipnitskaya overtook Sotnikova according to the results of an arbitrary program, albeit only by 0.25 points. Fans of Lipnitskaya, as it should be in figure skating, do believe that their favorite was sued.
The key to Sochi's gold is "buried" in Budapest
Yulia Lipnitskaya will be able to prove that she is the best in Russia at the European Championship in Budapest, which will be held in January. It is this tournament that will show what the Russians can claim at the games in Sochi, not theoretically, but in reality.
Of course, there will be no Americans or Asians, but there will be ex-world champion and current European champion Italian Carolina Kostner , whom Sotnikova and Tuktamysheva failed to beat last year.
The specifics of figure skating is such that in order to be successful at the largest competitions, you need to impress the judges with your previous successes, earn an appropriate reputation in their eyes. This, of course, will not save in case of a complete failure, but it will allow you to count on the favor of the arbitrators in case of minor rough edges.
At the national championships, athletes are now breaking records in terms of points scored, but this is nothing more than a muscle game. You need to prove your high level in the fight against direct competitors.
Sotnikova and Lipnitskaya's path to the Olympic triumph in Sochi lies through Budapest, where it is absolutely impossible to perform weakly. To count on an Olympic medal, you need to win at the European Championships.
After the Russian Championship, Adelina Sotnikova noticed that she felt the strength to become an Olympic champion. Experts agree: potentially both she and Lipnitskaya have everything for this.
Sotnikova, however, struggling with internal problems, did not start the Olympic season too brightly, which is not in her favor. The Russian Championship was encouraging, but there is no complete certainty that Adelina has "outgrown" the problems yet.
Lipnitskaya, as already mentioned, on the contrary, in the 2013/14 season she performs at a consistently high level. But she is only 15 years old, and no one has canceled teenage instability. There is no certainty that a breakdown will not occur at the most crucial moment.
In addition, if Sotnikova has a silver medal of the previous European Championship, then Lipnitskaya has all her successes dated to the current season, and in the eyes of judges who prefer athletes who have shown high results for several years, she looks like an “upstart” who will not be forgiven for a single blots.
"Dark Horse" Leonova
At the same time, it must be remembered that Sotnikova and Lipnitskaya have not yet received a place in the Olympic team, which will be formed following the results of the European Championship. And now it's time to say that, unlike Sochi, three Russians are going to Budapest.
Alena Leonova's short program at the Russian Figure Skating Championships in Sochi. year 2013. Photo: RIA Novosti / Alexander VilfThe third will be 23-year-old Alena Leonova, the silver medalist of the 2012 World Championships, which many have already written off due to a series of injuries and unsuccessful performances. Alena managed to pull herself together at the Russian Championship in Sochi and show the fifth result. This turned out to be enough, because the two athletes standing above her are not included in the national team by age.
True, Leonova was 25 points behind Sotnikova and 23 points behind Lipnitskaya, and most consider the European Championships in Budapest almost like a “swan song” of an athlete.
But, firstly, there is not the slightest doubt about Alena's talent. Behind her shoulders is the experience of both victories and failures, so Leonova’s situation with psychological stability is perhaps better than that of her teammates.
Leonova is now a "dark horse", to which the main attention is not riveted. But this “horse” survived the big internal Russian fight, why shouldn’t it now surprise everyone at the European Championship?
Leonova's chances of getting to the Olympics are low, but they are. Success in Budapest, subject to the failure of one of the first two numbers of the team, will allow her to still get to Sochi. And if we believe in the possibility of a miraculous transformation of 31-year-old Evgeni Plushenko, why can't this happen to 23-year-old Alena Leonova?
The Russian Championship in Sochi made it possible to select the best skaters from a dozen promising ones. We can confidently say that they are able to fight on equal terms with the strongest figure skaters in the world. Now it remains to convince the rest of the world that Russian women are the best of the best. You have to start in Budapest.
According to the results of the first day of the team tournament, Russian figure skaters take second place at the Olympics. News. Channel One
When emotions are in their purest form, when nerves are exposed, when everything they have been going for the last four years is decided here and now, our guys and girls show that they are a dream team.
Competitions were opened by men. And one can only imagine how worried Mark Kondratyuk was. Yes, he is the current European champion, the first number of our team, but a year ago only specialists knew his name, and no one could even think that Mark would go to the Olympics. Say, a story like a fairy tale? Today, Mark presented his oriental fairy tale to all of us. Elements at the limit of the possible.
Just look at Alexei Yagudin's emotions! An Olympic champion who can afford not to keep the Olympic calm.
“The Olympic Games are like another planet for me. You still have to get there. You still need to win this ticket that will take you to this space shuttle. And there is already weightlessness, and adrenaline from the emotions that surround you, ”says Alexei Yagudin.
According to the results of the short program, Kondratyuk is in third place. From this result, dancing right in the "kiss-and-edge" zone. Mark's secret is in the right mood.
“If you constantly think that this is the Olympic Games, they are once every four years, you are on the team, this is a chance, it only complicates. I try to think that this is the same start as the European Championship, like the Russian Championship, test skate, ”said Mark Kondratyuk.
Our most experienced athletes are dancers Victoria Sinitsina and Nikita Katsalapov. He is also the captain of the team. Due to a small blot on the step track, the guys get 9 points out of 10 possible and take our team to second place.
USA is in the lead. By the way, it was with the American duet that Vika and Nikita encountered during the six-minute warm-up, and in the literal sense. Madison Hubble and Zachary Donahue prevented them from completing the element. However, as the athletes themselves say, this did not affect the performance in any way.
“Today was a wonderful performance. We enjoyed every second on the ice, it was very inspirational. We didn’t lose each other’s eyes for a second and tried not only to make elements, but also to dance like it was the last time, ”said Nikita Katsalapov.
Gaining momentum. Anastasia Mishina and Alexander Gallyamov gave an unmistakable skating and updated their own record, but lost less than two-tenths to the owners of the ice - two-time world champions Wenjin Sui and Cong Han. The Chinese, of course, dream of climbing to the highest step of the podium at the home Olympics. The more interesting will be the fight in the free.
“Probably almost everything we wanted to show turned out.