Counseling borderline personality disorder
Borderline personality disorder - Diagnosis and treatment
Personality disorders, including borderline personality disorder, are diagnosed based on a:
- Detailed interview with your doctor or mental health provider
- Psychological evaluation that may include completing questionnaires
- Medical history and exam
- Discussion of your signs and symptoms
A diagnosis of borderline personality disorder is usually made in adults, not in children or teenagers. That's because what appear to be signs and symptoms of borderline personality disorder may go away as children get older and become more mature.
Borderline personality disorder is mainly treated using psychotherapy, but medication may be added. Your doctor also may recommend hospitalization if your safety is at risk.
Treatment can help you learn skills to manage and cope with your condition. It's also necessary to get treated for any other mental health disorders that often occur along with borderline personality disorder, such as depression or substance misuse. With treatment, you can feel better about yourself and live a more stable, rewarding life.
Psychotherapy — also called talk therapy — is a fundamental treatment approach for borderline personality disorder. Your therapist may adapt the type of therapy to best meet your needs. The goals of psychotherapy are to help you:
- Focus on your current ability to function
- Learn to manage emotions that feel uncomfortable
- Reduce your impulsiveness by helping you observe feelings rather than acting on them
- Work on improving relationships by being aware of your feelings and those of others
- Learn about borderline personality disorder
Types of psychotherapy that have been found to be effective include:
- Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT). DBT includes group and individual therapy designed specifically to treat borderline personality disorder. DBT uses a skills-based approach to teach you how to manage your emotions, tolerate distress and improve relationships.
- Schema-focused therapy. Schema-focused therapy can be done individually or in a group. It can help you identify unmet needs that have led to negative life patterns, which at some time may have been helpful for survival, but as an adult are hurtful in many areas of your life. Therapy focuses on helping you get your needs met in a healthy manner to promote positive life patterns.
- Mentalization-based therapy (MBT). MBT is a type of talk therapy that helps you identify your own thoughts and feelings at any given moment and create an alternate perspective on the situation. MBT emphasizes thinking before reacting.
- Systems training for emotional predictability and problem-solving (STEPPS). STEPPS is a 20-week treatment that involves working in groups that incorporate your family members, caregivers, friends or significant others into treatment. STEPPS is used in addition to other types of psychotherapy.
- Transference-focused psychotherapy (TFP). Also called psychodynamic psychotherapy, TFP aims to help you understand your emotions and interpersonal difficulties through the developing relationship between you and your therapist. You then apply these insights to ongoing situations.
- Good psychiatric management. This treatment approach relies on case management, anchoring treatment in an expectation of work or school participation. It focuses on making sense of emotionally difficult moments by considering the interpersonal context for feelings. It may integrate medications, groups, family education and individual therapy.
Although no drugs have been approved by the Food and Drug Administration specifically for the treatment of borderline personality disorder, certain medications may help with symptoms or co-occurring problems such as depression, impulsiveness, aggression or anxiety. Medications may include antidepressants, antipsychotics or mood-stabilizing drugs.
Talk to your doctor about the benefits and side effects of medications.
At times, you may need more-intense treatment in a psychiatric hospital or clinic. Hospitalization may also keep you safe from self-injury or address suicidal thoughts or behaviors.
Recovery takes time
Learning to manage your emotions, thoughts and behaviors takes time. Most people improve considerably, but you may always struggle with some symptoms of borderline personality disorder. You may experience times when your symptoms are better or worse. But treatment can improve your ability to function and help you feel better about yourself.
You have the best chance for success when you consult a mental health provider who has experience treating borderline personality disorder.
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Coping and support
Symptoms associated with borderline personality disorder can be stressful and challenging for you and those around you. You may be aware that your emotions, thoughts and behaviors are self-destructive or damaging, yet you feel unable to manage them.
