Women dating much older men
Why Do Older Men Date Younger Women?
Consenting adults come together for many reasons and age isn’t always a factor. Older men may fall for younger women and younger women may sometimes prefer to date older men.
While some people may believe the motives behind big age gaps in relationships are always sinister, older men may gravitate toward younger women for many valid reasons, and that may be the case for younger women dating older men, too.
Age and consent
This article discusses older men dating younger women where both partners are above the legal age of consent in their state.
If both partners are above the legal age of consent, it doesn’t mean consent is implicit. Asking for consent and both people being on the same page is key in any healthy romantic relationship.
If you’re below the age of consent and an adult’s behavior is making you feel uncomfortable or unsafe, help is available. You can:
- Call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 800-656-4673 for confidential, 24/7 support.
- Visit Stop It Now! for online resources or reach out to their helpline at 888-773-8368.
- Visit Childhelp for resources to handle and report abuse or to chat live with someone who can help.
Why does anybody want to date someone else? There are infinite possibilities.
The vulnerability of young girls has made the older-men-dating-younger-women stereotype a predatory one.
While it’s true that some men may consider younger women easy targets for manipulation or control, there are less sinister reasons an older man may be drawn to someone younger.
Sometimes it just happens. You fall in love with the person and overlook their age. Other times, it’s actually the energy, appearance, and life perspective of a younger woman that may be attractive to an older man. In some instances, the intention may not be a healthy one. Every case is different.
A 2020 large-scale replication study examined mate preferences across 45 countries. Researchers found that most men placed a higher emphasis on appearance when it came to choosing a partner.
The reason behind it isn’t necessarily vanity.
Primitive humans seemed to have selected mates based on reproductive success. Features like youth, symmetrical bone structure, and wide hips in females were viewed as signs of overall health and vitality, which would ensure species survival.
On some level, the ancestral and instinctual attraction to such features may remain in both Eastern and Western cultures, as noted by a large international study from 2020.
This could be a reason why men, in general, may be attracted to younger women.
Stephanie Juliano, a licensed professional clinical counselor from Rio Rancho, New Mexico, points out women haven’t traditionally had the benefit of equality.
“Men initially had more privileges, and so it was not unheard of taking a younger partner to take care of, and on the other hand, a young woman leaving home was being taken care of both financially and socially,” she explains.
While the adult-child relationship dynamic has been denounced in some parts of the world, there’s still much work to do in that respect. It’s also possible that these practices have influenced dating culture and there may still be an undercurrent of older men dating consensual younger women based on wanting to be their provider.
Entering crisis mode
It’s probably one of the most discussed reasons for older men dating younger women: The midlife or identity crisis.
Do older men mentally resist aging by dating younger partners? Is the midlife crisis even real? There’s much discussion but limited research on the topic. Some argue that this is yet another stereotyped cliche that doesn’t have much proof behind it.
How old is “too old” when it comes to an age gap in relationships?
According to data accumulated over the course of 7 decades, in developed countries, the average age gap among heterosexual couples is 2 to 3 years.
In these relationships, the data indicates it’s more common for men to be the older partner.
Age gaps are rarely discussed until they’re considered “too big,” but there’s no hard rule about when an age gap becomes significant.
Reported satisfaction in a relationship may start to see diminishing returns if the age gap between partners is larger than 10 years, suggests an 80-paper review from 2016.
In misogynist cultures, young women dating older men may be often accused of being “gold diggers,” or just in the relationship for financial gain.
Research, however, shows that when it comes to establishing long-term relationships, the majority of women, of all ages, are typically interested in older men.
A large study of more than 12,000 participants in Finland found that most women prefer same-age or older male partners throughout life, while men, regardless of age, tend to prefer women in their 20s.
While women may also seek older men out of long-standing provider traditions, there are other reasons this matchup might be appealing.
Research suggests men take longer than women to reach mental maturity, making it reasonable for young women to feel more emotionally compatible and secure with older men.
The father complex
Young women who grow up with absent, emotionally unavailable, or abusive fathers may develop what’s known as the father complex.
The father or Oedipus complex isn’t a recognized disorder in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 5th edition, text revision (DSM-5-TR), and it’s a controversial term. Originally a Sigmund Freud’s theory, the term and concept have been long controverted.
Initially, the theory described how children form a strong attachment with the parent of the opposite sex and start to compete for attention and love with parents of the same sex. This is part of the natural psychosexual development.
When a person stays psychologically stuck in this stage of development, they may experience challenges in adult relationships.
When it comes to younger women dating older men, some people refer to the complex as “daddy issues,” a gendered stereotyping term.
Only a mental health professional can accurately determine if a younger woman’s attraction to older men has roots in unresolved childhood conflicts.
What about older women and younger men?
A double standard may exist in some cultures that accept older men dating younger women. Older women dating younger men may not be seen so kindly, although it could be explained differently.
Mary Mimi Schultz, a licensed professional counselor from Houston, explains this is often because the component of vulnerability is missing from this dynamic.
