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SAMHSA’s National Helpline is a free, confidential, 24/7, 365-day-a-year treatment referral and information service (in English and Spanish) for individuals and families facing mental and/or substance use disorders.
Also visit the online treatment locator.

SAMHSA’s National Helpline, 1-800-662-HELP (4357) (also known as the Treatment Referral Routing Service), or TTY: 1-800-487-4889 is a confidential, free, 24-hour-a-day, 365-day-a-year, information service, in English and Spanish, for individuals and family members facing mental and/or substance use disorders. This service provides referrals to local treatment facilities, support groups, and community-based organizations.

Also visit the online treatment locator, or send your zip code via text message: 435748 (HELP4U) to find help near you. Read more about the HELP4U text messaging service.

The service is open 24/7, 365 days a year.

English and Spanish are available if you select the option to speak with a national representative. Currently, the 435748 (HELP4U) text messaging service is only available in English.

In 2020, the Helpline received 833,598 calls. This is a 27 percent increase from 2019, when the Helpline received a total of 656,953 calls for the year.

The referral service is free of charge. If you have no insurance or are underinsured, we will refer you to your state office, which is responsible for state-funded treatment programs. In addition, we can often refer you to facilities that charge on a sliding fee scale or accept Medicare or Medicaid. If you have health insurance, you are encouraged to contact your insurer for a list of participating health care providers and facilities.

The service is confidential. We will not ask you for any personal information. We may ask for your zip code or other pertinent geographic information in order to track calls being routed to other offices or to accurately identify the local resources appropriate to your needs.

No, we do not provide counseling. Trained information specialists answer calls, transfer callers to state services or other appropriate intake centers in their states, and connect them with local assistance and support.

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Last Updated: 08/30/2022

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what is dangerous and how to get rid of || Family practice

It is impossible to go through life absolutely without addictions. This is not always bad, and does not necessarily lead to fatal consequences. For example, an all-consuming craving for creativity often brings positive results. This is how literary masterpieces, world artistic values, immortal musical creations are born.

But there is a type of addiction that is not creative, but destructive: from food, alcohol, smoking, drugs, casinos. Among psychological catastrophes are dependencies on partners born in the depths of child-parent relationships.

Definition of the concept

Emotional dependence is not a mental disorder or disease. This is a style of behavior that was imposed on a person at some point in life, left an indelible mark and developed into unhealthy interpersonal relationships in the future.

People who suffer from emotional dependence are unable and unwilling to live their lives, they deny their desires and needs. They try to fill the spiritual emptiness by dedicating themselves to another person, with whom they check every step they take.

Children's stories

“Alina grew up in a family where everyone was on their own. Mom and dad worked hard, even on weekends they sat at the table opposite each other in silence, emotionally squeezed out of the week. Alina and her older brother got crumbs of attention. The domineering and selfish grandmother, whose interests were limited to a tonometer for measuring pressure, did not even try to compensate for the lack of expression of parental love for children. The brother found an outlet in the virtual world of global networks. Alina tried to attract the attention of her parents: she ran away from home, skipped classes so that her mother would take time off from work and fly to school, and then sit and talk with her daughter. She also drew a lot, and secretly waited for approval of her creations...”

There are thousands of similar life stories. Violation of personality development in the early period makes a person in the adult world look for relationships that would make up for the lack of affection and attention. "Unloved" is in constant search of a partner who would give him what he did not receive in childhood and adolescence.

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Signs of emotional dependence

Despite the fact that emotionally dependent people have a great desire for stable relationships, it is difficult for them to create a normal family. Due to low self-esteem and emotional "overload" they fail to keep a partner. It is difficult for them to create equal close relationships, they are terribly afraid of being rejected.

Signs of emotionally dependent people:

they do not understand and do not respect themselves;
are highly dependent on other people's opinions;
tend to sacrifice themselves;
can't refuse a request even if it's "mission impossible";
they have no personal desires, interests, aspirations;
constantly expect to be appreciated and loved;
completely dissolve in the partner;
constant need to be close to loved ones;

Such people experience the breakup of relationships much brighter and more painfully than others. It turns out a paradoxical situation: mom is not around, you don’t need to wait for her approval and attention, but this habit has remained. In a situation with an authoritarian mother controlling an adult child, both need psychological help.

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What is the danger of the situation?

Ironically, life brings together emotionally dependent people with people who are not interested in their inner experiences. This happens because they do not know how to distinguish between real love and imaginary. Their dependence is mistakenly considered a manifestation of strong love for a partner. The danger is that there is no equality in such relations. A strong personality will humiliate and suppress a weak one. The addict will receive pain and suffering instead of support.

The addict's internal monologue looks something like this: “I do everything for him (her), do everything he (she) says, try my best to please, but in response I get only irritation and anger. Why?"

The fact is that spiritually immature and insecure addicts are usually not loved, but used. And when they see their complaisantly obsessive attitude, they begin to get angry, look for a flaw, a reason for conflict, in order to get rid of guilt. As a result, relationships become more painful and filled with disappointments every day.

But love is happiness, the celebration of the soul, the joy of life. Healthy relationships involve mutual respect, trust, acceptance of each other with all the advantages and disadvantages. No one puts pressure on anyone and does not control every step, respecting the personality of a loved one.

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What to do?

Every person has the right not only to give love, but also to receive it with gratitude, without guilt or shame, and to demand mutual respect and care. As soon as an emotionally dependent person understands his condition, it is necessary to take measures to get rid of the way of thinking that interferes with a full life:

accept yourself as you are;
feel inner freedom from other people's opinions;
develop self-confidence;
learn to defend your position;
form their own opinion on the situation;
start making your own decisions;
take responsibility for your life.

