How to tell if a younger woman is interested in you

16 surprising signs to look for

Do you have your sights set on a lady who’s significantly younger than you?

Wondering if you stand a chance?

The honest truth is that when it comes to love – age ain’t nothing but a number!

More younger women are seeking partners who are older so if you’re wondering if that pretty young lass is into you, here are 16 surprising signs that will show you that she is.

1) She wants to spend time with you

If she likes you, she will try and get time off from work or school to have dinner with you and spend some time talking as friends.

She wants to know more about you and is availing herself in order to do so.

This is another one of the most important signs that there’s something developing between two people.

She’s forever asking you to accompany her to events, meet her for coffee or dinner. She’s clearly trying to spend more time with you because she enjoys your company and wants to see where things are going to go.

This is a telltale sign that she’s into you as she’s trying to find out more about you and spend quality time alone with you.

2) She tells you how immature guys her age are

This is a big sign!

If she tells you how immature guys her age are, then this means that she wants an older man with more life experience.

She seeks maturity and doesn’t want to deal with the childish behavior of most guys her age.

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3) She introduces you to her friends, who think you’re great

Again, she’s proud to be seen with someone like you, a man who is older than her and makes her feel good about herself.

She will make sure that everyone knows about you and how awesome a boyfriend you are.

She also wants other people to see that she has a great boyfriend since this makes her feel proud of herself for having chosen such an amazing guy – after all, it doesn’t matter what her friends say or what they think of the age difference!

4) She asks about your past relationships

If she asks you questions about your previous relationships, then there’s a chance that she wants to see where things go with you.

The more that she knows about your previous relationships, the better her idea of what she thinks the future will be like.

Whether or not you are seeing her, she isn’t afraid to talk to your exes and is curious about them.

She’s trying to gauge what type of relationship material you will be if things were to go that way. Essentially, she’s trying to figure out your likes and dislikes.

5) She voluntarily reveals personal things about herself to you

She will often talk about issues that interest her.

She might tell you about her favorite film, book, or article and then ask if you have seen it/read it/heard of it – as if to say “Hey, do you like this?” It may seem small, but she wants to hear how you feel about things in general.

This reveals that she’s gauging how similar the two of you are, despite the age gap, and is figuring out how well the two of you will get along.

6) She keeps her physical distance from other guys, but not from you

You’re out and about and there is a tonne of males around her.

But, she chooses to get physically closer to you.

She’s showing you that she has no interest in the other men around her and has decided to stay close to you.

This is a very telling sign that she’s into you!

She values your opinion over others:

You’re the one she asks for advice and asks what your take on the matter is.


Well for her, you’re the one she trusts most. This means that your opinion is valued more than anyone else’s.

She wants to know what you think about everything and if someone says something, she asks how it made you feel before going on with her own thoughts or having an argument with them as a result of their words.

7) To her, your age gap is nothing but a number

She doesn’t let it affect her. She sees you as a man, not just a guy who is older than her.

She is attracted to you because she feels that there are so many more possibilities for what could happen with the two of you. She sees your age as a challenge, not an obstacle.

Often, there is a stigma attached to dating outside of what society deems normal age gaps. If she has no issue with this and tells you that she’s unbothered by age, bet your bottom dollar that she’s into you.

8) She admires your maturity

She sees you as a man of experience.

She respects your life experience and doesn’t want to start a relationship with someone who is still new to the world – or at least not yet.

She sees you as a man who has experienced much and is mature enough to handle any problems that you may face in the future.

She respects your opinion and recognizes that even though she might think differently, it’s not just an opinion, but one that’s derived from experience.

9) She genuinely enjoys your sense of humor

This is one of the best ways to tell if she’s interested in you.

If she seems to laugh a little too much or adds something like “That’s so funny” after you make a joke, it means that she is attracted to you.

A man with a sense of humor is probably one of the biggest factors women look for, so even if you’re older than her and you can make her laugh, it’s a huge step in the right direction.

10) She initiates conversations with you

If this woman consistently starts conversations with you, then there’s a great chance that she likes you.

She always makes an effort to seek you out and talk to you.

This shows that she enjoys your company and that she finds the conversations with you stimulating and thought-provoking.

Once again, this is something that only most mature men can offer.

11) She is usually the first one to text you back

This might seem like a small detail, but this means that she finds you interesting enough to text back.

She’ll send you regular text messages wishing you a good morning, asking you how your day is going and will send you a sweet good night message.

If she’s texting regularly, take this as a very big sign that she’s into you.

12) She is always complimenting you

If a woman is interested in you, then she will compliment you on your clothes, hair, and other things.

If she constantly makes these compliments, then that means that she is interested in you and sees you as attractive.

Just because you’re older, doesn’t mean that you are over the hill or shouldn’t make an effort with your appearance.

So, keep yourself well-groomed and well dressed to keep her interested and wanting more.

13) She gets jealous when she sees other girls talking to you

Whether it’s a waitress or someone from your office, if this woman gets jealous when she sees other girls talking to you, then there’s a chance that she really does like you.

To her, they’re encroaching on “her property” and she sees this as a potential threat. She doesn’t want you to like anyone else, because she’s got her sights set on you.

14) She’s asking about your life

This means that she’s interested in more than just your appearance and wants to know more about you as a person.

She wants to know everything about your history, what makes you tick, and how you became the man you are today.

If she’s playing detective and asking you a barrage of questions, it’s a definite sign that she likes you and wants to know what makes you tick.

15) She introduces you to her friends, who think you’re great

Again, she’s proud to be seen with someone like you, a man who is older than her and makes her feel good about herself.

She will make sure that everyone knows about you and how awesome a boyfriend you are.

She also wants other people to see that she has a great boyfriend since this makes her feel proud of herself for having chosen such an amazing guy – after all, it doesn’t matter what her friends say or what they think of the age difference!

16) Her body language is inviting

If she makes a point to be near you and is clearly trying to get close to you so that you will notice her, then this could be a sign that she’s interested in you.

Girls will give you signs that they like you, even if they don’t know it yet. If a girl is interested in you, she will walk or move her body in a way that will get your attention.

Body language is the most powerful form of communication that humans have. It’s easy to miss, but it’s impossible to ignore.

