I will never be good enough for anyone


Always Left Feeling Not Good Enough? The Real Reasons Why

By: Pabak Sarkar

by Andrea M. Darcy

Tried positive thinking and affirmations? Read all the advice about self-confidence?

But deep down still are left feeling not good enough?

I feel like a failure

Low self-worth often stems from very deep-rooted issues. This becomes clear looking at the common reasons for not feeling good enough.

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7 Reasons For Feeling Not Good Enough

1.You have hidden core beliefs that are running the show.

The thoughts we actually hear in our heads are far less powerful than those that lurk in our unconscious. Low self worth is inevitably connected to the buried and hidden assumptions about the world, others, and ourselves that we mistake as fact.

These ‘core beliefs‘ are often formed when we were children, with a child’s simple perspective. So they can be surprisingly dramatic and untrue. And yet we unwittingly base all our life decisions around them.

For example, a child with a parent who suddenly leaves one day without offering a reason is not evolved to understand an adult having a mental breakdown, or running off for space after a fight. In the child’s mind, the core belief ‘if you love someone they leave you’ takes hold. Even if the parent comes back a few days later the belief sticks, and the child grows into an adult who never lets anyone close.

2. If you listen deeply, your inner voice is actually critical and judgemental.

By: Alejandro Forero Cuervo

It is easy is to convince ourselves we are ‘positive thinkers’.

And yet many of us don’t actually take the time to properly listen to our thoughts. If we do, we might discover it’s a radio show of negativity.  

Mindfulness is a wonderful technique for slowing down enough to hear your thoughts clearly. It is about listening and letting go to thoughts without judgement. Learn more in our free ‘Guide to Mindfulness’.

3. You surround yourself with critical people.

Of course some of us don’t even need negative thoughts to ensure we always feel not good enough. We let other people do the job for us by consciously choosing toxic friendships and unhealthy relationships.Then others put us down no matter how hard we try.

4. You had critical, demanding, or aloof parent(s) that left you feeling not good enough.

Yes, perhaps you had a ‘good childhood’. You lived in a nice house, your parents never divorced. You never wanted for anything.

But then again, perhaps you did. Perhaps you wanted for the approval and love that every child needs.

If your parent(s) always wanted you to smarter, or quieter, or sportier, or if they favoured your sibling…. ? Whatever it was, the message was that you were not enough as is. It might have just been that your parent was not good at loving due to their own unresolved issues.

As children we naturally seek approval and love. So we learn to suffocate our real personality and become the ‘good’ child, at the price of turning into an adult who never feels a sense of worth.

5. You main caregiver couldn’t offer you stability or safety. 

Some children have a parent who is simply unable to offer them an environment of safety where they can trust their parent to be there for them. Perhaps you parent was an alcoholic, suffered depression, or was in a toxic relationship that demanded all their attention.

If a parent is unwell the child can feel responsible for the parent’s happiness. If only you acted a certain way, did certain things, were somehow a better/smarter child your parent would be ok. But of course a child can’t fix such a parent or situation. So their endless codependency evolves into a belief they are not good enough somehow.

6. You didn’t get enough ‘attachment’ as a kid.

By: Beatrice Murch

What both these points about parenting involve is not having a caregiver who was able to offer unconditional love and trust, or what is called ‘attachment’ in psychology.

Attachment theory believes that for the first seven years of life a child absolutely needs unconditional love and to be able to trust his or her primary caregiver. If this doesn’t happen, we can end up with ‘anxious attachment’, which involves never trusting yourself or others and lacking confidence. 

7. You experienced strong trauma(s) in the past.

Of course one way to develop negative core beliefs quickly as a child does not necessarily involve poor parenting.

Childhood trauma decimates a child’s sense of worth.

Most children feel responsible for the trauma, particularly if it is physical abuse or sexual abuse. They internalise the idea they are bad and worthless, so deserved it.

So is feeling not good enough always all about the past?

It is inevitable that the environments and experiences of our childhood affected us.  Of course there are other factors. Some of us born with a naturally more sensitive personality, for example, so suffer more.

And sometimes it is a marked trauma as an adult that leaves us not feeling good enough, such as a betrayal. Even then, though, we will find our confidence an self-worth suffers more, and we take longer to recuperate, if we had previous trauma in our early life or poor parenting.

