Friendship conversation starters

168 Questions to Ask Friends That Are Fun, Personal, and Deep


Time for a BFF quiz.

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Ready to achieve BFF status? Take your friendship to the next level with these fun, personal, and juicy questions to ask friends.

No matter how many years you’ve known your friend, there’s always something new to discover about your BFF. And part of being a best friend, means finding new ways to show you care. Friendship questions are the perfect way of building on an already stellar friendship.

Quiz your pals with deep questions that allow you to understand what makes them tick. You can also find out more about their personality with fun questions that cover the basics, like favorite Hollywood superstar and current Netflix obsession. We’ve rounded up some of the best questions to ask friends, ranging from silly to serious, that are sure to bring out all the feels and spark a stronger bond.

But of course, your BFF didn’t become your ride or die overnight. Knowing what kinds of questions to ask your friend group, including your newest friends, will help you cultivate closeness with everyone in your circle. You’ll find the deep questions to ask a new friend are perfect for a bond that’s just beginning.

So, grab your bestie for a best friend questions video date, or pull up this list of 168 questions the next time you’re hanging with your friend group. You’ll be surprised by how much there is to learn about people, no matter how far into the friendship you are!

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Personal questions to ask friends

Fun questions to ask friends

Juicy questions to ask friends

Deep questions to ask a new friend

Personal questions to ask friends

1. What embarrasses you the most and/or what’s been your most embarrassing moment?

2. Who do you look up to the most, and what qualities do you love about that person?

3. What’s your biggest fear?

4. What’s your love language?

5. How do you like to be comforted when you’re sad or upset?

6. What’s your all-time favorite memory?

7. Who was the last person to make you cry and why?

8. Where do you hope to be five years from now? Ten? Fifteen?

9. When have you felt the most proud?

10. When have you felt the most challenged?

11. Have you ever been bullied?

12. Do you have any regrets? If so, what are they?

13. Out of all your family members, who are you closest to?

14. What’s one thing most people don’t know about you?

15. What do you think happens when we die?

16. Do you want to have kids one day? How many?

17. What's your earliest childhood memory?

18. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?

19. Do you believe in soulmates?

20. When you can't sleep, what keeps you up at night?

21. What has your hardest goodbye in life been so far?

22. What’s the worst date you’ve ever been on?

23. What’s a talent you wish you had or that you’re working on?

Fun questions to ask friends

1. Which celeb would you want as your other BFF and why?

2. What do you do when no one else is around?

3. What's the best present you ever received? Who gave it to you and why was it so special?

4. What's the last thing you watched on Netflix?

5. What do you consider the ultimate comfort food?

6. If you could only have three things on your life bucket list, what would they be?

7. Would you rather be an expert at one thing, or pretty good at many things?

8. What’s your favorite thing you own and why?

9. Have you ever had your fortune told?

10. Would you rather order in or eat out?

11. What was the first movie you remember seeing in theaters?

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12. What’s your favorite TikTok video?

13. What’s been your most questionable haircut and/or fashion moment?

14. If money was no object, what would you buy?

15. When was the moment in your life you laughed the hardest?

16. What do you do when no one else is around?

17. Where do you want to travel the most?

18. If you could only eat one thing for the rest of your life, what would it be?

19. What book has impacted you the most?

20. What’s your favorite movie romance? commercial?

21. What are the qualities that attract you most in a love interest?

22. You just won $10,000 — what are you going to do with the money?

23. What's the luckiest thing that's ever happened to you?

24. What's your favorite way to exercise?

25. Do you like roller coasters?

26. What is your most hated chore and why?

27. What's your favorite holiday and why?

28. If you were going to get some ink, what would you choose and why?

29. If you had three wishes, what would you wish for?

30. If you had to choose only one, would you pick a dog or a cat?

31. Do you believe in aliens?

32. If you were President, what's the first thing you would work to change in this country?

33. If you had to live in another time period, what would you choose?

34. What foreign language(s) would you want to master and why?

35. What's your all-time favorite dessert?

36. Do you believe in ghosts?

37. What’s your survival plan during a zombie apocalypse?

38 If you were an animal, what would you be?

39. If you had to create an alter ego for yourself, who would it be and what would you name them?

40. What’s your No. 1 karaoke song?

41. Have you ever been on a blind date?

42. What was your AIM screen name, or your first email address?

43. What’s your favorite piece of random trivia?

44. What was your first concert?

45. Which decade, in your opinion, had the best fashion trends?

46. If a song played every time you entered a room, what would it be?

47. What’s your skincare routine?

48. Did you ever go to summer camp?

49. When’s the last time you got to really experience nature?

50. Do you feel that you’re young at heart, or an old soul?

51. What does your name mean, and why was it given to you?

52. What’s an unexpected movie that makes you cry?

53. What flavor of ice cream best represents your personality?

54. What’s the one snack you can’t live without?

55. What’s the first place you’d go to in the mall?

56. What’s the scariest or most thrilling roller coaster you’ve ever been on?

57. What’s the last song you listened to?

58. Which item in your closet is your favorite?

59. What is your key to a cozy evening in?

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60. What’s the last video game you played?