If a girl likes you, she will let you know many times through body language, especially if the two of you are just talking and not touching or kissing each other at all.

If she’s sitting down and she wants to show you that she doesn’t want too much space between the two of you because this would mean less closeness between the two of you then as she moves towards you and touches your arm lightly as she continues to talk with a soft voice, then this could mean that she’s interested!

Why are younger women attracted to older men?

You might be wondering, “Why are younger women attracted to older men?”

One of the main reasons is that younger women want to learn from someone who has more life experience. They want an older man to teach them about life and how to live their lives.

Another reason is that young women feel like an older man can take care of them properly.

Younger girls aren’t financially stable enough to take care of themselves, so they figure that a man who has his own home and is financially stable can do that for her.

And no, I’m not saying that all younger women are gold-diggers.

It actually does go deeper than that.

Younger women want an older man to provide for them in a sense of being able to teach them how to live, protect them, and provide for them with their own money.

But even if the younger women are not in this for the money, it’s still a good thing because they are looking for more out of their relationships and want someone who is willing to teach them about life.

Also, many younger girls usually aren’t as mature or confident as older women. This is why they try to get older men to teach them how to be more confident.

The simple truth is that intimacy in relationships doesn’t depend on external factors such as age.

Instead, it depends on internal factors such as our inner relationship with ourselves. I mean, how can you fix the external without seeing to the internal first? 

I learned this from the world-renowned shaman Rudá Iandê, in his incredible free video on Love and Intimacy. 

So, if you want to understand why younger women are attracted to older men and if this is something that’s really happening to you, I’d suggest watching the free video about Love and Intimacy in relationships.

Check out the free video here.

How to spot a younger woman who’s a gold digger

There are some younger girls out there who are only after the money. You can spot these women by their behavior and how they act around you.

They will be very eager to get close to you and do things to try and make you notice them, like wearing overly revealing clothing, trying to get as physically close to you as possible.

They will also have no problem making you pay for the bill. It’s part of their con.

Once you’ve wined and dined them, they’ll make little effort to contact you and you’ll only get a call or a text when they need something.

Steer clear!

These women usually have other issues like low self-esteem, insecurities, and/or lack of confidence.

They usually have some sort of trust issues and believe that older men are better than younger men.

Although they’re out there, it’s not to say that every younger woman is after your money.

The signs above will give you a good indication of whether or not she sincerely likes you, or, is just after your wallet.


I believe that younger women are looking for more to their relationships than they used to be.

They want an older man who has lots of experience, that can teach them how to live and love life as much as they want.

They want someone who will take care of them, be loyal to them, and make sure that they are happy.

They seek older men because they want someone who can teach them how to live a better life. They want an older man to help bring out the best in them and motivate them to be more independent.

So, what are you waiting for? Age is nothing but a number!


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How to Tell If a Girl Likes You

Across animal species males typically initiate mating, while women decide to accept or reject those advances.

While we share this prototypical mating arrangement with other mammals, it’s a bit more nuanced with us humans.

Men are expected to make the overt first move like saying hello, striking up a conversation, asking a woman out on a date, etc. But women in fact typically initiate this contact by subtly providing cues that such contact is welcome. In other words, women decide if and when men can initiate romantic advances.

Men who don’t understand this dynamic at best find themselves labeled as an awkward weirdo, and at worst become known as the creep who makes unwanted advances.

Even when a man understands this dynamic, however, there’s a good chance he just doesn’t have a knack for picking up on the subtle social cues that indicate female interest. Rather than initiating unwanted sexual interest, this fella fails to make a move when a lady wants him to! Many a man out there has had the experience of a woman telling him, “I gave you so many signals! How did you not know I liked you?!” Sometimes a guy gets lucky and finally clues into this interest because the gal is patient and persistent. But sometimes, someone who could have been your one and only, ends up being the one who got away.

If you’ve had a hard time sussing out whether or not women are attracted to you and open to your advances, below we provide research-backed signs to look for.

Signs a Girl Is Attracted to You

You’ve probably read articles online where the author gives you a list of body language signals that women give off to let you know they’re attracted to you. While it’s easy to roll your eyes at lists like these, research suggests there’s actually something to them.

Psychologist Monica Moore spent a few months observing over 200 single women at parties, bars, clubs, and restaurants. From her observations, she found over 52 things women do when they’re attracted to a man. They don’t have to do all of them or in any particular order to indicate interest; some women have their go-to flirty moves. Though, the more of these signals you see and the more often you see a woman display them, the more likely it is that she’s attracted to you and would welcome your advances.

Of the 52 signals, Moore saw these 12 the most frequently:

  • Smiling at you
  • Shooting short glances your way
  • Darting her eyes away when you look at her
  • Making prolonged eye contact with you
  • Running fingers through her hair
  • Licking her lips
  • Exposing her neck
  • Tilting her heads towards you
  • Turning in her seat towards you
  • Lightly touching you on the arm or shoulder
  • Laughing when you talk
  • Caressing an object in her hands

Among the dozen above, the most common signals of female interest are smiles, direct eye contact, and/or repeated glances towards and away from you.

Important Caveat: Put These Signals In Context

Now a socially inept boob of a guy will memorize a list like this, and anytime he sees a woman display any of these signals he’ll immediately assume that she’s attracted to him sexually. Indeed, studies have shown that many men have a hard time interpreting social cues, particularly sexual ones.

Such cues are complex and subtle. You have to make sure you interpret them within the context of a given situation. It’s very similar to the way you achieve situational awareness in a tactical situation, which involves establishing baselines of what’s normal and then looking for anomalies. What’s true in war, is true in love as well.

If an attractive lady bank teller looks you in the eye and smiles at you, she’s probably doing that because she’s trying to show good customer service and not because she’s open to you hitting on her. The baseline behavior in this situation is that all bank tellers look people in the eye, smile, and make friendly chitchat. An anomaly would be if the bank teller lady displayed lots of flirty behavior like touching her hair or touching your wrist nonchalantly. That would indicate possible interest.

