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There are few things quite as cathartic as weeping. And it can be frustrating when you feel like you need to release some emotion, but you can’t seem to figure out how to make yourself cry.
There are a number of complex, underlying reasons that could be inhibiting your ability to cry: Perhaps you’re disconnected from your emotions, or you’ve been conditioned to view weeping as shameful, or you’re a man. (Yes, the stereotype that women tear up more than men is backed by science.) But weeping is one of the healthiest outward expressions of emotions. Studies have shown that crying naturally reduces stress and lowers your body’s manganese level, which is associated with anxiety and irritability.
Having one of those days that seems to call for a good cry? Below, the Cut staff shares tips that just might get the tears flowing.
If you ask someone for advice on how to make yourself cry, “listen to sad music” is an obvious answer — precisely because it’s usually pretty effective. Fire up your Spotify and put on an old breakup playlist, or perhaps Blue — and in particular, “River” — by Joni Mitchell.
A few other song suggestions from Cut staffers: “You Had Time” by Ani DiFranco, “Putting the Dog to Sleep” by the Antlers, and “On the Nature of Daylight” by Max Richter. Orchestral music also lends itself well to repeat listening, so if you feel a big sob swelling inside of you, hit the repeat button and lie down.
Afterwards, you’ll likely find yourself in higher spirits than before: According to a study published in Scientific Reports, crying to depressing music actually produces a measurable sense of pleasure.
If music isn’t doing it for you, try recalling the films, televisions shows, or even commercials that have made you weep in the past. For one Cut writer, Boromir’s death in
Lord of the Rings: The Fellowship of the Ring and the poem scene in 10 Things I Hate About You make her weepy.
When another staffer is looking for something to “fuck her all the way up,” she rewatches the tragic scene in season one of Grey’s Anatomy, where Izzy’s love interest, Denny Duquette, suddenly dies and “Chasing Cars” by Snow Patrol slowly swells in the background. I’ve been known to revisit Budweiser’s Clydesdales commercial with the lost puppy, which is an instant tearjerker.
If none of those speak to you, we’ve compiled a list of the 15 best sad movies on Netflix. There’s also always the first few minutes of Up.
Another way to make yourself cry is to reflect on past experiences in which you were memorably sad: breakups, deaths of loved ones, or times you felt betrayed or hurt by someone close to you.
Or try imagining scenarios, hypothetical or otherwise, that would make you very, very sad. A few suggestions: How the world will look in 15 years if we continue to respond to our global climate catastrophe with zero urgency, or factory farming.
If recalling sad memories isn’t the right route for you, try putting yourself in a more positive headspace and think about what you’re grateful for. To get the tears rolling, one editor at the Cut thinks about how much her mother helps her care for her kids.
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6 Things Most People Don't Know About Crying For No Reason
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23 Oct
Whether you cry from watching the scenes from The Notebook or cry after stubbing your toe in the middle of the night on a chair you didn’t see….
everybody cries. It can be in the privacy of your own home or share with your best friend, we all do it. And yes, we all sometimes cry for no reason and it can be normal. It probably is more alarming when you think “why am I crying for no reason” or we think “kids are crying for no reason,” but surprise, it is not for no reason. There is a reason. You just may not be aware of what it is.
Children may not be able to articulate what is going on, so to adults, it looks like kids are crying for no reason as well.
1. Most people are overwhelmed and don’t even realize it.You may be heading home from work sitting in traffic, and all of a sudden tears begin to fall. At that moment you probably are thinking, what is wrong with me? Why am I crying? I’m not even sad! If you are unaware of the amount of stress you are under, then stress can find a way to express itself, whether you are expecting it to or not. Stress lives in the body and crying is one form of release that stress finds.
So pay attention to the amount of stress you’re under, it may be contributing to your experience of crying for no reason.
2. You don’t have to be clinically diagnosed with depression to experience symptoms of depression.
While it is a common mood disorder, many of the symptoms are common for people to experience as well. Some symptoms of depression are persistent sadness, empty mood, or hopelessness. Amongst other symptoms, these feelings tend to make people cry. The conscious connection may not be made so people assume they are crying for no reason.
3. Similar to stress, many people experience anxiety.Whether you have an anxiety disorder or struggle with anxiety in general, anxiety can cause you to cry. Symptoms of anxiety can include having a sense of impending danger, feeling nervous, or having difficulty controlling worry. The act of crying can be a release of the build-up of previously explained symptoms. Remember, if you are not active in coping with your anxiety, it can appear in unexpected physical ways, like in the form of migraines or crying.
Premenstrual syndrome is the collective experience of symptoms that women have one to two weeks before their menstrual cycle begins. Some symptoms of the premenstrual syndrome include headaches, bloating, and crying spells. If you are not tracking your menstrual cycle and are unaware it is beginning, you may not realize you are experiencing premenstrual syndrome.
5. Processing the death of someone you love or cared for does not have a deadline.You may assume that because the person died a year ago, or 6 months ago that you would not feel sudden strong emotions related to that person you lost. You may think that you have learned to accept the loss and going about your daily life. But like many people, you may still be grieving the loss of a loved one and not realize it. Something as simple as a smell that brings up a memory of a loved one could cause us to cry all of a sudden.
Not many have. Pseudobulbar affect (PBA) is a condition that’s characterized by episodes of sudden uncontrollable and inappropriate laughing or crying. Pseudobulbar effect typically occurs in people with certain neurological conditions or injuries, which might affect the way the brain controls emotions. People that have pseudobulbar affect do have other emotions but express emotions in an inappropriate and magnified manner, consequently disrupting their life. Uncontrollable crying can look like crying for no reason.
So keep in mind, you may not be crying for no reason. Your tears mean something, you just have to figure out what they mean. If you need to talk to someone, see a professional therapist or psychiatrist in your insurance network who can help you feel better and increase your quality of life.
