Some people come into your life
The Three Reasons People Come Into Our Lives | by Kate Windebank
I’ve been thinking a lot about friendship/relationships over the last few weeks. I recently had my flat broken into while I was in bed asleep which is pretty damn scary. It certainly has left me shaken up but equally it’s shown me how many of my friends have really SHOWN UP BIG TIME. I’m not naming any names as you know exactly who you are and know what a special role you play in my life.
Friendships and relationships, even workplace colleagues nearly always come to an end — as in the natural circle of life. For a large part, the nature of life is constant change. And change can be a real bitch to say the very least. It can be totally devastating.
You can stake all of your certainty, comfort and security on this one thing that you know for certain — then poof overnight something happens (e.g redundancy, divorce, death, car accident) and that comfort is changed forever.
Comfort is all about framing. Putting something through a different lens to view in a different way. For example, that terrible job wasn’t actually that horrible, it taught me patience and helped me hone in on my passion. It taught me resilience and the importance of showing up.
For me, when relationships dissolves, it isn’t always a devastating loss, they can be an amazing experience for which I was so fortunate to have in the first place.
This quote was once shared with me by a wise old lady, my dear old Nana Joan. Kate she said to me, “People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person….”.
To this very day, I can put friends, acquaintances, travel buddies, ex-boyfriends, business partners, clients, colleagues into one of these three categories.
“When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty; to provide you with guidance and support; to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be there. “Then, without any wrongdoing on your part…the relationship will end.”
“When some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of job. Believe it. It is real.” But this is only for a short period of time.
“LIFETIME relationships teaches you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life”. — source is unknown.
Do you think you can classify people into these three categories? Go ahead and give it a go with a handful of people you know. Do these three categories ring true to you ? I’d love to hear your thoughts.
Kate Windebank: Career & Business Coach | Personal Brand Consultant | Tech Lover| Interests in Entreperneurship & the Future of Work. Let’s connect at Kate Windebank
Three Reasons People Come Into Our Life
“People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.” -- author unknown
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty; to provide you with guidance and support; to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be there. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, and their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
When someone is in your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
Challenge of the week: Pay Attention to the Reason Someone Is In Your Life and the Impact They are Making
Is the reason they are being sent to remind us? Sometimes we lose sight of our goals or what actually matters.
Our better sense of judgment is clouded and it’s during times like these that some people show us the correct way. They remind us of what matters more and why we chose our paths in the first place.
Is the reason they are being sent to awaken us? Sometimes we let life’s reins fall from our hands, letting it move without our participation. We get too comfortable or distracted to actively take control and lead our own lives towards its goals. It Is during situations like these that certain people enter our lives to awaken us towards our goals.
Is the reason they are being sent to provide us much needed encouragement? Facing mountains of challenges and failure is enough to discourage anyone. Many times during the course of our lives, we face a situation which seems impossible to conquer, where failure seems inevitable. This is usually when someone steps in to help encourage us, and help us find our strength to continue.
Is the reason they are being sent to help us grow? Growth is a continuous process of our lives.
Whether we like it or not, situations never remain the same and they keep changing, which forces us to adapt and grow accordingly. It helps us shed our previous shortcomings and transform into the person we are destined to be. Most of the times, these changes occur with the triggers provided by another person. They are the people who actually propel us towards our growth.
Every person who crosses our path is important in his/her own way. Its significance should not be ignored if we wish to grow and succeed in our lives.
Who has come into your life that you need to thank? Reach out to them this week and let them know the impact they have had on you!
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There are no chance meetings in our life. There is always some kind of internal logic that makes another person come into our life, and someone else leaves it. And no matter how long certain people stay with us, some of them come only for a certain time. And this is really very, very difficult to comprehend.
People with whom fate brings us together only for a short time often come to open up new life horizons and ways of personal growth for us.
We are more reluctant to let these people go, because we become very attached to them. We don't want to understand that some of them are just "temporary passengers", as sad as it may be.
“Not everything in this life is wonderful and durable. Sometimes people come into your life to teach you that there are good and bad things, to show you your potential, to encourage you to love yourself, give you a good mood and just be someone with whom you can take night walks and talk about everything that excites you. Not all of them will stay with you for the rest of your life, and no matter what happens, we should still continue to move our way, thanking them for everything they have given us, ”- Emery Allen.
I look back on my most memorable encounters and see how everyone I have encountered in my life has played a role in shaping me today. I talked about my deepest ideas, fears, secrets and dreams to those who are no longer part of my life. And I don’t regret it at all, because at that time I really needed someone who was able to listen to me.
