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Six ways to make him fall deeply in love, marry you

Numerous Nigerian women enter relationships for various reasons—some date with the sole purpose of one day being addressed by their boyfriend’s surname.

At the same time, many do so in exchange for temporary companionship and some material advantages.

It can be challenging at times to date a Nigerian man. This is true, in that, despite a thousand men who would be the ideal match for you as your perfect husband, more than half of them would not be interested in exchanging marital vows.

So, no matter how long you date them, they show little or no sign of someday asking, “Will you marry me?”

Before you start worrying and blaming your village people for your delayed marriage proposal, here are six ways to get your boyfriend to love you more and marry you in less than a year.

Understanding him

Understanding is the cornerstone of every successful relationship. Finding common ground and fostering tolerance is only possible when two people in a relationship understand each another.

Therefore, try understanding your boyfriend if you’re a lady reading this. This could entail paying attention to his behaviour and emotions, getting him to open up about his likes and dislikes, and making a list of his strengths and weaknesses. You have a better chance of preserving a healthy, conflict-free relationship if you do this.

Additionally, trust us when we say that men prefer to marry women who get them.

Be yourself

It’s crucial to stay true to yourself in a world where anyone can create a false identity with just a smartphone and a social media account.

As corny as it may sound, you are the only person in the world, so embrace that. Do not let social media or peer pressure cause you to adopt a different personality.

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While it may appear men favour women with fake personalities, the truth is that when it comes to choosing a wife, men prefer someone genuine and proud to be herself.

Don’t be afraid to express your true feelings and live your truth if you’re dating a guy. As a result, you become closer and speak more.

Communicate more

Without communication, what exactly is a relationship? Try to communicate with your boyfriend frequently, either by calling or texting.

Though it might seem like your boyfriend should always check in on you, you should occasionally make the call to check on him. Doing this shows him that you genuinely care about him.

Furthermore, let’s face it, all men desire to be taken care of, even if this requires them getting married.

Trust him

One of the reasons relationships do not lead to marriage or fail within their first year is a lack of trust.

When you date your boyfriend, and there is no trust between you two, it will only worsen when you get married. So start to try to have more faith in him, deliberately.

For instance, if you are the type of girlfriend who has trouble believing your boyfriend when he says he is working late, take some time to consider how you can have faith in his honesty. In a way, it demonstrates your love for him and that you believe everything he says to be accurate, assuring him that there would not be any third-party conflicts.

Embrace his family, friends, and hobbies,

Always remember that when you marry a man, you also indirectly marry his family and friends. Because of this, you must embrace them and build a strong bond with them.

Listen, there’s a good chance that despite his willingness to propose, your boyfriend is reluctant because he worries about how you might treat his family and friends. However, if you are friendly and welcoming to them, it will give him the confidence to provide you with his last name.

Additionally, you could make an effort to support his interests. For instance, even though you may find football appealing, you could keep your boyfriend company while he watches a game whenever he has friends over..

Encourage him

Nigerian men may present a tough exterior, but they secretly long for someone’s love and support, especially from their girlfriend.

Ask your boyfriend what’s wrong and tell him not to worry if you notice a sudden change in his mood rather than acting out. It also motivates him if he has a great business idea or plan.

The point is to consistently show him your support and encouragement through your words and actions.

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50 Things That Make A Man Want To Marry You (The Ultimate Guide To Understanding A Man's Commitment)

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#1.

Do what he asks you to do, without question – If a man asks you for a favor, and you question him and say “why”…he will instantly feel like you just don’t want to do it. If you have to ask him why, it sounds like you need him to CONVINCE you to do it.If he has to convince you to do things, do you really understand him?#2. Maintain yourself – Men are visual, which means if you let yourself go, he will lose interest. He doesn’t want to commit to a woman who is only going to get worse. Maintain yourself physically and health wise, to prove you are willing to be the best you can be for him.

#3. Trust him – Don’t be scared that he’s going to run off with some other woman, or that he’s lying to you about everything.