In addition to getting professional treatment, you can help manage and cope with your condition if you:
- Learn about the disorder so that you understand its causes and treatments
- Learn to recognize what may trigger angry outbursts or impulsive behavior
- Seek professional help and stick to your treatment plan — attend all therapy sessions and take medications as directed
- Work with your mental health provider to develop a plan for what to do the next time a crisis occurs
- Get treatment for related problems, such as substance misuse
- Consider involving people close to you in your treatment to help them understand and support you
- Manage intense emotions by practicing coping skills, such as the use of breathing techniques and mindfulness meditation
- Set limits and boundaries for yourself and others by learning how to appropriately express emotions in a manner that doesn't push others away or trigger abandonment or instability
- Don't make assumptions about what people are feeling or thinking about you
- Reach out to others with the disorder to share insights and experiences
- Build a support system of people who can understand and respect you
- Keep up a healthy lifestyle, such as eating a healthy diet, being physically active and engaging in social activities
- Don't blame yourself for the disorder, but recognize your responsibility to get it treated
Preparing for your appointment
You may start by seeing your primary care doctor. After an initial appointment, your doctor may refer you to a mental health provider, such as a psychologist or psychiatrist. Here's some information to help you prepare for your appointment.
What you can do
Before your appointment, make a list of:
- Any symptoms you or people close to you have noticed, and for how long
- Key personal information, including traumatic events in your past and any current major stressors
- Your medical information, including other physical or mental health conditions
- All medications you take, including prescription and over-the-counter medications, vitamins and other supplements, and the doses
- Questions you want to ask your doctor so that you can make the most of your appointment
Take a family member or friend along, if possible. Someone who has known you for a long time may be able to share important information with the doctor or mental health provider, with your permission.
Basic questions to ask your doctor or a mental health provider include:
- What's likely causing my symptoms or condition?
- Are there any other possible causes?
- What treatments are most likely to be effective for me?
- How much can I expect my symptoms to improve with treatment?
- How often will I need therapy sessions and for how long?
- Are there medications that can help?
- What are the possible side effects of the medication you may prescribe?
- Do I need to take any precautions or follow any restrictions?
- I have these other health conditions. How can I best manage them together?
- How can my family or close friends help me in my treatment?
- Do you have any printed material that I can take? What websites do you recommend?
Don't hesitate to ask questions during your appointment.
What to expect from your doctor
A doctor or mental health provider is likely to ask you a number of questions. Be ready to answer them to save time for topics you want to focus on. Possible questions include:
- What are your symptoms? When did you first notice them?
- How are these symptoms affecting your life, including your personal relationships and work?
- How often during the course of a normal day do you experience a mood swing?
- How often have you felt betrayed, victimized or abandoned? Why do you think that happened?
- How well do you manage anger?
- How well do you manage being alone?
- How would you describe your sense of self-worth?
- Have you ever felt you were bad, or even evil?
- Have you had any problems with self-destructive or risky behavior?
- Have you ever thought of or tried to harm yourself or attempted suicide?
- Do you use alcohol or recreational drugs or misuse prescription drugs? If so, how often?
- How would you describe your childhood, including your relationship with your parents or caregivers?
- Were you physically or sexually abused or were you neglected as a child?
- Have any of your close relatives or caregivers been diagnosed with a mental health problem, such as a personality disorder?
- Have you been treated for any other mental health problems? If yes, what diagnoses were made, and what treatments were most effective?
- Are you currently being treated for any other medical conditions?
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TREATING BPD | National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder
Treatments for Borderline Personality Disorder
Current research shows that treatment can decrease the symptoms and suffering of people with BPD.
Talk therapy is usually the first choice of treatment (unlike some other illnesses where medication is often first.) Generally, treatment involves one to two sessions a week with a mental health counselor. For therapy to be effective, people must feel comfortable with and trust their therapist.
Some BPD symptoms are easier to treat than others. Fears that others might leave, intense, unstable relationships or feelings of emptiness are often hardest to change. Research shows that treatment is more effective in decreasing anger, suicide attempts and self- harm, as well as helping to improve over-all functioning and social adjustment
People whose symptoms improve may still have issues related to co-occurring disorders, such as depression, substance abuse, eating disorders, or post-traumatic stress disorder. However, research suggests that full-blown BPD symptoms rarely coming back after remission.
