How to recover after a narcissistic relationship

7 Tips for Healing from Narcissistic Abuse — Talkspace

Not everyone that struggles with narcissistic personality disorder will present abusive behavior in a romantic relationship, however, in some cases it can lead to abuse, or experiences of a toxic environment. If you’re in an abusive relationship with somebody who has narcissistic personality disorder, recovering from it can be painful. While healing from narcissistic abuse can be daunting, it is possible. 

You might go over and over in your head what you could’ve done differently. You might replay specific scenarios where you search for ways you could have handled things differently. Worse, you may even have the urge to rekindle the relationship. 

The tricky, and often devastating, part of narcissistic relationships is that they can be intoxicating. The cycle can be hard to break. You probably feel guilty about not leaving sooner, and ashamed that you were there to begin with. Still, you might find that you struggle to fully let go of the relationship.  

While these emotions are all common when coming out of a relationship that involves narcissistic abuse, it’s important to understand your relationship was not your fault. You also need to remind yourself that it wasn’t healthy. Remembering these things, and bringing to light the ways that your father, mother, or partner with narcissistic behavior mistreated you, can help you heal and move on to more rewarding, healthier relationships. 

Keep reading to learn more about signs you’re healing from narcissistic abuse, and to hear some of the top tips experts recommend to help you work through the process.


Keep in mind that narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) doesn’t only affect romantic relationships. You might be in a relationship with somebody who has NPD in your family (i.e. “narcissistic father” or “narcissistic mother”), in a friendship, or in a romantic partnership. Acknowledging that you were in the relationship and have experienced narcissistic gaslighting is the first step you’ll need to take.

Once you acknowledge this truth, you can begin to accept that what you experienced was, in fact, emotional abuse. That means you can begin to let go of the blame you might be putting on yourself. Denial is a form of self-protection, and it’s perfectly normal that you might resist acknowledgement about the relationship in the beginning. That said, you do need to accept the reality so you can heal.

Set Boundaries

Once you’ve come to terms with the fact that the relationship was unhealthy, you’re ready to take the next steps in learning how to heal from narcissistic abuse. Setting healthy relationship boundaries is key here. 

Start With No-Contact (If Possible)

Typically, setting firm boundaries and cutting off contact is recommended at the end of any abusive relationship. Keep in mind that the no-contact rule goes both ways. At first, it might be hard for you to set that boundary and stick to it. Part of a narcissistic relationship includes promises of change and highs in the relationship that you might be tempted to try and recapture. Boundaries can help you resist going back. 

If cutting off all contact isn’t possible — maybe children are part of the equation, or it’s a close narcissistic family member that you’ll still occasionally have contact with — setting firm boundaries about what’s acceptable for you is important. Remember to not only inform them of the boundary, but to also let them know what the consequence will be if they can’t respect it. For example, you might tell them “I’ll see you during this time/event, but if you can’t respect my wishes [remind them of the boundaries you set], I will leave.”

Be Specific

Whether you’re setting boundaries with parents, a friend, or partner, it’s very important to be specific about what boundaries you consider necessary. This might include insisting they don’t share any personal information about you with anyone else. It might be something like they can only contact you via an email address you set up just for their communication. It might be that they can’t yell at you or talk down to you. Your boundaries are yours. You have every right to set them and be firm about them. 

Seek Help from Professionals

“When you are dealing with narcissistic abuse, it is essential that you look for professional help; they have the knowledge and experience to help you heal, and you do not have to do this alone.”

Talkspace therapist Cynthia V. Catchings, LCSW-S

Therapists can use a variety of techniques to help you. Online cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is an effective type of therapy that’s often used to help people when they’re on the road to narcissistic abuse recovery. Working with a therapist, you can begin to:

  • Identify the reasons why you accept abuse
  • Build coping skills to help you navigate abusive relationships
  • Resist the urge to remain in contact with somebody who’s abusive
  • Become open and honest with others in your life about the abuse you’ve experienced
  • Figure out if symptoms of anxiety, depression, or another mental health condition might be coming into play
  • Deal with and overcome any thoughts you might be having about self-harm or suicide

“Clinicians that specialize in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and personality disorders are trained to deal with narcissistic abuse issues. It is important that you see the right professional to make sure that you get the best help possible.”

