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67 People Pleaser Quotes To Stop Pleasing Everyone

Looking for inspirational quotes about people pleasing? We have rounded up the best collection of people pleaser quotes, sayings, captions, and status, (with images and pictures) to break free from your people pleasing ways and start giving importance to yourself.

Who is called a people pleaser?

A people pleaser is someone who everyone considers kind and helpful. They usually don’t say ‘no’ to anyone for any work. Such people have a lot of empathy for others and care deeply about everyone around them. In this process, they neglect their own wants and needs. Such approval-seeking behavior comes in the way of their own well-being.

Being generous and accommodating the needs of others to make them happy is a good thing but sometimes pleasing others can be exhausting.

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You tend to lose your sense of self and you start neglecting yourself because you fear disappointing others when they ask for your help. People usually take such people for granted and take advantage of them.

In the process of pleasing others, you might lose sight of who you are. Continuous people-pleasing behavior may lead to a lack of self-care, it may lead you to get frustrated and make passive-aggressive comments, and it can stop you from enjoying yourself as you are under the stress of always pleasing others.

Sometimes it is also believed that people-pleasers are generally not pleasing others out of the goodness of their own heart. That’s why “people-pleaser” has its famously negative connotation. People-pleasers do things to obtain the validation and approval of others.

They find it difficult to confront people and say “NO” to them. Though the intentions of a people pleaser isn’t bad but, at times people might take advantage of your goodness.

These motivational quotes are divided into these sections;

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  • Quotes About People Pleasing

These uplifiting and positive quotes about people pleasing will encourage you to help others but not at the cost of your own well-being.

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Famous People Pleaser Quotes
  1. “If you try to please all, you please none.” – Aesop                                                                           

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  2. “Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.” – Lao Tzu                                                                                                                                                                 

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  3. “If you are busy pleasing everyone, you are not being true to yourself.” – Jocelyn Murray                                                                                                                                           

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  4. “When you say yes to others, make sure you aren’t saying no to yourself. ” – Paulo Coehlo                                                                                                                                                             

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  5. “Stress, anxiety and depression are caused when we are living to please others.” – Paulo Coelho

  6. “I can’t tell you the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone.” – Ed Sheeran                                                                                                                         

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  7. “The deepest pain I ever felt was denying my own feelings to make everyone else comfortable.” – Nicole Lyons

  8. “Do yourself a favor; don’t wear yourself out trying to please everybody. Your time is too valuable.” – Joel Osteen                                                                                           

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  9. “You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do. ” – Eleanor Roosevelt

  10. “Pleasing everybody is never a responsibility. If they like you for who you are, good. If not, it’s their problem not yours.” – Unknown

  11. “When you engage in people pleasing you are out of integrity with yourself, your goals, your dreams, and your life’s mission.” – Eileen Anglin

  12. “I’m done living for other people. I’m done being a people pleaser. I’m done thinking about what people think about me.” – Shailene Woodley

  13. “The only thing wrong with trying to please everyone is that there’s always at least one person who will remain unhappy. You.” – Elizabeth Parker

  14. “If you’re trying to please everyone, then you’re not going to make anything that is honestly yours, I don’t think, in the long run.” – Viggo Mortensen

  15. “The man who seeks to please God is the man who people are pleased with. The man who seeks to please others won’t satisfy anyone.” – Edwin Louis Cole

  16. “There’s something very addictive about people pleasing. It’s a thought pattern and a habit that feels really, really good until it becomes desperate.” – Anne Hathaway

  17. “When you stop living your life based on what others think of you real life begins. At that moment, you will finally see the door of self-acceptance opened.” – Shannon L. Alder

  18. “When you are a people pleaser, you put others needs first before your own, sometimes at the expense of your own health and well-being. It is often linked to our own sense of self-worth.” – Unknown

  19. “There’s a fine line between helping others and being a people pleaser, and mistaking one for the other can be hugely detrimental. When we put others’ needs before our own, we deplete our energy, which can lead to depression, physical illness, and overwhelm. ” – Gabrielle Bernstein

  20. “People pleasing and putting others first literally diminished my mental, emotional, spiritual and physical well-being. Overwhelmingly, most emotionally wounded people demonstrate this trait. Many of us have been programmed to put others first; to be of service to others before we serve ourselves.” – Christopher Dines

Top People Pleasing Quotes

If you don’t know whether you are a people pleaser or not, then here are some signs that might help you to understand this better.

