Most attractive features
Features That Attract People The Most
By Jeanne Croteau AND Lillian McTernan/Updated: Aug. 17, 2020 11:27 am EST
You'd be surprised what the world of science has figured out when it comes to romance. One minute, science is launching Neil Armstrong across the void to walk on the moon. The next, it's telling you exactly how to land your fantasy date. Contrary to popular belief, love and attraction is less like a romance novel, and a whole lot more like a psychology journal. Here's what science says is working behind the scenes when Cupid's arrow strikes.
Forget about flaunting your curves for a minute. Results from a study at Manchester University found that lips are a woman's most attractive physical attribute. When you think about how much ladies like Angelina Jolie and Scarlett Johansson are lusted after, it's tough to argue against it. For extra credit, pink and red lipstick were found to hold a man's attention even longer. When in doubt, go red—it's a classic and it works.
Strong eye contact
Forget that saying about the eyes being the window to the soul, because they're also the door to keeping a lover's attention. Turns out your pupils dilate a little more when you're attracted to someone. The kicker? People are apparently super attracted to dilated pupils. Lesson learned: never miss an opportunity to fixate your eyes at your intended bae.
Research suggests that straight, white teeth are more attractive, and it's safe to assume that most folks don't prefer yellow, rotting teeth. We shouldn't even have to tell you this, but brush, floss, and visit your dentist regularly. You'd be surprised how many people don't maintain dental hygiene. It's one of those subconscious signals of health and fertility that evolution so craftily tucked into our DNA to help us survive. Thanks, evolution — now pay for our Invisalign!
Smiling like an emoji
When we say smiling like an emoji, we're talking about the happy-face kind, not the inappropriate-but-well-timed eggplant. One study suggests that men are significantly more attracted to women who smile. It's not like you'll be reeling them in with a grimace.
A higher-pitched voice
High-pitched voices are apparently sexier. Researchers suggest it's because higher voices suggest a smaller body size, which our society deems more attractive. We all know the truth: helium fetish. While we're on the topic, keep in mind that cigarettes won't help your cause as they have a tendency to deepen your voice (and yellow your teeth. And, you know, cause cancer).
The hips don't lie
To make things more confusing, even though men appear to be attracted to smaller body types in the previous slide's study, apparently both Shakira and Sir Mix-a-Lot were also right. Researchers found that men preferred larger hip-to-waist ratios than smaller ones. Call us crazy, but we've chosen to conclude that this means all body types are beautiful and attractive.
Make them see red
This study of color stereotypes included two photos of the exact same woman. She wore blue in one picture and red in the other, posing the same way in both. According to the results, the photo of the woman in red was rated as more attractive and sexually desirable. Furthermore, the men of the study indicated they would be more willing to date the scarlet-clad woman and even spend more money on her. Blue never stood a chance.
The body language of attraction
If you're sitting at a bar, turn a little towards a guy you're interested in. Leaning in, tilting your head, and pointing your feet toward a person all subconsciously communicate interest and engagement. Blushing signals attraction and is the body's way of gaining the attention of the opposite sex. So if you're going out and planning to mingle, don't forget to put on a little blush before you go.
What might be the most important feature, according to researchers, is something we can do very little about: facial symmetry. This is when the left side of your face looks exactly like the right side of your face and vice versa, with things matching up perfectly from one side to another. Most celebrities and models have strong, symmetrical faces. You can't really change your facial symmetry unless you go under the knife, and we don't suggest trying it. If you happen to be blessed with facial symmetry, thank your genes for the leg up. But if you don't, believe us, there are far more important things you can do to attract someone (see the next slide re: confidence).
Confidence is key
Attraction isn't all about appearances, so don't go thinking it's all about winning the genetic lottery — there are many things about your character that make you attractive. Confidence, for one, can vastly increase your sex appeal. Confident people are more apt to send off signals of interest. Send more signals out, and you'll get more signals back in return — just don't make it desperate. Even if you're not the hottest person in the room, having the mindset that you are happy with who you are can help make a better impression than a model with low self-esteem.