Talkspace therapist Cynthia V. Catchings, LCSW-S

Practice Self-Compassion

Self-compassion can be instrumental in learning how to heal from narcissistic abuse. You might find that your first reaction is to blame yourself. It may take some time for you to stop critiquing your own behaviors that contributed to the relationship.Remind yourself that how someone treats you is not your fault. Reward yourself for finally getting to a place where you can heal and get out of the situation. Recognize the signs you’re healing from narcissistic abuse as you see them. Above all, be proud of how far you’ve come. One day, you’ll find that you’re able to forgive yourself instead of judging yourself for the past.It might help to create some mantras to use when you start to feel down. Remembering that you’re strong, that you deserve love, and that you’re brave for getting out of the relationship, can all help you heal.

Be Patient

Even the best relationships can be difficult at times. When you’re recovering from a relationship that included narcissistic abuse, things can be even more challenging. Be patient with yourself and be patient with the healing process. 

As time goes on, you’ll find you can start to let go of the relationship and move forward. Eventually, you’ll get to a place where you believe that you deserve healthy and positive relationships in your life. Patience will be key in your recovery.

Exercise Self-Care

Taking care of yourself can be beneficial in many ways. It’s always important to practice self-care, but especially when you’re healing from narcissistic abuse, being kind to yourself is essential. 

Self-care is doing things that help you meet your own physical and emotional needs. Our mind and body are connected, so working on both areas of your life can help you feel stronger, braver, healthier, and more ready to take on the world. You might focus on:

  • Paying attention to your stress level
  • Getting enough sleep
  • Eating healthy
  • Taking the time to do things you enjoy
  • Connecting or reconnecting with people in your life who are positive  
  • Getting physical activity in your day
  • Using the coping skills you learn in therapy to help you manage your relationships
  • Practicing mindfulness, yoga, or other relaxation techniques

Lean on Support from Loved Ones

There may not be another time in your life where you need more support from your loved ones than when you’re getting out of a toxic or narcissistic relationship. Opening up about the abuse and asking for help can not only be good for your healing, it can also help you begin to reestablish trust in others. The healing process can be lonely, but the people in your life who love you and want to support you can:

  • Give you the compassion you’ve been lacking
  • Distract you
  • Keep you busy on especially difficult days
  • Validate your pain
  • Continuously remind you that this isn’t your fault

If you don’t have anyone in your life who can offer the support you need, consider reaching out to a support group where you can be with like-minded people who understand what you’ve gone through and where you’re at right now.

“If you do not know where to start, look online, ask a school counselor, or talk to someone you trust that has been in therapy before. They can guide you to find the right professional for you.”

Talkspace therapist Cynthia V. Catchings, LCSW-S

Any form of abuse in your life is unacceptable. You deserve to be surrounded by loving, positive, nurturing people. If you’ve recently gotten out of a toxic relationship, finding signs you’re healing from narcissistic abuse can be one way you motivate yourself to keep going. From getting professional help, to leaning on your loved ones, to focusing on self-care…you now have the tools you need to heal, and that’s a pretty good place for you to be.  

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How to Heal From a Narcissistic Relationship, According to a TherapistHelloGiggles

Breaking up with someone is already a painful experience. But if your partner is a narcissist? It can be even more emotionally devastating. According to New York-based psychotherapist Maria Bautista, LCSW-R, the toxic partnership was likely marked with instances of belittlement, gaslighting, criticism, manipulation, superficiality, and a lack of empathy.

Looking back on the aftermath of a complicated relationship can be psychologically distressing because of those harmful behaviors. It can feel crazy-making (aka a behavior that sounds logical but actually makes no sense) to retract their lies, grandiosity, and manipulative delusions to sift through what was fiction and what was real.

As a result, you might want to quickly put your ex behind you or minimize their impact to move on, but those relational wounds don’t easily go away. Later on, it’ll just show up as a stumbling block to hinder authentic connection, or worse, ensnare you in another narcissistic relationship to repeat a familiar cycle.

For the sake of your emotional well-being and future connections, it’s wise to structure out a gentle adjustment period to recover from a narcissistic relationship. Here are some therapist-approved steps to begin the journey of healing and positively move forward to rebuild a contained, powerful sense of self.

1. Remember why the relationship needed to end and set clear boundaries.

Dating a narcissistic person comes with a host of problems (entitlement, superiority, false image projection, intense need for control, inability to take responsibility, etc.) that are not your issues to co-manage. Love and your best intentions can’t fix their behavior, it’s up to them to see it as a problem and want to change themselves. Bautista affirms, “Ending the relationship is the best recourse if your partner has shown no interest in fulfilling your needs and expectations in the dynamic. It may even require you taking the extra step of blocking the narcissistic partner on all social media platforms and ceasing communication [altogether].”

