Do you think like a psychopath test

In my opinion, human intelligence and rationality are still different concepts.

For by intelligence, mind, we understand the ability of the human brain to quickly and optimally - well, to carry out mental operations inherent in man.

And it is logical to understand a person's rationality as his ability to live, namely, HUMANLY.

That is, to live according to the natural and social essences, human meanings, and not contrary to them.

Psychopathy, a priori, makes a person different from the majority of adequate society around him.

Or, simply, from adequate people with whom he voluntarily or involuntarily enters into a relationship.

As a rule, a psychopath is smart enough to understand that his psychopathic manifestations harm him in establishing good relations with people.

Therefore, especially at the stage of establishing the relationship he needs, the psychopath is extremely cunning and resourceful in portraying himself as a good, normal person.

In other words, the intellectuality of the psychopath at this stage is manifested with might and main. He needs to completely remove even thoughts and suspicions about his psychopathy from his counterpart.

And when a person “falls into the net” of a psychopath, he will be bound by relationships with him. This is where the psychopath drops the mask of normality and goodness.

And manifests its psychopathic properties without restraint or fear.

Is this reasonable, even in the interests of the psychopath himself?

Obviously: no. For destroying normal, good relations with other people, he harms not only them. But first of all, to yourself.

This is, in fact, another sign of psychopathy. But not so obvious, but mediated by the complex relationships of people, as such.

In my opinion, speaking in general, a psychopath, as such, is not an intelligent person or a little intelligent.

And the intellectuality, the cleverness of a psychopath, faster, this is his erudition, resourcefulness. That is, adaptability to an adequate world and society, first of all.

Although, personally, I have never met really intellectually developed psychopaths in personal relationships.

Quite quickly it becomes clear that these are not distant, poorly educated, stupid people.

Despite all their attempts and show-offs in portraying themselves as someone significant and special.

BUT, be that as it may, it is always difficult to understand that psychopathy is also hidden under the stupidity of a person.

And we, people, after all, are quite loyal to the stupidity of others: we consider narrow-minded people harmless and even charming.

For example, we even love them as husbands and wives.

But when it turns out that a stupid person is also a psychopath, this is already scary and terrible.

It turns out that identifying a psychopath is not so difficult. If you know the criteria for personality psychopathy, which were compiled by psychoanalysts.

For example, I really liked the criteria in R. Hare's test.

Diagnosis of psychopathy based on R. Hare's checklist:

1. Well-suspended tongue and outward charm.

2. Great sense of self-importance.

3. Need for stimulation or tendency to be bored.

4. Pathological lies.

5. Deception and manipulation.

6. Lack of remorse or guilt.

7. Superficial feelings.

8. Callousness and lack of empathy. (Empathy is conscious empathy with the current emotional state of another person.)

9. Parasitic lifestyle.

10. Unrestrained behavior.

11. Promiscuity. (Promiscuity is a tendency to promiscuous, unrestricted sexual relations with many partners.)

12. Behavioral problems at an early age.

13. Lack of realistic long-term goals.

14. Impulsivity.

15. Irresponsibility.

16. Refusal to take responsibility for one's actions.

17. Many short-term "serious" relationships.

18. Was a "difficult teenager".

19. Does not repent of committed offenses or crimes.

20. A wide range of offences.

Each of these items is evaluated in relation to this individual on a 2-point scale:

0 - if the statement is not applicable to him;

1 if partially;

2 - quite applicable to him.

A psychopath is one who scores 30 or more points in total.

What if you find out that you live with a psychopath?
Or with a person who is close to this state - "almost a psychopath. "

And if you love him, and gave birth to children with him, and lived the best years of your life?
And are you not going to part with him at all or can't you?

I don't know about anyone, but I was "lucky" in my life - I met and still meet a lot of psychopaths.
Moreover, he had them both as wives and as friends.

So, I know the problem firsthand.

The main problem with a psychopath is his inability to love anyone but himself, the only one. Yes, plus, the same psychos as himself.

For a psychopath, based on his vision of relations between people, is not able to understand: What is it like to love another person?

Except how to USE it to your advantage and for your needs. He does not see him, another person, application in his life.

And can't treat him differently.

In my opinion, one can live with a psychopath, and even happily. If to be the same as him, a psychopath.

That is, to profess and adhere to the same principles in life as he did.

If not, then, excuse me, your life with him will turn into an eternal hell of your struggle with his life principles. By which he lived, lives and will live.

For this, psychopathy, is not curable. Since, it is a state of personality and psyche.

And this, with modern methods and drugs of psychotherapy, can only be corrected, but not completely cured.

It can't be cured or remade - the brains can't be taken out, washed and put back in the best possible way.

And when we talk about brainwashing anyone, anyone.

That, this process means nothing more than sowing seeds on fertile soil.

That is, the introduction of ideas into the human mind. Who, by his personality traits, is already ready to perceive these ideas as his own.

In the case of a psychopath, a priori, this is impossible. It is impossible to introduce anything else into his consciousness by any means.

Different from what constitutes the essential properties of his personality and psyche.

At the same time, we must not forget that the personality of a psychopath is formed on the basis of the psyche, which has a hereditary predisposition to psychopathy.