What sorts of therapy help?

If trawling through your past just isn’t your thing, take heart. Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) is shown to raise self-esteem, and it does so by focusing on your present day issues and changing the way you respond to thoughts.

And humanistic therapies like person-centred therapy can help your confidence by showing you the personal resources you already have, and helping you grow these inner resources and use them to make better choices.  Or try compassion-focused therapy (CFT), which teaches you how to be more gentle with yourself and others.

Want help to overcome not feeling enough in life? We put you in touch with top talk therapists in central London locations. Not in London or even the UK? Find a quality online therapists on our sister site. 


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Andrea M. Darcy is a mental health and wellbeing expert and personal development teacher with training in person-centred counselling and coaching, as well as a popular psychology writer. Follow her on Instagram for useful life tips @am_darcy

 

7 Things to Remember When You Think You’re Not Good Enough

“We can’t hate ourselves into a version of ourselves we can love.” ~Lori Deschene

Sometimes I am really terrible to myself, and I relentlessly compare myself to other people, no matter how many times I read or hear about how good enough or lovable I am.

On an almost daily basis, I meticulously look for evidence that I am a nobody, that I don’t deserve to be loved, or that I’m not living up to my full potential.

There is generally a lot of pressure to “stack up” in our culture. We feel as if there is something wrong with us if, for example, we’re still single by a certain age, don’t make a certain amount of money, don’t have a large social circle, or don’t look and act a certain way in the presence of others. The list could truly go on forever.

Sometimes in the midst of all the pressure, I seem to totally forget all the wonderful, unique things about myself.

I get stuck in my head and allow my inner critic to completely tear apart my self-esteem until I hate myself too much to do anything except eat ice cream, watch daytime television, and sleep.

The other day, while I was beating myself up over something I can’t even recall at the moment, I read a comment from one of my blog readers telling me that one of my posts literally got them through the night. Literally. And if that one simple word was used in the intended context, this person was basically telling me that one of my posts saved their life.

I get comments like these on a pretty regular basis, and they always open my eyes to just how much I matter, regardless of my inner critic’s vehement objections.

Such comments also open my eyes to all the things we beat ourselves up over that don’t matter—like whether or not we look like a Victoria’s Secret model in our bathing suit, or whether or not we should stop smiling if we’re not whitening our teeth, or whether or not the hole in our lucky shirt is worth bursting into tears over.

Lately I’ve been trying harder to catch myself when I feel a non-serving, self-depreciating thought coming on. And I may let these thoughts slip at times, but that’s okay because I’m only human.

While my self-love journey is ongoing, here are a few things I try to remember when I’m tempted to be mean to myself:

1. The people you compare yourself to compare themselves to other people too.

We all compare ourselves to other people, and I can assure you that the people who seem to have it all do not.

When you look at other people through a lens of compassion and understanding rather than judgment and jealousy, you are better able to see them for what they are—human beings. They are beautifully imperfect human beings going through the same universal challenges that we all go through.   

2. Your mind can be a very convincing liar.

I saw a quote once that read, “Don’t believe everything you think.” That quote completely altered the way I react when a cruel or discouraging thought goes through my mind. Thoughts are just thoughts, and it’s unhealthy and exhausting to give so much power to the negative ones.     

3. There is more right with you than wrong with you.

This powerful reminder is inspired by one of my favorite quotes from Jon Kabat-Zinn: “Until you stop breathing, there’s more right with you than wrong with you.

As someone who sometimes tends to zoom in on all my perceived flaws, it helps to remember that there are lots of things I like about myself too—like the fact that I’m alive and breathing and able to pave new paths whenever I choose.

4. You need love the most when you feel you deserve it the least.

This was a recent epiphany of mine, although I’m sure it’s been said many times before.

I find that it is most difficult to accept love and understanding from others when I’m in a state of anger, shame, anxiety, or depression. But adopting the above truth really shifted my perspective and made me realize that love is actually the greatest gift I can receive during such times.  

5. You have to fully accept and make peace with the “now” before you can reach and feel satisfied with the “later.”

One thing I’ve learned about making changes and reaching for the next rung on the ladder is that you cannot feel fully satisfied with where you’re going until you can accept, acknowledge, and appreciate where you are.