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I want to cry... - Severyanin. Full text of the poem - I want to cry ...
Literature
Catalog of poems
Igor Severyanin - poems
Igor Severyanin
I want to cry ...
I want to cry about what will not be,
But what would seem it could be free...
I want to cry about an impossible miracle,
Into your, Unforgettable, eyes looking bright...
I want to cry about the universal holiday,
Where justice is dressed in fine linen...
I want to cry about something rustic,
As painful as a white May dream.
I want to cry about many things, many things
Irresistibly, hopelessly, ardently
About the unloved, about the disenfranchised, about the legless,
But for the most part - about no one and nothing ...
1917
Silver Age
Poems by Igor Severyanin - Silver Age
Other poems by this author
Something is missing
I want to go somewhere,
Look into someone's eyes,
The Silver Age
And if not
And if not?.
.. And if you left,
So as not to come to my memorial services?
Silver Age
It could have been like this
It could have been like this: twenty-five years ago,
There, on the Neva glorified by Pushkin,
Silver Age
You, those
You, those who carry a dead ball ,
Filled with God knows what insignificant rubbish,
Silver Age
It couldn't be
It couldn't be:
It's magical for reality!
The Silver Age
She and them
The park is sleeping at night, all shameless darkness haunts it.
I am walking, I am walking in darkness, in darkness.
Silver Age
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Why you constantly want to cry for no reason
December 3, 2020 Likbez Health
Tears appear not only from strong emotions. Sometimes this is a sign of illness.
What is crying
In the corners of the eyes there are small glands that produce a clear liquid with dissolved proteins and salts, necessary for nourishing, moisturizing and cleansing the cornea.
These are tears, they are reflexively released under the influence of signals from the autonomic nervous system. But sometimes emotions get in the way.
Humans are the only beings on earth who are capable of crying under the influence of feelings. Tears can come from a touching movie, music, important life events, or out of sympathy. Crying causes both positive and negative emotions.
Scientists are still investigating the mental and neural processes that underlie emotional tears. It is believed that crying is associated with temperament and upbringing, personality traits and gender, as well as the release of the neurotransmitter serotonin and brain hormones: oxytocin, vasopressin and prolactin. These substances are involved in the formation of attachment and social behavior. Therefore, separation, the loss of a loved one leads to sadness and tears.
Also, scientists have found that women cry more often than men. This is associated with the action of testosterone, which inhibits emotional reactions.
Why you always want to cry
Children cry often and are not shy, this is their way to attract attention, demand a coveted toy or influence their parents' decision. Adults rarely allow themselves to cry in the presence of other people, but sometimes pain, resentment, empathy, fatigue, stress, or, conversely, joy are expressed in this way.
If crying does not appear daily and for nothing, you can ignore it. But imagine a situation where tears are shed due to a broken nail, a small remark from an outsider, or for no apparent reason at all. Perhaps the problem is a lack of vitamin B12, fatigue. But sometimes a constant desire to cry is the influence of various pathological factors that are difficult to eliminate without a doctor.
Psychological factors
Instability of the nervous system appears in people who are in a state of nervous tension for a long time. At the same time, the hormones adrenaline, norepinephrine and cortisol are released, which deplete the body.
Crying helps to reduce the release of these substances and reduce the impact of stress on the psyche.
Sometimes the desire to constantly cry arises due to a violation of adaptation to the action of various factors. For example, psychological pressure at work, lack of money or a large number of duties to loved ones exhaust the nervous system, irritation and fatigue accumulate. Therefore, for any little reason, tears appear. Such a disorder can last up to 2-3 months and does not always go away without the help of a psychologist.
Psychiatric disorders
A constant desire to cry is associated with mental disorders. Often they have erased symptoms, so it is impossible to make a diagnosis without consulting a psychiatrist. After the examination, the doctor can find one of the following diseases:
- Depression. Patients are in an emotionally depressed state, but sadness and tearfulness can be replaced by aggression, irritability. A person loses all interest in life, favorite hobbies, his mental activity slows down, memory decreases.
In severe cases, thoughts of suicide or attempts to carry it out appear. - Post-traumatic stress disorder. The condition occurs after a traumatic event, but usually not immediately, but after a few weeks. A person is tormented by nightmares, unpleasant memories, sometimes there are thoughts about his own worthlessness, a feeling of doom. Positive emotions fade. Sometimes this disorder can also lead to suicide.
- Panic disorder. This is a mental illness in which a sudden attack of fear appears, a person loses control over his behavior, feels a loud beating of the heart, feels shortness of breath, trembling, and abdominal cramps. Many of them start crying.
- Dementia. The disease often occurs in old age and leads to a decrease in memory, attention, thinking. A person's emotions are erased, but there is a desire to constantly cry.
Changes in internal organs
Frequent urge to shed tears may be due to hormonal changes or disease and may be accompanied by additional symptoms.
For example, in women, tearfulness is associated with premenstrual syndrome, menopause, or pregnancy. These conditions are accompanied by fluctuations in the level of sex hormones, so they can lead to emotional instability.
Doctors believe that constant crying also causes endocrine diseases. For example, with hyperthyroidism, Addison's disease, diabetes, there is a tendency to depression and mood swings.
But more often tears without a reason provoke brain pathologies. Sometimes a person has uncontrollable crying, which can be replaced by laughter. This is one of the signs of pseudobulbar affect. Some consider it a mental disorder, but in fact it is caused by diseases of the brain:
- stroke;
- multiple sclerosis;
- consequences of head trauma;
- Alzheimer's disease;
- Parkinson's disease.
How to stop crying for no reason
Some try to cope with bad emotions on their own, try to suppress crying or distract themselves from provoking factors.