They might not accept your perception of the relationship because they’ll be so busy defending their actions but remember: They no longer have to validate you. Your truth is good enough. Narcissistic partners are notoriously skilled at generating doubt to shift blame but don’t let their manipulations make you second-guess yourself.

2. Develop self-regulating tactics to soothe yourself and practice self-care. 

It’s incredibly taxing to be in a relationship where you’re constantly walking on eggshells to avoid potential disapproval or anger. Your parasympathetic nervous system might have been working overtime in its hyper-vigilance to protect yourself. Gently soothe your overworked signals by leaning on mindfulness, deep breathing, somatic body-work, journaling, and meditation to recalibrate.

During your post-breakup recovery, do lots of self-maintenance without shame, from listening to weepy music to watching cliché rom-coms to eating endless amounts of ice-cream to crying yourself to sleep on the couch. Use every self-care tool at your disposal because you’ll need it to acknowledge what you went through to go through the feels.

You may feel uncomfortable and messy emotions might arise, so be extra-compassionate to yourself while you are processing. Try not to obsess over it and instead work on releasing whatever comes up. The endless rumination won’t lead you towards enlightenment, only to more confusion.

3. Take up space and reconnect to yourself. 

Narcissists and their needs take center-stage, which naturally pushes yours to the sidelines. If they imposed their ideas of how they want you to be in the relationship, you probably changed your looks, altered the way you carried yourself, or repressed certain personality traits to please them.

To find yourself again, expand your world through regaining emotional safety, taking up neglected hobbies, and reaching out to loved ones. Bautista recommends expressing your needs freely and practicing them with your loved ones. “Remind yourself that it is okay to share your thoughts, wants, and desires with your partner. Please do not forget to remind yourself that you deserve to be treated well and establish firm boundaries for undesirable behaviors,” she says.

4. Understand why you found them attractive in the first place. 

In the beginning, narcissistic people are seemingly captivating, affectionate, and attentive. Their charm is what makes them alluring, which is why it makes it that much more disorienting when the rug gets pulled from under your feet and you realize that’s not who they really are. “Some reasons people are attracted to narcissists might be because narcissists value themselves highly thus appearing irresistible to others. This value, as superficial as it may be, places them ‘above’ others in an egotistical way. Some adaptive traits possessed by narcissists, like self-independence, confidence, and ambition, are attractive to those seeking a partner,” Bautista notes.

“At the start of the relationship, they are solely focused on their partner, making them feel as if they are the most important person in their world. This might lead to overly complimenting, which might be short-lived should their partner become too attached to them. The undesirable/destructive narcissistic traits such as entitlement, manipulative and controlling behavior, arrogance, and lack of empathy do not appear until much later after their attractive traits have won you over,” she further explains.

5. Stay grounded in yourself and your new self-awareness. 

Bautista points out that the most effective way of breaking the cycle is to recognize it from the beginning. She suggests checking in with yourself and identifying unconscious motives that might have influenced your partner selection. “See what it means about your own sense of worth from being involved with someone who has a commanding presence. People-pleasing patterns are also deserving of exploration,” Bautista says.

“We have to learn how to consistently love ourselves and honor our own boundaries. Only then we’ll be able to identify how we do not want to be treated,” she adds.

Kim Saeed. How to overcome the excruciating pain of rejection?

At first it seems impossible to recover from a relationship in which you were abandoned by a narcissist or left him because of manipulation and emotional/financial abuse.

By the time the relationship ended, you already felt unworthy of affection, loyalty, or happiness. Everything for which he fell in love with you at first, suddenly turned into your shortcomings. You constantly had to justify your thoughts and actions, even the most innocent ones. nine0003

The pain you feel is caused by rejection, rejection, feelings of unworthiness, unattractiveness, you feel that no one else will want to associate with you, except for money or sex, and that even your friends and family members do not like you. You are obsessed with your ex-partner, you feel unbearable, irrepressible pain day and night, you endlessly ask yourself the question: maybe you didn’t do everything in order to keep his love and “save” the relationship, or did something wrong? Some victims are so broken that they accept back their partner who is having fun with other lovers and allow the narcissist to keep himself as a fallback to satisfy his whims. nine0003

I know this pain. I felt it every day for a year. I didn't feel relieved until I started using Altered Contact and realized that none of the things my ex told me about were true. Then I did a lot of work on myself to change my own thinking, when the memory brought me back to incidents that made me feel terrible - according to how my former partner assessed me. nine0003

