Make masterbating better

how can i make masterbating more pleasurable? | Sexual Intercourse & Orgasm discussions | Family Health center

Guest over a year ago

I'm 11 and I matsurbate 12 times a day and 90% of the time I just watch celeb porn and jack my meat with baby oil and get confrable. When you know you're about to have an orgasm cool air boost the feeling the longest I jacked off was 45 min and if so hold the the tip of your penis before you skeet until it's irresistible you just let loose and skeet it getting boring but it works

Eich23051 over a year ago

Are you a male or female?

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some_boy over a year ago

i am 14 y is my penis so small

Guest over a year ago

ok, to make it more pleasurable for boys, (im 13) just look at a nude picture of a girl, or something tht is really sexy, and just stoke your penis. But NEVER do it more than 3 times a day cause it WILL affect your sex life during 20's Thts how its done boiii. Now if ull excuse me i have some masterbating to do =P

Guest over a year ago

Ok that pillow humping thing did not work at all.

Guest over a year ago

the pillow thing is ***edited by moderator*** ** inappropriate posting**, not that a have tried haha... jist last as long as u can

Guest over a year ago

okay first off i masterbait like 2-4 times a day sometimes i miss out but its completely normal if someone is turned on then its comepletely natural and if your 13 and you can go get it whenever you want then who the ***edited by moderator*** ** inappropriate posting** cares? go cause you dont know any of us here and btw to make it a little better find websites to make fake ***edited by moderator*** ** inappropriate posting** or w. e. or get a picture of a hot chick something sexy and then keep looking at it til you have a boner then put the pic away close your eyes and fantasize about having sex with someone you know that you think sex would be absouloutely amazng with and the jizz will feel soo much better try to find people you know who will talk dirty with you and keep up the routine if you do find someone or try ***edited by moderator... websites not allowed*** talk to strngers meet people who can talk dirty with you:P

hope i helped! :)

Guest over a year ago

Im 13 and i masterbait 4 times a day, is it true if you do it too much it can affect your sex life?

Hochimama157057 over a year ago

Yes, it also depends how you do it. Some ways are harmful to your penis.

Guest over a year ago

Dude if you want to get wild hold the base of your sack and start scratching or rubbing up and down your shaft of your dicky. I am 14 and i spent a hour and a half doing this an it felt goood!!!!

jeremy-mikael153348 over a year ago

to the 11yr who is trying to cum...dude, you barely STARTED puberty...if started at all...your genitals barely started making sperm...wait a while...soon you would be shooting to the stars...

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Guest over a year ago

wen u hold ur sack it stops the sperm and gives u a better feeling and yes i went through puberty

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Guest over a year ago

guys im 13. ive grown out of my regular routine. i need some new fresher ideas that feel good and r quick.

Guest over a year ago

ayy lay of the chick right 13 years old is normal to get action mate
an bout tha wankin stuff bro dont for like agees just stick to other sh*t u can do wit a chick for her then get her to jack u off

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len over a year ago

Learn to control ejaculation. Every man is born with premature ejaculation, so having it is perfectly normal – to start with. Controlling ejaculation is something you have to learn just as you had to learn to control your bladder as a child. We get taught to control our bladders but no one teaches us how to control ejaculation.

Do not waste time or money on sprays, vitamins, herbs, dietary supplements or drugs. This is a learning problem and these things will not help you learn to control ejaculation any more than they can help you to learn to speak another language.

There are a lot of high-priced programs advertised online but all you need is an inexpensive little book written by a doctor and sex therapist that has been used successfully for more than 32 years.

Top 16 Masturbation Tips for Women

New to masturbating? Having trouble reaching orgasm? Curious about increasing your pleasure? These masturbation tips for women are guaranteed to satisfy you.

Masturbation tips for women…you thought you already now everything? There is always more to learn. I don’t know about you, ladies, but I’m a big fan of masturbation! Maybe you were told as a child that it was bad or sinful, or maybe you just feel a little “dirty” when you think of giving yourself pleasure, but I’m going to tell you why you should masturbate. And to make sure you get the most out of it, I’ll share my favorite masturbation tips for women.