In the same vein, there are many other non-physical traits that are incredibly attractive. Read on to find out what you can do to attract your soul mate.
Inscribed near the entrance of the venerated ancient Greek Oracle at Delphi, "Know thyself" continues to be good advice. Knowing yourself is the same idea as being self-aware, since it involves understanding your own personality and character.
So what, exactly, is self-awareness? Psychologist Daniel Goleman, author of best-selling book Emotional Intelligence, proposed the most popular definition of self-awareness as "knowing one's internal states, preferences, resources and intuitions," although it can also cover a broad range of things including your needs, desires, failings, habits, your likes and dislikes, preferences and non-negotiables, what makes you angry or defensive, and, conversely, what makes you happy. Basically, it encompasses all the things that help you answer the universal question of "Who am I?"
Being more self-aware can greatly improve self-confidence, since self-awareness enables us to clearly see our strengths and weaknesses — which allows us to devote more time and energy to doing what we're good at (and who doesn't like the warm fuzzies that come with kicking butt at something?). This, in turn, increases our overall sense of confidence (see: warm fuzzies).
When a person is authentic, they're not afraid to be themselves. You can recognize authenticity, both in yourself and others, by traits such as having realistic perceptions of reality, being accepting of themselves and of other people, being thoughtful, having a non-hostile sense of humor, being able to express their emotions freely and clearly, being open to learning from their mistakes, and understanding their motivations.
Authenticity, self-awareness, and confidence are all closely linked, too. Chris Armstrong, a Certified Relationship Coach, told me that the combination of authenticity and vulnerability gives people the self-confidence to be open about who they are — and comfortable with who they're not. There are no pretenses with people like this, and when people are able to be genuine, it helps them build deeper, more meaningful connections with others.
When I spoke with Amanda Rose, a matchmaker and dating expert, she said that "there's something about a person's ability to be unfiltered and raw that creates connection, [and] when we feel more connected to someone, the attraction level rises. " So go ahead and let your quirks show! They're endearing for those who know and love you, and your authenticity will be attractive to those who don't know you yet.
Being vulnerable entails allowing yourself to be seen in a way that makes you uncomfortable: weaknesses, flaws, insecurities, and all. When you're being vulnerable, you choose not to hide who you really are. The good and the bad, strong and weak... it's all out in the open. Being open, honest, and real, and allowing yourself to be vulnerable, takes guts.
Even though vulnerability can feel incredibly risky, it can also be deeply rewarding. Yvonne Thomas, Ph.D., a Los Angeles-based psychologist whose specialties include relationships and self-esteem, told me that vulnerability — and being open about one's flaws, idiosyncrasies, and weaknesses — makes a person more relatable and human, instead of coming across as too cold or too perfect.
And, if you'll allow me to go full fangirl for a moment, University of Houston researcher Brene Brown has produced some amazing work on the benefits of vulnerability: "embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable," Brown wrote in her best-selling book Daring Greatly. And, if you want to feel really inspired to become more vulnerable, check out Brown's TED Talk on the Power of Vulnerability. It'll leave you feeling both verklempt and awestruck.
Remember how the previous slide said that vulnerability takes guts? Well, courage (which is all about guts) is also an attractive personality trait. Bravery — such as the willingness to take calculated risks (that is to say: risks that aren't reckless, so please don't try to hold onto the back of a moving vehicle while riding your bike), Thomas told me that the ability to stand up for yourself and others, and a willingness to do things that are intimidating — conveys emotional resiliency and strength.
Openness to experience and curiosity
Openness to experience is another hallmark of attraction. Marked by creativity, intellect, imagination, and curiosity, open individuals enjoy learning new things, are inquisitive about the world around them, and are interested in new experiences. Now, this doesn't mean you have to take up skydiving or go out and party every weekend (I, for one, am terrified of skydiving and would much rather spend the evening at home with a book). The question is more about how curious you are about the world around you — for example, different cultures, new places, new activities, or different restaurants — and your willingness to try them.
