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When You Love a Man With Low Self-Esteem - 9 Things to Keep in Mind

by Paul Graves

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So you love a guy with low self-esteem. Sucks to be you. I’m saying that as a dude who used to hate himself. Who still kind of does. I know the crap you deal with. He must drive you nuts.

I was in a relationship with an angel, let’s call her Mary. Mary was such a pure, beautiful soul. We connected. Looking into her eyes filled me with comfort and calmed my fears. Mary loved me so much, and I loved her too. But I hated myself even more. Long story short – I ran away from her love. The love I felt unworthy of. I sought validation and distraction in women, alcohol and career moves. And in many other dark ways I won’t mention.

Low self-esteem is easy to explain yet hard to understand for some. It’s feeling shameful about who you are. Feeling guilty or embarrassed about who you are, deep in your core. You feel ‘different’. Damaged or flawed in fundamental, irreversible ways. You don’t love yourself. Your man may never admit it outright – but he wishes he were someone else.

Alas, there’s no return policy in life. We’re stuck in this skin forever, and the hate, the self-pity – it gets us nowhere. But here’s the rub:

When a man is dealing with low self-esteem, he’ll make mistakes. Big mistakes. My shame and low self-esteem led me to become reckless. I felt a constant, nearly unbearable background anxiety. I had to make myself feel different. I had to escape. Luckily, there were several reliable methods: nonstop partying, irresponsible sex, starting businesses, spending lots of money, exotic traveling. My worst nightmare was being alone, in a quiet room. I couldn’t stand my own company. Maybe your man feels the same way, I pray he doesn’t. But my feelings aren’t unique.

The mistakes I made led to more shame and guilt. And then more mistakes made running away from those feelings. The cycle continues. This leads to what I like to call the 9th dimension of shame. The hole can get so deep. The spiral of pain seems unstoppable.

Your man’s low self-esteem can manifest in a variety of ways. Every guy will act out in his own way. Some pull back and hide, some flee and seek experiences. Others party and rage, or try to prove themselves at work.  It’s troublesome for both the sufferer and the poor individual who loves them so much. Low self-esteem is tricky; the sufferer can distract himself or run away from it for years. He may not even realize that the darkness he feels is low self-esteem. And it’s f*cking heartbreaking.

If you love him, he will need you to get through it. You may be able to show him the light. Don’t give up on him, he needs you. Many times it will be confusing, and he may hurt you without wanting to. (Trust me, he doesn’t want to hurt you. He hurts enough just being himself.)

Here are some important things to remember: a cheat sheet to get you through tough times. And maybe to help him see the truth of his ways.

  1.  He loves you so much, but hates himself even more.

    He’s lost. You two may have such an obvious, beautiful opportunity for love but he squanders it. He only sees his own shortcomings. His pain and depression is like a dark, heavy, thick blanket that he just can’t shake. But like I said above, he may not even realize it. He’s not trying to mess with your head. He’s not unreachable. However he is in a state of constant anxiety, always wishing he could be someone HE loves. If you say ‘I love you’, he probably thinks: ‘Why would you? You can’t. You’re wrong’.

    He yearns to love himself, and the struggle to do that can ruin your relationship. This should be a good thing, right? Not all men act out this feeling in healthy ways. It will be hard but think about their perspective. If they don’t love themselves maybe you can do something to help them. If you love him, do what you can to help his HEART. Buy him books on spirituality, ask him how he feels about himself. Listen, and if required seek the help of a licensed therapist or psychologist.

    A book I recommend is No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover. It was a wake-up call, and helped launch my wild journey of transformation. Don’t let the title fool you, it’s a book about shame, self-worth and learning to accept yourself. It’s a powerful starting point, buy it now.

  2. He may seek attention outside the relationship, or activities without you.

    This was a huge factor in my relationship ending. My low self-esteem led me to crave attention from other potential partners. I was addicted to approval and validation from other women.

    Maybe he likes attention from others, flirtation and come-hither looks. I hope you haven’t caught him on dating sites or apps. That was another thing I would do – I craved the attention so much. Maybe he also yearns for people to tell him how cool he is, how great he dresses, or what a sweet job he has. Point is, he’s just crazy for attention.