#4. Regularly give him space – Every guy wants time alone. We all need our personal space, and it’s better if you can give that to him without him having to ask for it or beg you. Do it naturally, and he will appreciate you and think you are marriage material.

#5. Be there for him, even if he says nothing about the problem – Show you are supportive of him, by BEING there; WITHOUT questioning him on the problem.

#6. Be financially dependent – It can help a man to know that you aren’t going to take every last penny he has.Some men fear marriage, because they are afraid of losing all of their money (in a divorce, or even just because of a wife’s spending).

#7. Compliment him

#8. Learn his insecurities – It’s not something people walk around talking about, but sometimes a man hints that he is insecure about something, so that you can avoid the topic or avoid hurting him in the future.

#9. Don’t act out toward your man – If he says something that hurts your feelings, or if he does something you disagree with…most women’s first reactions would be to become dramatic and emotional and nag the guy. Don’t do this…because it tells him that you are a nightmare to marry, because instead of remaining calm and allowing him some room to improve, you are just lashing out at him.

#10. Accept responsibility in a fight – Every relationship has its moments where they are disagreements and fights.The difference between a healthy relationship that encourages a man to marry you, and an unhealthy marriage that pushes a man away is this: blame or responsibility.

#11. Learn to take a joke…even if its personal                                #12. Learn to take criticism – Men criticize to see improvement, and they do it in order to try to help you see things in a different light.They also criticize to try and show you a solution or a better way to do something, if they see you are struggling. This is why you should learn how to take criticism, because if you freak out every time he criticizes you, you tell him that you won’t be able to improve in the future.

#13. Be serious where it’s necessary – There’s nothing more discouraging, or annoying to a man, than a woman who does not take SERIOUS issues seriously.A serious issue is something that he considers to be important, and if you can’t take it seriously, he thinks that you don’t take HIM or yourself seriously.

#14. Keep your promises

#15. Don’t use excuses 

#16. Be COMFORTABLE around him – He wants to grab your love handles, and suddenly you are pulling away, asking him if he thinks you’re fat.You also become insecure when he wants to make love to you. Or you just struggle to open up to him. All of these things tell him that you are not comfortable around him, make him feel insecure, and make him QUESTION the point of marrying you.

#17. Show love with ACTION – Sure, you said you love him; but words only get you so far. He wants to see you SHOWING it with your actions. #18. Don’t be afraid to draw the lines 

#19. Show appreciation 

#20. Encourage him to succeed daily 

#21. Take his problem solving advice 

#22. Be calm when he is stressed – When a man is stressed it can be a HUGE problem, because he acts out of character, is unpredictable, may lash out at you, and may withdraw.BUT, instead of blaming him and arguing, just be calm and let the storm pass. He needs to know that you UNDERSTAND him in that area, and doesn’t need a woman who makes it all about “herself” when he has something stressful going on.

#23. Use the things he gives you 

#24. Do FOR him before you ask OF him

#25. Disagree without disappointment – There will be differences, BUT the main issue is how you HANDLE the differences between each other. If you handle disagreements by arguing and becoming disappointed when you don’t take his side, you are showing him that you are emotionally immature. But, if you disagree without feeling disappointed, you show him that you can respect his opinion, even if you don’t think its right for you.

#26. Ask when you don’t know – If you’re afraid to ask him something, how will he ever feel like he can truly communicate to you? Not only this, but if you never ask him the things you are curious about, you’ll often end up looking for answers on your own, which leads to assumptions.

#27. Don’t pressure him 

#28. Respect him – If he has boundaries, don’t cross them.If he values privacy in certain areas, observe it. If there is something you dislike about him, don’t go complaining to your family and girlfriends about it, behind his back. There are many examples, but the main point is that you RESPECT him, so that he can feel valued, appreciated, and upheld.

#29. MAINTAIN his interest – Marriage is a LONG-term relationship, which means that you will consciously have to make efforts to keep his interest. You won’t be able to keep his interest if he knows EVERYTHING about you, and nothing changes. This is why it’s important to learn new things, new skills, and to create a life outside the relationship so that you have things to keep and spark his interest.