61. What’s the last thing TikTok convinced you to buy?

Juicy questions to ask friends

1. What's the last lie you told?

2. Who was your very first crush?

3. What's the best compliment you've ever received?

4. What do you consider your best physical feature?

5. What are the top three things that stress you out?

6. What are the top three ways you deal with stress?

7. When was the last time you were jealous and why?

8. Do you believe in monogamy?

9. If you choose to get married one day, what would your dream proposal scenario be?

10. What would your dream home look like?

11. When’s the last time you felt inspired to create something?

12. How did your parents meet?

13. Who’s been your favorite teacher?

14. What are your favorite childrens’ names?

15. What did you dream about last night?

16. What do you think you’ll be like in old age?

17. What’s the worst decision you’ve ever made?

18. What’s something you’d consider unforgivable?

19. What’s the most loved you’ve ever felt?

20. Have you ever experienced a “friendship breakup”? What did it teach you?

21. Who was your first friend, and are they still in your life?

22. Would you ever consider being in a long-distance relationship?

23. What do you think the best way to resolve conflict is?

24. Do you feel that you have a healthy relationship with social media?

25. Is there a time when I made you feel particularly well supported?

26. How can I be a better friend to you?

27. What does friendship mean to you?

28. What qualities do you look for in a best friend?

29. What’s the most important thing I should know about you?

Deep questions to ask new friends

1. What are your pronouns?

2. What would be your perfect day? Plan it out from waking up to bedtime.

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3. What’s your zodiac sign?

4. What’s your Enneagram type?

5. On vacation, are you the relax-by-the-pool type or a get-up-and-go adventurer?

6. Do you consider yourself religious or spiritual?

7. What college major are you thinking of choosing and why?

8. If you could only listen to one singer or band for the rest of your life, who would you choose?

9. What's your go-to dish when you have to make dinner?

10. Are you a superstitious person?

11. What’s your favorite board game to play?

12. Who’s the best movie villain?

13. Who’s your favorite follow on TikTok? On Instagram?

14. Did you have an imaginary friend growing up?

15. If you had to describe yourself in only three words, what would you choose? What words do you think your friends would choose to describe you?

16. Do you have any phobias?

17. What are your top three biggest pet peeves?

18. What's your favorite color and what's your least favorite color?

19. What would your dream vacay consist of?

20. Are you competitive?

21. What’s a tough experience that you learned and grew from?

22. What’s your relationship with your parents like?

23. Do you most often follow your heart or your head?

24. What’s the most unexpected or unusual thing on your bucket list?

25. What was your last romantic relationship like?

26. What’s a value you’re unwilling to compromise on?

27. What's your absolute dream job?

28. If you could have a superpower, what would you choose?

29. What TV show do you turn on when you just want to zone out and feel better?

30. What was the last movie you watched in a theater?

31. If you could time travel, where would you go?

32. What do you usually have for breakfast?

33. What's your favorite plant or flower?

34. What’s your favorite season and why?

35. Who always makes you laugh?

36. What do you think your best quality is?

37. What is your definition of success?

38. What’s your most-watched movie?

39. Do you have any hidden talents?

40. What’s the best thing you’ve dressed up as for Halloween?

41. Would you rather live by the ocean or in the mountains?

42. What’s the longest trip you’ve taken?

43. Are you a right brain or left brain person?

44. What is your most-used emoji?

45. What’s a bad habit you’re trying to break?

46. What’s the scariest movie you’ve ever seen?

47. Are you a morning person or a night owl?

48. Do you like to recharge alone or around other people?

49. What’s the best museum you’ve ever been to?

50. When can we hang out again?

51. Which fictional character do you most relate to?

52. What would your ideal friend hangout include?

53. What food do you absolutely hate?

54. Do you believe in your horoscope?

55. What’s your most used emoji?

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There’s a reason deep, meaningful talks can have lasting effects on your relationships. We asked two experts how to go about starting those kinds of conversations.