I really like and agree what an American sex educator Betty Dodson wrote: “Masturbation is a meditation on self-love. So many of us are afflicted with self-loathing, bad body images, shame about our body functions, and confusion about sex and pleasure, I recommend an intense love affair with yourself”

So, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with masturbation. Everybody does it. And why not? Orgasms can boost your moods, make you feel happier, increase your body confidence, improve the look of your skin, etc. You have no risk of disease, no risk of unwanted pregnancy, no worries about some guy lovin’ and leavin’ ya’, and most importantly, you will have an orgasm. Doctors confirm that sex is good for you. An orgasm makes a woman feel seven years younger! Also, orgasms build up your immune system. (Have you ever been horny when you’re recovering from a bad cold? It’s because your body needs the orgasm for healing purposes.) Orgasms make you feel strong and self-assured, and they send off pheromones that attract the opposite sex. Don’t believe me? Give yourself an orgasm right before you go out on your next date…he’ll notice, believe me.

Most women do not orgasm vaginally. That’s right: They orgasm by clitoral stimulation. While there are plenty of men who are good enough to know how to stimulate a woman’s clitoris properly (either orally or manually), much of the time they don’t.

Some of that is on us. As women, we don’t always know how to teach our guy to stimulate the clit properly because we don’t know ourselves how it should be done…which is exactly why masturbation is so important!

In order to really be truly satisfied in bed, you have to understand your own body. Every woman is different. In addition to small differences in anatomy, there are big differences in the ways we need to be touched. When it comes to understanding your body fully, there’s no substitute for masturbation.

So these are some of the important reasons to masturbate: You’ll learn how to satisfy your body’s cravings so you can achieve better orgasms more often. Better yet, you can share that knowledge with your partner. I could go on and on about the benefits of masturbation, but I’ll save that for a different article. Let’s assume you’re convinced and move on to more practical matters: how to get yourself off.

Here are my top 15 masturbation tips for women. These are proven, time-tested ways to ensure you have an amazing orgasm.

#1 Masturbate When You’re Alone

Here are some masturbation tips for women when they are alone. Why alone?

Women always tell me they can’t get off when they masturbate because they’re afraid someone in the house will hear them or walk in on them. That’s a valid concern. The fear of being too loud or being caught will stop most of us from giving in to our little “guilty pleasures.”

And that’s a shame. Orgasms can be shy. You’ve got to sneak up on them. Once you’ve scare one away, you may not be able to recapture the mood later when you’re alone.

That’s why I suggest that you masturbate when you are quite sure you are alone. Give it a try, even if you aren’t in the mood. Trying to have sex with a partner when you’re not aroused is usually a bad idea (a seriously bad idea), but trying to masturbate when you’re not in the mood is a good idea. This is how you find out what it takes to get you in the mood!

No matter what else is going on in your day, if you find that the house is empty and you’re alone for a little while, stop what you’re doing and start playing with yourself. Seriously.

#2 Wet Your Finger

How to masturbate

When you’re ready to begin, start by licking your finger.

Licking your finger before clitoral stimulation is probably the closest you’ll get to the feeling of oral sex through self-pleasure.

Plus, the wetness touching your clit actually stimulates you to get even wetter.

Everyone needs a bit of lubrication at first, so why not take advantage of nature’s handiest and most natural lube?

Go ahead…get your fingers all wet and slippery before you touch yourself.

Just lick the tip of your finger before clitoral stimulation and you’ll see that it makes all the difference in the speed and strength of your orgasm.

#3 Or…Try With a Lube

Yes, lube can be a good playmate! There are many different kinds of lubricants and they are great for genital massages and masturbation.

Don’t know which one to choose? Natural-based oil lubricants are great! Water-based lubes are also fantastic, but not ideal for water/shower play.

#4 Wake Your Fantas

So, this is the ideal moment to awaken your secret desires and fantasies.

What do you like, what turns you on. Which sexual pose, what kind of a guy or girl, How do you like to be touched?

What kind of pace do you prefer?

What’s your fantasy?

Where would you do it?

I’m a visual person, I like reading it and picturing it in my mind and it helps me reach an orgasm.

Think, girl! Imagine that place, these moves, that person…and let the play begin.

It’s amazing what your imagination can do with just a little bit of outside stimulation. Also, you could well find that you are fulfilling a fantasy on your own.