Embrace and make peace with where you are, and your journey toward something new will feel much more peaceful, rewarding, and satisfying.

6. Focus on progress rather than perfection and on how far you’ve come rather than how far you have left to go.

One of the biggest causes of self-loathing is the hell-bent need to “get it right.” We strive for perfection and success, and when we fall short, we feel less than and worthless. What we don’t seem to realize is that working toward our goals and being willing to put ourselves out there are accomplishments within themselves, regardless of how many times we fail.

Instead of berating yourself for messing up and stumbling backward, give yourself a pat on the back for trying, making progress, and coming as far as you have.     

7. You can’t hate your way into loving yourself.

Telling yourself what a failure you are won’t make you any more successful. Telling yourself you’re not living up to your full potential won’t help you reach a higher potential. Telling yourself you’re worthless and unlovable won’t make you feel any more worthy or lovable.

I know it sounds almost annoyingly simple, but the only way to achieve self-love is to love yourself—regardless of who you are and where you stand, and even if you know you want to change.

You are enough just as you are. And self-love will be a little bit easier every time you remind yourself of that.

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"No matter what I do, I'm not good enough." Where does perfectionism come from?

Does your child want nothing, does not strive for anything, refuses all initiatives, and spends most of his time on the couch with a cell? Do you want something yourself, but put it off because you're afraid of failing? Or, on the contrary, in achieving your goals, do you exhaust yourself so that the white light becomes not nice?

Perhaps we are talking about perfectionism. How can such different descriptions be signs of the same problem? Psychologist Tatyana Ostapenko shared her opinion on this matter. The specialist tells what perfectionism is and how it differs from pedantry, how parents contribute to its development in children, as well as ways to overcome the craving to be the best in everything.

- What is perfectionism?

- Perfectionism is a heightened striving for perfection. Perfection can touch my own personality when I fit myself to some ideal. The ideal can be associated with the body and appearance ("I must look perfect"), education ("I must know everything"), the place where I live ("My apartment must be the best"). Or it can relate to loved ones, society, type of activity.

- Is perfectionism good or bad?

- Perfectionism is not a psychological or psychiatric disorder. But this is an additional factor for the formation of other disorders. For example, panic attacks. If I understand that I do not reach the level that I wanted, then I may start having panic attacks. Or you may develop OCD (obsessive-compulsive disorder).

For example, I think that my house is not good enough, there is a lot of dust in it, and nature is arranged in such a way that dust falls every minute. I will walk around with a rag every half an hour. I will never be able to bring my house to the ideal, so neurotic perfectionism will develop. In fact, I will put my life in the fight against dust. In place of dust, you can put anything you want. This is how the cult of success works. At the same time, perfectionism can not only interfere, but also help a person.

- In what cases does it help?

- Positive perfectionism, when I strive to do everything well, everything is right, but at the same time I understand that there are some limitations. The limits are my own or the limits of society. Perhaps I will not reach the level that I would like to. If it doesn’t work out, then I look back, reflect, I understand what I did wrong and what can be done differently. And then I can try again.

Negative perfectionism, when I do not get the desired result, I experience pain and suffering. And I don't do anything else. There is no limit to perfection, all the time you want to do something even better. Then I can delay my work, not hand it in on time. Thus, letting everyone else down if I work in a team. Or myself, if I'm a freelancer. Or not doing something at all, because it will not turn out perfect.


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- How to define perfectionism in yourself?

- When I have extremely high standards. All or nothing. Either black or white. There are no halftones here. It is impossible not to finish, you need to make everything perfect.

Perfectionism can provoke low self-esteem: I am convinced that no matter what I do, I am not up to the ideal. And the space seems to show me: "Whatever you do, you're not good enough." I do not see that the reasons for failures are not only in me, but also in others: in the lack of time or resources, the weather, the behavior of other people - that which does not depend on us. I take all the blame. And so self-esteem is underestimated.

Although I am not sure of the correctness of my actions, I am often extremely impetuous. I am in a hurry and therefore do not calculate small steps. But I strive to control everything and everyone around. Because others, as a rule, prevent me from achieving this ideal. I am always dissatisfied with the end result. I never get enough. I am excessively seeking the approval of others. I get very angry and annoyed at imperfect people and circumstances. It seems to me, well, you can tighten up, do something, it could be better, I could do something differently.