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You may think you know someone, but do you, really?

Whether you’ve known them a day or a decade, there’s something about a profound conversation that can help you see people in a whole new light and, hopefully, strengthen your bond.

If you feel intimidated about jumping into the deep end of dialogue, you’re not alone. So we rounded up 5 examples and 45 questions to help you get started.

Deep connections are based on curiosity and vulnerability, and an imperfect, real exploration, says Jackie Tassiello, a therapist in the greater New York City area.

“Relationships need nurturance; they’re not static,” she says. “Through intentional conversation starters, we’re metaphorically watering the plant of our relationship. We’re providing the care and energy that goes into growth.”

“The safety of deep relationships is the foundation for so many healing benefits,” she adds. “Some [2017] research shows that when we feel completely safe with someone, our nervous system relaxes in a way that invites healing and growth.”

What types of questions are best to get to know someone deeply?

You may have seen the viral “36 questions to fall in love” experiment on YouTube.

The original research behind this comes from a series of experiments by psychologist Arthur Aron in the 1990s. He was able to measure how intimacy forms between two strangers in just 45 minutes with a series of deeper and deeper questions.

It works for people in existing relationships, too.

In his book “Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love,” Dr. John Gottman indicates that 4 decades of research shows that in healthy relationships, people make time to be curious and get to know one another.

Kimberly Panganiban, a licensed marriage and family therapist in San Diego, California says, “In order to do this, try to ask open-ended questions. These could be past-, present-, or future-oriented.”

“The goal is to strike a conversation in which you both learn new things about one another and, therefore, feel more connected. Questions that generate discussion about emotions can bring the deepest connection,” adds Panganiban.

Types of questions

Some helpful types of questions may include:

  • Open-ended: What’s one movie that made you tear up and why?
  • Past: What’s the most memorable dream you’ve ever had?
  • Present: What’s the most important quality to you in a friend, right now?
  • Future: What’s one quality you hope to change about yourself in the future?
  • Needs-oriented: How can I best support your needs right now?

As humans, we are all wired for connection. It’s necessary for our survival and it supports our mental health in many ways, says Panganiban.

“Connection helps us to feel secure in life and about ourselves, which allows us to engage more with the world,” she explains.

“When our basic need of attachment is met, it leaves us open to pursuing other interests, goals, and adventures. We feel a sense of comfort and safety, knowing we have people that we can count on and that love us,” she adds.

A list of questions at the ready can help take some of the pressure off.

(In)frequently asked questions

  1. What’s a quality you still want to have at age 90?
  2. What book has influenced you the most?
  3. What’s your #1 goal right now?
  4. What’s your quirkiest habit?
  5. What do you like the most about being “you”?
  6. What’s one fear you want to master?
  7. Who’s your role model, dead or alive?
  8. What was your favorite novel as a kid?
  9. What’s a quote that inspires you?
  10. What’s your greatest achievement so far?
  11. What subject did you look forward to in school?
  12. Are your priorities different from what they were 10 years ago?
  13. Has your character been shaped by anyone?
  14. What’s your favorite memory of helping a stranger?
  15. What’s the earliest thing you remember as a child?
  16. Have you had any recurring nightmares?
  17. What’s a recent lesson your parents/caregivers taught you?
  18. If you had a time machine, what year would you travel to?
  19. If you had a free hour, how would you spend it?
  20. In all of history, who would you spend an afternoon with?
  21. If you could travel anywhere in the world for dinner, where would it be?
  22. What animal would you want to be for a day, and why?
  23. What would be the topic of your New York Times bestselling book?
  24. If you had paints right now, how would you fill a blank canvas?
  25. How do you define success?
  26. What is the cause of cruel behavior in the world?
  27. How can you tell when you have chemistry with someone?
  28. In all of human history, what’s the most important event?
  29. Why are we here on this planet?
  30. What’s one truth you’ve learned about being a human?
  31. When you think about the future, what makes you nervous?
  32. What would help you feel the most relaxed right now?
  33. What’s the biggest challenge you’ve overcome?
  34. What’s a time when you failed, and what did it teach you?
  35. When you feel self-doubt, how do you push through it?
  36. Can you recall the last time something made you cry?
  37. What’s the biggest trigger for your stress?
  38. What happened on the greatest day of your life?
  39. How do you think all of Earth’s different religions came to be?
  40. Do you believe in miracles?
  41. Do you believe in prayer and, if so, how do you do it?
  42. What makes you feel lonely?
  43. Do you believe that humans have a soul that lives on?
  44. What’s a secret about you that you haven’t told anyone?
  45. What makes you feel the most alive?