If I can masturbate and get off by myself in a place or position I’ve always wanted to try, then when it comes time, I know I’ll be able to get off in that same place or position with my partner. Think it as “testing it out”.

#5 Watch (or Read) Porn

Woman reading or watching masturbation tips

I am one of those women who genuinely enjoy porn.

Sometimes I close my eyes and listen to the sounds of sex, and that is enough to arouse me.

Sometimes it takes something a little more visual.

Whatever the case may be, you should give it a try at least once, and probably more than once, as an encouragement and outside source of stimulation.

Also, if you’re new to masturbation and aren’t quite in the mood, porn is a great way to feel like you’re not the only naked person in the room.

That turns out to be a lot more comforting than it sounds.

#6 Explore the Whole Body

Don’t focus solely on your clit, and vagina, explore the whole body. When it comes to masturbation tips for women, it is important to Take your time,. Simulate your nipples, the insides of your thighs , your feet, your ears or neck… there are so many different erogenous zones in our bodies , so pamper yourself like a queen, and take your time to find these zones to multiply pleasure. Do it at your own pace and be patient while discovering your hot spots.

You’ll be surprised that you likely have more of these spots than you know.

There are times when all I want is a quick 30-second release and I know that slow clitoral stimulation is just going to annoy me, so I dive right in at top speed and have fun. You’ll do the same once you know exactly where to touch yourself and what speed works for you.

#7 Go Slowly and Then Build Up

Here are more masturbation tips for women.

Now that you’ve pulled out the porn and licked your finger, or used these lubricants what’s next? Well, now you begin. Using the tip of your finger, make soft slow circles on the hood of your clitoris.

See how that feels?

Okay, now’s the time to explore. Try different things with your clit. Move your finger up and down, sliding it inside and out of your vagina as you go. Try flicking your clit from side to side or pinching it gently between two fingers. Use different speeds and different amounts of pressure. Increase your speed as you go along (or increase, decrease, then increase again) for an amazing all-out explosion of an orgasm!

Your body will tell you what it likes and what it doesn’t like. If you don’t like something, then move on to something else. It’s that simple. You’re the one in control, so don’t force yourself to like something and don’t pretend to like something. Move on to your next idea instead. It’s all about your pleasure, after all. This is the time to learn where you like to be touched and how you like to be touched.

For example, you can slide a finger (or two or three) into your vagina to simulate penetration by a penis during sex. As you do, try curling your fingers slightly and press against your vaginal wall facing your bladder. About two inches in, you should feel a bit of a bump. That bump is your G-Spot. If you rub your finger up and down on that spot and stimulate it, you’re likely to orgasm like never before.

Can’t find it? Don’t worry, many of us don’t find it at first. Just keep trying.

#8 Don’t Just Lie There

Best masturbate positions for Women

Most of us find that lying flat on our backs, missionary style, is the best way to masturbate. Not only is it the most convenient way when you have toys involved, but it’s also just really easy to lie back and scream in pleasure, isn’t it?

But you owe it to yourself to change things up once in a while. If you want another great position to try, get on your hands and knees (AKA “doggy style”) and masturbate in that position. Believe it or not, there’s something very primal and very, very stimulating about being in that position and pleasuring yourself. As a bonus, it’s great practice for giving yourself clitoral stimulation when you and your man are in that position and you’re not quite getting the full pleasure from it. Try the floor, the stairs, the chair…whatever suits your needs.

#9 Try it With a Toy

Another tip for masturbating is to try it with a toy. Fingers are great, but vibrators and dildos can multiply the pleasure.

And who says you have to do this alone? When you get comfortable enough, you can even masturbate with your partner. Really: Let him watch. This will not only give him some outstanding visual stimulation, but it will also teach him how to touch you…without you having to actually “teach him.” Sneaky, huh?

For now, you’re going to want a vibrator. It’s easy to find articles about choosing the right vibrator – there are several of them right here on this site. Trust me, the right toy can really enhance your masturbation experience.

If you press a vibrator against your clit, you’ll find that the stimulation is much different from when the vibrator is stimulating you vaginally. Have fun with that. Play around and test it which you prefer.