There are several treatments that are most often used to manage BPD
Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) focuses on the concept of mindfulness, or paying attention to the present emotion. DBT teaches skills to control intense emotions, reduce self-destructive behavior, manage distress, and improve relationships. It seeks a balance between accepting and changing behaviors. This proactive, problem-solving approach was designed specifically to treat BPD. Treatment includes individual therapy sessions, skills training in a group setting, and phone coaching as needed. DBT is the most studied treatment for BPD and the one shown to be most effective.
Mentalization-based therapy (MBT) is a talk therapy that helps people identify and understand what others might be thinking and feeling.
Transference-focused therapy (TFP) is designed to help patients understand their emotions and interpersonal problems through the relationship between the patient and therapist. Patients then apply the insights they learn to other situations.
Good Psychiatric Management: GPM provides mental health professionals an easy-to-adopt “tool box” for patients with severe personality disorders.
Medications cannot cure BPD but can help treat other conditions that often accompany BPD such as depression, impulsivity, and anxiety. Often patients are treated with several medications, but there is little evidence that this approach is necessary or effective. People with BPD are encouraged to talk with their prescribing doctor about what to expect from each medication and its side effects. 1
Self-Care activities include: regular exercise, good sleep habits, a nutritious diet, taking medications as prescribed, and healthy stress management. Good self-care can help to reduce common symptoms of BPD such as mood changes, impulsive behavior, and irritability.
1. Zanarini MC, Frankenburg FR. omega-3 Fatty acid treatment of women with borderline personality disorder: a double-blind, placebo-controlled pilot study. Am J Psychiatry. 2003 Jan;160(1):167–9.
Help for people with borderline personality disorder //Psychological newspaper
Psychologists and psychotherapists are often approached by people who, in the process of psychodiagnostics and initial interviews, have borderline personality disorder or "emotionally unstable personality disorder" according to ICD-10. What are its signs? How is life for people with page personality disorder? What do experts think about healing? What self-help techniques can people with BPD use in difficult situations? I will talk about this in the article. nine0004
Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a group of personality disorders characterized by self-injurious behavior and difficulties in interpersonal relationships. Some people characterize BPD as "the apocalypse."
I highlight such signs of BPD as: constant anxiety, people with BPD may be anxious because of the crises that accompany their lives, changing events. Often there is an alarming suspiciousness in connection with the state of health. Anxiety leads to psychosomatic illnesses, which reinforces the "vicious circle" - going to the doctors. Anxiety is associated with fear in the lives of people with BPD. A lot of things can scare them, these are new relationships, and intimacy, and parting, and other situations. Numerous spheres of life of people with BPD are “saturated” with fear, as in children aged 3-5 years, who are prone to various fears and anxieties. Especially fear and suspicion can increase in situations of stress. People with BPD have low self-esteem. It is as if a constant critic, distinguished by self-criticism, “sits” inside, and self-doubt and doubts are born from this. nine0005
It is worth noting that it is difficult for people with BPD to answer the question: “who am I?”, “What do I want?”, The so-called diffuse identity manifests itself, where there are no strong goals, values and beliefs. When there is a series of events associated with parting with a loved one, with failures in work or in the sphere of relationships with others, which is typical for people with BPD due to emotional instability, emotional or mental pain arises - it resembles an uncomfortable feeling inside, close to despair. People with BPD may have problems controlling their emotions, which manifests itself in uncontrollable anger and anger, chronic conflicts with others. It is very difficult for them to be in a relationship with one partner for a long time, therefore, changes often occur in relationships, even some chaos, the search for more and more new partners. nine0005
People with BPD tend to change jobs frequently. The work book is literally teeming with notes about various organizations in which I had to work. As a result, they may face certain difficulties in finding employment in the future. The litmus test for BPD in people's behavior is self-harm and suicide. At the same time, self-harm can manifest itself in different ways, from suicidal attempts to masochistic tendencies in behavior, when people with BPD want the other person to scold, offend, hurt. For some people with BPD, various kinds of addictions are characteristic, for example, alcoholism, drug addiction, gambling, Internet addiction. People with BPD are characterized by unreasonable spending of money, risky driving, and promiscuity. Often, after traumatic events, there may be problems with sleep, nightmares, obsessive thoughts about unpleasant situations, memories that disturb and do not allow you to live in peace. In general, the signs of BPD are characterized by polymorphism, and behavioral patterns - by a variety of manifestations. nine0005
You can describe borderline personality disorder with the word: INSTABILITY, where:
N - hate. People with BPD are characterized by a feeling of hatred as a long, intense, negative feeling, reflecting disgust, hostility, rejection of someone.