Likewise, if a woman at work touches your arm, don’t automatically assume she wants to have your babies. She could just be super friendly and touchy-feely. That’s her baseline behavior. But let’s say a woman isn’t super friendly and touchy-feely with people, but she is with you. Well, that’s an anomaly that indicates possible attraction.

Another Important Caveat: A One-Time Signal Isn’t an Indefinite Green Light — Keep Following the Trail

Just as observing an anomaly in a tactical situation doesn’t automatically mean there’s a threat, an anomaly in the world of romantic social cues doesn’t automatically mean a woman wants to sleep with you, marry you, or even go on a date with you. All it means is she has an initial attraction to you and is open to your making a first move. That could be a conversation, a dance, or you asking her out on a date. Nothing more.

So you ask her for her phone number and ask her out on a date. On the date, you and she will get to know more about each other through conversation. If she likes what she hears and feels a rapport and attraction building, she’ll continue to give you the signals above. She’ll also signal that she’s open to a second date, and she may not even be subtle about it; she’ll more than likely say (or text), “That was fun. I really had a good time tonight.”

So you take her on another date. If that date goes well, she might offer signals that she’s open to a bit of physical intimacy by getting physically close to you as much as possible without actually making physical contact. So you initiate this contact by reaching for her hand and going in for the kiss at the end of the date.

On and on this dance goes with escalating signals from her and overt initiation by you until you’re married with 2.5 kids. Or you break up by the fifth date because she’s cute, but dang, you’ve noticed like 11 of the 14 red flags in a relationship.

How to Tell if She’s

Not Interested

Just as important as knowing what signs a woman displays when she’s interested in you is knowing the body language cues that mean she’s not interested in you. You don’t want to be the guy who couldn’t take the hint and is now being tweeted about with #MeToo.

In addition to documenting the signs that a woman was interested in a man, Moore’s study also recorded the signs that she wasn’t. If you approach a woman and she won’t make any eye contact with you while you’re trying to engage in polite small talk, she’s not interested. If she turns away from you, rolls her eyes, yawns, or starts talking to somebody else, not interested.

Don’t assume she’s playing hard to get. She’s just not into you. And don’t think you can sway her by talking yourself up or negging her or doing whatever other dumb PUA technique you read about from some blog post written in 2009. It won’t work, and you’ll just come off as a desperate, creepy dude.

When You’re on the Fence: Revisiting the Brad Pitt Rule

Let’s say you’re on the fence as to whether or not a woman is interested in you. Maybe there’s a woman in one of your classes you’d like to take on a date. She flirts with you . . . you think. And she hasn’t given you any signals she’s not open to you asking her out. But you’re really not sure how she feels.

In that case, just ask her out on a date. Follow these best practices for making the invitation, and make it for something low stakes like a coffee date. If she says “yes,” then she likes you or is at least open to the possibility of a romantic relationship with you.

If she gives an excuse for why she can’t have a latte with you, then use the Brad Pitt rule to determine if she’s interested in you or not.

For those not familiar with the Brad Pitt Rule, here’s a summary:

Imagine that instead of you, Brad Pitt had asked this same woman out. Would she use the same excuse with him? If Brad Pitt asked her on a date, would she still say she had to study or was going to the movies with friends that night? Nope. She would have dropped pretty much anything and everything to be able to accept a date with Brad.

Now you’re not Pitt obviously. But if a woman is interested in you, she will drop her other plans to be available to go out with you.

Of course, there are exceptions; the woman may have a legitimate reason she cannot make the date. Perhaps she has to work or go to a funeral. But, and here is the real clincher, she will suggest a different time for the date. She will say something along the lines of “I can’t do it this Saturday morning, but I could next Saturday.”

If she makes up an excuse and she doesn’t suggest an alternative plan, you have been shut out.

So if you get an excuse from a woman when you ask her on a date, and she doesn’t provide an alternative time for the date, it’s almost certain she’s not interested. If you’re feeling persistent, it’s okay to ask one more time in a couple weeks. But if you still get a no, then definitely move on. There are plenty of other fish in the sea.


Figuring out if a woman likes you is a tricky business. You’ll likely make some faux pas in the process. As long as you act like a gentleman (not the weird, m’lady kind) when making those initial dating moves, you shouldn’t experience too much social awkwardness when you face rejection. Be aware of the social cues women give off if they’re attracted to you, but keep them in context. Finally, don’t assume she’s ready to go back to her place just because she signals attraction. Assume that her initial attraction simply means that she’s open to you asking her out so she can get to know you better. Keep following the trail of signals to determine if/when to make your next move.

Further Reading

  • Podcast: The Surprises of Romantic Attraction
  • The 3 Elements of Charisma: Warmth
  • Podcast: Is This a Date or Not?
  • Dating Archives
  • Podcast: Love Factually

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How to understand that a girl likes you

Do you hope that a girl likes you, but you are not 100% sure? Are you open to developing a relationship, but is the lack of clarity about how your friend feels about you preventing you from taking the first step? In fact, the girls themselves give clues, which will be discussed in this article.

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1. Female chatter

If young girls like you, they will steal glances at you (point at you) and giggle. They may even begin to snuggle up to each other.

Experienced women will whisper more quietly.

2. “Coo-coo”

She will glance at you over the top of a book or menu.

Women love to flirt with men using this gesture, probably because they played these games with their fathers even in the cradle. Daddy covered his eyes with his palms, and then, when he looked out again with the words “Ku-ku!”, the daughter giggled and squealed with delight. nine0003

3. Shy geisha

The girl, looking at you, looks down and away with feigned modesty. However, if she is interested in you, she will look at you again for 45 seconds.

Notice if she wasn't interested in you, her line of sight would remain the same, or she would look up and away.

4. Sideways glance

She will look sideways at you even if she is talking to someone else.

Everything is to blame for the scientific confrontation "nature against education", ancient as the world. nine0003

5. Playing with decorations

It usually starts with an instinctive reaction, because you make the girl nervous.

However, more experienced women understand that they can seduce you by twisting a necklace or touching an earring, because this draws attention to the hollow on the chest or to the neck.

The girl looks directly at you and assumes that you know that a direct gaze combined with the play of the necklace on her tongue means, "Come on, come closer to me!" nine0003

This signal provides an excellent opportunity to make an acquaintance. You can smile, come up and compliment the girl, appreciating her taste in choosing jewelry.