Some signs of being a people pleaser include: People pleaser’s mostly agree with everyone, they make themselves responsible and blame themselves for the responses of others, they are not able to say no to others, and people pleasers try to avoid conflict, even if they have to change as a person for that.

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  1. “If you live for people’s acceptance, you will die from their rejection.” – Lecrae Moore                                                                                                                                         

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  2. “If you are busy pleasing everyone, you are not being true to yourself.” – Jocelyn Murray                                                                                                                                               

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  3. “Stop asking why they keep doing it and start asking why you keep allowing it.” – Unknown

  4. “Don’t be a people pleaser… be a self pleaser… it’s not ego… it’s called self-respect.” – Preeta Gupta

  5. “Your time is way too valuable to be wasting on people that can’t accept who you are.” – Turcois Ominek

  6. “Never seek to please anyone. Seek to evolve thyself.” – Lailah Gifty Akita, Pearls of Wisdom: Great mind

  7. “I can only please one person per day. Today isn’t your day. Tomorrow doesn’t look good either.” – Unknown

  8. “Don’t be afraid of losing people. Be afraid of losing yourself by trying to please everyone around you.” – Unknown

  9. “Don’t change to please people. If they can’t accept you for who you are, you don’t need them in your life.” – Unknown

  10. “Pleasing everybody is never a responsibility. If they like you for who you are, good. If not, it’s their problem not yours.” – Unknown

  11. “The only thing wrong with trying to please everyone is that there is always at least one person who will remain unhappy. You.” – Elizabeth Parker

  12. “The man who seeks to please God is the man who people are pleased with. The man who seeks to please others won’t satisfy anyone. ” – Edwin Louis Cole

  13. “‘No’ might make them angry, but it will make you free. If no one has ever told you, your freedom is more important than their anger.” – Nayyirah Waheed

  14. “The truth is, you’re never going to be able to please everybody, so stop trying. Remember, the sun is going to continue shining even if some people get annoyed by its light shining in their eyes. You have full permission to shine on.” – Unknown

  15. “The people pleaser: Someone who neglects their own needs for other people’s comfort and has a hard time setting boundaries (i.e. saying no when they feel overwhelmed). This person tends to avoid conflict at all costs and spends a lot of time trying to be appreciated and liked by everyone around them.” – Unknown

Best Quotes About People Pleasing

Being too nice and being always there for others is a virtue but only when we use this in balance. When we are there for others, we need to also keep in mind to be do justice to ourself.

So don’t seek validation of others. And don’t try to make everyone happy. Do what is right and stop pleasing everyone around you. And at times it can be dangerous when you are too gullible for others to take advantage of you.

To find your own happiness it is important to leave your people-pleasing ways and stop being the nice guy at the expense of yourself.

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  1. “Don’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm.” – Unknown

  2. “I gotta stop treating people like I owe them something.” – Tupac Shakur                                     

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  3. “Don’t be a people pleaser. Trust your instincts.” – Salome Mumba

  4. “Your biggest commitment must always be to yourself.” – Bridgett Devoue

  5. “We cannot please all men but we can be a blessing to many.” – Mac Canoza

  6. “Niceness is the psychological armor of the people-pleaser.” – Harriet B. Braiker

  7. “I’m tired of trying to please everyone when I can’t even please myself.” – Unknown                                                                                                                                               

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  8. “You’re not really free until you’re free from trying to please everybody.” – Joel Osteen                                                                                                                                                                     

    Quotes about People pleaser

  9. “All I can do is follow my instincts, because I’ll never please everyone. ” – Emma Watson

  10. “There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.” – Aristotle

  11. “I’m generally a people-pleaser so I get high anxiety from any sort of confrontation.” – Rose Byrne

  12. “The deepest pain I ever felt was denying my own feelings to make everyone else comfortable.” – Nicole Lyons