    He seeks attention and approval from other people – but what about you? Self-esteem is a real b*tch. He thinks that he has to either prove to himself that he’s worthy, or look for evidence of it anywhere he can. ‘If other people tell me I’m great, then that must mean I’m great.’

    It may be common sense to you – that we should all love and respect ourselves as human beings. But to a sufferer of low self-esteem, this isn’t the case. Having low self-esteem is like being in a courtroom. And you’re guilty until proven innocent. He’s shameful at the core of his being. His soul appears blackened, damaged and irreparable. He craves escapes from reality.

    Try to talk with him about this. ‘I think you act like this because you like how it makes you feel, right? Why do you need to feel this way?  Can’t you just be yourself, how you feel now?’ ‘Why aren’t I enough?’ ‘Do you need help learning to love yourself?’

    If your man can’t handle this conversation, consider moving on. He’s not ready. It must be him who makes the changes necessary to heal. It is NEVER on your shoulders to do this for him.

  3. He believes he must have ‘got lucky’. He feels unworthy of you.

    At first he cherished you. You were his prize. He held you close, showed you off to the world. It was intoxicating and intense. But soon, he knew he ‘had you’ and started looking around. The high that you and the new relationship gave him faded. The drug wore off, so he’s seeking fresh supply. He needs more intense intoxicating experiences to feel okay about himself.

    I had an amazing partner in Mary, but I didn’t believe I was worthy. She could see the man I was, beyond the shit-storm that was my life. She saw through my shame and self-hatred but I couldn’t buy it. I was too deep in my own trance.

    I thought I’d got lucky, that I’d fooled her somehow. So I needed to prove that I could be worthy of someone amazing. Does that sound stupid or what? I wanted to be able to ‘earn someone’ who everyone else wanted, to prove to myself that I was a valuable man. Then I could love myself.

    Remember that this isn’t about you – this is about a hole he has in his heart. He needs to know that he didn’t just ‘get lucky’ when he landed you. Don’t let him feel that way! Please, tell him you love him. Tell him everything you think is unique and enticing about him. Don’t make it only about appearance either. If he feels like he fooled you, he will not treat the relationship with the respect. This is an important point.

  4. He may be restless, or always trying to prove something to the world or himself.

    Some call it ‘hustle’ or ambition. Maybe he has grand ideas or entrepreneurial zeal up the wazoo. He wants to create something that will change the world. That’s wonderful, but in his case it may be a cover-up: a distraction from voices in his head. The voices that say, ‘you’re not enough’. He’s trying to create a life that will prove his worth.

    He doesn’t want a life without you. His big dreams or grandiose desires get him out of his head. They give him hope that maybe one day, just maybe he will be able to like the man he is. After he does all this awesome stuff.

    There is nothing wrong with drive and initiative. But why is he so driven? Why does he desire so much?  If we bothered to ask ourselves ‘why’ we want the things we do, we could save ourselves much heartbreak. We’d stop running after so many shiny red balls. We could live with more purpose. Your man should ask himself why he wants to accomplish so much.

    To bring him down to earth, remind him how much life there is to live right now, in this moment. This moment, between the two of you. Kiss his lips, hold his head in your hands. Tousle that hair and look deep into those eyes you love so much. Say, ‘I love you for exactly who you are, right now’. Tell him he is enough.

    The point isn’t to make him an aimless, lazy ass. It’s to make sure he has his motivation and priorities in the right place.

  5. He can be extremely jealous or insecure about other men.

    My ex, Mary, had to think that I was perfect and wonderful at all times. She was my entire support system, and my source of confidence and security. She was my everything. (And yet I treated her awfully – aren’t men the greatest?)

    If I felt threatened or not #1 importance in her life, I would start to lose my sh*t. The low self-esteem inside your man creates an enormous hole. He filled it with you, and sprinkles in other things like vices and attention from others. When you threaten to leave them empty again they go crazy or become irrational.

    He doesn’t want you to suffer. Nor does he want to dominate you. He doesn’t know why he feels this way, but it’s because he hates who he is. In effect it’s self-defense, your actions hurt him. It’s painful enough just being who he is – when you threaten to make him feel even worse about himself … he lashes out or gets uncomfortable.