Being a skilled conversationalist takes practice. A good set of communication skills can help you show interest in what your someone is saying.

When you ask someone a question, for example, you may find it helpful to employ a few active listening techniques, such as:

  • nodding
  • asking for more details
  • maintaining eye contact
  • repeating back what they said
  • responding with encouragers, including “hmm” and “interesting”
  • giving someone your full attention — that means not looking at your phone

There’s an art to ending a deep conversation. Without some finesse, things could feel awkward or incomplete.

The first step is picking the right moment. It’s a good idea to wrap things up when:

  • there’s a natural lull
  • you notice a sense of “completion”
  • your conversation partner looks bored or uncomfortable
  • a person, or device, interrupts the flow
  • there are body language cues that show they’re ready to go
  • you’d like to reflect

When the opportunity arrives, you can thank your conversation partner and suggest a lighter follow-up activity. For example, this could sound like:

“Thank you for opening up to me. I really enjoyed this conversation. I hope we can have more of these in the future. Would you like to split the bill and take a quick walk in the sun, before I have to head back to work?”

What if a conversation takes a downturn?

In the event of a downturn, try to use this as an opportunity to keep improving your connection by offering compassion, validation, or in some cases, an apology, says Tassiello.

“Downturns are a part of the deal when we’re in deep with someone,” she says. “Instead of fearing that aspect, bring yourself into the present moment and ask how you can be supportive around the topic next time, or what the person needs.”

Meaningful conversations can help deepen your interpersonal connections, which in turn, can help improve your overall health and well-being.

When you’re done with the 45 questions above, you can keep the conversation flowing with Gottman’s Card Decks, which are available in an app form on your device, says Panganiban.

You may also find it helpful to sift through “The Complete Book of Questions: 1001 Conversation Starters for Any Occasion” by Garry Poole.

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How not to take a back seat when talking to a stranger? How to start and develop a conversation? Read the material translated by our editors.

Esquire lead interviewer and columnist Cal Fussman has been traveling the world on a budget for 10 years. When Tim Ferriss, himself a legendary interviewer, asked Cal how he did it, Fuhrman was happy to share his story. nine0003

At the start of his trip, Cal was traveling through Hungary and wanted to learn as much as he could about the country and its people. And then one day he turned to an elderly woman on the train and asked her the following question: “Excuse me, I would like to know how you cook goulash?”.

To his surprise, the old woman's face immediately lit up. She then turned to the rest of the passengers on the train and made the announcement: "In all the years I've ridden this train, this American sitting here is the first person to ask how I make goulash. "0012 . That night, Cal not only learned the old woman's secret goulash recipe firsthand, but also found a place to sleep.

But the free food and lodging didn't stop there. Over the next six weeks, he moved from house to house, traveling further across the country. According to Cal, it was all thanks to a question he asked the elderly woman about goulash.

Cal learned many valuable lessons during his travels. When it comes to building relationships, it's important to remember the following: Most people will like you if you start showing interest in them. Asking for their opinions, experiences, and interests is a great starting point.

When it comes to networking events (unless you're attending a culinary congress in Budapest, of course), Cal's phrase "How to cook goulash?" is unlikely to play into your hands.
But you will absolutely succeed if you take Cal's approach and see each event as an opportunity to learn more about the people present, and not just try to promote your idea, product, etc. nine0003

Simply put, if you want to get the most out of your networking events, stop focusing on building your business and start focusing on building new friendships.

The following list of "talk starters" has been designed to help you do just that.

2 Bulletproof Ways to Start a Conversation

Most people don't react well if you ask them a question out of the blue. First, there must be some springboard for conversation. For example, variations on the two statements below generate the most interest and encourage people to talk to you:

  1. "Hello, sorry to interrupt, but I've been asking a lot of people the same question over the past few weeks..."
  2. "Hello my friends and I were arguing about something. Could you act as our arbitrator?”

Both of these preparations are successful: they immediately create intrigue and signal to the person / people with whom you are talking that an interesting conversation is ahead.