E - Yeralash. Characterized by disorder, confusion, confusion. Chaotic interpersonal, incl. intimate relationships, lack of structure.
C - Self harm. Among people with BPD, there are suicide attempts, cutting, poisoning, self-harm with the help of other people in interpersonal relationships, self-infliction of pain. nine0017 T - Spending. Unreasonable spending of money on unnecessary purchases, unreasonable expenditure of effort.
A - Ambivalence. Opposite feelings in a short amount of time. For example, love and hate.
B - Pain. Characterized by mental pain with repeated unsuccessful attempts, for example, in building interpersonal relationships, employment, etc.
I - Idealization. The tendency to idealize other people and depreciate them after a short period of time. nine0017 L - Lie. People with BPD are prone to deceit, lies, embellishment of reality.
N - Troubles. People with BPD often find themselves in conflict situations, quarrels, unfriendly relationships.
Oh - emptiness. People with BPD often feel empty inside, lack of interest.
S - Boredom. A feeling of boredom, a decrease in activity, a lack of prolonged interest in any activity, the world around and other people are characteristic.
T - Branding, branding. They often brand themselves. After hospitalization in a hospital, they feel the stigma of the mentally ill, acutely experience such a state, and isolate themselves. nine0017 INSTABILITY characterizes the lives of people with BPD, these are interpersonal relationships, and situations related to employment, and mood, and behavior in general.
Expert opinions on borderline personality disorder
Anton Yezhov, PhD in Psychiatry. Institute of Neurology, Psychiatry and Narcology of the Academy of Sciences of Ukraine, Kharkiv, full member of the Russian Psychotherapeutic Association, certified and accredited by the Moscow Gestalt Institute (according to the standards of the European Association of Gestalt Therapists). nine0004
- Anton Vladimirovich, what is borderline personality disorder?
- In ICD-10: F60.3 it is “Emotionally labile personality disorder. Impulsive and borderline type. With borderline character disorder ( BPD), patients generally test reality, however, during diagnosis, there may be a slight distortion in the description of events occurring with the patient, as a result of a poorly developed ability for reflection, mentalization, the impact of strong affects and primitive defenses on cognitive processes. In some cases, there may be quasi-psychotic episodes in the form of short paranoid reactions, usually provoked by any dual and uncertain situation, as well as episodes of dissociation. But, as a rule, all these phenomena do not develop into stable delusional and hallucinatory symptoms. Patients with PPH also have a rather high suicidal risk, but the main motive is most often a demonstrative protest, jealousy, a desire to “punish” a partner and make him feel guilty. In PPH, rage, hatred, resentment dominate in suicidal behavior. Auto-aggressive actions are usually performed impulsively, at the peak of affect, often in a demonstrative style. nine0005
- How can BPD be corrected?
- In the therapy of CPH, the pathogenetic is long-term psychotherapy focused on the client-therapeutic relationship - this is the main type of treatment! Pharmacotherapy acts as a maintenance therapy. Drugs in the treatment of BPH include selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors, low dose antipsychotics, and mood stabilizers. The general approach in the pharmacotherapy of BPH is to reduce the unnecessary use of medications (!), medicating the target symptoms with an understanding of pharmacodynamics. nine0005
Irina Mlodik, Ph.D. in Psychology, psychologist, Gestalt therapist, existential psychotherapist, author of books and articles on child and adult practical psychology, author's training courses.