A good example of this is an ill-fated date my dad went on before he met my mom: he was all excited to try out a new Jewish deli in town, and the woman he took there for their first date proceeded to order a plain hamburger with ketchup and was visibly shaken by all the unfamiliar foods on the menu. As a guy who grew up in the New York City suburbs, would order food from just about any restaurant in the world, and loves trying new things, my dad knew a second date would never happen long before his Reuben sandwich arrived.
One big benefit of openness to experience, as well as curiosity, is that they make us more empathetic and help us to form bonds with others, since making an effort to understand the lives of people who are different helps us to expand our worldview and become more accepting of those differences. When we create deeper connections with the people we meet, our interest in their lives of others will likely lead to reciprocated interest — they'll want to know more about you, and the connection grows from there.
Be a giver
The whole point of attracting someone is that you want to share your experiences with them. It's no surprise, therefore, that being selfish is definitely not a turn on. In fact, the exact opposite is true. Studies have shown that people are more attracted to those with a generous spirit.
So get out there, open your heart, and be a giver! Volunteer to read to senior citizens. Organize a food drive. Donate money to charity. You'll be doing something good for those around you, while also becoming more attractive in the process. It's a win-win!
Show off your playful side
There's an old saying: "you can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar." So, if you're trying to catch someone's attention, some researchers suggest you indulge your sweet, playful side instead. After all, who doesn't want to have more fun?
Life can be so serious and stressful sometimes, which makes it even more important to shake off the negativity and have a good time. So, the next time you're feeling silly, just go with it. Get down in the dirt, dance in the rain, and throw your head back and laugh from your core. You'll feel amazing and people will be drawn to you.
Be the brainiac
There are countless movies built on the premise that no one wants to date a nerd... but maybe those out-of-touch Hollywood producers have it all wrong. According to actual research, we are scientifically wired to be attracted to intelligent people.
That's right, folks. Being smart is a highly desirable quality, so stop dumbing yourself down! Dust off your library cards, take your board games and microscopes out from under your bed, and embrace your big, beautiful brain openly and with pride.
Remember: romance doesn't have to be the endgame
Ok, so: I know this piece focuses on attraction, both physical and emotional, in the context of romantic relationships, but we can probably all agree that 1) that different traits are attractive to different people and 2) that romance isn't the be-all and end-all of adult life.
To the first point, while studies have shown that men are attracted to specific physical traits like big hips or luscious lips or a high-pitched voice, it certainly doesn't apply to all the dudes out there. I'll use myself as a case in point: I have dark hair, a decidedly not high-pitched voice (some might even call it husky), and an athletic build. While these fundamental, unalterable traits quickly ruled out the menfolk who prefer petite blondes (in the interest of full disclosure, I did spend a few years feeling crappy about my soccer thighs and dark brown locks), I haven't exactly spent my life in a nunnery. I eventually married a man who loves how I look, and it turns out he was particularly drawn to my muscles and dark hair. It just goes to show that what men find attractive is totally subjective, and beauty, as the cliché goes, is very much in the eye of the beholder.
Adding to which: while finding a romantic partner is definitely something many people want, in no way does it measure your worth or success (even though HOLY EFF does it ever feel like that sometimes). Women in particular are often fed the implicit message that we need to change ourselves to become worthy of men's attention and affection. And that, if I may say so, is total BS.
Instead, you can use the character traits above to help you build a life that you love — with or without a partner. Cultivating traits like self-awareness, vulnerability, authenticity, courage, openness to experience, and empathy can help you in all facets of life, both personal and professional. They can help you build a social network of friends you adore, create work you find meaningful, travel to places that excite you, and seek out experiences that help you grow. From that point, it's safe to say that relationships are likely to follow, and yet even if they don't, what's most important is that you are able to be proud of who you are and the life you live.