I will describe what I did to be healed. Maybe some of my suggestions will be useful to you, or maybe you will experiment with other methods. However, the first and only universal step to healing is Breaking Contact (making Changed Contact). I get a lot of emails from victims who are convinced they have cut contact, despite the fact that their ex is still sending them emails, texts, or social media messages. That is why they cannot be healed. (If you actually ended contact properly, your ex wouldn't be able to call or text you.) If you didn't break contact, you can go back to the "Behind the Curtain" strategy. nine0003

Step #1 – Breaking Contact

If you are still allowing your abuser to contact you, the first thing you should do is break contact. If you do not have children together, then there is no reason to leave open channels of communication with him. Victims often convince themselves that they have real reasons to keep in touch, but if they do, then it is only your choice and you must understand that healing will not begin while you still have a connection with the abuser. Then all the same ones will follow - Suction, Depreciation, Rejection, and so on ad infinitum ...

If you are an Altered Contact (those who have to live with or tolerate visits from a narcissist because of their children), you can too easily slip into discussions of the past or other non-children related topics. Do not do that. For the narcissist, this situation is one type of narcissistic resource that also forces you to defend yourself in order to regain a sense of security that you will never get in contact with a narcissist. You must give yourself protection. How? You can read the article ( nine0003

Is it so difficult to cut contact? Yes. Quite possibly, this is the most difficult thing you will do in your life because you are probably still in love with the narcissist. I loved. But later I discovered that what I thought was love was actually Co-PTSD: a consequence of trauma and codependency. Since my ex isolated me from friends and family, he became the center of my world. He gave me a little "support" and then withdrew it back. And I, in turn, became hypersensitive to the need for his approval. It seemed to me that if I get it, the world will collapse. While I received positive support from other people, it didn't matter, oddly enough, because it wasn't my former junkie's statements. nine0003

It is with this feeling that the narcissist leaves his victims after the end of the relationship, regardless of who initiated the breakup. Relationships are not consummated, and that is partly why you feel so painful and tormented. You lost hope, confidence, and self-esteem, and then were thrown out into the world feeling like a leper...full of dreams of accepting yourself as a narcissist, like a drug addict suffering on a new dose.

That is why you will not be healed until you break contact. As long as there is a connection with the narcissist, you continue to feel rejected. nine0003

You cannot understand that feelings of treachery, unattractiveness, failure and rejection by family and society are induced. You feel this way because you believe the words of the narcissist, but his words are illusions.

The narcissist wanted you to believe in your own negative characteristics, because only in this way can he shift the blame for all of you, and at the same time convince you that you really made mistakes!

It may seem to you that there are some real facts that support the claims of the narcissist. Perhaps your family really stopped communicating with you, but only after you yourself left it? Have you been angry with family members because they tried to tell you that a relationship with a narcissist is bad news? Were they appalled that your children had to endure mistreatment from a narcissist? I'm willing to bet that once you break up with your abuser for good, your relationship with your family will improve. It may take some time and cost you some effort, but it can happen (and usually does). nine0003

Or maybe you've put on too much weight and that's why you think that no one will look at you anymore (as the narcissist pointed out venomously)? You may have actually put on a few pounds, but this happens very often with victims of narcissistic abuse. Due to a state of constant psychological stress, the thyroid gland and adrenal glands suffer, you have insomnia and elevated cortisol levels - naturally, you gain weight. Some people eat emotional experiences, which also adds extra pounds to them. But all this can be fixed. It is important to understand that the biggest catalyst for your weight gain was the daffodil. Eliminate this factor, and in the end, those extra pounds will go away by themselves. nine0003

It is important to remember what you were like before you met the narcissist. This is the real you. The person you think you are now is the result of the narcissist's influence. Have you ever heard of a person leaving or leaving a narcissist and still feel attractive, successful, popular, and a great parent? No, no one feels that way. ..because the narcissist's main goal is to make his victims feel just the opposite. Once you break contact and realize that the narcissist's purpose was to humiliate you, the MIST will begin to dissipate and the path for healing will open. nine0003

These are the general characteristics of all victims of narcissistic abuse. However, contrary to popular belief, we should not suppress our anger by driving it deep into the subconscious. And we have nothing to be ashamed of. Acknowledging and accepting your own anger is the first step to effectively processing it. In fact, if we suppress our anger, it may not lead to serious mental health problems, go into somatics, provoke us to lash out at the people we love. nine0003

Thus, narcissistic abuse is both a catalyst for anger and anger itself. At some stage, you realized that everything in your relationship was a lie, that you were used, controlled, bent and shamed. Your love, devotion, and acceptance that you gave the narcissist were not only taken for granted, but your abuser ultimately mocked those feelings. This is partly why you hated yourself for being a good person, and partly why anger at a narcissist is so hard to overcome. nine0003

You can look at the demon of anger from different angles. Working with anger involves finding repeatable strategies that allow us to recognize, express, and manage it safely. The following is not a comprehensive list, but some ideas for working on yourself.