#30. Learn from your mistakes 

#31. Understand your emotions 

#32. Evaluate yourself regularly – A guy doesn’t always want to have to point out everything that you’re doing wrong, or your flaws, or mistakes…because you are completely oblivious to them and have to ask him what’s wrong. Evaluate yourself regularly to ensure you are improving and are moving forward internally and externally.

#33. Show him that you can let things go 

#34.  Prove you are committed – Stay with him mentally, physically, and intimately no matter what.

#35. Listen to him as much as possible

He wants to be able to talk to you about anything that’s on his mind.

#36. Be able to be alone and quiet with him

#37. Let him know your expectations

#38. Challenge him 

He wants someone who can challenge him in all kinds of ways, such as challenging him to change or be better, challenging him to keep your interest etc… This keeps him glued to you, instead of having him interested in other women.

#39. Be sexually pleasing – Sex can become pretty boring, especially if you always do the same things over and over…which is a HUGE problem, because intimacy is important in a long-term relationship. Ask him what his fantasies are, learn new tricks in bed, and ultimately surprise and encourage him there, so that he feels like you’re someone who he could stay with and marry…because you don’t disappoint him in the bedroom.

#40. Divide your time elsewhere

#41. Be honest 

Remember that honesty is accepted, and even if it hurts its temporary…but lies are REJECTED, and is permanent pain, because they take away his trust in you.

#42. Trust him with your personal things

#43. Accept him 

#44. Surprise him 

The element of surprise in a relationship keeps him interested and gives him a reason to stick around for the long run, because it shows that you still have lots left to offer that he doesn’t even know about.

#45. Be spontaneous

#46. Make him laugh

As the saying goes “laughter is the best medicine” and it most definitely is an attractive trait for a “wife”.

#47. Be romantic 

#48.  Place importance above your-self where necessary – Relationships are about TWO people, not one…which is why it can’t always be about you.

#49. Know your role 

#50. Let him know that he fulfills you NOW – Men worry about whether or not they will be able to support you, keep you happy, sustain interest etc… which is why they avoid marriage and avoid the commitment topic. If you want him to marry you, let him know that everything he is doing RIGHT NOW, is exactly what is necessary to sustain you in the future, so that he sees he is truly fulfilling and pleasing you…and stops worrying about being unable to, because he’d see he already is ABLE.

7 ways to get a man to marry | Society

There is a saying that marriage is a matter of time, not a miracle. Partners need to get used to each other, to understand who is who, whether their habits coincide. But sometimes such “bridesmaids” stretch for years. However, many girls consider happy those of their girlfriends who have been toiling in a civil marriage for several years, because they themselves simply cannot find a partner!

How is the decision to marry born in the minds of men? What tricks can make a man want to start a family with you? The tips below are based on stories that were sent to us by AIF.RU readers under the heading “self-tested”.

Method No. 1 Suitable if your beloved belongs to the type of "mama's sons".

In order to succeed, you need only one thing: to meet your parents and like your mother. Prepare carefully for the show. Before going out, ask in detail about the values ​​​​and hobbies of the mother of the second half. It is better to dress for reasons of similarity with the style of your mother's clothes: either glamorous and pretentious, or modest, but tasteful. Behave not defiantly, correctly present information about yourself. If the mother of your future husband is of the “domostroevsky type”, let her know that you are from a decent family, well-educated, know how to cook, love needlework, and most importantly, do not have a soul in her son and adore children (“imagine what your son will have beautiful children, because he is incomparable!”). nine0003

An indicator of the success of your landing in the family of your future spouse will be that the mother will begin to tell you about the merits of her child. The main thing here is to agree, and strengthen the positive characteristics of your chosen one.

Control check: in a day or two, by chance, you need to ask your other half what impression you made on his mother. If the betrothed looks down and says that the impression was simply excellent, you can believe that victory will be on your side. And the head of the family herself should conduct psychological processing on the topic of marriage with your future husband. All you have to do is say “yes” and get ready to register your marriage. nine0003

Method No. 2. Make an appointment in the registry office area.

