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168 Questions to Ask Friends That Are Fun, Personal, and Deep


Time for a BFF quiz.

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Ready to achieve BFF status? Take your friendship to the next level with these fun, personal, and juicy questions to ask friends.

No matter how many years you’ve known your friend, there’s always something new to discover about your BFF. And part of being a best friend, means finding new ways to show you care. Friendship questions are the perfect way of building on an already stellar friendship.

Quiz your pals with deep questions that allow you to understand what makes them tick. You can also find out more about their personality with fun questions that cover the basics, like favorite Hollywood superstar and current Netflix obsession. We’ve rounded up some of the best questions to ask friends, ranging from silly to serious, that are sure to bring out all the feels and spark a stronger bond.

But of course, your BFF didn’t become your ride or die overnight. Knowing what kinds of questions to ask your friend group, including your newest friends, will help you cultivate closeness with everyone in your circle. You’ll find the deep questions to ask a new friend are perfect for a bond that’s just beginning.

So, grab your bestie for a best friend questions video date, or pull up this list of 168 questions the next time you’re hanging with your friend group. You’ll be surprised by how much there is to learn about people, no matter how far into the friendship you are!

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Personal questions to ask friends

Fun questions to ask friends

Juicy questions to ask friends

Deep questions to ask a new friend

Personal questions to ask friends

1. What embarrasses you the most and/or what’s been your most embarrassing moment?

2. Who do you look up to the most, and what qualities do you love about that person?

3. What’s your biggest fear?

4. What’s your love language?

5. How do you like to be comforted when you’re sad or upset?

6. What’s your all-time favorite memory?

7. Who was the last person to make you cry and why?

8. Where do you hope to be five years from now? Ten? Fifteen?

9. When have you felt the most proud?

10. When have you felt the most challenged?

11. Have you ever been bullied?

12. Do you have any regrets? If so, what are they?

13. Out of all your family members, who are you closest to?

14. What’s one thing most people don’t know about you?

15. What do you think happens when we die?

16. Do you want to have kids one day? How many?

17. What's your earliest childhood memory?

18. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?

19. Do you believe in soulmates?

20. When you can't sleep, what keeps you up at night?

21. What has your hardest goodbye in life been so far?

22. What’s the worst date you’ve ever been on?

23. What’s a talent you wish you had or that you’re working on?

Fun questions to ask friends

1. Which celeb would you want as your other BFF and why?

2. What do you do when no one else is around?

3. What's the best present you ever received? Who gave it to you and why was it so special?

4. What's the last thing you watched on Netflix?

5. What do you consider the ultimate comfort food?

6. If you could only have three things on your life bucket list, what would they be?

7. Would you rather be an expert at one thing, or pretty good at many things?

8. What’s your favorite thing you own and why?

9. Have you ever had your fortune told?

10. Would you rather order in or eat out?

11. What was the first movie you remember seeing in theaters?

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12. What’s your favorite TikTok video?