#10 Try it in the Shower

Indoor plumbing is one of modern man’s greatest inventions – and not just for the sake of cleanliness. You know that amazing detachable shower head?

Well, that’s about to become one of your greatest sexual pleasures.

Set the water to your usual preferred warmth.

Remove the shower head and place it close to your clit.

Let the water play against your clitoris and enjoy.

As you get more worked up, move the shower head a little closer, then pull back.

You’ll notice that the difference in distance has an obvious effect on your stimulation. Enjoy!

#11 Use Heat and Cold

Of course, while you’re in the shower, you can always take advantage of the water-temperature knob to change things up a little. Instead of using your normal temperature, make the water colder against your clitoris and see what kind of reaction you have. An ice cube rubbed on your clit during masturbation will have the same fabulous “numbing” effect.

Heat is good too, but don’t risk scalding yourself with hot water. Pick up some heating-effect lube or sex oil and rub it on your vibrator. This oil can be found in just about any sex shop. Now rub the vibe across your clit and see what happens. The friction between the vibrator and your clit makes the oil heat up and makes your orgasm out-of-this-world.

#12 Don’t Force the “O”

If you’re masturbating and you feel like you’re getting nowhere, don’t fret. There are many times you’re not going to get yourself off. Sometimes you’re too stressed, sometimes you can’t find the right kind of stimulation, sometimes doing it alone just isn’t working…the list goes on.

The important thing to remember is that if you’re not able to orgasm, don’t push it. Forcing yourself will only make you more frustrated and make it more difficult to achieve orgasm next time.

It’s okay. Wait this one out and try it again later. I like masturbating really late at night and when I’m just waking up. Half-awake masturbation is ideal for people who tend to overthink things.

#13 Use Both Hands!

One of the best masturbation tips for women I can give you is to use both hands. While one hand is happily playing in your private garden, let the other one explore. Grab your breasts and squeeze your nipples for added sexual pleasure.

Caress your body. Run your free hand slowly up and down your skin. Brush your fingers lightly against your neck and the side of your face. Immerse yourself in your own beautiful sensuality.

Trust me, you are your own best lover…and to be the best lover, you have to love yourself. Love your body. Enjoy your body. And don’t be afraid to play. Masturbation can lead you to lots of pleasure and a new, more confident you.

#14 Experiment With Anal

So, you also want a mind-blowing anal orgasm? Why not? Once you get more experienced you may be adventurous enough to try anal beads, for instance – they’re great for women who are curious but too shy to ask their partners for back-door stimulation. There are some great clitoral toys out there too. You’ll find a full array of options at online sex-toy shops or you local sex store.

Once you’ve completed your usual ritual of masturbation, you’ll be prepared for more fun.

Beginning with a finger-sized plug is a good place to start. You can use vibrating plugs to create more sensation than you could physically generate, Bring out the high-quality lubricant and relax. Set the mood and, for beginning, try doing it in the shower.

#15 Combo Pack

Don’t forget, if you feel like it, you don’t have to concentrate on one orgasm zone at a time. You can use both hands to rub your clit while fingering yourself. Maybe you’ll prefer using various toys at the same time. Sky’s the limit! I still adore the Rabbit, the veteran of the sex toy world, that stimulates both the G-spot and the clitoris at the same time. What’s your favorite sex toy for maximum pleasure?

#16 Read, Read, Read

How to Achieve A More Powerful Orgasm Every Time? It’s possible.

Sex therapist Dr Joel Block recently revealed his Orgasm Express manual specifically designed to help you achieve a mind-blowing orgasm — every time. It is the de facto guide out there that helped tens of thousands of women become instantly orgasmic, and it’s risk-free too. Try and see for yourself.

What do you think about these masturbation tips for women work best for you? Share your experience with me.

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What is a mastermind and how to organize a mastermind group

To solve problems that you won't tell your friends and family about, gather your own mastermind. It is a group of people who come together to support and help each other. We tell you how to organize it

What you need to know about mastermind:

What is
People in the mastermind group
How
Principles for success
How to find mastermind
How to organize remotely
How to evaluate effectiveness
Helpful Hints

What is Mastermind

Mastermind is a group format of like-minded people who meet regularly to support each other and help with personal and professional problems.