The option is suitable for the frivolous and at the same time gambling type of young people.

Inform in advance: “We are going to a glamorous party. Dress code. Entrance with passports. Of course, it is desirable that the director of the registry office be your friend and help organize the “bureaucratic side” of preparing for painting without the presence of the groom. Then your betrothed will get to the official registration itself.

But if this is not the case, then the second scenario may come up ... You seem to meet by chance at the registry office, go into it ... Then the decisive phrase should sound (it is important to say it with sincere enthusiasm, but at the same time confidently): “ I have a request to you: only it must be kept secret. I suggest you apply now. When we sign, we will arrange a party at home and announce! I take care of the expenses! All of us will be surprised!” nine0003

It is important here that the appointment takes place during the opening hours of the wedding palace. Check the schedule in advance. If your chosen one is adventurous enough and you didn’t have time to get bored with him, then he will easily submit an application with you.

The main thing is that a month and a half before registration your beloved does not lose the desire to get married. Don't pester him with questions and brainwashing. Otherwise, you cannot avoid the variant of Gogol's "Marriage": the "candidate" will disappear from sight.

Method No. 3. Designed for a careerist. Suitable for men who already occupy a serious position in the company.

A marriage proposal must be constructive and clearly thought out. The main thing is that your concern for the advancement in the career of your chosen one should sound in it. It is important to emphasize that a change in the status of an employee will immediately raise him in the eyes of the founders of the company. Like, the ring on the hand is a symbol of the fact that a person is a stronghold of reliability, and then promotion cannot be avoided. nine0003

Create a verbal business plan model for your painting: stipulate that everything can be done without the additional expense of limousines, a banquet and puffy dresses. Agree that photos from the supposedly magnificent celebration will be cheaply made by a familiar bild editor using magical Photoshop.

If the partner agrees, you must know the answer to the question of when, where and what time you can apply and how long the process of standing in lines will take.

Method No. 4: "Honey, there will be three of us!" nine0006

Honestly, this is the oldest, but one of the most dangerous ways to get a man to marry. If your chosen one is of the playboy type, then he is unlikely to be pleased with the news that he will soon become a dad. The news instantly leaves an imprint of tragedy and "commitment" to cohabitation. The more unpredictable will be the accomplished spouse if the news of the pregnancy turns out to be a fiction. Proven over the years, this method revealed one thing: it does not bring happiness to a newly-made family, and sooner or later a break in relations awaits. nine0003

Note: the situation becomes reversed if it is known that your chosen one has been married for a long time, but the spouse for some reason could not have children.

Method No. 5: “Why are we worse than others?”

This option is suitable if the couples from your environment have already signed without exception. Here it is enough to reason with the partner that “only your union remained unregistered”, that you “may have “everything like people”. nine0003

It is important here that your chosen one does not have the experience of attending wedding celebrations, because this, as a rule, discourages the desire to get married for a long time.

Method No. 6: “The end of the world is coming soon!”. Suitable for romantic, addicted natures.

If your chosen one is even slightly interested in world news, then he cannot but know that the Large Hadron Collider will be launched in the spring. It is important to have time to apply before the spring of next year. Under the slogan "live is not long, so let's spend these days to the fullest", feel free to go to the registry office. nine0003

Note: most importantly, do not let your chosen one read the AIF. RU interview with Professor Nikolai Dremin that launching a giant device is absolutely safe.

Method number 7: "I love you and I want us to have a real family"

And, finally, the most honest way to marry is for love. If you are sure that you want to live with your partner until the end of your days (and, by the way, be buried next to him, but it’s better not to tell him about this), then confirm not only with words, but also with actions that you are an ideal wife for him. nine0003

That's when you can discuss the possibility of creating an official family. But, of course, it is better if in this case your betrothed will be the initiator of the conversation. This, as you know, requires a classic of the genre.

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How to make a man marry you?

Relationships

How to make a man marry you?