13. What’s been your most questionable haircut and/or fashion moment?

14. If money was no object, what would you buy?

15. When was the moment in your life you laughed the hardest?

16. What do you do when no one else is around?

17. Where do you want to travel the most?

18. If you could only eat one thing for the rest of your life, what would it be?

19. What book has impacted you the most?

20. What’s your favorite movie romance? commercial?

21. What are the qualities that attract you most in a love interest?

22. You just won $10,000 — what are you going to do with the money?

23. What's the luckiest thing that's ever happened to you?

24. What's your favorite way to exercise?

25. Do you like roller coasters?

26. What is your most hated chore and why?

27. What's your favorite holiday and why?

28. If you were going to get some ink, what would you choose and why?

29. If you had three wishes, what would you wish for?

30. If you had to choose only one, would you pick a dog or a cat?

31. Do you believe in aliens?

32. If you were President, what's the first thing you would work to change in this country?

33. If you had to live in another time period, what would you choose?

34. What foreign language(s) would you want to master and why?

35. What's your all-time favorite dessert?

36. Do you believe in ghosts?

37. What’s your survival plan during a zombie apocalypse?

38 If you were an animal, what would you be?

39. If you had to create an alter ego for yourself, who would it be and what would you name them?

40. What’s your No. 1 karaoke song?

41. Have you ever been on a blind date?

42. What was your AIM screen name, or your first email address?

43. What’s your favorite piece of random trivia?

44. What was your first concert?

45. Which decade, in your opinion, had the best fashion trends?

46. If a song played every time you entered a room, what would it be?

47. What’s your skincare routine?

48. Did you ever go to summer camp?

49. When’s the last time you got to really experience nature?

50. Do you feel that you’re young at heart, or an old soul?

51. What does your name mean, and why was it given to you?

52. What’s an unexpected movie that makes you cry?

53. What flavor of ice cream best represents your personality?

54. What’s the one snack you can’t live without?

55. What’s the first place you’d go to in the mall?

56. What’s the scariest or most thrilling roller coaster you’ve ever been on?

57. What’s the last song you listened to?

58. Which item in your closet is your favorite?

59. What is your key to a cozy evening in?

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60. What’s the last video game you played?

61. What’s the last thing TikTok convinced you to buy?

Juicy questions to ask friends

1. What's the last lie you told?

2. Who was your very first crush?

3. What's the best compliment you've ever received?

4. What do you consider your best physical feature?

5. What are the top three things that stress you out?

6. What are the top three ways you deal with stress?

7. When was the last time you were jealous and why?

8. Do you believe in monogamy?

9. If you choose to get married one day, what would your dream proposal scenario be?

10. What would your dream home look like?

11. When’s the last time you felt inspired to create something?

12. How did your parents meet?

13. Who’s been your favorite teacher?

14. What are your favorite childrens’ names?

15. What did you dream about last night?

16. What do you think you’ll be like in old age?

17. What’s the worst decision you’ve ever made?

18. What’s something you’d consider unforgivable?

19. What’s the most loved you’ve ever felt?

20. Have you ever experienced a “friendship breakup”? What did it teach you?

21. Who was your first friend, and are they still in your life?

22. Would you ever consider being in a long-distance relationship?

23. What do you think the best way to resolve conflict is?

24. Do you feel that you have a healthy relationship with social media?

25. Is there a time when I made you feel particularly well supported?

26. How can I be a better friend to you?

27. What does friendship mean to you?

28. What qualities do you look for in a best friend?

29. What’s the most important thing I should know about you?

Deep questions to ask new friends

1. What are your pronouns?

2. What would be your perfect day? Plan it out from waking up to bedtime.

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3. What’s your zodiac sign?

4. What’s your Enneagram type?

5. On vacation, are you the relax-by-the-pool type or a get-up-and-go adventurer?

6. Do you consider yourself religious or spiritual?

7. What college major are you thinking of choosing and why?

8. If you could only listen to one singer or band for the rest of your life, who would you choose?

9. What's your go-to dish when you have to make dinner?

10. Are you a superstitious person?

11. What’s your favorite board game to play?

12. Who’s the best movie villain?

13. Who’s your favorite follow on TikTok? On Instagram?

14. Did you have an imaginary friend growing up?

15. If you had to describe yourself in only three words, what would you choose? What words do you think your friends would choose to describe you?