For example, if you lose your job, group members will help you create a new resume, share contacts, and recommend you to people you know.

Here you can share personal problems and thoughts that you do not want to discuss with relatives or friends. You will be supported, accepted and offered non-violent help. At the same time, they will expect the same from you. Mastermind is a mutual improvement group.

Some groups meet to solve a specific problem. For example, you are starting a new project. You select people with positive experience who will help you avoid mistakes and bring the project to launch. After the problem is solved, such groups are disbanded.

Mafia members have funded or run several of the world's largest technology companies. Fleximize talked in detail about the composition of the PayPal Mafia and their relationships

Other mastermind groups support each other constantly. In such groups, people work on their goals as a team. Everyone invests in the success of other participants, supports, shares experience and resources.

For example, PayPal Mafia is an association of former founders and employees of PayPal, including Elon Musk, founder of SpaceX and Tesla Motors, Peter Thiel, president of Clarium, and Reed Hoffman, co-founder of LinkedIn.

The idea of mastermind was proposed by Napoleon Hill. He studied successful Americans: Henry Ford, Thomas Edison, Theodore Roosevelt and interviewed more than 500 people to find the secret to success. In his books The Law of Success and Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill described the idea of a group of people working together to help and support each other. Modern historians have criticized Hill for deceit and fraud, and in 2019 Gizmodo called him "the greatest fraudster of all time". At the same time, the concept of mastermind groups turned out to be working and took root in many countries.

Hill described the concept of the mastermind group in 1928, but such groups had existed before. In 1727, Benjamin Franklin organized the Junto Club of 12 members. Club members gathered on Fridays to share their discoveries, discuss politics, morality and philosophy.

The more carefully the goals of the participants are formulated, the easier it is to choose formats to support these goals. For example, invite an expert or use brainstorming (Photo: Natalia Yadrentseva)

Mastermind group is your “personal board of directors” that will help you achieve your goals, gain new experience and support in difficult moments. Here is how it will be useful:

Mutual support. Group members will support you despite failures and will not laugh or downplay problems. Support, safety and understanding in the group is built on the reciprocity of all participants, so the same will be expected of you.
Other points of view. The different points of view of the participants in the mastermind group will help you see problems that you did not notice before. Feedback from other people may not be pleasant, but it will give a new vision of the situation and opportunities.
Resources. Each group member will have a different set of skills and contacts. By asking for help, you can find suitable competencies in other people to solve your problems. Conversely, offer your skills, experience and connections to help the rest of the group.
Networking and promotion. You will meet new people and get useful contacts that will help you grow your business, find a new job or like-minded people. You can promote projects and profiles of each other. For example, group members will talk about your blog or product on their social networks, and you will talk about them.

What kind of people are needed for a mastermind

A mastermind group consists of five to eight people. In such a composition, there are enough people and life experiences - in a large group they will be too different. Group members should be about the same level: similar income, position in society, education, so that no one is jealous or looked down on.

The group should not have the same people, competition for the same clients or projects. We need participants with different backgrounds, experiences and worldviews. The difference in life experience helps to find optimal solutions, but if people are too different, the dialogue may not work. Try to choose people from different fields of activity. So each of them will bring ideas and thoughts that are different from the others. Here is an approximate composition of such a group: an entrepreneur, a designer in a large company, a sales manager in a small company, a freelance programmer and a photographer in a studio.

Different composition of the group improves its productivity. According to the womanonoards study, teams with mixed compositions at the strategic level of management contribute to a more active growth in business value, or hold back the fall during periods of crisis (Photo: womanonoards)

At the same time, the relationship between the group members should be approximately the same level. No need to take relatives or colleagues, otherwise you will not be able to fully trust each other.

How mastermind works

Group members gather in a quiet, cozy place: apartment, coworking or office. You can call via Google Meet, Zoom or Skype, and meet in person several times a year. One meeting lasts about four to five hours.

First, the participants exchange news for five to seven minutes per person. Everyone tells what happened in his career, self-development, personal life, health. Participants then propose issues and topics for discussion that have accumulated since the previous meeting.