Here's to building a life that makes you happy, and all the benefits that come from it!
The 11 Physical Features Men Can’t Resist, According to Science
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We all know that every time a man gives us the once-over, he's probably thinking about sex. But now, science can explain why men are constantly checking us out. Turns out, there's a specific formula for their once-over. Some of it's silly, but most of it you can easily nail.
According to Business Insider, every time a men checks out a woman, he's performing a reproductive fitness assessment. Men were designed to look for key features in women. These features make women attractive because they are associated with good health and fertility. When men notice these features, they are subconsciously thinking, she could have my babies! Making them subconsciously, or very consciously, attracted to you.
Science has proven men to be attracted to women with these 6 features. According to the data, here's what it takes to be "attractive:"
A Wider Waist to Hips Ratio. A ratio of 7:10 is particularly pleasing, apparently. The waist and hips are related to childbirth, making men think, those big hips would be great for delivering my baby!
A High Voice. According to a study cited in the video, a high-pitched voice evokes youthfulness and signifies a small, feminine body, both of which are attractive to men. Let's just say our high-pitched shrieks at the scandalous happenings on the Real Housewives is a sign of evolution at work.
Healthy Hair. Shiny, full, and long hair is very attractive. Again, it's a sign of health and fertility. And thankfully, very fake-able with regular salon visits and blowouts. Remember, it's for the future of the human race.
Smiles. Well obviously, happy people are attractive people. But science has also proven the whiter the teeth, the better.
Less Makeup. You may think that contouring, layers of eye shadow, and bold lips are making you more beautiful, but it turns out, the natural look is more appealing to men. The video says that men prefer women who use up to 40% fewer cosmetics. But it shouldn't take science to tell you that the natural you, is the best you.
Wearing Red. There's a reason red is associated with lust. Scientists have proven that wearing red enhances attraction. In fact, they've found this phenomenon to hold true in other animals as well. Note to self: dry clean red dress for Saturday date night.
Dark Strands. Gentlemen don't, it turns out, prefer blondes, according to a 2008 survey of 130 men (and 112 women) published in the Scandinavian Journal of Psychology. "Contrary to expectations … brunettes were rated more positively than blondes," the researchers write. Hair length, on the other hand, "had only a weak effect on ratings of attractiveness."
Height. One (incredibly thorough) 2010 analysis conducted by experts at The University of New South Wales in Sydney — titled "Much More Than a Ratio: Multivariate Selection on Female Bodies" — showed that although factors such as waist-to-hip ratio and bust size affect how men perceive women, they don't tell the whole story. Taller women were rated as more attractive, but — at least evolutionarily speaking — men aren't necessarily after willowy, runway-ready figures. The men surveyed preferred women with legs that were proportionate in length to their height.
Arm Length. Long legs weren't shown to be a feature men seek out, but long arms were. "Scanned bodies of taller women who had longer arms were strongly preferred," the Sydney-based researchers write. Upper arm girth played a role too — apparently men are attracted to women with long and slender arms.
Big Boobs. Hope you're sitting down: Believe it or not, men like big boobs. But especially in combination with a narrow waist, which, the researchers note, several previous studies had already established. In more news that will surprise no one, studies that tracked eye movement showed that when looking at images of women, men first checked out their breasts and waists. "Men also looked for longer at breasts, but attractiveness scores were more likely to be based on waist scores alone than the breast scores," they write.
Overall Grooming. In a 1997 study published in the journal Current Psychology, changeable features like how people groom themselves and posture were shown to be just as important as fixed features like height. The reason: Evidence of self-care signals to others that you're healthy and strong (and thus, a good reproductive partner).
This all said, there's plenty of counter research that men are just happy to be getting laid at all. One thing's for sure – they're lucky to have us, just the way we are.