  13. “Sometimes you aren’t listening to your body because you’re listening to everybody else’s expectations.” – Ann Voskamp

  14. “Sometimes you don’t realize you are actually drowning when you are trying to be everyone else’s anchor.” – Unknown

  15. “You must stop pleasing others because those other people literally have no idea who you ARE.” – Julie Lythcott-Haims

  16. “There comes a time when you have to stop crossing oceans for people who wouldn’t even jump puddles for you. ” – Unknown

  17. “One of the greatest regrets in life is being what others would want you to be, rather than being yourself.” – Shannon L. Alder

  18. “The only reason people take you for granted is because they assume you’ll always be there. Prove them wrong.” – Unknown

  19. “Let your light shine today, and let your personality blossom, too. You don’t have to be a people-pleaser, just a people-lover.” – Beth Moore

  20. “I’m done living for other people. I’m done being a people pleaser. I’m done thinking about what people think about me.” – Shailene Woodley

  21. “Don’t feel bad for making decisions that hurt other people. You’re not responsible for their happiness, you are responsible for yours.” – Unknown

  22. “I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure – which is: Try to please everybody. ” – Herbert Bayard Swope

  23. “I’m a people pleaser. I hold a lot of things in. I’m always making sure everybody is okay. I usually don’t rage; I usually don’t curse.” – Beyonce Knowles

  24. “We need to create a new revolution, and to do that, don’t waste your life: stop pleasing people, and become who you always wanted to be.” – Paulo Coelho

  25. “While being you and truly sharing what you do will bring happiness to others, you won’t find contentment merely trying to keep others happy.” – Rasheed Ogunlaru

  26. “Important reminders for a people pleaser: Someone else’s thoughts and desires do not require a change in your own beliefs or another item on your to-do list.” – Unknown

  27. “I’m definitely a people pleaser. I like people to be happy around me and be comfortable. I go out of my way, sometimes to a fault, to make sure everyone is okay. ” – Ken Jeong

  28. “You will never gain anyone’s approval by begging for it. When you stand confident in your own worth, respect follows.” – Mandy Hale, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass

  29. “Your need for acceptance can make you invisible in this world. Don’t let anything stand in the way of the light that shines through this form. Risk being seen in all of your glory.” – Jim Carrey

  30. “As much as I don’t want to admit it, I really am a people pleaser. If I throw a party at my house, it’s hard for me to relax. I’m too obsessed with whether everyone’s having a good time.” – Rachael Harris

  31. You can please some of the people some of the time, all of the people some of the time, some of the people all of the time, but you can never please all of the people all of the time.” – Abraham Lincoln

  32. Trying to please everybody is impossible – if you did that, you’d end up in the middle with nobody liking you. You’ve got to make the decision about what you think is your best, and do it.” – John Lennon

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People Pleaser? 25 Sassy Quotes That Prove You Can't Make Everyone Happy All The Time

Remember, you can't make everyone happy all of the time. First, you have to put yourself, your needs and your happiness above all others. Do what you need to do for you before you concern yourself with what other people may think or worry about what they might say.

This can be especially hard for those who have a personality that needs a lot of justification for what you are doing because you don't want to do the wrong thing. But relying on other people to tell you how to live your life is not a good way to approach living. Having others make decisions about your life for you takes you out of your life — and you are not the one creating your own path.

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I know from personal experience that it is super hard to stop being a people pleaser — some days I just want to be told that I am doing something right. It's hard putting yourself first when all you are looking for is affirmations that you are succeeding in life and people are happy with what you are doing. But we should not rely on other people's opinions about our lives and then adjust to living "socially correct."

I know that most of us want to make other people happy and don't want to do anything to upset them or make them look at you negatively, but that means we start policing ourselves so much that we aren't original to ourselves anymore.

We get so worried about what other people will say if we do something or look a certain way that it's almost like we fall behind into the background and that isn't fair to you.

The overall wish that I hope you take away from this article is that it is OK to be yourself. It's OK to learn how to be happy on your own, so stop trying to be who you think others want you to be. You are beautiful, strong, smart and follow your heart.