6. Unobtrusive exhibitionism

Step by step, does the girl quite consciously expose every square centimeter of her skin? She is clearly and unequivocally flirting with you.

Very often a woman waits until she is sure that you are looking at her, and only then will she let her dress slide off her shoulder. Or, straightening his shoulders, he will stretch the fabric on a blouse or T-shirt, exposing part of his body. nine0003

7. Playing with the shoe

She will toss the shoe with her toes, usually exposing her foot.

Pay attention to this swaying - it indicates an excess of sexual energy.

Often, as a lure, women let the shoe slip off their toes and fall to the floor in order to attract the attention of a man and attract him.

8. Close contact

If a girl moved a little closer to you, she did it intentionally. nine0003

She will carefully monitor your reactions. If you notice the shrinking distance between you and express surprise in one way or another, your shares of attraction will drop dramatically in value.

A woman may misunderstand you and decide that you are not interested in her and will not be able to give her what she wants in bed.

When she gets too close to you, you simply have to reward her for her courage with a smile or even a slight oncoming movement.

9. Invasion of privacy

A woman is perfectly aware of how far she stands or sits from a man, how close this or that part of her body or any object is to him.

Instead of invading the "personal space" of a man with her whole body, she allows her hand, knee or any object to violate the imaginary boundary.

If a girl makes similar movements while talking to you, try to express your pleasure. Otherwise, she will recoil and become more aloof towards you. nine0003

10. "Random" touch

A woman will never touch someone she doesn't like. If she touched you, your reaction should be warm and positive.

Otherwise, the girl will decide that:

  1. You are as cold as a fish, which even a worm is too tough for.
  2. You just don't like her.

Having made this or that decision, she will immediately erase you from her memory.

If a woman, under any pretext, reached out her hand and touched you, for example, brushed a speck off your jacket, tried to examine your tie or watch, allegedly unconsciously touched your hand, laughing at a joke you made, you should demonstrate an extremely positive reaction. Otherwise, the girl will feel that she has gone too far and retreat. nine0003

11. Tilt

There are situations when it is inconvenient or indecent for a girl to touch a guy or invade his personal territory. In such cases, she simply leans towards him.

Never, remember, never move away from her!

12. "Palm-weather vane"

This sign is intended for those who already know enough about women's tricks.

If a girl looks at you with her chin on her fingers and her hand turned towards you, it means that she likes your style. She seems to say: "I agree" or "I understand you." nine0003

13. Baring the neck

When two foxes fight, the vanquished offers her neck, thus saying: "I surrender." And when a fox demonstrates its neck, it means its defenselessness before a man and its readiness to meet him halfway.

She visibly perks up and, in particular, raises her hair, giving her partner a frank signal. To keep the game on the level, you can praise her luxurious hair.

14. Showing armpits

A woman's armpits are usually hidden from strangers, so showing this part of the body means that the girl distinguishes you from others. nine0003

She deliberately leans back, pretending to be relaxed, but she knows exactly what she's doing.

15. Licking lips

Licking her lips, the girl subconsciously informs you: "You look very seductive." This is the most primitive and very frank invitation, which is almost on the verge of debauchery.

A woman may lick her lips defiantly or furtively for several reasons:

  1. She may want her lips to look more moist and attractive to you. nine0084
  2. She may think about intimacy with you and lick her lips in anticipation.
  3. She may be trying to tease you by hinting at how much pleasure lies in her lips.
16. Preening

If a girl likes you, she starts preening to draw attention to her appearance - paints her lips, powders her nose or combs her hair.

If you don't already know her, she can use this technique as bait to get you to approach her from the other side of the room. nine0003

If you know each other, for example, you are having lunch together, go away for a while, supposedly to go to the toilet, and then carefully look to see if she made you look beautiful in your absence.

If a girl managed to do this, it means that she values ​​you and wants to look her best.

17. Playing with hair

When girls grow up, they notice that some men react positively to “self-stroking”. Women like it, and such a signal from the unconscious turns into a conscious one. nine0003

If, while talking to you, a girl begins to sort out her hair, this indicates a subconscious (at first) desire for you to touch her.

If you respond correctly, the desire will become conscious, and the woman will begin to use this signal as a call to action.

Such a signal is either a sign of excessive sexual nervousness, or indicates that the woman is trying to make the man imagine that he himself is playing with her hair.

Depending on her mood, a girl with long hair can cover one eye with it, either to “hide” from you by starting a seductive game of hide and seek, or to demonstrate her charm. nine0003

18. Stroking

A woman's pleasure centers, unlike men's, are scattered all over her body, so when she sees a man she likes, a girl starts stroking herself with pleasure.

Smart women, noticing the positive reaction of the man, begin to stroke themselves more frankly.

19. Violent gestures

Some girls, especially those who are uninhibited and spontaneous, when in the company of a person who admires them, can behave childishly - wave their hands sharply, move their breasts seductively and round their eyes. nine0003

Much of this is a direct reaction to phenethylamine, the “love hormone,” released in their bodies.

20. Proud posture

Seeing or noticing you, she perks up, straightens her shoulders, becomes more energetic and, perhaps, raises her chest high.

21. Mirroring

Often, after one or two extra glasses, a woman relaxes and begins to imitate the movements of a man, if she likes him.

This can even be used as a test. Lifting her glass, see if she raised hers. Put your elbow on the table and see if she does the same. nine0003

Here's another tip: copy her movements to establish a subconscious sense of similarity. The girl will become very comfortable next to you, but she will not understand the reasons for this.

Smart women, especially those who are familiar with NLP, often use this "mirror" effect to establish a connection with an interlocutor.

By the way, if she does it consciously, that's fine. It means she likes you.

22. Seductive biting

Even without a degree in biology, anyone can easily understand what a woman means when she takes an object in her mouth, carried away by a man. nine0003

She often adds something else to this move, such as twiddling her shoe or fluttering her eyelashes, while she nibbles on a toothpick, a plastic spoon, or even her fingertip.

23. Sexy thing

If you see a girl looking at you from the other side of the room and not smiling, you will hardly think that she wants you to approach her.