What can you choose as a case per group:

specific tasks you need help with;
difficulties in work or study;
building a career, educational or other life strategy;
everyday problems: cleaning or finding a place to live;
questions about money;
personal relationships;
life goals;
physical and psychological health.

Each person is allocated 20-30 minutes. During this time, he talks in detail about his problem or idea, asks for advice or shares plans. Then the rest of the group gives him five to ten minutes of feedback. The person whose problem has been discussed should draw up a plan of action and share it with the other participants. The group then moves on to the next problem.

If you scheduled a meeting for four hours, it will end when the time expires. Problems that have not been discussed are transferred to the next time. At a new meeting, the participants talk about what they did or did not manage to do from the planned plan.

Principles and basic rules for the success of a mastermind group

The concept of a mastermind group differs from mentoring or friendly conversations in a strict format. Participants must take meetings seriously and keep the principles of mastermind in mind.

Trust. Group members trust each other as much as possible. Maintain confidentiality to ensure trust. At the first meeting, sign a non-disclosure agreement. Say that for its violation the participant will be expelled from the group.
Do not interrupt. All group members are equal. Everyone gets the same amount of time and attention. Do not interrupt the speaker or interfere in the discussion unless you have a specific question. Write down your thoughts so you can express them at the right time.
Meet regularly. Group members regularly attend meetings and do not miss them without a good reason. Keep track of your schedule and plan ahead. If participants are consistently late, come up with penalties. Let the latecomer treat everyone with food, pay for coworking or a program for calling.
Select a moderator. Moderator - a person from the group or an invited expert. He makes sure that the meetings do not turn into gatherings, are non-conflict and end with a result for each participant. The moderator encourages everyone to work at the peak of productivity. If members do not want to be honest with themselves or others, the group will stall. In this case, the moderator will remind you that asking for help is normal, this is growth above yourself.
Fix. Group members write down their thoughts and ideas that come up during the meeting. If your problem is solved, draw up an action plan, fix it and share it in the group chat. This will help structure the knowledge in your head and start acting. Recordings can be made in Google Documents, Notion, Trello, and other programs.

How to find the right mastermind

If you want to start your own mastermind group, start with a goal. Choose a specific aspect of your life that you want to improve. For example, to develop professional skills in order to take on more expensive and interesting projects.

Make a list of friends and acquaintances with similar values. Tell them about the format of the mastermind group and invite them to join. If there are few such people, tell us about the creation of your group in social networks. Go to mastermind dating meetings that are looking for people for mastermind groups. For example, such events are held at the Kocherga rationality center in Moscow, and the Random Coffee project gathers online groups for entrepreneurs and IT specialists with the support of experts.

Julien Gordon and his team have organized over 100,000 mastermind groups around the world. In his talk, Gordon talks about how coaches and communities will change the world

Together with your group, come up with and write down the ground rules and principles. Remember about mutual assistance and respect. Sign a non-disclosure document, create a group chat in a convenient messenger and schedule your first meeting.

How to organize a mastermind remotely

Yulia Sadovnikova, head of the Retail practice at the Russian office of Spencer Stuart, believes that mastermind works better when participants communicate in person. Due to the pandemic, we do not know when we will return to safe in-person meetings. At the same time, it is important to change right now in order to enter a new round of development and win after the peak of the crisis. The mastermind group format helps generate ideas for these changes, so it's important to adapt it effectively to the new reality.

Julia shared the algorithm and key principles of organizing a remote mastermind group, which she developed and uses together with her colleagues.