“When a younger man dates an older woman, it is more accepted because she is not in the relationship for money, typically,” says Schultz.
In a chauvinist culture, an older woman may still be seen as the weaker one in the relationship, not the one taking advantage of a younger partner, which may happen to older men dating younger women.
When two people genuinely love one another and have built that love on commonalities, companionship, respect, and trust, a relationship can work — regardless of the age gap.
Patricia O’laughlin, a licensed marriage and family therapist from Los Angeles, says relationships with a large age gap may be wonderful opportunities for personal growth.
“There can be significant differences in beliefs between generations. It’s a real chance to learn how to consider multiple perspectives on an issue or experience,” she says.
Schultz adds these types of relationships also tend to have high levels of maturity, which can mean a lower chance of settling for less than ideal circumstances.
“Typically, an age gap difference means one is in it for the love and relationship,” she says.
Any relationship can face challenges, but research suggests age gaps like those in relationships between older men and younger women have been linked to:
As partners age, the older partner may not be able to meet the energy levels of the younger partner, or may feel inadequate.
Depression in older adults may also be linked to experiences unique to the age, like losing close friends and retirement, something a younger partner may not be able to relate to.
Infidelity and lack of relationship commitment
Although not a rule, it’s possible that younger partners may gravitate back toward people their own age, particularly if the older partner doesn’t have the same sex drive.
Infidelity isn’t exclusive to relationships with age gaps, though. As in any other case, trust and open communication are key to managing this challenge.
Lower relationship satisfaction
Many factors can influence relationship satisfaction. With a large age gap, partners may experience stress or anxiety from:
- social stigma
- different priorities in life, or goals that don’t align
- power dynamics
- clashing social circles
- age-related health challenges
How to manage challenges
Experts cite communication as critical for the success of relationships between older men and younger women.
Juliano recommends open communication about big life questions, right from the start.
“Are there common interests in life goals, religion, family, where do you see yourself, what do you want in the next 5, 10, 15+ years?” she suggests you ask yourself.
O’Laughlin explains that figuring out these questions and creating plans to address them can strengthen your relationship and decrease resentment and conflict.
If you’re unsure where to start, a relationship counselor can help you and your partner identify areas of concern and possible solutions.
Why would older men date younger women and vice versa? As with any other relationship, there are many factors involved. Emotional security, maturity, common life perspectives, physical attraction, and chemistry may be involved. Instincts and culture may also play an important part.
It’s also possible in some cases that unresolved relationship challenges with father figures or traumatic experiences may be at play. Only a mental health professional can determine if this is the case.
Having a big age gap doesn’t necessarily mean your relationship is bound to fail. Open communication about life goals and expectations can help you and your partner build a foundation of trust and respect.
Reasons Why Women Prefer Dating Older Men
- Know what’s attractive about older men
- Recognize the difference between 28 and 45
- Understand why these age-gap relationships succeed or fail
Okay, Evan, I agree mostly with your opinion on younger men/older women. What do you say about the reverse? I mean, I can see why an older man would want to date a younger woman – physically, that is, but why would a 28-year-old woman be attracted to older men and want to date a man 45 or more?
The conventional wisdom as to why older men tend to go for younger women is straightforward. Younger women, for the most part, are in better shape, with better skin and less baggage from broken relationships. Life experience creates wisdom – but it also creates responsibilities and complications — mortgage, kids, career, etc. All of this makes dating more and more complex as we get older.
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It’s a lot easier for a man to take out a carefree, responsibility-free, baggage-free, wrinkle-free 28-year-old, which is why so many men try to go in that direction. I’m not condoning this. I’m OBSERVING that it happens.
Still, most of them fail miserably for the exact same reasons that I think Penelope is suggesting. Older guys want much younger women, but rarely do much younger women want much older men. Put another way, if a woman has an array of other quality options closer to her age range, what incentives would she have to date an older man who is SEVENTEEN YEARS OLDER?
She doesn’t NEED an older man who’s 45. She can find that same amazing guy at age 30. Or 35. Or 40.
Not many, I’m thinking.
Before any 40+ people get all hot and bothered about this — I am not judging. There is nothing wrong with aging. I do think people improve with age (my wife is nodding). But let’s not pretend that we, as a culture, don’t worship at the altar of youth. If you’re over the age of 40 and have ever said, “But I’m told I look five years younger than my age,” then you’re not immune to it yourself. But see, for older men who covet younger women, it’s not whether you look good for your age — it’s what age you really are.
Because it’s competitive out there for all of us, people have choices. And nobody has more choices than a 28-year-old woman. If women date a guy who is 6’2”, makes $400,000+, likes skiing, is within ten miles of her house, and is within five years of her own age, you know what? She could probably find him. All she has to do is go on a dating app and wade through a few thousand applicants.
The point is, she doesn’t NEED to date a man who’s 45. Why start dating an older man who’s paying child support, and will be taking Viagra when she’s sexually peaking at 43?