At the same time, perfectionists are often confused with pedants.

- Aren't these synonyms? What is pedantry?

Perfectionists and pedants are similar in that both have inflexible thinking. The flexibility of thinking is the ability of a person to quickly and easily search for new solution strategies. At the same time, they are both anxious and with low self-esteem. But the little things and details are important to the pedant. In addition, he is able to evaluate himself. And a perfectionist is much more important than the assessment of other people. He avoids judgment in every possible way, while not paying attention to details.


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Pedants demand perfect order: their desks and dwellings are always examples of cleanliness. They ideally fill out all documents: everything must be clear in form, the red line must begin exactly at the second centimeter, and not at 2.5. He knows exactly where the object is. He will be wildly outraged if his toothbrush is shifted somewhere. He needs the table to be set perfectly - a fork, a spoon, a glass, as it should be. They have an idea of ​​how things should be, they scrupulously verify the correctness and get furious if something is wrong.

A perfectionist does not pay attention to such trifles. It is important for him that what he does has an ideal result. If he does some work - that it should be ideal. How the handle will lie in this case does not matter.

- Why is striving for an ideal dangerous?

- This is an eternal run for a carrot, which you always can't reach. You can reach out and reach out. But I always run at different speeds, but I never reach ... This tension often leads to the development of somatic diseases. All the time you need to be active, spend a lot of energy, look for a source where I will replenish this energy. Usually the body fails. Quite often depression appears: "I can't", "I couldn't cope".

Also, such people are often alone, because they need some kind of perfection. I will check the person in all possible ways, I will take him through 150 questionnaires and questions. Being close to a perfectionist is very difficult, few people can stand it. It's hard for him to find a mate. It's hard to live with him. Then he does not allow himself to rest, have fun, relax, because there is no time, there is a goal that he must achieve. Possible workaholism. After some time, a person burns out, and there is a loss of interest in life and the activities in which he is engaged. Against the background of perfectionism, anxiety often develops. There is constant weariness here. Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. Sleeplessness may occur. The head is constantly busy, she has no time to rest. You need to think in order to do everything right.

"Children are not born perfectionists, we bring them up like that"


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- Where does perfectionism come from?

- From our beloved upbringing. Anxious parents are more likely to have a perfectionist child. Anxiety is inherited: the child learns to be anxious. When parents have excessive demands on the child or conditional love appears “We love you only if . ..”, then the child has to give up himself and do everything to be loved.

If my parents love me only when I am good, then I will show my goodness in every possible way: study excellently, achieve results in sports ... They will throw all their strength to bring achievement to their parents' feet. For them, a four in a test or second place in a competition is horror, horror. They do not know how to make mistakes, their world is collapsing at this moment.

Teachers and children say: in almost every class there is someone who cries because of the four on the dictation. Who walks and begs: "Please give me a different rating. Otherwise, my mother will kill me." It's about ingrained perfectionism. Children are not born perfectionists, we raise them to be perfectionists.

- How does such a child feel?

- Fear. For example, they say to him: "I will whip you if you are dirty." And therefore it is important for him that his clothes sparkle. For such a child, it will be terrible if a snowball is thrown at him and a wet spot remains on his jacket. He is actually afraid not that the jacket has become dirty, but that his parents will scold him for it. And then he begins to avoid active peers, begins to carefully choose the path he will follow. So that God forbid, do not violate your ideality.

In fact, such people have a rather hard life. They often come to a psychologist with the words: "I can't do this anymore." We find out how and what can be done about it.


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- It turns out that a child's perfectionism is more of a topic for working with his parents?

- Yes. Because 90 percent of the requests for children from parents at my reception: "Make him want to get good grades", "Make sure his room is in perfect order", "Make him care about the cleanliness of his clothes" , "Make it so that in the 5th grade he knows who he wants to be. Otherwise, in 6 years we have a graduation, and we still don't know where he will go." These are unrealistic requests that speak of perfectionism in the parents themselves.