They are also clearly better than standard questions like “So what are you doing?” nine0003

A goldmine for all writers and journalists: “Sorry to bother you. I'm writing an article, and over the past few weeks I've been asking everyone about…”

Here are a few more worthy options:

  • “If you could go on stage and give a talk, what would you talk about?”
  • "Why was your boss the best?"
  • "What job would you recommend to someone just starting their career?"
  • "What was the most important lesson from one of your mentors?" nine0033
  • "What lesson did you learn from your enemies?"
  • "If you could choose any new skill to learn, what would it be?"
  • "What is your definition of success?"
  • "The most important quality of an effective leader?"
  • "What's the nicest surprise someone at work has given you?"
  • "If you could work anywhere, what would you choose?"
  • "Do you think virtual meetings will ever be as effective as face-to-face meetings?" nine0033
  • "In addition to being comfortable speaking in public, what other skills do you think create more opportunities?"

You may have noticed that all of the above questions are work-oriented. Below are a few more casual questions that can help start a conversation. Feel free to change the questions a bit so they sound less formal.

  • "If you could give up sleep, how would you spend the extra eight hours?" nine0033
  • "What superpower would you like to have?"
  • “If you could stay the same age forever, what would you choose? Why?"
  • "If you could do this over and over again, what would you study?"
  • “What book should each person read? Why?"
  • "What is your favorite quote?"
  • "Do you have a personal slogan or creed by which you live?"
  • "How different is your current job from what you dreamed of as a child?" nine0033
  • "Most of the authors of personal development are absolutely worthless, right?"
  • "What are the best activities to help you switch off after a hard day?"
  • "Where should one never rest?"
  • "What quality do you value most in other people?"
  • "Which productivity secret worked best for you?"

Now, armed with working tools for boosting conversations, you can move on.

  • "What skills do you think will be most in demand in the next five years?"
  • "Do you think strong communication skills are the key to a successful career?"
  • "Just do what you love - terrible advice, right?"
  • "Do you agree that working from home is not as effective as working in the office?"
  • "Do you think there should be a gap year after leaving school and before entering a university?"
  • "Do most startups fail because their founders look at the business through rose-colored glasses?" nine0033
  • “A woman should have at least one paid year after giving birth, right? And men, at least half a year, like in most of the Nordic countries?”
  • "What role will smartphones play in the next decade?"
  • "Audiobooks not as effective as traditional ones?"
  • "Do you think people can change?"
  • "Do you think universities are doing a good job of helping students find jobs after they graduate?"
  • nine0032 "Do you think strong relationships with colleagues are the key to happiness at work?"
  • "Do you think your network determines your net worth?"
  • "What subject is not taught at school, but must be?"

The beauty of these questions is that they get people to talk about their opinions and experiences, which is much more effective than walking up to someone and talking about themselves.

When you ask someone about the qualities of a worthy leader or boss, you can see if his or her values ​​match yours. When you ask someone what kind of speech he or she would like to give or what book to recommend, you will learn about their interests. nine0003

It's also likely that their responses will give you the opportunity to continue the conversation naturally. For example, finding out if someone considers a gap year between school and university to be the best solution will provide an opportunity to ask questions about where he or she studied and what they studied. This allows you to start a conversation in an interesting and memorable way.

Needless to say, the above questions work well in both individual and group conversations.

Guess Talk Starters

Speaking of groups, if you don't feel comfortable being the center of attention and prefer to talk to people individually, try Compliment + Guess.

After the group breaks up or the person you want to get to know is about to leave, approach him/her and say:

  • people. Are you in sales too?
  • “I really liked the story you told! Are you a motivational speaker? nine0033
  • “Are you a coach by any chance? You feel confident and comfortable”

This is very effective, not only because most people love compliments, but also because these types of questions allow you to learn more about what the person is doing in a fun way.

Speaking of guessing, the next time you meet someone and you're tempted to resort to the old question "Where are you from?" or “What are you doing?”, stop yourself and try this instead:

  • “Where are you from? No, wait, don't tell me. I'll try to guess!"
  • “What are you doing? Wait, don't tell me. Give me a hint and I'll guess!"
  • “When I was little, my father and I could guess people's names, and believe it or not, I was very good at it. Once I correctly guessed the names of 497 people in a row. Is your name Sasha?

Then go through their profiles, observing their accent, clothes, mannerisms, etc.

Old but good

When attending the next networking event, you can also use the old but no less effective tricks:

  • “If you weren’t here today, what would you be doing on a typical Tuesday evening?”

This question immediately opens the door for people to talk about their hobbies, interests, projects, and families. This allows you to understand whether you share common interests with them.