    Nothing about this is okay. I’m only telling it like it is.

  6. It can be near impossible to get him living ‘in the moment’.

    Many guys with low self-esteem are living in the past. He may be guilt-ridden and woeful over opportunities he failed to seize. Maybe he regrets not doing better in school, or choosing a better college. He might feel like a failure and disappointment to his family. Who knows, the point is he rides himself down all the time.

    Alternately, he’s living in the future. He dreams of a day when he can ‘be happy’. You may feel sad because it seems all he cares about is making lots of money, accomplishments or fame. Or making his family proud. He may seem to leave you out of his utopian vision of the future. But he probably just feels he’ll only worthy of you once he conquers the world. He feels he’s unworthy of happiness until he proves himself. These thoughts consume him and he’s desperate for that sweet moment of relief when he’s ‘made it’.  Problem: it’s never coming.

    You love him exactly as he is, right? Tell him that right now.

  7. True commitment scares the sh*t out of him – but not for the reason you think.

    In my relationship, I was afraid because I didn’t know who the hell I was. The only parts of myself I knew were sh*t. I didn’t feel like a good person, so who would want to be with me? I convinced myself that I was helping by not giving her marriage or children. By not giving her 100% true commitment I was doing her a favor.

    I didn’t believe in myself. I had no faith in my own goodness or potential. I knew I wouldn’t be able to handle the hard times that would come.  My feelings were ‘everything I touch turns to sh*t, so why would I waste her time? It’s doomed from the start, and I do not want to hurt her’.

    No advice here, no matter what he’s going to give you the ‘deer in the headlights’ look. Knowing this may help you understand the complexity of a man. He needs to learn to love himself through the hard times before he can love you through the hard times.

  8. He may enjoy seeing you in pain or suffering for the relationship.

    Sick, huh? Hate me if you want, I don’t care. I come in truth. This is a tough one to talk about. Self-esteem can get so low that a man gets validation from seeing his partner suffer. Seeing a person go through hell for us, feel pain caused by us – can actually give us pride.

    It’s a dose of the ‘I’m worthy’ drug … ‘Look at how this person goes crazy for me, I must be worthy’.

    Enough said, it’s time to leave the relationship. Hurt never justifies hurt.

  9. He adores you – but he needs to learn how to love himself.

    Your guy has to learn to love himself. This includes all the deepest and darkest parts too, the parts that scare him to death. The unfaced and unfelt parts of our psyche are the source of all neurosis and suffering. Carl Jung said that, not me.

    If he only loves a certain part of himself like his looks, the rest of him will just go on undeveloped. In many ways I was like a child before. I avoided pain or sacrifice every chance I could, and I turned into a big man-child. If this is happening to your man, you must stop it right away.

In the end, you can get over this together. The bond between you will be unbreakable, and he will love you forever. He’ll never forget that you were the girl who helped him discover the greatest love in the universe. His love for himself. Stick in there, but develop a plan right away. Not only is he suffering, you are as well. Take action now. If he refuses to draw a line in the sand and change his life, it may be time to walk away.

About the Author: Paul Graves

Paul Graves writes about pain, shame, and better living through self-acceptance at TakeTheLemons.com. He lives in Ohio with his 7-year old daughter and two cats. 

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Why does my husband require constant attention from others? – St George News

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Question

My husband requires constant attention from others. If I get busy in the house or with the children, he looks for attention from a neighbor or anyone he can find. I try to build his confidence by being positive and mentioning his many gifts. He tells the same stories to anyone who will listen. They are impressive stories, but I find that they have been embellished each time I hear them. Why does he do this instead of focusing conversations on the other person?

Answer

It’s exhausting to be in a relationship with someone who takes up all the space and leaves no room for other’s contributions. I don’t believe people like your husband do this intentionally. However, good intentions don’t make it any less painful. Let’s talk about how you can live in a relationship with a husband who can’t see anyone else around him and requires constant attention.

In my experience, people who require constant validation and attention generally have attachment wounds from previous relationships. This could be from family members, friends or romantic partners. We all have an inborn lifelong need to matter to someone else.