Such parents need an ideal child, because there is a request from the outside world for this. People poke their fingers at a parent and say: “You are a bad mother”, “You are a bad father”, “You are not raising your child”, “Your child walks in one shirt for 3 days - some kind of horror.” On the one hand, they themselves are tired of being perfect, on the other hand, they themselves are trying to make their children perfect. In fact, oftentimes parents try to mold their child into someone they are not. They are not driven by love, but by fear of rejection or punishment. This is how perfectionism was formed in them, this is how they form it in their children.

- How does the negative side of perfectionism manifest itself in children?

- Have you seen children who do nothing? When parents make high demands on the child, the child after a while realizes that he cannot fulfill these requirements. And he stops doing anything at all. If he knows that he will not be a master of sports in karate or will never get an A for dictation, then he makes a decision: "Why should I try? Especially if it's not for me, but for my parents. "

Younger students usually pant as hard as they can to make their parents love them. But they come to the stage when it is important to separate and the opinion of the parents does not matter so much. Then if the parents made too high demands, then they go to the other pole, the pendulum swings, and they stop doing anything at all. Then a sofa child appears who does not go anywhere, does not want anything, does not read anything, does not study anywhere. Leads a plant life. Because in his early childhood he spent a lot of energy to achieve something. "The bar is too high, it still won't work, why bother?"

"I'm doing well today"


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- What do you recommend for adults who want to reduce perfectionism?

- I make these recommendations:

  1. Set priorities. See which tasks you can do yourself and which you can delegate. It is not necessary to do everything yourself. You need to correctly distribute your energy and delegate tasks to others.
  2. Learn to relax. Set aside times when you won't have work. Find a way to relax that will give you pleasure. Yoga, sports, breathing practices. I recommend something bodily so as not to load the head again.
  3. Don't compare yourself to anyone else. We are all different. And no matter how much the coaches tell us that we all have the same potential and the same opportunities. Nothing like this. It is better to compare yourself with the past. I couldn't last week, but this week I can. This is an adequate comparison.
  4. Keep a diary of thoughts and good mood. And fill it up in the evening. Or you can not make a diary, and when you wash your face in the evening, say to yourself in front of the mirror: "I'm doing well today. I can praise myself for this, this and that." Sometimes you need to praise yourself for not taking on extra work: for doing exactly as much as you could and not overloading yourself.
  5. Remember what you loved when you were little and do it. Within each of us there is an inner child. Now they talk a lot about him. You are really small. We all consist of nesting dolls, the smallest nesting doll is our child, I am small. And it is very important to take care not only about yourself as an adult, but also about your little one. If you liked ice cream, then buy ice cream for your little child. If you liked to embroider, weave baubles, saw with a jigsaw, burn, collect models - start doing it. Find some joy from your childhood, draw it into your real adult life. It gives a feeling of happiness and joy.
  6. Plan your tasks with a time limit, set yourself deadlines. And by this deadline, hand over the work. If we remember that perfectionism is the beginning of procrastination, then we can endlessly perfect and not give up. The deadline will allow you not to hang in perfectionism. For change, it is important to realize that you cannot live perfectly. It’s worth it to do it through the sleeves, but it’s impossible to do it perfectly. You have to do well.
  7. Train your sense of humor, self-irony. You try to do something intentionally with errors, wrong. Play this game with kids. Who will draw the most wrong picture? And who will make the most mistakes in the text? Teachers will say that it is not good to write with errors, this forms illiterate writing. In fact, if you want to misspell, you must know how to spell the word correctly. And allowing yourself to make mistakes will allow you to relax.


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- And if perfectionism has developed in a child? Can the same apply?

- No. Children, due to their age, cannot do many things themselves: they need an explanation and the participation of adults. In this case, the following recommendations are relevant:

  1. Children's responsibilities and adult requirements for children must be age-appropriate. Check whether your expectations for the child are not too high, whether the requirements you set are realistic.
  2. The child should have a time when there are no tasks. Completely free time, which he will take at his own discretion.
  3. Teach your child to relax: yoga, sports, walking, music, drawing. If you, as a parent, do not give him an acceptable option, he will choose his own: computer games, watching videos and TikTok.
  4. Don't compare him to anyone but himself. “Yesterday you didn’t know how to do it yet, but today you can do it.”
  5. Let your child do seemingly stupid things. Weave baubles, sculpt from plasticine, collect models, play with dolls. Such "purposeless" activity brings a lot of simple joy.
  6. Teach your child to plan his day, week, quarter. Show different ways to do it. How to track your progress. Be sure to mark deadlines for completing tasks.
  7. Learn to deal with your mistakes with humor. Mistakes give us a good lesson in what not to do.