Check…your channel seven times. Incorrect communication tools and a slow connection channel are obvious things that often get in the way of effective group communication. Make sure you choose a convenient and secure communication channel. Try several video calling services and programs in advance with other participants.
Seeing each other is critical. In the current climate, it's important to have video calls, not calls. People are dispersed physically, subject to stress, their attention is scattered. Without a camera, the focus will blur even more. To make remote meetings useful, arrange with your group to use cameras.
People are greeted by clothes. This principle remains true - people form an opinion about you by appearance. Formal wear helps keep you on your toes and contributes to the work of the mastermind group. If you are dressed very relaxed, it will be more difficult. You don't have to wear suits, but having roughly the same business casual style is important. Put on trousers, a shirt or a simple sweater without prints, this will be enough.
"How much to hang in grams?" The clarity of the agenda and action plan is very important. Carefully prepare topics and questions, think through possible objections and conflict points, provoke correct disputes. It is the polarity of opinions and respectful disputes that give rise to new meanings in the mastermind group.
Facilitation. Take the time to understand where you are with the group now, what you got, what you achieved, what didn't work out. This will help to find solutions faster, and all group members will be in the same cognitive and emotional state. Do not think for someone, clarify everything. It's better to over-communicate than under-communicate.
Check-in and check-out when meeting with a group. People can remain out of the meeting with attention and emotions, so you need to “bring yourself” into any conversation. Before the meeting, check-in, do not rush into brainstorming on important topics right away. Ask the group members how they feel, what their attention is focused on in principle. It looks like a "check-out" at the end of the meeting. Find out from each participant: with what he leaves the meeting, what ideas, steps and actions he takes to work until the next time.
You and I are of the same blood. Participants must understand why they are in the group, why they make time for meetings and follow generally accepted rules. What is important is the equal level of people in the group and approximately the same length of time in the respective roles. For example, Julia and her colleagues often organize mastermind groups of the CEOs of the largest companies in various industries. In such groups, participants should be from companies that are similar in size, business complexity, and context. At the same time, the duration of work in the role of CEO should not differ several times.

How to evaluate the effectiveness of a mastermind group

Coach, mastermind expert and strategic development consultant Natalya Yadrentseva believes that each participant evaluates the effectiveness of the group's work.

Some indicators can be measured. For example, a person joins a mastermind to realize their idea or create a new product. The result may be a test of the idea for viability or the first sale. There are also indirect indicators. For example, the lifetime of the mastermind group. There are groups that continue to meet regularly for years. This speaks to the value the participants receive.

How to increase trust between members

To increase trust between group members, Natalia Yadrentseva suggests using three tools.

Conduct a motivational interview to form a group. Ask questions to better understand each other. Here are some sample questions that will help to open the interlocutor:

What will be a breakthrough for you now?
How will you know that you have achieved a result?
Why haven't you reached this result yet? What stops?
What kind of support do you need?
Why do you want/wanted to join the group?
How can you be useful to other members of the group: skills, knowledge, strengths?

Voice stories and thanks. Personal stories bring participants together and better involve each other in life. An important part of such stories is gratitude. Set aside time at the end of the meeting for each participant to share: what he takes away from the meeting, what was useful for him and whom he wants to thank. Gratitude will help create an atmosphere of openness.

Use active listening, strong questions and mirroring. Members of the mastermind group share their problems in order to find solutions to the current situation, rather than complaining. Powerful questions and active listening help group members not worry about what others think of them. Share your ideas and mistakes to learn together. Mirroring - similar movements, facial expressions, intonation with the interlocutor help to win over the interlocutor.

Top 5 useful tips

If you find it difficult to choose a problem, ask yourself the Hamming questions: “What is the most important problem in my life?”, “Why is it not being solved?”.
Prepare case studies before the meeting.
Chat on an easy-to-use platform to share useful links and quick tips.
If you are not sure about the composition and format of the group, arrange a trial meeting.
Try not to miss or cancel meetings.

To organize your own mastermind group

State the goals you want to achieve with the mastermind group.
Think about what kind of people you need, what kind of skills, experience, values they have. Make a list of potential group members and resources to find them.
Think of the principles and rules of the group. Sign a non-disclosure document.
Choose a communication channel: a program for calls and correspondence, find places for personal meetings.
Select a moderator or invite an expert to the first meeting. Get to know each other so you can understand each other better.
Record the results of the first meeting and share them in your group chat. Pick a date for your next meeting, prepare for it, and remember how the group works.
Work out the structure of the meeting, work out the timings and work with the moderator. Revise the principles and rules as needed. Improve yourself and help others.

How mastermind groups work and why they are needed

Experience of participating in mastermind groups from two members of the Kocherga community: Tatyana Borzenko and Tapot.

Tatyana Borzenko

“There is a popular quote from Jim Rohn: you are the average of the five people with whom you spend most of your time. Look for people in the group that you want to see in your inner circle. You have twenty minutes and all the instrumental rationality of all these people is at your service - what will you do with such a resource?