Most people find this security in their homes or in their marriages and don’t need the world to endlessly reassure them that they matter. However, when this breaks down and an individual doesn’t have the security of knowing they matter to someone else, it sends them on a lifetime safari of searching for security.

Unfortunately, this security isn’t going to come through dazzling people with stories or receiving endless praise. Most people with these types of wounds feel deep shame and believe they’re worthless. They’re faced with the dilemma of hating themselves or spending the rest of their lives trying to build themselves up. Most choose the latter and never find it.

Brene Brown suggests the way out is to be honest and own the pain of feeling unworthy of love. She says, “You can walk inside your story and own it or stand outside your story and hustle for your worthiness.”

This is why your husband’s stories are getting more embellished and all of your attempts to build him up feel like a dead end. Outside validation isn’t going to fix what he needs to work on internally. I’m not suggesting you stop noticing his strengths; it’s just that this approach isn’t going to address his deeper wounds.

Individuals with these types of wounds don’t handle feedback very well. Again, it triggers that dilemma of hating themselves or building themselves up. Most people aren’t going to hate on themselves, so they build themselves up by defending themselves and project flawlessness to avoid accountability. As the wife, you’re in a difficult situation. He’s sent the message that it’s your job to validate his existence on a regular basis. However, you can’t succeed in that role.

Most people get their security first from their parents as they grow and mature. That deep security of knowing they have worth and value allows them to see others instead of constantly needing to put themselves first. However, not everyone is fortunate to have loving and affirming parents, so they have to figure out ways to discover their own worth and value.

It’s challenging because my guess is that your husband is wounded but likely doesn’t know it. He needs emotional and relational help to heal these attachment wounds so he doesn’t have to spend his life living off of the compliments of others.

I recommend you have patient, gentle, and compassionate conversation with him about the impact this pattern is having on you personally. Don’t speak for how this might affect other people. Only speak for yourself. Let him know how it appears that he has an insatiable need for validation and attention that isn’t getting met by your efforts.

Share with him your suspicion that there may be a deeper longing for security that you can’t meet. See if he’s willing to explore this further through education and professional help. Your husband needs to move from attention-seeking behaviors to attachment-seeking behaviors. The former will leave him feeling unfulfilled, but it may be all he knows.

Even if he decides to accept your influence and seeks help, it can still be exhausting to live with someone who has these attention-seeking behaviors, so make sure you’re taking good care of yourself. Recognize that you’re not responsible for paying attention to him at every moment. You don’t need to apologize to others for his embarrassing behavior.

You don’t even have to stick around if he’s deploying a well-worn story for the hundredth time. Feeding his wound will drain you because it will never be enough until he stands inside his own story and gets the help he needs.

If he’s not open to getting additional help for this wound and isn’t willing to see the impact his behavior is having on you, then you’ll likely just keep some distance from him. This may be hurtful to him, but it can bring up the need to address the dynamic again. Keep being honest with him about how his constant need for attention is impacting you and others. Point it back to the real source of the problem so he can do something about it instead of just ignoring it.

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Geoff Steurer is a licensed marriage and family therapist in private practice in St. George, Utah. He specializes in working with couples in all stages of their relationships. The opinions stated in this article are his own and may not be representative of St. George News.

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Geoff Steurer is the co-author of "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity," host of the Illuminate Podcast and creator of online relationship courses, such as the Trust Building Bootcamp. He is a licensed marriage and family therapist in private practice in St. George, Utah. He specializes in working with couples who want to rebuild their relationships from crisis to connection. He specializes in working with individuals and couples dealing with the impact of sexual betrayal. He has been married to his wife, Jody, since 1996 and they are the parents of four children. Follow him on Instagram and Facebook. The opinions stated in this article are Steurer's own and may not be representative of St. George News.