16. Do you have any phobias?

17. What are your top three biggest pet peeves?

18. What's your favorite color and what's your least favorite color?

19. What would your dream vacay consist of?

20. Are you competitive?

21. What’s a tough experience that you learned and grew from?

22. What’s your relationship with your parents like?

23. Do you most often follow your heart or your head?

24. What’s the most unexpected or unusual thing on your bucket list?

25. What was your last romantic relationship like?

26. What’s a value you’re unwilling to compromise on?

27. What's your absolute dream job?

28. If you could have a superpower, what would you choose?

29. What TV show do you turn on when you just want to zone out and feel better?

30. What was the last movie you watched in a theater?

31. If you could time travel, where would you go?

32. What do you usually have for breakfast?

33. What's your favorite plant or flower?

34. What’s your favorite season and why?

35. Who always makes you laugh?

36. What do you think your best quality is?

37. What is your definition of success?

38. What’s your most-watched movie?

39. Do you have any hidden talents?

40. What’s the best thing you’ve dressed up as for Halloween?

41. Would you rather live by the ocean or in the mountains?

42. What’s the longest trip you’ve taken?

43. Are you a right brain or left brain person?

44. What is your most-used emoji?

45. What’s a bad habit you’re trying to break?

46. What’s the scariest movie you’ve ever seen?

47. Are you a morning person or a night owl?

48. Do you like to recharge alone or around other people?

49. What’s the best museum you’ve ever been to?

50. When can we hang out again?

51. Which fictional character do you most relate to?

52. What would your ideal friend hangout include?

53. What food do you absolutely hate?

54. Do you believe in your horoscope?

55. What’s your most used emoji?

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When you spend too much time together, sometimes conversations can become repetitive and almost boring. Here are some interesting conversation topics that will spark deep and memorable conversations between you and your best friends:
Talk about challenges
We all face challenges in our life; some more than others. You can talk with your friends about challenges you’ve each faced and how those have impacted your life. Check out these sample questions:

1) What are some of the biggest challenges you have overcome?

2) Are you facing any challenge right now?
3) How do you prepare yourself for challenges in life?
4) Do you think the challenges you faced have improved you as a person?
5) What is a challenge you would never accept?

Talk about beauty
Talking about beauty around you can be a great conversation starter. Beauty can be interpreted in many ways, and discussing it can bring about an interesting discussion. You can ask questions like:

1) What is beauty for you?
2) According to you, what makes a person beautiful?
3) What is the most beautiful thing you have witnessed?
4) What is a natural beauty to you?
5) What makes a piece of art beautiful to you?

Talk about friendship
Conversation with friends about friendship can be interesting and fun, while also making your bond stronger. You can start a conversation with the following questions:

1) Do you think you are a good friend? Why or why not?
2) What do you like most about your best friend?
3) Who is your most annoying friend and why?
4) What is the best way to make new friends?
5) How important are friends for you?

Talk about food
No matter where you come from, food is one thing that keeps us connected. While sharing a meal with friends, spark an interesting conversation about food. Here are some of the questions you can ask your friends:

1) What are your favorite dishes?
2) Do you know how to cook? When did you learn this skill?
3) Do you follow any diet?
4) What is one food item you can eat for your whole life?
5) What are the most strange food items you ate?

Having deeper conversations with your friends will bring you closer and spark lasting memories.

Want more conversation starter questions? Build stronger relationships with your friends and family members through the Gather app, which provides prompts for meaningful discussions topics.

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10 eternal topics and 11 conversation rules

What can you talk about with your friends when all the topics are over? And what to discuss with unfamiliar people to avoid awkward pauses? We offer 10 thematic blocks with which the conversation can be continued indefinitely, regardless of whether it is a meeting of classmates, a first date or a joint journey on the train.

10 topics for an interesting conversation.

1. Hobby.

You can talk endlessly about your hobbies, but is it always interesting for others to hear about them? Talking about the collected collection of stamps or the ability to fence well with a rapier, you should avoid professional vocabulary, arrogance, and also not go into details. A hobby is something that you can talk about with new acquaintances, demonstrating your interest in their life. nine0003

What do you do in your free time?

How did you discover this occupation?

For me, tourism (another hobby) is …

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2. Home, work.

These topics are not considered neutral, because many do not want to talk about themselves. Questions about how things are at work or what's new at home are answered in such cases with general phrases or sayings. This does not mean that the person does not trust or has a bad attitude towards the interlocutor. Most likely, at this moment he is not ready to speak “frankly”. This is especially true when there are unresolved issues. For example, the boss is dissatisfied with the results of work, or flooded neighbors are waiting at home, determined to find out the circumstances of what happened. In a word, you need to open this block carefully and carefully so as not to stumble upon a pitfall. nine0003

3. Art.

Literature, cinema, music - that's what you can talk about with true connoisseurs of beauty. Talking about art is especially important when you need to get to know a person better. After all, preferences (favorite genre, hero, author) sometimes tell more about a person’s character than his words.

There are films that everyone has seen, or at least heard about. For example, everyone is familiar with the Titanic or the Prisoner of the Caucasus, so why not share your associations and emotions? To make the discussion interesting, you can prepare in advance by learning about the unusual details of filming, the fate of the actors who starred, and so on. nine0003

4. Tourism, culture.

It's always interesting to hear about countless impressive places. This is probably why programs like “Around the World” are still wildly popular. Live stories of eyewitnesses about dishes that are customary to cook in other regions, about bizarre traditions, rituals, and urban beautification are fun and emotional topics. It is especially fascinating to listen not about facts, but about personal impressions.