Don't be afraid to lose people who bring suffering and pain. There is no shame in saying a firm “no” to a partner who does not appreciate and does not understand efforts. Dealing with emotional addiction is difficult, but real. In Nizhny Novgorod, there is a medical center "Family Practice", whose employees have successful experience in helping people suffering from emotional dependence.

At first, it is extremely important for such people to have the support of a psychologist, because it is difficult for them to cope with emotions on their own.

A qualified psychologist at the Family Practice Medical Center in Nizhny Novgorod will help you quickly and effectively solve problems associated with emotional dependence. Do not be shy to fight for happiness and well-being. Turning to a psychologist will be the first significant step towards a happy and fulfilling life.

“Problems will not be solved by themselves, treat your psychological health responsibly! Book a consultation with us."

Chief Physician Kharaburova T. L.

How to get rid of love addiction? — Perm information portal - 59i.ru

How to stop loving "too much"? How to get out of love addiction and fall out of love with a person? Is it possible? Many people ask themselves these questions and look for answers. Love addiction is very popular. This is a complex phenomenon, and the way out of it is not limited to a few simple steps. As with any addiction treatment, it takes a long process to get to the root of the problem. Psychotherapy or participation in support groups may be helpful. At the same time, it is important to remember that no one can replace your own efforts. What can you do for yourself? When should you start? Here are some tips to help you make the right decision. Learn how to get rid of love addiction.

What is love addiction?

A team of British scientists and doctors analyzed dozens of studies conducted between 1957 and 2016. It turned out that there is a lot of evidence that at the neurological, biochemical and behavioral levels there are similarities between love addiction and addiction, for example, to cocaine. Scientists have identified 2 types of addiction: the first is similar to the normal symptoms of falling in love, but with a stronger attachment to a loved one, the second is manifested by the fact that people want to get closer to the object of love. Their feelings are so strong that they drive them to extreme, socially unacceptable actions, sometimes even toxic ones. The first type is softer and more common. There is one thing in common - the inability to build healthy relationships and a panic fear of loneliness. For this reason, it is difficult to break off a relationship that has not met the needs of both partners for a long time. Every addiction is associated with a sense of chaos, harming others, one's health, or one's professional life. Addiction can turn your life and the lives of your loved ones into a nightmare when the person you are interested in does not reciprocate or is toxic in personal relationships.
According to research, love addiction is a type of drug. This state provokes people to create risky and dangerous situations; alcohol or narcotic substances can set the same person. Love addiction is associated with a very strong desire, and when the source of addiction disappears, withdrawal symptoms develop. A person who loves "too much" experiences an obsessive need to connect, to see a partner. He wants to be closer and closer to him, he loses himself and gives up his other needs. When a partner disappears, the other person is left with nothing but pain, a feeling of emptiness and a thirst for love. To drown them out, a person who loves "too much" does not want to give up the relationship, fearing loneliness and rejection. He is ready for a lot, even for aggression or betrayal. He is driven by an obsession to control the life of another person and the desire to make him dependent on himself. He can't end the relationship. The addiction to love is an extremely difficult addiction, but it is said to be possible to get rid of it. How to stop loving "too much"?

How to get rid of love addiction?

Getting rid of any addiction is a long process. It's about learning to love yourself and a new healthy lifestyle, as well as the ability to build healthy relationships. How to get rid of love addiction? The first step is to acknowledge yourself and admit that you are addicted and then make the decision to get rid of it.
1) Recognition of dependence
First you must admit that you are addicted and this obsession has taken control of your life. It's not easy, but without it, you won't be able to go through the next steps. Addiction is often difficult for women to admit because it is associated with weakness and failure. Meanwhile, this decision can be the greatest victory because it gives you a chance to heal.
2) Determine what is the addictive factor
The next step is to think about what you really depend on. The answer to this question will help solve the problem. It can be an abusive relationship that is difficult to get rid of; constant surveillance of a partner; non-reciprocal love; memories of past relationships; inability to establish healthy relationships with other people. Each person must individually determine what he really depends on.
3) Compiling a list of losses
The next step is to make a list of losses that have happened due to your addiction. It can be destroyed social ties, job loss, unhealthy mental state. Perhaps it is the inability to establish healthy relationships with new people, depression or disagreement with oneself. It is worth taking into account and recording all the losses you have suffered. Then take a look at them. Appreciate the serious damage to your life caused by an unhealthy obsession with another person.
4) Giving up what is addictive
They say that the 4th stage is the most difficult for addicts. It's about deciding to let go of the addiction factor and take charge of your life. This is a period of abstinence, you should avoid behavior that prevents you from getting rid of addiction. For example, if you are thinking about an old relationship, you should isolate yourself from your ex in every possible way. Cut contact completely, remove the person from social media, throw away the phone number, limit contact with mutual friends, and tell them not to mention your ex.

5) Make a plan for returning to normal life
The next step is to create two lists: things that can help you overcome addiction and factors that can interfere with recovery and which should be avoided. Think about what might help. Everyone should make a plan individually, because he knows better than anyone what makes him feel better and what does not. This can be, for example, a change of scenery or throwing away gifts left over from old relationships, cleaning the house.
6) Getting started on personal development
The last step can only be fully realized when you have energy and strength, without active addiction. This is a good time to take action that will help build self-esteem, healthy love, and self-esteem. It's a great idea to do something for yourself, like taking interesting courses. At this stage, it can be especially helpful to seek the help of a specialist, such as a person who conducts seminars on psychotherapeutic development.
How to get rid of love addiction? The whole process must be completed, only then can peace of mind and happiness be found. Therapy can help rebuild a relationship with your partner or prepare you for a new, healthy relationship.