Sample application for recognizing a citizen incompetent due to a mental disorder - Lawyer in Samara and Moscow

To the Novokuibyshevsk City Court of the Samara Region

446200, Novokuibyshevsk, st. Safrasyana, d. 7

The applicant: FULL NAME1

Registration address:

represented by a representative - Lawyer but “Samara Regional Bar Association”

Antonova A.P. , reg. No. 63/2099 in the register of lawyers of the Samara region

Correspondence address: 443080, Samara, Karl Marx Avenue, 192, office 619, tel. 8-987-928-31-80

Interested persons:

Full name2

Novokuibyshevsk

Address: 446200, Samara region, Novokuibyshevsk, Kommunisticheskaya str., 39

Novokuibyshevsk

Address: 446200, Samara region, Novokuybyshevsk, Komnistic St., 37

Application

On the recognition of a citizen as incompetent

My husband FULL NAME2, GD, place of birth, C On January 22, 2018, he is a disabled person of the first group due to repeated heart attacks and strokes.

In 2001, FULL NAME2 had a pre-infarction condition, was treated at the Samara Regional Clinical Cardiological Dispensary, 11/12/2005, 12/14/2005, suffered heart attacks, 11/25/2016 - ischemic stroke, 09/30.2017 — stroke followed by paralysis.

FULL NAME2 cannot serve himself and needs constant help, care, supervision: he is paralyzed, we turn him from one side to the other to avoid bedsores, we place him in a sitting position to feed, while the spouse cannot sit for a long time, for adoption bath brother carries him in his arms. The spouse has an intellectual disability. Due to illness, FULL NAME2 cannot understand the meaning of his actions, manage them, cannot assess the current situation, cannot make decisions and express his will, does not hear and does not understand the meaning of words, due to a paralyzed lip, he can communicate only with the help of facial expressions, smiles, nods his head inappropriately, speech is slurred, after suffering an ischemic stroke he speaks incomprehensible words in a whisper.

According to the individual rehabilitation program for a disabled person No. 101.30.63/2018, FULL NAME2 has significantly impaired functions of the upper limbs, lower limbs, significantly impaired language and speech functions, and severe urinary function disorders. FULL NAME2 recommended the following technical means and means of care: wheelchair with manual drive basic room, wheelchair with manual drive basic walking, diapers for adults. According to the individual rehabilitation program for a disabled person No. 101.30.63 / 2018, FULL NAME2 needs to provide the necessary assistance to a disabled person with intellectual disabilities, in understanding the procedure for providing and receiving services, in drawing up documents, in performing other actions necessary for the service. The predicted result for the spouse is only partially restoration of impaired functions, achievement of compensation for lost or missing functions, restoration (formation) of the ability to carry out self-service, move independently, control behavior.

Recognition of a spouse as legally incompetent is necessary to receive a pension, since he cannot independently sign, manage money, does not understand the meaning of money. In the future, it will be necessary to draw up documents, certificates for resolving issues of treatment, rehabilitation, registration of sanatorium-and-spa treatment.

According to paragraph 1 of Art. 21 of the Civil Code of the Russian Federation, the ability of a citizen to acquire and exercise civil rights by his actions, create civil duties for himself and fulfill them (civil capacity) arises in full with the onset of adulthood, that is, upon reaching the age of eighteen.

In accordance with paragraph 1 of Art. 29 of the Civil Code of the Russian Federation, a citizen who, due to a mental disorder, cannot understand the meaning of his actions or manage them, may be recognized by a court as incompetent in the manner established by civil procedural legislation. He is placed under guardianship.

On the basis of the above, guided by paragraph 1 of Art. 21, paragraph 1 of Art. 29 of the Civil Code of the Russian Federation, paragraph 4, part 1, Art. 262, art. 281-284 of the Civil Procedure Code of the Russian Federation,

PLEASE COURT:

Recognize incompetent FULL NAME2, b.r. place of birth, passport, registered at:.

Attachments:

  • State fee payment receipt.
  • Passport copy
  • Copy of marriage certificate
  • Copy of individual rehabilitation program No. 101.30.63/2018
  • Copy of ITU-2016 Series Reference No. 1423001 of 01/22/2018
  • Copy of power of attorney

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Compatibility Cancer and Libra

Cancer and Libra have poor compatibility. The first sign refers to the elements of Water, and the second - to Air, so a rather contradictory relationship develops between them. The Moon gives Cancer emotionality and sensuality, besides, he is distrustful and fearful.

Libra and Cancer

Compatibility in love

Libra and Cancer compatibility is ambiguous. Relations in this pair can be mysterious, stormy and exciting.