  • "What do you like most about your job?"
  • nine0032 "What advice would you give yourself if you could go back to when you first started?"
  • "What's the best advice you've ever been given?"
  • "What do you like to do on the weekends?"
  • "If you could start a new business, what would it be?"

Or how about these questions if you're visiting a new city for an event:

  • “I've never been to San Diego before. Do you have any recommendations for interesting places? nine0033
  • “I'm getting too old to drink all night, but I love going to new restaurants. What is your favorite that few people know about?
  • "Do you know any secret to get rid of jet lag?"
  • "If you had a day off and $100, what would you do in town to maximize every dollar?"
  • “This is my first time at such an event. Is there anything that definitely shouldn't be missed?"
  • “This is my first time at such an event. Is there anything you would advise me not to do to be safe?” nine0033


  • “I think we have a mutual friend in…”

This one comes with a caveat: you must do your homework before the event. Luckily, social media is a great help with this.

Most networking events are featured on places like Facebook and LinkedIn, making it easy to determine who will attend. Take advantage of this.

Put an end to conversations

How you end a conversation also plays an important role in forming a first impression. nine0021 Don't start a conversation by introducing yourself. There's a good reason for this: most people have a hard time remembering names, especially when they hear them without any context.

So, instead of saying "Hi, my name is Zhenya", it's much better to say your name at the end of the conversation. For example, “It was a pleasure talking to you. By the way, my name is Zhenya. And you?"

By exchanging names at the end of a conversation, you increase the likelihood that both parties will remember them. Moreover, the ending of the conversation, given above, is guaranteed to cause a smile, and will provide an opportunity to request contact details: “What a pleasant conversation came out. Let's connect LinkedIn or Facebook? nine0003


Networking events can be extremely uncomfortable. And not everyone present feels like a fish in water, believe me.

However, if you adopt Cal Fussman's mindset of networking events as a chance to develop new personal relationships, you will soon be able to truly enjoy them. Moreover, your professional capabilities will also improve.

Arm yourself with conversation starters and use them as needed and appropriate, of course. nine0003


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100+ popular phrases and expressions for every day

The English have such an idiom as "Break the ice". It means "to make contact, start a conversation", and literally - "to break the ice." But how will we break this ice? Of course, with a smile and small talk! nine0003

A rich vocabulary and knowledge of tenses in English is not all that is needed for communication. It is equally important to practice your speaking skills. Do you want to easily communicate and maintain a dialogue on any topic? The necessary conversational phrases are just the thing to start with.

In this article you will find the most common and simple colloquial phrases and expressions in English with translation, which will help you maintain a dialogue with a foreigner and will be useful in everyday communication. nine0003


There are many more ways to say "Hi" in English than "Hello" and "Hi". Moreover, greetings differ depending on the situation. Agree, it would be inappropriate to say “What’s up” at a business meeting, as well as to greet an old friend with a cold “Hi”.

> Universal greetings

Suitable for every situation.

Hello! - Hello! / Hey!

Good morning! - Good morning! nine0003

Good afternoon! - Good afternoon!

Good evening! - Good evening!

> Friendly greetings

Usually used when talking to friends or colleagues.

How is it going? — How are things going?

How's life? - What's up?

How are things? - How is it?

Long time no see! - Long time no see!

What are you up to? — What did you think? (has a negative connotation) nine0003

> Slang greetings

Popular words and phrases among young people. It can often be found both in serials and in ordinary speech.

Hi there! - Hey!

Hiya - Hey, you, hello! (A combination of the words "hi" and "you")

Hi, howdy? - Hey there! How are you? (Short for "Hi, how do you do") + can be heard in Southern US dialects

Hey (guys)! - Hi guys)! (Informal greeting, usually addressed to a group of close friends) nine0003

Watcha doin'? - What are you doing? (Short for "What are you doing?")

Wagwan? - What's up? (Short for “What’s going on”. Usually this phrase can be answered with “Nagwan”, or

“Nothing is going on”, but simply “not very”) + can be heard in Jamaica

What's up - How are you? (Usually used among close friends)

> Greetings after a long separation

These phrases will help when meeting with an old acquaintance or colleague. nine0003

Nice to see you

Long time no see - Long time no see / How many years, how many winters

It's been too long

I haven't seen you in a while

How are things? - What's up?

What's new? - What's new?

Where have you been hiding? - Where have you been?

It's been ages (since I saw you)! "I haven't seen you in forever!" nine0003

Introductory words

These are words that make speech more coherent and natural. They help the interlocutor follow the train of thought, and give you time to find the right words for the next phrase.