The best way to make a man think about marriage is to pretend that you are absolutely not interested in it. ..

Most women tend to force things and push their men to get married. Why they do this is not clear, but this trend is very common. Most often, it is women who act as hunters, and men as their victims, who are trying in every possible way to evade their pursuers. Thus, the correct behavioral model is violated, and women and men change places, leaving each other to play other people's roles. nine0003

Taking an aggressive offensive position, women wonder why their men are so passive and indecisive when they themselves are directly to blame for such behavior on the part of the stronger sex. In order for your SAM companion to become interested in the theme of the wedding, try to slightly change the tactics and model of your behavior and see what happens ...

Practice not ordinary civil, but guest marriage

. Firstly, relationships very quickly turn into a habit and slowly self-destruct due to everyday life and the same actions repeated day after day. When you live under the same roof, you deprive yourself of pleasant and exciting dates and the opportunity to relax from each other. You go out together less often because you know that every night you will find each other on the couch at home. In connection with all this, you inevitably begin to perceive each other as a given and part of the interior, which also does not affect your union very well. In civil relations, a man becomes the owner of all the advantages of marriage without his official conclusion, which also deprives him of the necessary motivation to a fairly decent extent. Therefore, a guest marriage (marriage when people meet periodically, but do not live together) is the optimally profitable and correct solution - and even for those who have an official stamp in their passport. This type of relationship is practiced by many famous people, for example, Vladimir Vysotsky and Marina Vlady lived in a guest marriage for 12 years. Due to the fact that she lived in Paris, and he lived in Moscow, and they were connected only by tender and always long-awaited meetings and a joint vacation, this couple managed to keep their feelings and passion in their original pure form. nine0003

Voice your informal views

To make a man understand that you have no cunning plan to make him your husband at all costs, say out loud more often that you never wanted to tie the knot. That you, like no one else, value your freedom and perfectly understand its significance for a man. Try to control your emotions and delight when talking about the weddings of friends and girlfriends so that your man does not suspect you of being illogical. It is possible and necessary to discuss other people's weddings, but soberly, adequately and a little indifferently. A frantic desire to get you as a wife in a man should arise naturally, and not by force. So it will be more pleasant for everyone. nine0003

Give small reasons for jealousy

Of course, it’s not very good to make your man worry in vain and give reasons to doubt his fidelity, but rare, barely perceptible, injections of jealousy can serve as a very useful acupuncture that promotes reassessment of values, as well as reassessment you in his eyes. Nobody says that you need to carry out a stormy SMS correspondence with another man in front of your beloved man, but to say that you were given flowers at work (but you, unfortunately, don’t know who), is very possible. The more men who want to get you, the better: the representatives of the stronger sex always want to have the one whom others dream of, and if she is next to him, this is a weighty argument to feel like a full-fledged accomplished male. nine0003

Tell friends and acquaintances about weddings

Talking about problems has always been considered by psychologists as a good way of self-rehabilitation. Perhaps a leisurely conversation on the topic of what and how someone went through will help your beloved man be less afraid of the wedding ceremony and allow him to mentally imagine himself in the place of the groom being discussed. The main thing is not to stoop to reproaches and questions like: “But when will we get married?”. Men are like children who always want to answer “yes” with “no”, and vice versa. Therefore, try to be cold-blooded, a little distant and defiantly uninterested. nine0003

Demonstrate your feminine qualities

In order for a man to want to marry you, you must show that you can handle the role of a wife better than anyone else. Despite the fact that it is the 21st century, traditional eternal qualities are still valued in women: warmth, housekeeping, the ability to cook, love for children, respect for relatives, etc. If you visit his family, try be a real woman: try to be a sincere companion for his mother, a mischievous prankster for his little nephews and a good friend for his sister. Seeing the disposition of his relatives towards you, a man thus receives their tacit consent to your marriage, and it will be much easier for him to decide on it if you easily and naturally join his traditional way of life and family in advance. nine0003

Make him feel the benefits of marriage

And oddly enough, there are benefits to marriage.

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