It is rather difficult for partners to achieve harmony, but this can be done if sincere feelings are present on the part of both.

A man likes it when members of the opposite sex pay attention to him. He approaches the choice of the second half quite seriously. It is important for him that the future wife not only has a good appearance, but is also attractive. Sometimes the search for the chosen one continues for many years.

A woman has a fine mental organization, she painfully perceives criticism addressed to her. Having good external data, the lady immediately attracts the attention of potential chosen ones. She needs the constant support of loved ones, if this does not happen, then she begins to become depressed.

Marriage compatibility

In family relationships, representatives of this zodiac combination prefer the traditional distribution of roles. This compatibility is rated as above average. Spouses are not capable of betrayal and betrayal. At first, it can be difficult for newlyweds to come to terms with the shortcomings of each other's characters, so it may take a lot of time for the so-called grinding. However, later the couple will improve their life, having learned to respect each other's personal space and sincerely forgive the shortcomings of the second half.

Both Cancer and Libra do not like to make scandals or provocations. With age, spouses, having gained worldly wisdom, react more calmly to each other's shortcomings than at the initial stage of family relations. In the family, the couple strives for a harmonious and peaceful life, trying to avoid conflict situations and quarrels.

Compatibility in sex

In the bedroom, the representatives of this zodiac combination reign mutual understanding and harmony, relationships in bed are built on trust and mutual respect. Both Cancer and Libra are romantic and sensitive natures. In intimacy they are related by sensuality and sentimentality.

Compatibility in friendship

This compatibility is quite low, which is explained by the caution of a man, if he is married, in communicating with the opposite sex. By nature, he is rather secretive, preferring not to trust others, especially women. In addition, Cancer and Libra have almost no common ground, they do not need to constantly expand the list of their friends and acquaintances.

Business compatibility

In business cooperation, representatives of these zodiac signs, as a rule, remain neutral towards colleagues, since friendly relations are negatively displayed in the work process. It is for this reason that Cancer and Libra, who are in the same team and perform a joint task, are indifferent towards each other, not focusing on shortcomings and mistakes. Disagreements between colleagues, although they occur, however, they do not develop into major conflicts, although they annoy both.

Cancer man and Libra woman

Compatibility in love

Compatibility of Cancer man and Libra woman in love is estimated as average. From the outside, this couple looks harmonious, but disagreements very often arise between them. Each of the chosen ones has their own interests, they have very few common points of contact. Life's difficulties can unite lovers.

The compatibility indicator of Libra and Cancer depends on how each of them is ready to build new relationships. If the lady has not yet decided on her desires, and the man looks at his friend with great caution, then the spark is unlikely to flare up.

Relationships become harmonious when both partners learn to calmly perceive the needs of the other half and will do everything to satisfy them. Sometimes, due to its nature, Cancer is offended by the chosen one for her desire to spend her free time in an interesting and bright way.

Marriage compatibility

Compatibility of Cancer man and Libra woman in marriage can be quite good. The spouses will be faithful to each other, since they have already decided to formalize the relationship, which means they are ready for a family. Initially, it is difficult for each partner to come to terms with the shortcomings of the second half. When the lapping period is over, it becomes easier for them.

Both spouses have a negative attitude towards provocations, scandals and betrayal. They strive to build a strong marriage union, where complete harmony will reign.

If some difficulties appear on the way, then Libra and Cancer show determination and will.

Spouses have their own approach to raising children, besides, they have similar views on the distribution of finances. The heirs in such families are surrounded by care and attention. Parents are equally responsible for their upbringing.

Compatibility of Libra and Cancer

Compatibility in sex

Compatibility of Cancer man and Libra woman in sex can be quite high. This indicator increases if the lovers have reached maturity and the intimate relationship is built on the basis of complete trust. Representatives of these signs are sensitive and romantic natures. In sex, both show sentimentality and tenderness.

The Libra woman needs long foreplay, it is important for her to hear gentle words and compliments. The Cancer man is ready to give his partner everything he wants if she begins to show a violent fantasy.

Frustration in the bedroom can occur when partners' expectations do not match reality. Sometimes Cancer lacks the courage that Libra wants to see. The man himself believes that passion should be more assertive.