In short / in brief

In a word

As far as … concerned / as to…

Not to mention

First of all/above all

What's more

By the way

After all after all

Just for the record - by the way; so that you know

And so on and so forth — and so on

If I'm not mistaken - if I'm not mistaken

In other words

On the contrary

The thing is

So as to / so that nine0003

Either way

As a rule

As well as

All the same

On one hand

On the other hand

Such as

As I said before

Believe it or not, but

If I remember it right / If I recall it correctly - if I remember correctly nine0003

Agree / Disagree

In English, as in all other languages, there are many shades between clear yes and no. If we do not want to offend the interlocutor, evade a direct answer to the question, emphasize what has been said, or show our enthusiasm and interest in any business, the following words and phrases come to the rescue:


Of course / Sure

Definitely nine0003




You are right

It can hardly be so

Very well

Most likely

Most unlikely

Not a bit

I believe so / suppose so

I doubt it - I doubt nine0003

No way

Exactly so

Quite so Quite right

I agree with you - I agree with you

I am afraid you are wrong

I'm afraid so

I'm not sure

I don't think so unlikely

In a way / to a certain extent

No doubt

I'm in - I am "for" (in response to an offer to do something)

I think I'll pass - Better without me

Deal! - It's coming!

It's a great idea! - Great idea!

Not a very good idea

Phrases to keep up the conversation

These expressions will help you show interest in what has been said, clarify a question, express your opinion or ask the interlocutor about his last words. They are suitable for both beginners and those who continue to learn English. nine0003

What's the matter? - What's the matter?

What's going on? / What's happening? - What's happening?

What's the trouble? - What is the problem?

What's happened? - What happened?

How was it? - Well, how? (How did everything go?)

Did I get you right? - Did I understand you correctly?

Don't take it to heart

I didn't catch the last word nine0003

Sorry, I wasn't listening

It doesn't matter

It is news to me

Let us hope for the best - Let's hope for the best

May I ask you a question? - Can I ask you a question?

Oh, that. That explains it - That's it, it explains everything

Say it again, please

So that's where the trouble lies! "So that's the point!" nine0003

Things happen

What do you mean? - What do you have in mind?

Where were we? - Where did we leave off?

You were saying something? — Did you say something?

Lucky you! - You are lucky!

Good for you! - So much the better for you! (Often used as sarcasm: "Well, well, I'm glad for you!")

I'm so happy for you! - I'm so happy for you! (Speaks absolutely sincerely)

What do you know! - Who would have thought! nine0003

Polite phrases

Communicating with a polite person is pleasant in any language, so it is worth remembering some phrases that will make you a pleasant conversationalist:

I'm so sorry! - I'm really sorry!

I beg your pardon! - I apologize!

I'm sorry, I can't - I'm sorry, I can't

Sorry, I meant well

It's very kind of you! - It's very kind of you! nine0003

It's my pleasure - With pleasure.

Not at all

Thank you very much! - Many thanks!

Thank you anyway! - In any case, thanks!

Thank you in advance! - Thanks in advance!

You are welcome

Don't mention it! - Do not mention it!

May I help you? - Can I help you?

Could you do me a favor? "Will you do me a favor?" nine0003

No problem / that's ok! - Everything is good!

Don't worry about it! - Don't worry about it!

This way, please! - Here please!

After you! - After you!

Take it easy

Never mind

Don't take it to heart

Farewells and wishes

Everyone knows such a saying as “to leave in English”, that is, without saying goodbye. It is said that the French invented it in revenge on the British in the 18th century. During the war of 1756-1763. French prisoners of war arbitrarily left the location of the unit, and the British called it "to take French leave", which meant "leave in French. " nine0003

In retaliation, the French came up with a similar phrase, only about the British. Later, both expressions were used in relation to people who left a ball or a gala reception without saying goodbye to the hosts. And if in Russian we talk about such behavior “to leave in English”, now the British themselves would say “to leave without saying goodbye” (to leave without saying goodbye to anyone).

After a pleasant conversation, we need to end the conversation and say goodbye to the person. Here are a few phrases that will help you do it easily and naturally: nine0003

Bye-bye! - Bye bye!

See you! - See you!

See you soon! - See you later!

See you later! - See you later!

Till next time! - Until next time!

Good luck! - Good luck!

Take care! - Take care!

Talk to you later! - We'll talk to you later!

I must be off! - It's time for me to leave!

Until we meet again! - See you!

Have a nice day! - Have a good day!

Have a good weekend

Have a safe trip

Farewell! - Good luck!