- Irina Yurievna, please tell me, is it possible to recover from borderline personality disorder?
- About the treatment: it's hard to say. I do not have a psychiatric, not a medical position on this matter. I believe that in each of us there can be a borderline arranged and borderline functioning part. In that sense, there's no cure for the way you're made. One can only reduce the consequences of border effects. Including and mainly with the help of high-quality and long-term, for example, humanistically oriented or analytical psychotherapy. Long-term and regular therapy creates a special type of relationship with the therapist, which allows, being in high-quality and constant contact: to live through many difficult and not processed by the psyche affects from childhood, to create and maintain with the help of therapeutic contact an important, permanent, uninterrupted connection with the therapist (which there was almost certainly no person with BPD), who becomes an important “adult” in the life of a “border guard” who can be relied upon. Subsequently, from relying on the connection and the figure of the therapist, inside and the person with BPD, other relationships grow both inside themselves (to their internal objects) and outside, they have the opportunity to maintain closeness not only with the therapist, but also with other people and build with them a long-term relationship. Affects become rarer, not so amplitude, endurable. There is an opportunity to know one’s own painful places better, take care of oneself more, be less exposed to destructive relationships and processes, better understand one’s reactions, features and manifestations, learn to treat oneself like this in the world of people, sometimes explaining to them one’s own characteristics and properties. nine0005
Advice for People with BPD to Use in a Crisis
Calming an emotional storm
Stop fighting, avoiding, repressing, or denying what you are feeling. Give yourself permission to feel, this will take away the power of feelings over you. Try to simply experience your feelings without judgment or criticism.
Let go of the past and the future, focus solely on the present moment. Mindfulness techniques can be very effective in this regard. nine0017 • Start by observing your emotions, step back and just observe them.
• Watch them come and go (it can help to think of them as waves that come and go).
• Focus on physical sensations that are accompanied by emotions.
• Tell yourself that you accept your emotions, accept what you feel right now.
• Remind yourself that just because you feel something doesn't mean it's real. nine0005
Do something to change your bad feelings
You will need to experiment to find out what works best for you. What can help when you are angry or have very strong feelings, when you are depressed, etc.
Some ideas for working on yourself
Tactile sensations . Try running your hand in cold or hot (but not scalding) water; hold a piece of ice in your hand; grab the edge of the piece of furniture as hard as you can. If you're feeling anxious and need to calm down, try taking a hot bath or shower; cover yourself with a blanket or cuddle with a pet. nine0005
Taste . If you feel empty or bored inside, try putting strong flavored sweets or mints in your mouth, slowly eating something with an intense taste, such as something salty. If you want to calm down, try something calming like hot tea or soup.
Smell . Light a candle, smell the flowers, try aromatherapy, spritz on your favorite perfume, or smell something that smells good in the kitchen. You may find you respond best to strong odors such as citrus, spices, etc.
Landmark . Focus on an image that grabs your attention. It could be something in your immediate environment (a great view, a beautiful flower, the location of a building, a favorite painting or photo) or something you imagine.
Sound . Try listening to loud music or a bell or whistle when you need a boost. To calm down, play soothing music or listen to soothing sounds of nature such as the wind, birds, or the ocean. The sound of a car can help a lot if you can't hear something more real. nine0005
Need to reduce emotional vulnerability
You are more likely to experience negative emotions when you are stressed. That is why it is very important to take care of your physical and mental well-being.
Take care of yourself :
- Avoid drugs.
- Eat a balanced, nutritious diet.
- Sleep well and rest. nine0116 Practice self-help skills regularly.
- Minimize stressful situations.
- Practice relaxation techniques.
Basic methods of psychotherapy for BPD
- Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT).
- Schematic (schematic) therapy.
- Psychotherapy based on mentalization (MBT).
- Transference-Focused Psychotherapy (TFP) is a psychotherapy focused on the analysis of transference. nine0117
Borderline personality disorder is not a sentence. Change is possible if there is a desire to change and improve the quality of life. I hope this article has helped you better understand the structure and manifestations of BPD, as well as approaches to psychotherapeutic treatment and self-help methods in a difficult situation.