However, if you look closely at her hands, you can see that she is moving her finger over the glass. It's not out of boredom. Perhaps she even imagines that she caresses you. nine0003

Sometimes a woman gives this signal by gently and promisingly stroking the handle or running her fingers up and down the stem of the glass.

If you are already talking to a girl, the movement is likely to be calculated - she will slowly and seductively run her finger along the rim of the glass or up and down the stem without interrupting the conversation.

Almost any object can be used for such a hint - a pen, some serving item, a toothpick, etc.

24. Stupid

Many women, especially younger ones, almost lose their heads when they see a man they like, start giggling and doing stupid things. At the same time, they do not allow themselves to laugh and act stupidly surrounded by men who are indifferent to them.

The older version includes some other signals, such as winking or touching something to the mouth or ear.

25. Posing

To attract a man, a woman uses her body, and assumes an attractive pose, hoping that he will look in her direction. She shows herself in all her glory. nine0003

26. Showing legs

Women have learned to use their legs in the most seductive way to lure men.

The girl may lift the hem of her skirt to reveal part of her legs, or even part them slightly, allowing you to look deeper for a moment, or wiggle her leg, thus saying: "Hey, pay attention to me."

22 more ways to know if a girl likes you

1. She loves talking to you

She really wants to talk to you and stay in your company. Start a conversation with her. If she's happy to hang out with you, that's a good sign. nine0003

Some couples are just bursting with interest from the very beginning of a conversation and can talk for hours.

If she is nervous, she may have trouble communicating. Give her a chance to deal with her anxiety.

Ask the girl questions and wait for her to answer. She may need time to gather her thoughts.

A bad sign - she's bored or just answers your questions with a shrug. Or worse, she grabs another guy and lets herself be dragged away. nine0003

2. She laughs at what you say

Keep in mind that laughter is better than giggling, and even better when you laugh together. If a girl likes you, she will laugh at almost every joke you make.

  1. It's better if the girl thinks you're really funny, rather than just working hard to fill awkward silences with giggles. But even if she tries too hard, it's okay. She obviously thinks you're worth the effort.
  2. Some girls giggle when they're nervous. nine0084
  3. The laughter that definitely scorches the girl's attitude towards you is when you both laugh so much that you almost cry. It seems to you that you will soon burst with laughter, and the people around you think that you are crazy.
3. She is afraid to meet your eyes

One of the clues to understand that a girl likes you is the following. Some girls are afraid of being caught in your eyes when they look at you.

Keep in mind that there are girls who can meet your gaze with confidence. nine0003

A girl who likes you may avoid looking you straight in the eye. If somehow your eyes meet, she will probably blink and look away.

In this case, the girl does not want the feeling that the initiative for the development of relations comes from her. She is waiting for you to make the first move.

More confident women can give clues through their eyes: their eyes sparkle and invite you to come and say hello. nine0003

A confident girl will look you in the eye longer than usual before looking away.

Read: how to turn a girl on

4. She turns her attention to you

This way of knowing that a girl likes you can take different forms depending on the girl and the situation.

A girl who cares about you doesn't forget that you exist. Even if the girl is very shy, she will find a way to communicate that she remembers you. nine0003

If you appear in her area of ​​attention, she will definitely switch it to you.

If a girl completely ignores you, she is not interested in you. But is she really ignoring you, or is she sending out a subtle signal that she's noticed you but doesn't know how to react?

Here are some examples of how a girl who likes you can behave if she is really shy:

  1. She is silent when she is in company with you.
  2. nine0083 She nods or smiles in your direction.
  3. Sudden interruption or cessation of her activities as soon as she sees you. She may stop working or talking.
5. She smiles at you

This is one of those smiles that makes her eyes sparkle. The girl who smiles at you is most likely experiencing obvious sympathy.

Sometimes there are exceptions to this rule, for example, when a girl hopes to win some kind of popularity contest and smiles at everyone. But most girls don't bother smiling at someone they don't like. nine0003

A shy girl is unlikely to smile widely. Her smiles may be brief, but she is certainly happy to see you. Sometimes her smile is more pronounced in her eyes than on her face.

6. She doesn't like it when you flirt with other girls

How do you know if a girl likes you? Start flirting with other girls. Nobody likes having rivals, and your friend will be uncomfortable.

She may react openly, or she may simply leave you because she doesn't want to watch you interact with another mademoiselle. nine0003

Before flirting with other girls, remember that this can have negative consequences, up to the girl losing interest in you.

How can she trust a guy who flirts with several girls at the same time?

7. She hugs you

Does she hug you at every opportunity? We only hug people we like. Hugs are an excuse to get close to you and feel your body.

She probably likes you, but she can't put it into words. It may be easier for her to use other strategies, such as approaching you and hugging you. nine0003

Embracing comes in many forms. It could be a friendly hug when you meet on the street or in the mall.

Other girls are more likely to put their hand on your shoulder, for example, if you are sitting in a chair and struggling with a problem on your computer.

She can lean, hug and comfort you to help solve the problem.

8. Her friends give hints that she likes you

Her best friends know if a girl likes you. Follow their tips. nine0003

What do her friends do when you are around? How does she react to her friends?

  1. Do her friends look at you when you approach?
  2. Do they smile when you approach them?
  3. Are her friends teasing her?
  4. Is she afraid that one of her friends might say that she likes you?
  5. Did any of her friends ask if you like her?
9. She asks you to talk

She stays by your side when other people leave. nine0003

10. She starts to be interested in what you are interested in

Did she start listening to your favorite music or watching your favorite sports programs? If you are a fan of Real Madrid, she will also show interest in this team.

11. She blushes next to you

This does not happen once, but constantly.

12. She often bumps into you

This may be a sign that she wants you to start a conversation with her.

When you are sitting or relaxing somewhere, you will notice that a girl will pass by several times. She's probably trying to get your attention. She is probably waiting for you to make the first move and start a conversation with her. nine0003

13. Her arms are relaxed when she talks to you

If her arms are wide open and relaxed when she talks to you, this can be interpreted as "I am open to you." In other words, it's kind of an unconscious way of encouraging you to get close to a girl.