Say hi to…

Send my love to . .. - Send a big hello ... (for relatives or close people)

Colloquial slang

There are a lot of slang expressions in the English language, which today are increasingly used in conversation, songs, films and even books. Below we will analyze those words that can be found in communication with foreigners, especially with Americans. nine0003

Wanna = want to = want

I wanna stay here for a while

Gonna = going to = going

I'm gonna sleep tonight

Gotta = have got to / have to = must

I gotta go

Shoulda = should have done

This phrase is used when we want to express regret for not having done something in the past or want to criticize someone. nine0003

I shoulda told him the truth

Jim shoulda ask me before taking my book

Woulda = would have done

Used when we are talking about a hypothetical situation in the past:

I think she woulda said "no"

Coulda = could have done nine0003

Used when we are critical of someone who might have done something in the past but didn't.

You could have warned me in advance! “You could have warned me ahead of time!”

Gotcha = got you = got you

Ok, gotcha! - Okay, I got you!

Y'all = you all = all of you

She's got great news for y'all - She has great news for all of you nine0003

Kinda = kind of

I'm kinda busy

Slang helps us communicate in a more informal and friendly way. But remember that using abbreviations and slang in business correspondence, conferences or when communicating with unfamiliar people is a bad form.

How to start a conversation in English

First of all, remember the simple rules that will make you a pleasant conversationalist:

  • Do not talk about too personal topics and about money

Agree, it will be unpleasant for you if an unfamiliar person asks about your relationship with your loved one or how much you get at work? It is better not to touch on these topics in a casual conversation.

  • Do not talk only about yourself

Ask how your interlocutor is doing. Everyone is pleased when they show attention. The main thing is that it be sincere. nine0003

  • Do not interrupt

Listen carefully to what your partner has to say and give your opinion only after he has finished his thought.

  • Respect your privacy

Do not stand too close to a person, so as not to cause discomfort. Also, you don’t need to touch him again, slap him on the back, take his hand, and so on.

When communicating, it is better to ask so-called “open questions”, to which the interlocutor can give a detailed answer. Ask the person what he is interested in, what books or films he likes, where he has been, and so on. It is better not to touch on the topics of religion and politics. nine0003

One way to win over someone and start a conversation is to make a compliment or a pertinent remark about the surroundings. For example:

I love this view! - I love this look!

What a lovely dress! - What a wonderful dress!

One safe bet is to ask the person for their opinion on a topic of conversation. This can be done using common phrases:

What do you think? — What do you think? nine0003

What's your opinion? — What is your opinion?

What are your ideas? — What do you think?

Do you have any thoughts on that? - Do you have something in mind about this? How do you feel about that? - What do you think about this?

These phrases are suitable for any event to start a conversation, whether it's a gala reception, a conference, a wedding or just a conversation in a restaurant.

I'm here for the first time, what about you? - This is my first time here, how about you? nine0003

Have you tried the cheesecake? It's delicious! Have you tried the cheesecake yet? He is amazing!

How did you first get interested in …? When did you first become interested in. ..?

And of course, the most neutral conversation, against all prejudice, is the conversation about the weather.

It's a beautiful day, isn't it? - Nice day, huh?

Looks like it's going to rain

Art small talk

When we talk about casual communication in English, we can't help but mention the short conversations that we encounter every day: with colleagues at work, with strangers, while traveling, and so on. This is a conversation on abstract and neutral topics.

Usually this dialogue happens at the first meeting of the day: we exchange “duty phrases” and wish all the best to the interlocutor. Usually they talk about the weather, inquire about health and so on. Usually there is little useful information in such conversations, it is rather just a tribute to politeness and etiquette. nine0003

The British are the best at small talk, so we should also learn a few phrases to help us communicate.

About the weather:

Wonderful day, isn't it? - It's a beautiful day, isn't it?

It looks like it's going to rain

It's hot / cold / sunny / windy / cloudy / rainy today - Today is hot / cold / sunny / windy / cloudy / rainy

What about the weather? Isn't it good? What do you think? — What about the weather? Isn't the weather good? How do you think? nine0003

Did you hear what the weather forecast is? — Have you heard the weather forecast?

At work or an event:

Looking forward to the weekend? - Looking forward to the weekend?

Well, it has been a long week

You look like you could have a cup of coffee

Are you enjoying the party/conference/presentation? — Do you like a party/conference/presentation? nine0003

Pretty nice place, isn't it? - Nice place, isn't it?

So, how do you know.

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