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Quotes about what is not good enough: current school news

Filed in quotation by Dynamic Energy July 21, 2022

- Quotes about not being good enough -

Are you looking for quotes about the feeling of inferiority in someone's eyes? Top quotes have been collected for you that you are not good enough, sayings, messages, statuses and signatures.

While it's important to understand that their immaturity doesn't mean you're unworthy, these not good enough quotes will nonetheless make you feel less alone if you ever feel that way.

1. "Nothing will break you faster than offering your best to someone and that's still not good enough." — MV Poetry

2. “I guess I'm just not good enough for anyone. I can't force anyone to stay. I'm not even good enough to explain. - Unknown

3. “She doubted her beauty because of him, he left scars on her self-esteem ...” - Rh sin

4. “And if you don’t like me, how do you like me; I understand. Because who would really pick a daisy in a field of roses? - Unknown

5. “If I asked you to name everything you love, how long would it take you to name yourself?” - Unknown

6. “Honey, the right guy will make you a priority. If you feel like you're not good enough, it's because he's not good enough." — Steve Maraboli

7. “The only person who deserves a special place in your life is the one who has never made you feel like you are his version. ” ― Shannon L. Alder

8. and you drink too much and try too hard. And you go home to a cold bed and think, "That was great." And your life is a long line of beauty." ― Gillian Flynn. Quotes About Not Good Enough

9. “Never get mad at repairs. There is nothing good in anger. Are you angry with someone? The sun is setting, just drop it now." ― Israelmore Ivor

10. “But I wasn't good enough. You have to understand this about me - I'm not a hero; not one who uses unknown reserves of courage; not one who succumbs to circumstances. I'm an understudy who chokes on his lines when he's forced to take the stage. I've never, never been good enough." ― Dexter Palmer

11. “I was never good enough for my mom and she never let me forget it,” I whisper as soon as we get to the front of their house, “Ryan doesn’t say a word, but sometimes he makes me feel that way.” ". -

12. "You're not good enough." God, that voice; nails on the board. I want to drown that voice in buckets of piss!" ― Efrat Cibulkevich

13. "Stop thinking you're not good enough."

14. "What a fool I am, thinking I'm good enough."

15. "I'll never be good enough for anyone."

16. "If the best is possible, good is not enough."

17. "I'm really sorry that I'm not good enough."

18. "You can never be good enough." - Debbie Fields

19. "I'm sorry that everything I do is not good enough."

20. "I don't think I'll ever be your first choice."

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21. "Sometimes I feel useless, like white chalk."

22. “I will never be good enough for you. I understand."

23. "Stop looking for happiness in the place where you lost it."

24. "Self-doubt is the anchor that keeps our ships from sailing."

25. "You did everything you could, but it's still not enough. "

26. "I seem to live every day trying to impress someone."

27. "Good enough is never good enough." - Alfred Bertram Guthrie

Good enough or smart quotes

28. "If something isn't good enough, stop doing it" - Jonathan Ive.

29. "No matter how hard I try, I've never been good enough for you."

30. “Better is not good enough; the best is yet to come!” - TB Joshua

31. "Better than nothing is not enough for you!" — Greg Behrendt.

32. “I'm sorry I'm not good enough for you. But trust me, I tried to be like that."

33. "Good is not good enough when the best is expected."—Lou Lamoriello

34. "Don't let anyone make you feel like you're not good enough."

35. "First of all, never think you're not good enough." - Anthony Trollope.

36. "At your best, you still won't fit the wrong person."

37. "When people say you're not good enough, ignore them."

38. “I don't blame you for leaving me. I blame myself for not being good enough."

39. "Just the way you did last time wasn't good enough." - Michael Jackson. Quotes About Not Good Enough

40. "Sometimes I feel like I'll never be good enough for anyone or anything."

41. "I am learning to love the sound of my footsteps moving away from things that are not meant for me." — AG

42. "I hate to hear something absolutely kills you from the inside and having to act like you don't care."

43. "And it's easy to believe you're not good enough if you listen to everyone else." - Mackenzie Astin.