14. She breaks away from talking with her friends to talk to you

When a girl is talking to her friends and sees you approaching or nearby, she leaves the company and comes to you. She wants to be around at any time, and this is a sure sign that allows you to understand that a girl likes you. nine0003

15. She says that you look good

If a girl notices how you are dressed or change your clothes, and also says that you look good, this indicates that she likes you.

16. She hints that she is not in a relationship

Does the girl talk about relationships that she had in the past, making it clear that they are over and now she is alone?

Don't think she's still obsessed with her ex-boyfriend. Most likely this is an invitation to take his place. nine0003

17. She quickly agrees to your proposal

The girl offers to hang out with you or doesn't hesitate to say yes when you ask her to spend time together, especially if she has other plans.

18. She opens up to you

If a girl tells you her problems, which she usually does not talk about, this will be evidence that she trusts you very much.

19. She talks about your joint plans for the future.

The girl may mention watching a movie or going to a concert together in a month or so. She can't forget about you. nine0003

20. She follows your news in social networks

The girl follows your updates on VKontakte, Facebook, Instagram, and she often likes your posts or posts your materials on her wall.

21. She puts her phone away when you're together

If a girl focuses exclusively on you, it's a signal that she's really interested in making a good impression on you.

22. You text often

If you text regularly and the girl is also the initiator, at least she likes you very much. Especially if you text at night. nine0003 recommends its men's forum: ask questions and communicate on various topics without registration.
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Incredible facts

Many men know how difficult it can be to understand what is going on in the head of women. nine0003

Each girl is unique, so it is sometimes almost impossible to find out about her feelings.

But by doing a little research and learning more about female psychology, this task is greatly facilitated.

Many women subconsciously give signals in the expectation that a man will pay attention to them. Others behave much more modestly and do not show their interest so clearly. But if you show enough patience, you can pick up signs that a girl cares about you. nine0003

So, what signs can indicate that a girl definitely likes you?

Body language that speaks of liking

Experts on gestures and facial expressions say that when we meet someone we like, certain physiological changes begin to occur in our body.

Muscle tone increases, we stop slouching, the body straightens, and we look younger and more attractive. Men spread their chests, trying to dominate, while women bow their heads, touch their hair and show their wrists. nine0003

Body language shows how open, attractive and ready we are, and maybe even desperately want a relationship.

So, what should you pay attention to if you want to know if a girl likes you?

See also: 30 non-obvious female chips that turn men on

Eyes - where exactly does she direct her attention? Do her pupils dilate or get wider when someone enters the room? nine0003

Lips - are they smiling or wrinkling?

Feet - where are they directed?

Hands - where do they touch, what do they hold?

Redness of the face or sweating - look out for sudden redness of the face and neck, sweating and wet palms - these can all be good signs.

Breathing - sometimes when we are nervous we have difficulty breathing. In other cases, on the contrary, we relax and breathe more slowly if we are near a loved one. nine0003

Always pay attention to the situation and whether her reaction to you differs from the reaction to the rest of the people in the room.

In general, the body language of girls and women is more difficult to read than that of men, since the fair sex is less straightforward.

And remember that each girl is individual, and these tips are just hints that will help you understand how much a girl likes you.

Signs that a girl likes you

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1. She straightens up, straightens her shoulders and draws in her stomach.

If a girl's posture changes and she tries to straighten up, then she subconsciously wants to impress you.

Pay attention to her posture as she walks past or away from you. If she knows that you will be looking at her, she will automatically change her posture. At the same time, the girl can slightly shake her hips, as if she were on the podium. nine0003

In addition, she will try to lick her lips, stretch her neck or touch it more often, as she wants to emphasize her body or face. Her interest is also often evident when she fixes her hair or tilts her head.

2. Her feet point towards you

According to psychologists, this is one of the most accurate non-verbal clues that someone likes you.

This is explained by the fact that we rarely consciously pay attention to what our feet are doing. nine0003

Main features:

  • If her feet are pointing at you, that's a good sign.

  • If they're looking the other way—at a door, for example—then she might not be interested.

  • If she sits with her legs crossed and her legs are tightly intertwined, then most likely she is nervous or uncomfortable around you. nine0003

  • If a girl sits freely, her legs are not pressed to the body, then she is quite relaxed, and she enjoys spending time with you.

3. Her body is facing you

As with the feet, the direction of the body is an important indicator of her liking.

It's good if her body is turned in your direction, and she pays full attention to you. The body, like the feet, subconsciously turns towards the person we are interested in, and this is something we rarely think about. nine0003

If she is talking to you, but her body is turned away from you, this is not a good sign.

4. She notices and reacts when you touch her

A girl's reaction to physical touch is an excellent indicator of whether she likes you.

If she has a liking, she will definitely notice if you touch her, even if the touch is purely platonic. She may blush, smile, and move closer to you. nine0003

If she doesn't like you, she will likely pull away when you touch her, even if the movement is subtle.

Of course, it still depends on where you touch and how appropriate such a gesture is in a given situation. If you are talking, lightly touch her shoulder - this is enough to see her reaction.

5. She seeks physical contact with you

Everyone knows that we like to touch the one we like. So, for example, a woman can lightly touch the hand of the person she is talking to. Such a light touch is not necessarily a sexual invitation, but more often than not, it indicates that she likes you. nine0003

Another indicator of her sympathy is her attempts to woo you. For example, she cleans the pills from your clothes or straightens your shirt if it is folded.

As mentioned above, if you want to test her feelings, touch her. If she pulls back, she's not comfortable. This doesn't always mean that she doesn't like you, she may just be more sensitive and needs to get used to your touch.

If she shows physical contact with other people, for example, hugs when meeting, then her removal is not a good sign. nine0003

6. She blushes when she is near you

We often blush when we receive an unexpected compliment or we like someone.

If you notice that a girl often blushes in your presence, then this is a good sign.

However, you should pay attention to whether she blushes when communicating with other people, because she may just be shy.


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7. Her pupils dilate

Although this sign is not so easy to see, dilated pupils are an indicator of attraction.

Look her in the eye while talking, but try to be casual so you don't startle her. However, remember that the pupils naturally dilate when the light is dimmed.