If the question arises, “What can we talk about to relieve tension?”, You can safely start the story with remarks:

In a certain region I saw that the inhabitants react to such situations in a completely different way.

Somehow I happened to …

In this block, it is appropriate to use the storytelling technique, when an interesting story, captivating with the plot, conveys the necessary information. For example, about yourself, if it's a pickup truck.

5. Weather.

Frank Hubbard once said, “Don't scold the weather. If she wasn't changeable, nine people out of ten wouldn't be able to start a single conversation." nine0003

There is a grain of truth in his ironic statement, since the weather has always been considered a neutral-universal topic of communication. This is where the dialogue can start. For example:

I remember that in that year at the same time they went without hats.

Amazing climate! So I grew up in a region where…

Haven't you heard what weather forecasters promise for tomorrow?

6. Incredible.

There are topics that tickle your nerves. These include stories about poltergeists, UFOs, chupacabara and other phenomena that have no official confirmation. Probably, the love for such stories passed to us from childhood, when, having covered ourselves with a blanket, we listened attentively about a dark, dark room. It is interesting that every adult has a true story with a mystical plot in store, where he is the main character. One has only to touch on the topic, as there will be many hypotheses and attempts to explain what happened. nine0003

7. Flora and fauna.

The living world around us is just a storehouse of topics for conversation, both old friends and strangers. Not sure what to talk about? So, it's time to remember stories about domestic four-legged friends who surprised us with their behavior and about unexpected meetings with mice, spiders, snakes. This thematic block is so multifaceted that, touching it, you can cause both laughter and tears.

An example of what a story might look like:

A friend of mine, as a teenager, wanted to play a joke on his classmates who were very scared of a centipede that suddenly appeared. He boldly took the insect by one paw and lifted it up above his face. The guy defiantly declared that he was ready to eat it and opened his mouth. But suddenly the centipede fell out of his hands and hit him right in the mouth. Everyone laughed except the main character.

8. Relationships.

This is the most multifaceted block of topics that is discussed, one way or another, by absolutely everyone. Relations between parents and children (generation difference), friends, loved ones, mother-in-law, daughter-in-law, son-in-law have always been the basis of literary works and the subject of gossip. A story about someone's fate, an event in the life of neighbors, or personal experience can become the number one story in a dialogue. nine0003

Here are some examples of things to talk about:

Who should be the head of the family? Is equality possible?

How to carefully hint to grandmothers that they may interfere in the upbringing of children?

9. Self-knowledge.

It is unlikely that anyone will miss the opportunity to get to know themselves or hear how others have done it. To strengthen the conversation, it is enough to be well versed in one topic. For example, astrology, palmistry or divination on coffee grounds. In addition, it is always possible to attract attention with a psychological test or other interesting technique aimed at self-knowledge. nine0003

10. Eternal.

There are special topics for conversation. They are often raised only by kindred spirits. Love, quickly fading youth, true friendship, human destiny, life and death - the list of things that you can talk about with “your” people is incomplete.

Are we led by Fatum or do we forge our own happiness?

Are all ages submissive to love or are there limits?

How to distinguish between love and falling in love?

How to become a good conversationalist?

If the interlocutors have something to talk about, that's great. But for communication to be pleasant and effective, just choosing a topic is not enough. You should adhere to the rules of conversation:

  • Do not bombard with questions. The next question can be asked after the person fully answers the previous one.
  • Do not interrupt, even if you want to express your gratitude.
  • Do not use abusive words, vulgarisms. Avoid parasitic words, slang and dialectisms. nine0124
  • Monitor facial expressions, gestures and other manifestations of non-verbal speech.
  • Avoid ambiguity.
  • Before touching on a topic, think about what you can talk about in this society, and what is better not to talk about.
  • Show respect for the interlocutor and his opinion, even if the views do not coincide.
  • Give vent to only positive emotions. Whining, resentment, insults only repel.
  • When starting a dialogue, do not use monosyllabic answers "yes", "no", "I don't know". If people ask a question, it means they want to get a detailed answer to it, to hear a comment. nine0124
  • Do not enter the territory of the interlocutor. That is, do not touch him, do not push him as a joke, and so on
  • Be sincere. People always feel slyness and honesty.