And it was formed, as a psychopath, throughout the life of a psychopath, from birth.

That is, no matter how you twist it and try, “you can’t change a psycho”, and you can’t fix it, and you can’t cure it.

As, in fact, it is impossible to remake a normal, healthy personality and human psyche.

When thinking about this issue, analyzing the experience and knowledge available, we can come to the following conclusions:

One of the essential properties of a psychopath is his lack of SELF-SUFFICIENCY.

And, moreover, strange as it may seem at first glance, INDEPENDENCE.

That is, a psychopath, due to just his mental deviations, does not have a developed self-consciousness. He simply cannot form it.

And he, therefore, always needs a patron-guide in life. Or a role model, how he should live - who he should be.

In other words, the psychopath does not have a more or less self-sufficient and autonomous "I" like a normal person. A associates it with someone like "We".

At the same time, of course, the psychopath believes and creates the appearance for others that he is independent and self-sufficient. Moreover, both in his behavior and in his actions, he supposedly has his own “I”.

And from here, and it is very important to understand: the psychopath WE CONTROL and subordinate. That is, maybe there is an object for manipulation by other people.

Who can become a manipulator for a psychopath - with whom can he unite his "I" into "We"?

And there are more than enough examples, and everyone sees and knows them in their lives and in relationships with psychopaths.

In order to subdue a psychopath and start controlling him, you need to indulge him and his "freaks" in every possible way.

This means, in fact, to have or only to portray such an attitude towards him as:

- love, respect, agreement with his opinion, understanding, friendliness, and the like.

Something like, if figuratively: you need to pet him, feed him and pet him, feed him further.

And the psychopath, like a dog, finds his master.

His "I" literally merges with the will and power over him of his patron.

From now on, he begins to perceive himself and associate his self-consciousness as "I" and "He", "She" or "They" - as "We".

And what do most people do when they recognize a psychopath in a person next to them?

That's right: they either begin to correct him or go to war with him, becoming his enemies.

Whoever sincerely or pretending to love him. Or, at least, treats him well: appreciates him, considers him smart, handsome, and so on, in that spirit.

That is, a psychopath needs someone or those who APPROVE him just the way he is.

And this can be parents or a parent, and a husband or wife, or children. Or friends, or colleagues, and so on.

At the same time, often, parents, husband, wife, child, and other people dealing with a psychopath are psychopaths themselves.

And therefore it is easy for them to love and encourage their child or partner in his psychopathy.

But, such a happy cohabitation of psychopaths is possible ONLY under one condition:

— when one psychopath SUBMITS to another, and the second guides him through his life.

In principle, anyone can become a manipulator of a psychopath.

It is enough and necessary to caress him, literally, in the direct and figurative meaning of this concept.

It can be: parents, husband, wife, child, boss, colleagues, friends, and the like. And even "a person from the side."

The only problem is what!? You can tame a psychopath. BUT where to get the strength and patience to endure his psychopathy, which is not going anywhere.

A will continue to manifest itself in his inadequate thoughts-words and behavior.

That is, how to “pat him on the head” when he “carries” inadequate and behaves inappropriately, like a psychopath?

This concerns, first of all, close relationships with a psychopath. Life with him is his NORMAL husband, wife, children, parents.

Rarely, but it happens (I have observed) that a psychopath clearly sees his psychopathy. He sees, but does not recognize himself as sick, of course.

He is sometimes able to sincerely ask you for forgiveness for his behavior and attitude towards you.

WHAT'S THE USE? Here, just, the saying is appropriate: The humpbacked grave will fix it.

For, having repented and apologized, a psychopath remains a psychopath.

So, to your "guilt" before him, one more was added. The fact that he was forced to “humiliate” himself in front of you, once asking for an apology.

After all, you were and are for him, a psychopath, "Nothing and Nobody." Which becomes something and someone, only if it brings him pleasure.

And happy, in a relationship with a normal person, a psychopath is extremely rare. It is almost impossible or very, very difficult to please him.

This person annoys him by himself. For, he feels and sees in him the opposite of himself.

Look at the situation of most people who find themselves in close relationships with a psychopath: ). Life with a psychopath, if not good, happy, then quite tolerable.

— Further, as the negative accumulates from inappropriate words and actions in dealing with a psychopath, his partner begins to CRITICATE him.

Namely, this is what a psychopath cannot bear. For he can never and never admit that he is something bad - he is devoid of self-criticism.

- The psychopath's critic automatically becomes bad. And to replace him, "good people" are quickly found - those who "stroke" him on the head.

- Now allied with new patrons, becoming the object of his manipulation.

A psychopath literally attacks the one who dared to consider him bad - criticizes and accuses him of psychopathy.

Or, if a person does not understand that he is living with a psychopath, then he is simply dissatisfied and accuses him of his bad behavior.

— And that's it: previously loved and good husband, wife, children, parents, friends, and so on, become enemies of the psychopath.

As those, in his ideas, who do not understand, do not love and criticize, “touch” the psychopath.

And his idols and favorites are those who manipulate the psychopath. "Understanding" him, "loving", "considering him normal and good."