1) Emotional/angry addiction. Are you constantly mentally angry with yourself? Have you developed an addiction to feeling angry, hurt and/or scared? When we get out of a narcissistic relationship, we get hooked on “sacrifice” peptides that produce sensations in our body similar to those we experienced in a relationship with an abuser. Here's how it works. The hypothalamus produces peptides that reflect every emotion we experience. These peptides irritate the corresponding receptors in the cells. A single cell can have thousands of receptors, and each receptor responds to specific chemicals. When the receptor perceives the peptide, it can change the cell nucleus and cause physical manifestations of emotion. The production of the anger peptide and its receipt by the receptor can change the cell at the time of experiencing anger, rage and fear. Over a long period of time, the victim develops addiction to such peptides. To maintain homeostasis, they need to be produced in larger quantities. When a relationship with a narcissist ends abruptly, the breakdown begins. It often happens like this: we mistake for anger towards the narcissist what is actually a physiological / subconscious attempt to insult ourselves again in order to maintain an acceptable level of “sacrificial” peptides. nine0003

What to do. To overcome physical addiction to "sacrificial" peptides, you need to reprogram yourself again. Every time you feel the need to blame yourself, obsessing over what the narcissist did to you, stop yourself consciously. You can do it in different ways. For example, wear a rubber band on your wrist, and when you have an obsessive thought, abruptly remove it, write this thought on a piece of paper, crumple and discard the piece of paper, replacing the negative thought with a positive one (If you want to know more about this, read the post http:// letmereach. com/2014/04/23/narc-recovery-boot-camp/)/ ). If these methods do not work despite your constant efforts, see a doctor, because your anger may be a sign of neurosis. nine0003

2) Wrong direction of anger. We feel intense anger at the narcissist, but often we actually project their own anger onto ourselves. It can be difficult to admit, but perhaps at some point you realized that the narcissist would not change. And at the same time they continued to do something in order to achieve a certain result. You kept looking at the relationship with your own eyes in the hope that the narcissist would finally admit that he had hurt you. However, as I recently explained to one of my followers, the narcissist has absolutely no boundaries. In fact, he doesn't even understand what it is. He is an absolute consumer without any reflection on how his actions affect others. Waiting for this from him is the same as hoping that the crocodile will learn the basics of etiquette. From this position, we can be angry with the crocodile for eating the duckling. Yes, it's terrible, but such is the nature of the crocodile. It's the same with the narcissist. nine0003

What to do. Accept your share of responsibility in the relationship and start working on self-forgiveness. You may have been kept in a relationship with an abusive narcissist by very deep subconscious processes that originated in childhood. Have a look at my post ( to see if any of the listed statements are related with your situation.

3) Healing Shame. What you perceive as anger may actually be your subconscious mind's attempt to deal with feelings of shame. At the heart of this lies the inner experience of “needlessness”, a feeling of uselessness, rejection and abandonment. Please read Robert Caldwell's Shame Healing ( to understand how shame binds us and how we can free ourselves from it. Watch Bryn Brown's "Listening to Shame" video (available at http://letmereach. com). nine0003

Healing from emotional abuse takes effort. During this period, it is easy to resort to destructive behaviors such as substance abuse, alcohol abuse, which will only worsen your depression and feelings of hopelessness. During this period, do not trust people who have not demonstrated compassion in the past. Look for support groups in your neighborhood or contact a domestic violence center. There you will be offered constructive ways to deal with feelings of anger.

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Narcissists see the world through a selfish lens, always want to be the center of attention and manipulate others to get their way. Simply put, they are the exact opposite of what a loving and caring partner looks like. Narcissists often succeed in destroying a person's confidence and self-esteem and making their victim feel guilty. In fact, anyone who has ever dated a narcissist knows how exhausting and dangerous it can be. Even if you managed to end a relationship with such a person, it will not be easy for you to recover. Today we will show you how to do it! nine0003

Is it easy to recognize a narcissist?