Having adopted several topics we offer, you can confidently control the course of a conversation, keep up a conversation during a feast, and also avoid awkward pauses in a dialogue with unfamiliar people. Save the article for yourself so that the tips are always at hand.

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Interesting topics for conversation with anyone, anywhere

Hello everyone!

Communication can come to a standstill regardless of who your interlocutor is: a new acquaintance or a person with whom you have known each other for a hundred years. In order not to stretch awkward pauses, it would be good to always have interesting topics for conversation at hand.

We have prepared for you a large list of topics and tips for a variety of occasions. Don't forget to save the article so you don't lose it!

Recommendations for interesting communication

Before we go directly to the topics, we would like to dwell on important nuances that will help avoid mistakes in communication:

  1. Try to ask open questions, i. e. those that involve more a detailed answer rather than a monosyllabic “no” or “yes”.
  2. If you come to a tête-à-tête meeting, do not turn the dialogue into an interrogation with passion. Do not bombard the person with questions as if he came for an interview. When deciding to touch on a particular topic, be sure to tell similar information about yourself. Usually people continue to speak out of inertia and so do not feel discomfort. But pulling the blanket over yourself, forcing you to listen only to your person, is also not worth it. Stick to the golden mean. nine0124
  3. Listen carefully, ask clarifying questions. This is how you show interest and show respect.
  4. Don't give unsolicited advice, especially to strangers. Even if you think the person needs it. This is extremely insensitive.
  5. Avoid complaining and pitting anyone. The negative is repulsive.
  6. Do not be afraid of silence. There can be natural pauses in any conversation. Long conversations are also exhausting. If it is comfortable to talk with a person, then it will be comfortable with him and be silent for a while. At least to finish your salad or finish your cup of coffee, if the circumstances are appropriate. nine0124
Topics to talk about

Each situation has its own topics to talk about, so we have divided this article into several categories. Choose your case and take note of what fits.

On a date

Before a date, the main thing to remember is how important it is to be yourself. Do not choose topics that you are not interested in.

If you do not like art, do not study the work of Claude Monet and speak about the work of Pablo Picasso before the meeting. nine0003

Look for things you can talk about passionately together.

Otherwise, you shouldn't even get upset if communication doesn't work out.

We did not divide the topics into male and female, but put together a universal list of sample questions, on the basis of which you can develop a discussion with both a guy and a girl. Not only will they help keep the conversation going, but they'll also help you get to know the person well enough to form an opinion about them and decide if they're right for you. nine0003

What are some interesting questions for the couple?

We invite you to chat on the following topics:

  1. How was your day, working week?
  2. Talk about what helped you get to know each other. For example, if the meeting took place in a group of friends, ask how long the person has known them. If the acquaintance happened on social networks, ask how often the interlocutor makes friends in this way.
  3. What do you like to do in your free time, what are your hobbies? nine0124
  4. Where are you from?
  5. What childhood memories do you remember the most?
  6. What movies do you watch? What was the last time you went to the cinema? What do you recommend to watch from comedies, science fiction and other things?
  7. What places in the city do you visit most often?
  8. Where have you rested in your life and where would you prefer to return again?
  9. How do you feel about sports, art, music?
  10. Do you like to read books? What genres do you prefer? What publications do you remember the most? nine0124
  11. Do you have dreams?
  12. Tell us about your profession, study, work.
  13. How do you feel about alcohol?
  14. Are there bad habits that you struggle with?
  15. How do you like to spend weekends and holidays? Do you prefer a relaxing holiday or an active one?
  16. Do you have pets?
  17. What would you like to do if you had no restrictions on finances and resources?
  18. Are you a lark or an owl?
  19. nine0123 What do you value most in members of the opposite sex?
  20. What brings you the most joy?
  21. What are you looking for in a relationship? What are your goals?
  22. What do you watch on TV? Who is subscribed to on YouTube? How do you feel about TikTok?
  23. What is your attitude towards loneliness?
  24. Do you have childhood friends with whom you still keep in touch?
  25. What type of personality do you consider yourself: extroverts or introverts? nine0124
  26. How do you feel about self-knowledge, meditation, yoga and other practices?
  27. What event are you looking forward to? This could be, for example, a festival, a concert by your favorite band, a friend's birthday, a relative's wedding, etc.