Therapy with borderline patients | Journal of Practical Psychology and Psychoanalysis
Year of publication and journal number:
2014, No. 3
|Comment: A chapter from the second edition of Nancy McWilliams' book Psychoanalytic Diagnostics. Understanding the Structure of Personality in the Clinical Process”, which is being prepared for publication in early 2015 by the Independent Firm Klass.|
The article is devoted to the general principles of psychoanalytic psychotherapy of borderline personality disorder.
Keywords: borderline personality disorder, psychoanalytic psychotherapy. nine0005
Different views on etiology and different traditions of therapy naturally lead to different approaches to treatment, and there are so many controversies in the literature about the treatment of borderline clients that it is impossible to describe them in full detail in a few paragraphs. Yet, it is noteworthy that, despite differences in theoretical language and etiological assumptions, there is a practical consensus on the general principles of treatment. Some of them I will briefly describe here (compare with Paris, 2008). nine0005
Boundary maintenance and emotional containment
Although the capacity for trust is greater in borderline patients than in psychotic patients, and therefore the therapist is less likely to be required to demonstrate that the patient can feel safe in the counseling room, it may take them up to several years to establish the kind of therapeutic alliance that a neurotic client may experience within minutes of meeting a therapist. The borderline client, by definition, lacks an integrated observing ego that sees many things in the same light as the therapist. Instead, the patient is subject to a chaotic tossing of various ego states, unable to integrate disparate views. While the psychotic seeks psychological fusion with the clinician and the neurotic seeks to maintain his identity, the borderline vacillates—confusingly for himself and those around him—between symbiotic attachment and hostile, isolated separation. Both states cause suffering: one awakens a premonition of absorption, the other of emptiness. nine0005
Given the instability of the ego state, a critical aspect of treatment with borderline patients is the establishment of uniform conditions for therapy—what Langs (1973) called the therapeutic framework. It includes not only time and pay arrangements, but also many other relationship boundary issues that rarely come up when working with other clients. All major therapies for BPD have mechanisms (contracts, consequences, treatment rules, ways to limit self-destructive behavior) to maintain treatment through explicit limiting conditions. Patients of a neurotic or psychotic level can be handled more flexibly. nine0005
Common requests from border clients might be: “Can I call you at home?” “What if I want to kill myself?” you in the waiting room?", "Could you write to my professor and tell me that I'm too stressed out to take the exam?" Some of these problems are formulated as questions; others arise in the form of action (for example, the therapist finds the client asleep on the floor in the waiting room). The ways to test boundaries when working with borderline patients are endless, and it is critically important for the therapist to know that what is important is not what is important.0003 what conditions to (they may vary depending on the patient's personality, therapist's preferences and situation), and that conditions must be must be constantly monitored and supported by specific sanctions if the patient does not show respect for them. For people with separation-individuation problems, connivance creates more anxiety than containment, much like teenagers whose parents do not insist on responsible behavior. Without clear boundaries, they tend to escalate until they find the boundaries that have remained unspoken all along. nine0005
Borderline clients often react angrily to the therapist's boundaries, but in any case they receive two therapeutic messages: (1) the therapist considers the patient an adult and is confident in their ability to tolerate frustration, and (2) the therapist refuses to be exploited and thus serves self-respect model. Often people on the borderline have a history of receiving a lot of conflicting messages; they found encouragement in moments of regression (and usually ignored in more mature behavior), and they were expected to be able to exploit and allowed to exploit. nine0005
When I first started to practice, I was struck by the amount of deprivation and trauma experienced by borderline clients. I tended to see them as thirsty and needy rather than aggressive and angry, and in the hope of compensating for their difficulties, I tried to jump above my own head. I realized that the more I gave, the more they regressed and the more frustrated I felt. Over time, I learned to stick to the established framework, no matter how cruel it may seem. I did not allow the sessions to go on longer than they were supposed to, even if, for example, the patient had just fallen into a state of intense grief. Instead, I learned to gently but firmly end a session on time and listen to the patient's anger at being kicked out the next time. If borderline patients began to chastise me for my rigid, selfish rules, I noticed that they fared better than when I tried to get them to appreciate my generosity, which is an internally infantilizing attitude. nine0005