8. She copies your movements and gestures

This is one of the proven signs of a person's liking, and it's something we do subconsciously.

Pay attention to this:

Does she mimic your hand gestures when she speaks? Does he try to be in the same rhythm with you? For example, if you speak slowly, is she also trying to slow her speech down? All this indicates that she likes you.

Also, if she cares about you, she will start using some of your everyday words. nine0003

9. She looks at you

If she is interested or has feelings for you, she will look at you and maintain eye contact when your eyes meet.

At the same time, the girl may smile or look at your face, from time to time throwing a few glances. This behavior is quite obvious, says that she likes you, and she is not afraid to show it.

However, if she is nervous or shy, she may lower her eyes when making eye contact. nine0003

Often a girl turns away if a man notices how she looks. This, in fact, is a sign of affection and means that she is interested in you, but does not want you to know.

10. She preens

Almost any girl, in the presence of a representative of the opposite sex she likes, begins to preen: straighten her clothes, touch her hair or apply gloss to her lips.

This is how our psyche works - we want to look as good as possible next to the object of our sighs. Of course, everything can be explained by some nervousness or anxiety. nine0003

However, if you notice that a girl is trying to dress up, carefully takes care of herself, slightly protrudes her lips, then all these are clear signs that a man she likes is nearby. Moreover, preening most often indicates not just sympathy, but a strong attraction to a man.

11. She clings to you and tilts her head

If a girl moves closer to you when you are talking, she shows with her whole appearance that you have captured her attention. This is especially true if she behaves like this in a group of people, and pays more attention to you than to others. nine0003

Thus, she subconsciously tries to be one on one with you in space.

The tilt of the head has the same meaning, which shows interest and involvement in the conversation. If you like a girl, try to pay attention to her in the conversation, maintain eye contact and show your interest in the conversation.

12. She uses open body language

You can tell how comfortable she is by how open her postures and gestures are. If her arms and legs are relaxed and the pose is not closed, it's safe to say that she doesn't feel tense around you. This sign is not a direct indication of attraction, as she may be comfortable around a friend. nine0003

Everything depends on the context. If you've known her for a short time and she shows open body language, that's a great sign that you have a strong connection.

It is very important for a girl to feel physical and psychological comfort when choosing a guy.

However, it still depends on her character. If she is more closed or shy by nature, she may not use open positions, even if she likes you. nine0003

If she is straightforward and confident, this behavior indicates her great sympathy.

13. She is noticeably nervous or embarrassed

If she likes you, but she doesn't know you that well, then she's more likely to be nervous or embarrassed around you.

However, she wants to impress you and not lose her face.

There are seven main signs that a person is nervous: nine0003

  • Touches the face , such as feeling the face, twitching the cheeks slightly, or rubbing the forehead.

  • Blinks fast. Psychologists have found that the frequency of blinking increases when we are nervous.

  • Compresses lips . It is an instinctive reaction that protects us from danger.

  • nine0390 Hands over . It can be intertwined fingers, awkward twisting of the arms back and forth, clicking the joints.

  • Rubbing his palms.

  • Often yawns. While this may seem like a strange sign, stress and anxiety are known to increase brain temperature, and yawning regulates body temperature by cooling the nose and mouth areas.


If you notice these signs in your presence, the girl may be nervous and she likes you (assuming you don't know each other very well).

As you get to know each other more, the nervousness will subside and it will be easier for you to bond.

14. She rubs some object in her hands

This is a rather interesting sign, which is sometimes difficult to distinguish from normal behavior. nine0003

You need to pay attention to the following:

See how she holds the item. She gently strokes him, or maybe at the same time she looks into your eyes? Subconsciously, she lets you know that you are attracted to her as a man.

She can also point an object in your direction, as if she were pointing her legs or body towards you.

If she just clutches an object and glances at you, it hardly means anything. nine0003

If, on the contrary, she seems to close the object from you, presses it to herself and turns her body away from you, then this is not a very good indicator that she likes you.

15. Pay attention to details

The most important thing to remember is that most women are more subtle in expressing their feelings and don't show their interest explicitly.

Moreover, it is known that it is women who take the first step, but they do it quietly. nine0003

What signals do women send most often to the men they are interested in?

  • A long, close look from the side at the man she likes

  • As soon as your eyes meet, the girl smiles and looks away.

  • She starts to preen

  • She strikes an open stance nine0003

  • She points her body at you

Signs of sympathy for a girl by behavior

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1. She behaves differently around you

Even small changes in a girl's habitual behavior can be an indication that she likes you. But before drawing any conclusions, watch her habitual behavior around friends. nine0003

  • Is she more outgoing and fun around you? This may be a sign that the girl is trying to impress you.

  • Some young ladies, on the contrary, become shy, awkward and silent in the presence of the gentleman they like. If she blushes or looks at the floor, then she may be embarrassed or nervous because she likes you.

  • If she is not interested in you, she may turn her back on you or give short, insignificant answers. nine0003

  • She may act a little annoyed when you interrupt her or take her time or direct your attention to someone who interests her more.

  • Does she treat you differently than others? For example, lightly pats on the shoulder, or puts a hand on you. If she does not allow herself this with others, this may mean that she likes you.

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    2. When you do something out of the ordinary, she blushes or gets excited

    Try to do something that will surprise her. It could be an unexpected compliment or a playful touch on the shoulder. The girl will not have time to react, and this will be a great indicator of her feelings.

    If she blushes or looks embarrassed, then this is a clear sign that she wants to impress you. She can simply run her hand through her hair or straighten her clothes. nine0003

    If she seems a little annoyed, as if you distracted her from something important, then most likely she is not interested in you.

    3. Your friends want to leave you alone

    How do your mutual friends behave towards you? If you notice how they try to leave you alone, then she likes you, and this is obvious even to others.

    They can giggle, whisper, and smile meaningfully when you are around. nine0003

    However, this only applies to situations where the girl told her friends about you. In this case, they may try to find out more about the object of her interest and find out if you are a good fit for her.

    4. She pays attention to you

    If she likes you, she will enjoy the time spent together. She will be all in the attention and will gladly accept any attempts at interaction.