44. “It's a lie to think you're not good enough. It's a lie to think you're worthless." - Nick Vujicic

45. “No matter how good a woman you are, you will never be good enough for a person who is not “ready”.

46. "The worst feeling in the world is knowing you did your best and it still wasn't good enough."

47. "Your efforts will never be enough when they are spent on the wrong person. " Quotes about not being good enough

48. “Shame is the strongest, It's the fear that we're not good enough.” - Brené Brown.

49. “We are afraid of failure, ridicule, rejection. We're afraid we're not good enough." - Rhonda Britten

50. “Rejection doesn't mean you're not good enough; it means that the other person has failed to notice what you are offering.”

51. “And above all, never think that you yourself are not good enough. A man should never think that way.” – Isaac Asimov

52. "Sometimes I feel like no matter how hard I try, no matter how much I give, I'll never be good enough for anyone." Quotes About Not Good Enough

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53. “Come on. Tell me that I'm not good enough. Tell me that I can't do this because I will show you again and again what I can do. "

54. “I guess I'm just not good enough for anyone. I can't force anyone to stay. I'm not even good enough to explain.

55. “You're good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, and strong enough. Believe it and never let uncertainty rule your life."

56. "You will never be good enough for everyone, but you will always be good enough for someone who really appreciates you."

57. “The way you talk about yourself / the way you humiliate yourself / to nothingness / is an insult.” —

58. “I can’t even explain what I feel anymore, my thoughts are so confused in my head that I don’t even understand them.” - Unknown

59. “There is always a way to get better. You can never be satisfied. You can never say, "That's enough." - Kron Gracie.

60. "Be patient in everything, but above all in yourself." — Francis de Salle

61. “It's a lie to think you're not good enough. It's a lie to think you're worthless. - Nick Wujisik

62. “Darling, the right guy will make you a priority. If you feel like you're not good enough, it's because he's not good enough." — Steve Maraboli

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63. “All you can do is all you can do… If all you can do is still not good enough, then do something else.”

64. "The moment someone tells you or makes you feel like you're not good enough, that's the moment you know you're better than them."

65. “Don't let anyone make you feel like you're not good enough, smart enough, or cool enough. Mind your own business.” – Benji Madden

66. “Never say you're not good enough. If that person doesn't see how great you are, then they're not good enough."

67. "Nothing knocks you off your feet faster than offering your best self to someone and that's still not good enough." — MV Poetry

68. “I wanted to be everything you love. And yet, unfortunately, I'm haunted by the thought that I never lived up to your standards.

69. “There comes a point when you have to realize that you will never be good enough for some people. The question is, is this your problem or theirs?

70. “We start to feel not good enough and we take our heart energy and feel our true expression and it hurts!” - Agapio Stasinopoulos.

71. “I put a lot of pressure on myself. I feel like something is wrong and I won't stop until I feel like I did it. I'm never satisfied." — Jay Cole

72. “Don't let anyone tell you that you're not good enough. You're good enough, you're too good. Love your family with all your heart and listen to them.” — Gerard Way Quotes About Not Good Enough

73. “The nice, right guy will make you a priority. If you feel like you're not good enough, it's because he's not good enough." — Steve Maraboli

74. “Never think you're not good enough yourself. A man should never think that. People will take you very much at your own risk. — Anthony Trollope

75. “I was never good enough, not for you, nor for those who came before you, I was never worthy of your love, and every time I thought you looked at me you never saw me. "

76. "They never hurt your feelings or make you feel like you're not good enough, but rather strengthen you and show you what makes you special and even beautiful." -

77. “Sometimes things go wrong even when you do your best. It just shows that none of us are perfect. So I keep trying with all my heart, and if that's not enough, I'm not going to hang my head." — Louis Tiant

78. “Don't let anyone tell you who you can be. Don't let anyone tell you that you're not good enough or smart enough. Remember that there is no one better than you. Everyone puts on their pants one leg at a time.” — Farrah Grey.

79. “There is not a single land that has never felt unaccepted. At some point in our lives we feel like we're not good enough, but we have to take a step back and realize that we're good." - Jussie Smollett

80. "Never let anyone tell you that you or your dreams are impossible, incredible, or not good enough for their taste, especially if they have no experience or knowledge of your true heart and powers.


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