These are just examples of some topics.

You can make your list according to your own interests and preferences.

For example, if you like Italian cuisine, tell us about the most interesting dishes and ask your interlocutor what his culinary preferences are. nine0003

In the company of friends

Silence rarely hangs in a noisy company, but you can still make the meeting even more exciting and exciting. And there are countless topics for friendly conversations.

Here are the random options:

  1. If you were Neo in The Matrix, which pill would you choose: blue or red?
  2. What superpower would you like to have and why?
  3. Would you rather be the richest person or the smartest? nine0124
  4. You can discuss some interesting life hacks and suggest trying them.
  5. New gadgets, mobile applications, news from the world of technology.
  6. How do you feel about esotericism, predictions, horoscopes? Have you had any experience with similar practices?
  7. Discussions on adrenaline, extreme sports, mountain climbing, camping, etc.
  8. Attitude towards various conspiracy theories. For example, the world is ruled by aliens, special services, is mass chipping possible, who killed Kennedy, etc.
  9. Do you believe in ghosts, afterlife?
  10. What's the best piece of advice you've ever been given?
  11. What would you spend your money on if you won a very large amount?
  12. New movies, bloopers, favorite directors, etc.
  13. Political news.
  14. Cool memes from the Internet.
  15. What do you think about gender equality, feminism and other movements.
  16. Which place of residence would you prefer: city or countryside, coastal resort or mountains, house or apartment, metropolis or province? nine0124
  17. Would you agree to explore a new planet in the event of an impending apocalypse?
  18. If you had a time machine, where would you go?
  19. How long could you live without communication and amenities?
  20. What was the first thing you felt and did if you woke up in an unfamiliar place?

Note! One of the most productive ways to spend time with friends is to organize board games. So you will avoid silence, and stretch your brain. nine0078

With strangers

In the company of strangers, topics for communication should be chosen carefully so as not to stumble upon subjects of heated disagreement.

Here are the most neutral questions that can be used for conversation:

  1. What do you do, what is your occupation?
  2. Where did you study and why exactly there?
  3. Do you have a hobby?
  4. How do you prefer to relax, spend holidays, relax after a working day? nine0124
  5. Where did you spend your childhood, where are you from? How did you get to this city?
  6. You can discuss the most popular classical questions. For example, talk about the weather, nature and housing and communal services problems.
  7. If friends introduced you, ask how long they have known each other and what connects them.

As you ask these questions, always remember to be sure to say the same about yourself.

In a conversation with a stranger, you should not touch on “slippery” topics . It is undesirable to talk about religion, personal life, political views, finances, health.

Pay attention to the other person's reaction to certain phrases or topics. So you can understand what he is interested in, and what is better not to talk about. In addition, pay attention to how willingly the stranger communicates and whether you are too intrusive.

It may turn out that you are looking for topics to discuss in vain.

For heartfelt conversation

As a rule, topics for soulful conversations are found by themselves. The direction will depend on who is in front of you: a close friend or a friend, a loved one, a parent, etc.

The simplest topics will be everyday life, family, relationships with relatives, colleagues, financial issues, health.

If a person is really close, then the range of topics that can be touched upon expands significantly.

You can discuss sex with your partner or spouse. Ask what suits you, what you would like to bring, what fantasies to try to realize. nine0003

Here is a list of universal topics that are suitable for heart-to-heart conversations:

  1. Childhood, youth, student memories. This is an inexhaustible topic, because everyone will find funny, cute, sad, interesting stories from the past in their memory.
  2. Dreams of a person: what he dreamed about in childhood, what he dreams about now.
  3. Friendship: is it possible between a man and a woman, how does the interlocutor look at communication with former partners, etc.
  4. nine0123 Esoteric, unknown. As a rule, in large companies, rarely does anyone admit that they believe in ghosts or have ever seen something unusual, because no one wants to be ridiculed. But behind a sincere conversation, such secrets are easier to entrust.
  5. Children: attitude towards children, large families, childfree.
  6. Intimate Such issues can be discussed not only between partners, but also between two friends. What is acceptable and what is not. You can share some funny cases from the past. But for this it is necessary that the interlocutor be really congenial and open enough for such topics. nine0124

Intimate conversations are best conducted in the evening over a cup of aromatic tea or wine to create a special intimate atmosphere.