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What traits make a man attractive
Each woman in her own way imagines the appearance of a dream man and attractive character traits of her chosen one. It is important for one that he has blue eyes, another likes brunettes, some girls consider a man without a beard to be frivolous, and someone’s bristles make him shudder. The same can be said about personal qualities: someone has a sense of humor in the first place, someone is more important than reliability. It is important for one that she has something to talk about with a person, and the other appreciates the opportunity to be silent.
But what makes a man attractive are the following traits that every woman likes:
- ability to provide for a family;
- sense of humor.
Consider them in order.
Not all women are obsessed with cleanliness, as is commonly believed. But the ability of a man to take care of himself will be appreciated by anyone. Fresh clothes, a clean body, a pleasant smell - all this is much better than dirty shoes, standing socks and the smell of old sweat. The same applies to the order in the apartment. It is not necessary to line up chairs and blow off dust particles from the computer - it will rather scare you away. But fresh air, the ability to walk across the floor without stumbling, and the absence of dust clouds are much healthier for both the owner of the apartment and his guests.
A neat appearance is what creates the first impression of you. If it is not very good, it will be difficult to change it.
This is a universal quality, important for both men and women. No one wants to associate life with a cruel or indifferent person. With this, you will not feel safe, you will be afraid to entrust children to him.
At first glance, it seems that these qualities directly follow from the previous one - kindness. But you can be kind to strangers, forgetting about your own family. Donate the last money to charity, forgetting that your own child's shoes are torn.
A man is initially imprisoned for a broader view than a woman, for interaction with the outside world. He needed to see a mammoth on a wide plain and defeat the enemy. And she - to look out for an edible plant in the thickets and make sure that everything was in order in the cave. But now humanity is striving for the golden mean: a man wants to see in his life companions an independent person, and not a delicate flower, and a woman - a partner, attentive to what seems to him a trifle. Such attractive character traits of a man as caring and attentiveness can provide an idyll in a relationship.
Ability to negotiate
To understand each other's needs, it is important to be able to talk. Men and women have different mindsets. For example, when a man emotionally talks about an event, he first of all hopes for advice. The woman is waiting for sympathy and assurance that she acted in the only possible way. Not all people are interested in psychology and understand this difference, but the willingness to talk with a partner and seek compromises is important. To do this, it is enough to understand that all people are different, and that no one can read minds. Then it will become clear: you need to discuss important points with your partner in order to come to an understanding.
A modern woman is used to relying on herself. But sometimes she wants to hide from the hardships of this world behind someone's back. Women have a more mobile psyche, they react more strongly to events. Sometimes emotions overwhelm, and then it is important that there is a person nearby who is able to impartially assess the situation and make the right decision.
Self-confidence allows you to meet unexpected turns of fate without panic and look optimistically into the future. It is also important in the next paragraph.
Ability to provide for a family
In many developed countries, a woman is given a minimum leave to care for an infant - two or even one month. But psychologists say that the constant presence of the mother is very important for a small child - this is necessary for its harmonious development. Unfortunately, in our country, a woman is unlikely to save up so much money from her earnings so as not to work for a year after the birth of a child and at the same time not need anything. Therefore, when it comes to the birth of children, the ability of a man to provide for a family comes to the fore, so that a woman can raise children.
Sense of humor
Not to miss a single episode of KVN or stand-up shows, to know a thousand jokes and to be a star in the company is not a sense of humor. Much more important is the ability to find humor in difficulties - this makes them easier. Humor will help you look at the event from a different angle, find an unusual solution. And a positive outlook on the world is healthier.
A sense of humor is also the ability to laugh at oneself, not to take oneself too seriously. Research shows that people who seriously think they are the best perform actually perform below average. Taking yourself seriously is a sign of complacency and unhealthy selfishness. And don't confuse it with self-confidence. A person who does not know how to be the first to laugh at himself is sensitive to the opinions of others, and this makes it difficult to adequately evaluate himself.