What is a mastermind group?

Several people meet regularly to help each other in business.

At the meeting, time is allocated for each of the participants, hotsit. During a hotsit, a participant makes a request to the group: to solve a specific problem, brainstorm, support, advice, a view from the outside, etc. At the end, he takes a commitment - an action plan, obligations for the time until the next meeting, and then, at the beginning of his next hotsit, he tells what he did and what went wrong.

The composition is closed, the priority of the group is high, meetings are not cancelled. Our group meets every 2 weeks. We start three timers for each hotsit: 5 minutes to report on the last case, 15 minutes for a new case, 5 minutes to formulate the main thing from the discussion and take a comment. All this can be twisted and changed as it is convenient for the participants.

Participants

From 3 to 6. Enough to have a variety of views, knowledge and skills. Small enough for the meeting to last a realistic amount of time. There is a popular quote from Jim Rohn: you are the average of the five people with whom you spend most of your time. Look for people in the group that you want to see in your inner circle.

Organization

Some things are important to discuss on the beach. Talk about the term - the group is open-ended or, for example, until March, and in March at the next meeting, decide to extend the group or close it. Choose a meeting place where no one will bother you. Determine the time and regularity of meetings, the duration of the hotsit, breaks. What to do if someone cannot come - cancel the meeting or reschedule? Some things will need to be changed along the way - maybe the regulations are not optimal for you. Maybe you need pings, kicks or support, reports between meetings, some other connection.

Case

To choose a case, you can remember Hamming's questions: what is the most important task in your field? Why aren't you working on it?

What business - according to the Pareto principle - for 20% of efforts will give 80% of the result. What is important, but not urgent, that you constantly put off? What habits would you like to acquire? In what areas of life to put things in order?

Having chosen a task before the meeting, you can think about it yourself for 5 minutes according to the timer. Another option for working with a hotsit is not to choose a case in advance, but to approach it spontaneously, reflect in the moment and receive a response from others if necessary.

During someone else's hotsit, it's important to put your devices away, listen, and be present.

During your hotsit, it is important to explicitly set the task: what is your case, what do you want to receive from the group now. You have twenty minutes and all the instrumental rationality of all these people is at your service - what will you do with such a resource?

Tapot

“I decided to describe a little what it is and how it can be useful. Briefly, a small group of people gather once every N weeks on a certain topic, talk, share experiences, support and thereby help each other.

What it is

An MM group is somewhat similar to a mixture of status meetings in projects with therapeutic groups, a kind of group mentoring. People gather, discuss the format of communication, the topic-task-goal of the group. Then they begin to meet every one, two, three or four weeks and talk - share successes and events on the topic, give advice, describe plans, support each other. There are many nuances and tricks on how to conduct meetings well and effectively, what to do between them.
The idea was formulated by Napoleon Hill in The Law of Success - a little more on the English wiki.

My experience

For almost half a year, from March to August, I participated in an MM group about business and just life, routine. The four of us met once every 2 weeks, talked about what their affairs are, who plans what, what worked and failed to be done, what were the difficulties, what worries, gave each other advice and supported in every possible way. As a result, I was able to remake a lot of procrastinating tasks, better understand and formulate what I want and how I generally want and what I know in the field of affairs and personal effectiveness. I also learned to communicate better, not to go in for advice when there is no request for it and it does not help the situation. The group ended, because we initially agreed for six months, we didn’t continue further, because it became difficult to synchronize face-to-face meetings.

I also know about other groups that gather in Kocherga.

As a result, I made a chat to discuss any meta on MasterMind groups. He is not very alive now, if you have questions or suggestions - add us, we will discuss how.

Now I have an MM about reading books - I started a little over a month ago, we have already had two meetings, today there will be a third one. The group helps me read more meaningfully, choose the next books and articles to read, and learn from books I haven't read or even knew about.

Some useful tips

You can make a private chat just in telegram, if communication outside of meetings is not very active. I know an example of a chat in slack - there each participant has his own channel where you can write what you want and what is important and put things in order in every possible way, plus some more general channels to flood or discuss when the next time to get together.
Meet offline, although someone might be better off with online calls via skype, discord, zoom or something like that.
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