Therapists who are new to working with borderline patients often ask when all preparations for therapy will be completed and real therapy will begin. It must be painful to realize that all this work on the conditions of therapy is therapy. The beginner wonders when the borderline patient will "calm down". Tension characterizes all work with borderline patients, and it is critical that the therapist be able to tolerate or "contain" this tension, even when it includes verbal attacks against the therapist (Bion, 1962; Charles, 2004). Once an alliance of the neurotic type is reached, the patient will, by definition, take a giant step in development. Having to spend so much time asking questions of boundaries when working with people who are often bright, talented, and spectacular is quite disconcerting, especially when these questions stimulate overflowing reactivity. Petty fighting from abroad is hardly what we meant by "doing therapy" when we decided to go into this area. Therefore, people working with their first frontier clients may suffer from occasional flare-ups of self-doubt. nine0005
When working with borderline clients, it is usually best to work face to face, even with those who are attracted to psychoanalysis and want to 'dig deeper'. Although they are not subject to the overflowing transferences that characterize psychotic patients, they have more than enough anxiety without the therapist sitting out of their sight. For the recovery of more difficult patients, being able to see the reflection of emotion on the therapist's face can also be critical. Analyzing video recordings of sessions with clients who had previous experiences of therapy failure, Krause and colleagues (e.g., Anstadt, Merten, Ullrich & Krause, 1997) found that regardless of the therapist's orientation, improvements were correlated with the client's ability to see "mismatched" emotions on the therapist's face. For example, when the client's face showed shame, the therapist's face might express anger at someone shaming the client; when fear appeared on the client's face, the therapist's face might express curiosity about that fear. Also, again, since the energy of borderline clients does not need to be rewarded, only unusual circumstances (such as the need for increased support in withdrawal from addiction) may require borderline clients to be treated more than three times a week, as in classical psychoanalysis. nine0005
Voicing contrasting states of feeling
The second thing to pay close attention to with borderline clients is the therapist's speaking style. With neurotic patients, the specialist's comments may be infrequent and intended to have maximum effect ("less is more"). With healthier clients, noting the other side of the conflict, in which the client is aware of only one feeling, can be spoken concisely and emotionally subdued (Colby, 1951; Fenichel, 1941; Hammer, 1968). For example, a woman on the neurotic spectrum may enthusiastically vent about her friend, with whom she is in a somewhat competitive relationship, in such a way that she does not feel any negative emotions. The therapist might say something like, "But you would also like to nail her," along the way. Or a man may rant about how independent and free he is; the therapist might comment, "Yet you worry all the time about what I think of you." nine0005
In these cases, neurotic clients know that the therapist has revealed some of their subjective experiences that they have been keeping out of awareness. Because they can appreciate that the clinician is not trying to belittle them, is not claiming that their unacknowledged attitude is their real feeling and that their conscious ideas are illusory, as a result of this interpretation they may feel that their awareness has increased. They feel understood. , even if slightly hurt. But borderline clients who are spoken to in this way feel they are criticized and belittled, because if the phrase is not reformulated, the main message they receive will be: “You are completely wrong about how you really feel. ” . This response comes from their tendency to be in one or the other ego state, but not in a state of consciousness that can live and endure ambivalence and uncertainty. nine0005
For these reasons, beginning therapists often find themselves in a situation where they think they are expressing caring understanding, but notice that the borderline patient reacts as if he is being attacked. One way to get around this problem is to recognize that the BORD lacks the reflective capacity to perceive an interpretation as additional information about itself, and therefore needs to give this function to the interpretation itself. Therefore, the patient is more likely to hear empathy in the words: “I can see how much Mary means to you. However, is it possible that there is also another part of you - a part that you certainly will not be guided by - that you would like to get rid of it, since it is in some way competing with you? Or: “You definitely say that you are characterized by independence and self-confidence. Interestingly, it seems to co-exist with some opposing tendencies, such as being sensitive to my opinion of you." Such interventions lack the punch and beauty of laconic expressions, but given the peculiarities of the psychological problems of borderline people, they are the ones who are more likely to achieve the goal. nine0005