A list of deep philosophical questions

If you want something more intellectual and serious, you can discuss the following questions:

  1. Are we alone in the universe?
  2. When will people be free to fly into space? Is it necessary?
  3. What will happen to our planet if all people disappear? How quickly and to what extent will structures, nature, wildlife be changed? nine0124
  4. What books have had the greatest impact on modern civilization? If you want to show off your intellect, you can, for example, compare the Bible, the Koran, the Torah and other religious works, or share your opinion about literary classics.
  5. What events of world history were the most striking and significant? You can discuss the great commanders, the overthrow of empires, the conquest of new lands, etc.
  6. Novelties in medicine, the latest news from the world of pharmacological technologies, medieval and modern methods of treatment. nine0124
  7. The theme of immortality. Would you like to live forever, would you agree to cryogenic freezing for 200 years?
  8. If you could choose an era in which to live, what would it be?
  9. What would heaven and hell look like if you invented them?
  10. Is there a destiny? If so, how then freedom of choice?
  11. What is the meaning of life?
  12. Where did self-esteem come from if man descended from apes?
  13. Will religion as an institution last forever or will it ever become obsolete? nine0124
  14. How would the world change if life expectancy increased to 500 years?
  15. Living a full life - how is it?
  16. Do animals have a soul and how does it differ from a human one?
  17. Is poverty inevitable?
  18. Do weapons protect or destroy?
  19. Why are the dead more respected than the living?
  20. How relevant is the institution of marriage and family in the modern world?
  21. If one learns from mistakes, why are we so afraid of them? nine0124

Such topics can be discussed in company with friends, in correspondence with a new acquaintance, in the family circle, with a beloved man (woman), even with teenage children.

You can come up with your own questions and google them first, and then show off your knowledge and thoughts in the company.

Married couple

Married life is often absorbed by the routine, and over the years it is more and more difficult to find topics for communication that have not yet been ridden.

If you haven’t talked about anything besides everyday life and children, here is an approximate list of topical topics and questions that will not only dilute the family evening, but also help you get closer:

  1. What are the most joyful or funny moments from your life (not necessarily together) that you can remember?
  2. Plan your vacation and discuss the necessary details.
  3. Rate how the two of you have changed since you met and why.
  4. What was the most difficult event in your married life for each of you?
  5. What annoys you the most at work?
  6. What brings joy and what brings sorrow?
  7. When did you first feel like an adult? nine0124
  8. What details would you change about your own appearance?
  9. How do you see your old age?
  10. What act, from your point of view, was stupid or wrong, do you regret the most?
  11. How did you imagine your life when you were little?
  12. What dreams had to be abandoned and is there a chance to fulfill them now?
  13. What skill would you like to acquire, what to learn?

This is only a modest part of everything that you can discuss with your soulmate. You can easily choose any topic from the section of philosophical questions or for a sincere conversation. Family psychologists also recommend sharing secrets. nine0003

You can play a game: one spouse asks any 5 questions, and the other must answer them honestly.

It would also be very good to remember what you talked about in the first days and weeks of your acquaintance. This will help to nostalgic and refresh the senses.

How to become a good conversationalist

In conclusion, here are some generally accepted rules of communication:

  1. If the interlocutor is talking, do not interrupt with questions, let him finish his thought. Perhaps you have found a topic that is interesting for a person and new subjects for discussion will naturally be born from it. The conversation should not be forced. The key to good dialogue is ease. nine0124
  2. Call your interlocutor by name. This helps to establish trust and sympathy.
  3. Do not use obscene language, jargon, parasitic words in company with unfamiliar people.
  4. Be respectful even if you disagree with something said.
  5. Keep your distance. Not all people like it when someone breaks into their personal space.
  6. Avoid distractions while talking on your smartphone. This is not appropriate. nine0124

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We have sorted out the best topics for conversation. Use them as a hint, not as a guide to action.

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