Summarizing the above most attractive personality traits, we see that women like self-confident, reliable men who can be relied upon. They are attracted to kind, caring people with whom you feel calm and confident. Women want to build an equal partnership with men who are ready for dialogue, ready to recognize that not only their own needs are important. But when choosing a suitable partner for themselves, girls should understand that the same qualities in themselves will sincerely please a man and give a significant head start, eliminating any competition.
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MOSCOW, May 19 - RIA Novosti. Australian scientists have found out which features of a partner determine sexual attractiveness for men and women and how these preferences change with age. The results of the study are published in the journal PLOS One. Researchers from the Queensland University of Technology analyzed the responses of more than seven thousand people aged 18 to 65 who participated in a national online survey on sexual attractiveness, which was conducted in 2016 among visitors to dating sites. Survey participants were asked to rate, on a scale from zero to one hundred, the importance of having nine traits in potential partners, grouped into three categories: aesthetics (age, attractiveness, and physical characteristics), resources (intelligence, education, and income), and personality (trust, openness, and emotional connection) . Statistical analysis of responses revealed similar priorities for men and women. Both rated attractiveness, physical characteristics, and all three personality traits as very important, while income was the least important. However, for women, the importance of age, education, intelligence, income, trust, and emotional connection was about 9-14 points higher than men. The latter paid more attention to the attractiveness and physical physique of a potential partner. "Multiple scientific studies have long shown that the ability to quickly determine attractiveness in other people reflects a preference for reproducing offspring with good genes," said study leader, behavioral economist Stephen White, in a university press release. (Stephen Whyte) - Although both sexes prefer a physically attractive potential partner, men have stronger preferences for attractiveness than women. For example, young men give more importance to aesthetics than young women, for whom personality is more important. This gap narrows with age, with both men and women paying more attention to traits such as openness and trust as they age. According to scientists, these results are broadly consistent with existing theories of attraction, which consider mate choice in the context of procreation and parenting. children." Sexual attraction is a key factor in mate selection and reproduction. Our results point to clear differences within each sex at key life stages, consistent with selection pressure theories, White says. , because their breeding time is more limited, and they cannot risk making the wrong choice. "It is also interesting that if both men and women at a young age often emphasized one trait, then, as they approached the upper limit of fertility, located in the region of 50 years, they increasingly declared the importance of a complex of traits. According to the research According to researchers, the decisions that people make in choosing a sexual partner strongly influence not only aspects of family relations and reproduction, but also other aspects of society, including gender roles and equality, labor market dynamics, liberalism in the broadest sense, politics, religion and culture.
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MOSCOW, May 19 - RIA Novosti. Australian scientists have found out which features of a partner determine sexual attractiveness for men and women and how these preferences change with age. The results of the study are published in the journal PLOS One.
Researchers at the Queensland University of Technology analyzed the responses of more than seven thousand people aged 18 to 65 who participated in a national online sexual attractiveness survey conducted in 2016 among visitors to dating sites.
Respondents were asked to rate, on a scale of zero to one hundred, the importance of having nine traits in potential partners grouped into three categories: aesthetics (age, attractiveness, and physical features), resources (intelligence, education, and income), and personality (trust, openness). and emotional connection).
Statistical analysis of responses revealed similar priorities for men and women. Both rated attractiveness, physical characteristics, and all three personality traits as very important, while income was the least important. However, for women, the importance of age, education, intelligence, income, trust, and emotional connection was about 9-14 points higher than men. The latter paid more attention to the attractiveness and physical physique of a potential partner.
"Multiple scientific studies have long shown that the ability to quickly identify attractiveness in others reflects a preference for producing offspring with good genes," study leader behavioral economist Stephen Whyte said in a university press release. "Although both sexes prefer physically attractive potential mate, men have stronger preferences for attractiveness than women."
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The authors also found that the set of preferences changes with age. For example, young men give more importance to aesthetics than young women, for whom personality is more important. This gap narrows with age: both men and women at an older age pay more attention to traits such as openness and trust.
According to scientists, these results are generally consistent with existing theories of attraction, which consider the choice of a partner in the context of procreation and parenting.