Compatibility in friendship

Compatibility of Libra woman and Cancer man in friendship is assessed as low. This is due to the fact that the representative of the stronger sex, with great care, begins to communicate with women while in a romantic relationship. By nature, he is secretive, it is difficult for him to learn to trust people.

Libra and Cancer don't have much in common. Representatives of these signs are not accustomed to expanding the circle of their acquaintances and friends.

Compatibility in business

The compatibility of Cancer man and Libra woman in business is above average. Colleagues in relation to each other try to maintain neutrality. If friendly relations are established between partners, then this negatively affects the work process. Disagreements between Libra and Cancer sometimes occur, but they do not lead to major conflicts.

The best working relationship will develop if representatives of these signs begin to work on different projects in separate offices. A woman and a man sometimes lack determination; for more fruitful work, they need someone else in the team.

If someone occupies the post of leader, it is difficult to achieve mutual understanding. It is not easy for a guy when he is controlled by a representative of the weaker sex. To the boss, he seems uncollected and slow.

Libra man and Cancer woman

Compatibility in love

Compatibility of Libra man and Cancer woman in love can be good. Representatives of the two signs have every chance of building harmonious relationships. The young man first of all pays attention to the appearance of his beloved, and her coldness only warms up feelings. A man happily surrounds his chosen one with care, arranges surprises for her, gives expensive gifts.

Cancer Woman sees a reliable partner in a young man. She literally blossoms from care and affection, so she is ready to give all of herself to the chosen one. Despite the different characters, lovers have the same life values. Both are used to spending a lot of time and money on self-development and travel.

In a Libra + Cancer couple, partners like to spend time with friends. A man can even afford to flirt with girls, because he knows that the chosen one will not become jealous.

Tandem quarrels arise when lovers begin to try to change each other. It is important to try to accept the second half as it is.

Compatibility in marriage

Compatibility of a Cancer woman and a Libra man in marriage is not low, provided that each of the spouses begins to fulfill the duties assigned to him. A woman should be the keeper of the hearth, deal with everyday issues and outwardly remain attractive to her lover. A man will earn money, besides, he will have to solve serious issues.

At the same time, the thrifty Cancer lady is often dissatisfied with her husband's extravagance. The Libra man is used to spending a lot of money on a luxurious lifestyle. It is important for him to look good, so the funds are spent on buying expensive things.

The Cancer Woman has been dreaming of children since childhood, her hidden qualities are manifested in motherhood - confidence and strength. She enjoys raising heirs. A father develops a parental instinct when the children grow up.

Treason does not occur in such a marriage. Both spouses value each other, therefore they do not allow thoughts of betrayal.

Compatibility Cancer and Libra

Compatibility in sex

Compatibility of Libra man and Cancer woman in sex is high. Partners strive to get maximum satisfaction from intimacy. In bed, the chosen ones subtly feel each other's desires, none of them skimp on caresses and tender words.

At first, a Cancer woman can be indecisive. As for the man, he carefully examines the body of his companion, tries to take care of her comfort. In his own words, the partner will save the beloved from tightness and complexes. Libra and Cancer are willing to experiment in bed.

Compatibility in friendship

Friendly compatibility of Cancer woman and Libra man is good. Communication between representatives of the two signs can originate in childhood, adolescence or adulthood. Friends always have something to talk about.

Friends subtly feel and understand each other. They do not pay attention to the presence of any shortcomings.

All disagreements are quickly overcome as Libra and Cancer approach them with humor.

Representatives of two signs prefer to travel together, they like comfort, they try to avoid conflicts. Friends often express a desire to become business partners who skillfully cope with all the tasks.

Compatibility in business

The compatibility of Cancer woman and Libra man in business is above average. Representatives of these signs with great responsibility approach the performance of their duties. Colleagues can maintain friendly relations, they rarely quarrel, and they participate little in the life of the team. In tandem, Libra + Cancer, both can generate interesting ideas, but the authors do not always know how to translate them into reality.

A woman likes to work if a man is in charge. He sees her as an executive employee. If a lady is the main project, then there will be discontent on her part towards the subordinate.

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