So, here are some straightforward, sassy quotes to show that you aren't the only one out there that are struggling with balancing making yourself and others happy as well. But you should focus on making yourself happy first instead of others, because whether you want to please everyone or not, you can't always make everyone happy all the time, so might as well focus on what makes you happy instead.

1. You are only responsible for your own happiness.

"Don't feel bad for making decisions that upset other people. You're not responsible for their happiness, you're responsible for yours. " Unknown

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2. There is no way.

"No matter how much you try, you can't make everybody happy."Unknown

3. What others think of you has nothing to do with who you are.

"People will love you. People will hate you. And none of it will have anything to do with you." Abraham Hicks

4. All appeasing everyone else can do is bring you stress, frustration, and misery.

"Trying to please everyone is a recipe for stress, misery and frustration. Be yourself. It'll be good to know who's down with that." Unknown

5. Happiness is your choice.

"We can't control the world. We can only (barely) control our own reactions to it. Happiness is largely a choice, not a right or entitlement." David C. Hill

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Don't lose yourself in the process of trying to make everyone happy.

"Don't be afraid of losing people. Be afraid of losing yourself by trying to please everyone around you." Unknown

7. You are not responsible for everyone's happiness.

'You have permission to rest. You are not responsible for fixing everything that is broken. You do not have to try and make everyone happy. For now, take time for you. It's time to replenish."Unknown

8. You can never make everyone happy at the same time.

"You can't be afraid of what people are going to say, because you're never going to make everyone happy." Selena Gomez

9. Don't concern yourself with other people's happiness.

"Most of us believe in trying to make other people happy only if they can be happy in ways which we approve."Robert S. Lynd

10. There is no reason for you to feel hopeless.

"I think the saddest people always try their hardest to make people happy because they know what it's like to feel absolutely worthless and they don't want anyone else to feel like that." Robin Williams

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11. You make a better impression if you take the time to give compliments then judge.

"If you judge people, you have no time to love them." Mother Theresa

12. All it takes is compassion.

"If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion."Dalai Lama

13. Just be you!

"Just be you. Do what you love. I've learned that in the end, you can't make everyone happy no matter what you say or do, some people will never be happy or like you." Unknown

14. Follow your key to success, not someone else's.

"I can't tell you the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone." Ed Sheeran

15. You can't make everyone happy.

"It's sad when you can't make everyone happy, though. It's impossible but, at the same time, you still hope. You think, 'Maybe I can do it,' but you know you can't. But gosh, if I had to rely on giving people what they wanted, I would have had to write 40 billion different books and even then, I wouldn't get it right."Stephenie Meyer

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16. Do what you love.

"And then there is the most dangerous risk of all - the risk of spending your life not doing what you want on the bet you can buy yourself the freedom to do it later." Randy Komisar

17. People will love you for who you are.

"You can't always please everybody, but you can do what makes you happy and just hope that those around you will be happy for you. " Unknown

18. You have to do what you want and not worry about others.

"You can't make everyone happy right away. You can't figure out what people want you to do. You just have to do what you want to do and hope it works out." Rob Zombie

19. You will fail if you try to please everyone all of the time.

"I can't give you a sure-fire formula for success, but I can give you a formula for failure: try to please everybody all the time." Herbert Bayard Swope

20. Don't let others control your life when they don't deserve it.

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"Stop letting people who do so little for you control so much of your mind, feelings and emotions." Will Smith

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When you are happy, nothing can tare you down.

"Smiling is definitely one of the best beauty remedies. If you have a good sense of humor and a good approach to life, that's beautiful." Rashida Jones

22. You are the only one in control of your happiness.

"Happiness is not something readymade. It comes from your own actions."Dalai Lama

23. You have to do yourself justice.

"I know I can't make everyone happy, but I know I can do the most justice I can possibly do to a character, or any character, if I put my all into it. That's the choice you have to make." Henry Cavil

24. Be proud of who you are.

"No matter how hard you try, you can never please everyone. Folow your heart, make the most of every day, and be proud of who you are." —John Cena

25. Chocolate fixes everything.

"You can't make everybody happy. You are not chocolate. " Unknown

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