Interpretation of primitive defenses
The third feature of effective psychoanalytic therapy with borderline patients is the interpretation of primitive defenses as they arise. This work does not fundamentally differ from ego-psychological work with neurotic patients: we analyze defense processes as they arise in the transference. But because the borderline's defenses are so primitive, and also because they can manifest in quite different ways in different ego states, the analysis of these defenses requires a special approach. nine0005
With borderline clients, "genetic" (historical) interpretations, in which transference reactions are associated with feelings belonging to a figure from the client's past, are rarely helpful. With clients at the neurotic level, one can greatly benefit from a comment such as: "Perhaps you are so angry with me because you perceive me as your mother." The patient may agree, notice differences between therapist and mother, and be interested in other cases in which this association might be relevant. With borderline patients, reactions can range from "So what?" (which can mean "You look so much like my mother, why should I react differently?") to "So how can this help me?" (which could mean "You're just spouting your psychiatric rubbish. When will you finally start helping me?") or "Sure!" (which can mean “Well, finally you understand everything. The problem is my mother, I want to change her!”). Such reactions can be confusing, disarming, and discouraging for young therapists, especially if genetic interpretations have been a useful aspect of the therapist's personal psychotherapeutic experience. nine0005
With borderline patients, one can safely interpret the emotional situation here and now. For example, when anger spreads in the therapeutic dyad, it is likely that the patient's defense is not a substitution or a direct projection, as was the case in the previous example of the neurotic patient with the mother transference; instead, the patient appears to be using projective identification. The patient tries to get rid of the feeling of "bad self" (Sullivan, 1953) and the associated emotion of rage by transferring them to the therapist, but the transference of image and emotion does not occur "purely"; the client retains a sense of "worthlessness" and anger despite the projection. This is a painful price for an inferior psychological separation—a price that the borderline person pays and that the psychotherapist inevitably shares. nine0005
Consider how borderline clients differ critically from both neurotic and psychotic clients. The psychotic client is detached enough from reality not to care whether the projection "fits" the person. A neurotic person has an observing ego that is able to notice that he is currently projecting something. Borderline patients cannot successfully get rid of the sensation of projection. They cannot remain indifferent to how realistic the material being projected is because, unlike psychotics, they have retained the skill of testing reality. And they cannot put it on the unconscious part of the ego, because, unlike neurotics, instead of using repression, they switch between states. Therefore, they continue to feel what they are projecting along with the need make it fit the person so they don't feel crazy. The therapist accepts the client's anger (or other strong emotion) and, while the client tries to "fit" the projection by insisting that he is angry because of the therapist's hostility, the therapist begins to feel angry because he is not understood. Because of these transactions, borderline clients get a bad rap among many mental health professionals, even though they are not always unpleasant people and can usually be treated appropriately. nine0005
An interpretation that might affect a borderline person in this situation would probably be: “You seem to be convinced that you are a bad person. You get angry about it and link the anger to the fact that I'm really bad, and that my anger causes your anger. Try to imagine that both of us have both good and bad, and that all this is not so scary. This is an example of a primitive defense confrontation here and now. It represents the therapist's attempt, which will have to be repeated in various forms over several months at most, to help the patient move from a psychology in which everything is black and white, "all or nothing", to one in which the various aspects of the self, good and bad, and a range of emotions are consolidated within a single concept of "I". This type of intervention is not easy for most people, but fortunately the practice pays off. nine0005
Obtaining supervision from the patient
The fourth dimension of working with borderline clients is that I have found it helpful to ask the patient to help resolve the "either/or" dilemmas that often confront the therapist. This technique, where the specialist asks the patient to be their supervisor, is directly related to the all-or-nothing approach inherent in the borderline patient's picture of the world.