    • If she is shy, she will not shy away from talking and will try to prolong her alone time, but may not show that deep down she is happy. nine0003

    • When you are in a group, does she look at you more than others? If so, then this is a clear sign of sympathy.

    • On the other hand, constant glances at the phone when you are talking one on one, or distracted glances do not promise you a romantic interest on her part.

    5. She gets excited when you greet her if she is talking to someone else

    Approach a girl when she is talking to another guy, say hello, and watch her reaction.

    If she's embarrassed, blushing, or flustered, that means she's worried that you won't think she likes this guy more than you.

    She may even try to engage you in a conversation to convince you of her sympathy or move away from the guy to show that there is nothing romantic between them. nine0003

    Remember, her reaction is that she cares what you think of her and doesn't want to give the wrong impression of herself.

    If she doesn’t seem to notice you, or your greeting is more of a distraction, then she probably likes the interlocutor more.

    Also in a group of people in case of sympathy, she will look at you more and observe your reaction.

    6. When she does or says something, she looks at your reaction

    This is one of the most reliable indicators that is quite easy to notice, especially if you are in a company.

    If after a girl says a phrase, she looks at you, this is an indicator that she is seeking your approval and trying to impress you.

    This becomes even more obvious when she tells a joke in a group of people. If she likes you, she will look at you first to make sure you are funny. nine0003

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    7. She asks personal questions

    Many men do not notice this sign. Personal questions are not the kind of questions we ask out of decency, but deeper ones, perhaps? with emotional context.

    For example, instead of asking “ What is your job? "she asks" Why did you choose this profession? ".

    Pay attention to unusual questions that you are not used to. She, most likely, thought for a long time before asking you a question. Such questions are an indicator of her interest and attraction.

    8. She is trying to connect with you on social networks

    It is not always easy to understand that you are attractive to a pen pal on social networks. Here it is important to understand how she is configured to communicate with you. nine0003

    Monosyllabic answers can indicate indifference, and vice versa, detailed phrases give out interest.

    How fast does she respond? The faster the better. But it's also likely that she doesn't want to appear too approachable and may deliberately respond late. If her response is delayed for several days, then this is already an alarming bell.

    The sheer number of likes on your social media posts speaks volumes about her more than her friendly disposition. nine0003

    9. She calls you when she is drunk

    You probably know the expression: “ What a sober man has in his head, then a drunk has in his tongue”.

    Alcohol is liberating and helps us to express our emotions honestly.

    If a girl writes and calls you when she is drunk, then she definitely wants to be with you. She constantly thinks about you, and alcohol pushes her to action.

    10. She lets you know that she is single and wants to know if you have a couple

    She will not necessarily ask the question: “ Do you have a girlfriend? ” Most of the fairer sex is not so straightforward.

    She will try to find out in more subtle ways. For example, she will say that she went to the wedding alone in the hope that you will also share the details of your personal life with her.

    In this way, she is trying to test the waters and find out if your relationship has a future. nine0003

    11. She even laughs at your stupid jokes

    Even if everyone around you knows that the joke is stupid, the girl who likes you will still laugh at it.

    In general, if a girl smiles a lot when talking with you, she definitely likes you. Your company gives her pleasure, and she wants to make a favorable impression on you.

    nine0390 12. The conversation between you seems at ease

    This is a great sign of chemistry and understanding between you. And where there are these two things, sympathy arises automatically.

    Again, if she likes you, she will be more involved in the conversation, asking questions, and being generally more talkative to avoid awkward silence.

    If you care about her too, you're more likely to do the same to make the conversation enjoyable. nine0003

    13. She starts to reveal her little oddities

    When a girl feels at ease, she begins to show more of her real self. At the beginning of a relationship, many try to make a good impression and hide some oddities, but the easier and freer she will be with you, the more she will open up.

    This shows that she is comfortable with you, and she knows that you will accept her for who she is. nine0003

    Although this behavior is common among friends, if you are not in the friend zone, you have definitely won her trust.

    14. She tells you the personal details of her life

    In the same way, as you get closer, the girl who likes you will talk more about herself and share the details of her life. This means that you have won her trust.

    If you communicate often, this does not necessarily indicate romantic feelings. nine0003

    But if you've known each other for a short time and she reveals more personal details about her life, it's safe to say she likes you.

    15. She actively likes you on social media

    Likes and comments on your page are one of the clear signs of a girl's interest. She can actively follow your updates, remember everything you are interested in, and generally study you and your interests. nine0003

    If you are more familiar, she may post photos together to show others that you are together.

    If you don’t know each other so closely, her behavior may not be so obvious and be limited to likes.

    Read also: 8 signals that a woman sends to a man if she REALLY likes him

    16. She immediately agrees to your proposals

    If she really likes you, she will look forward to any opportunity to spend time with you. If you ask her out on a date, she will immediately take the chance and respond in the affirmative to your proposal.

    Even if the girl is busy, or she has plans, she will try to reschedule her affairs.

    However, remember that if you have known each other not so long ago, the girl will not want to look desperate and may not immediately agree. She may delay answering or suggest something else, but if she really likes you, she will eventually say yes to your proposal. nine0003

    Other signs that she likes you

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    • P straightens the hair , strokes and twists it around the finger, folds the curls back. The girl is nervous in your presence or tries to quietly flirt.

    • tries to be closer to or moves closer to you, and tries to touch you as if by chance. nine0003

    • began to carefully monitor her appearance , changes outfits more often, always puts on makeup, does her hair and becomes more beautiful every day.

    • You constantly meet her . It looks like she's starting to get in your way more often. Either she thoroughly studied your daily routine, or it's just some kind of magic.

    • nine0002 Subconsciously copies your actions . You took a glass in your hand - she does the same, repeats your phrases, crosses her arms in the same way.

    • Takes every opportunity to give you a hug when you say hello or goodbye.

    • N pouts to make a sad face or makes big eyes to show innocence. nine0003

    • When she is sad, she shares her feelings with you and lets you see herself crying.

    • P straightens your clothes , shaking off dust and pellets, trying to show that he cares.

    • Pay attention to her eyes . Psychologists have noticed that when we like a person, our eyes begin to shine.

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