Sexologist and relationship coach Ness Cooper says: “Dating a narcissist can affect a person in many ways, and this can lead to them losing their sense of their own identity. This can have an indirect effect on self-esteem and self-confidence, and as narcissists go from gaslighting to love bombardment, it can make a person question their inner world and worldview.”

It's not easy to recognize a narcissist at the initial stages of a relationship! This person captivates with romance and love on first dates, but you will soon notice self-centeredness and manipulation. nine0003

Writer Karin Walker notes, “You often don't realize you're dating a narcissist unless you're aware of the pattern. It seems to you that you have met your soul mate - he has the same interests, and he puts you on a pedestal, making you feel like the most important person in the world. Unfortunately, this is the “love bombardment” stage, quickly followed by the “devaluation and rejection” stage, which is inevitable and part of their behavior cycle.”

Narcissists are also drawn to empathetic people, the very trait they lack. And they will take full advantage of these loving and caring partners! Being bombarded with love and appreciated is addictive — so many people just want to be appreciated and loved, notes relationship therapist Heather Garbutt. nine0003

There are so many reasons a relationship with a narcissist can be so destructive, from the effect it has on confidence and self-esteem, to how people can lose control of reality through manipulation and gaslighting. You recently stopped dating or ended a relationship with a narcissist and want to know how to start the healing process, experts share important things to keep in mind to avoid lasting problems!

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It may be tempting to try to skip certain areas that have been negatively affected, but it is often better to work through them, especially before making new life changes after the relationship has ended. Sometimes getting more help from a specialist can be a good move, as some areas can be more difficult than others. This is where a trauma therapist can help.

Go through the stages of grief (and other feelings)

Understand that although the relationship has been toxic, you may still have to go through stages of grief when you leave. Ness Cooper emphasizes that experiencing negative feelings is essential to the healing process. Psychologist-consultant Elena Turoni supports this position.

She says: “Feel all the feelings - as with any breakup, it is important to be gentle and kind to yourself. Allow yourself to experience everything, even if it hurts."

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Put yourself in first place again

To heal from such relationships , you need to get back to yourself, listen to your feelings and needs - do all the things that previously gave you pleasure and strengthened your personality.

The whole point is that a person who is in a relationship with a narcissist, his needs will never come first. Elena Turoni explains: “A person with strong narcissistic traits lacks empathy, which is a basic component of any healthy relationship. Because of this, the relationship will be very one-sided, focusing on meeting his needs without paying attention to yours. Over time, relationships will become extremely draining and will undermine your self-esteem. It is vital to re-prioritize what you want, need and deserve. nine0003

Find yourself

When you're dating or in a relationship, it can be easy to lose yourself and fixate on your partner. This happens all the time in a relationship with a narcissist.

And that means that part of the healing process will involve rediscovering your identity. Regain those parts of yourself that you think you may have "lost" in relationships - people with narcissistic traits are often critical and sometimes overly controlling of their partners. Focus on reconnecting with yourself—your identity, your wants and needs. This may include rediscovering old forms of self-care and things that used to make you feel happy. nine0003

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Install new boundaries and rules

Learning to set new boundaries and rules is critical to overcoming the damage of dating a narcissist. Ness notes, "This search will make you feel safe, which is essential during the recovery phase. You have to try and fail, but it will allow you to know exactly what boundaries you need - and will be an important step on the path to healing." nine0003

Lean on others

The narcissist may have cut you off from loved ones or opposed your relationships with family and friends. So it's a good idea to rebuild that connection after a breakup - and reach out to those people for support. They will help you when you need a distraction, deal with the problems you may be facing.”

Seek professional help

Relationships with a narcissist can lead to problems such as post-traumatic stress disorder, depression, or anxiety, so talking to a professional can help you come to terms with their behavior and feel better about yourself. nine0003

Dr. Supriya McKenna, general practitioner and narcissistic abuse recovery expert, says, “If you have dated a narcissist, you have been 'narcissistically abused', but you may not have realized it because this type of abuse is incredibly dangerous, but hidden!

Yes, it is always hidden psychological abuse, although there may be a physical component as well. You will be made to believe that you are not good enough, you will be criticized and humiliated. One day you will simply find that all you do in your life is trying to please your soulmate! nine0003

You will try to love this person even more, you will give him more and more time, attention, but this will never be enough for a narcissist! Psychologists say that this inevitably leads to self-blame and low self-esteem in the victims, people report that they feel only a “shell” of their former self.

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