Don’t get me wrong. There are advantages to the 45-year-old guy. Now that I’ve passed that age, I get it. At 45, he’s a man. He’s got the job, the home, the car, and has been divorced with a kid already. So if a woman finds it more appealing to just step into that world — to jump from the prolonged adolescence of the late 20s into full-fledged settled-down womanhood — that could make sense.
Of course, there may be many other things that are attractive about older men. Older men embody wisdom and stability. Older men can afford nicer restaurants and vacations and have cultivated greater tastes in the arts. Older men are more experienced, more chivalrous, and more likely to want to settle down than twentysomething younger guys or party boys.
And yet, they probably resemble Penelope’s dad more than they resemble her brother…
This is the most compelling reason why younger women might be attracted to older men: they’re daddy substitutes. An older man is going to be the strong, nurturing guy who takes care of her, teaches her, and treats her like a princess — the kind of relationship that she probably lacked growing up.
Hey, I’m no psychologist — just your friendly, neighborhood dating coach. But I do know women and have coached many women in their 20s. And the truth is that most of them are completely creeped out at the prospect of dating a guy with a significant age gap who was alive two decades before she was born.
Whether we like it or not, there is nearly a full generation age difference between 28 and 45. A few women may bridge this gap for lust or money or dimestore psychological reasons, but most of the 28-year-old women who come to me for dating coaching would prefer to date a great, stable 30-40-year-old.
Okay, older men – tell me why I’m wrong. But don’t forget, you and your younger girlfriends are the exceptions. I’m writing about the RULE in an age gap relationship.
By the way, my wife wants it on record that she would totally have slept with Harrison Ford when he was in his 60s. So there’s that.
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When a woman chooses a man much older: what does it mean?
Man and woman Know thyself
Everyone remembers from school days that girls develop faster than boys physiologically and, as a result, psychologically. While classmates awkwardly pull their pigtails and defiantly communicate only with each other, a good half of the girls are drowning in romantic dreams about Seryozha from 11 "A".
This trend persists until about 23-25 years old: peers are not very interesting, and girls choose older men. However, when the age difference is 10, 15, or even 20 years, the reason lies not only in physiology. nine0003
According to Freud
Sigmund Freud also wrote that parents become the prototypes of the partners we choose. Boys fall in love with girls who look like their mother, girls fall in love with men who look like their father.
Many women instinctively look for older men because they did not receive father's love, care and attention in childhood. There are many options, but perhaps they were not told in childhood: “I love you” or “You are my princess.” Or maybe the woman grew up in an incomplete family, where for some reason there was no father. nine0003
Another sad story, when the father was physically present, but emotionally he was not. A prime example is alcoholism. You cannot rely on such a father and get support. At the moment when he is most needed, he goes on a binge. And the girl is desperately looking for love, understanding and care from others and most often does not find it.
Fear of separation from parents
When a woman has not achieved full autonomy from her parents, she seeks to return to this relationship. She is afraid to lose the parent-child connection forever. It is cozy in the parental nest and I want the man nearby to become a senior comrade or guardian who will provide financially and help morally. Such a woman cannot (and more often does not want to) solve financial issues on her own and feels uncomfortable without support. She is very afraid of being alone. nine0003
Children are unconsciously passed on generic life scripts that are reproduced from generation to generation. A striking example is when all women in the family are unlucky with their husbands: they drink, beat or gamble, but their hands are “golden”. And women endure, raise children and pass this script on to their daughters.
In such cases, they say that it is “written by birth”. And if “it is written in the family” for a man in a couple to be older than a woman, he, obviously, will die earlier. And the woman will need to cope with this situation, survive it psychologically. nine0003
A man chooses a woman younger than himself also for a reason.
These relationships are often based on inequality, since parent and child are, by definition, unequal. The reverse side of security and comfort is the dominance of a man, in which a woman has to sacrifice her own "I", push it into the background.
A man can consider a woman as a material from which he molds an ideal partner. He can be annoying with constant instructions and moralizing. Considering himself more experienced and wise, he will single-handedly make important decisions for both. nine0003
It is very difficult to get along with such a person. Especially if he is jealous of his young and attractive wife, while he is rapidly aging. Then the desire to limit the communication of the partner with the same age will be added to the moralizing.
At the same time, a mature man is a reliable rear behind which a woman feels good for many reasons:
- Material benefit. A financially accomplished man is a reliable support for a family, in which a woman can take care of the house, hobbies and raising children without needing anything. nine0046
- Interesting personality. An adult man is a person who has seen and knows a lot. Of course, it is more interesting with him than with a peer who has not yet decided who he is and what interests him.
- Emotional support and care. With age, men begin to understand women a little, or at least pretend to. They know how to listen and support in difficult times, which can be difficult for young couples.
- Reliability. A mature man has already "worked up", he knows what he wants. It is not scary to create a family with him, you can rely on him. nine0046
- Sexual life. Experienced knows how, how much and what a woman wants, and is not obsessed with her sexual success.
- Different values and interests. Partners listened to different music in their youth, read different books, watched different films. On the one hand, this can be a problem, on the other hand, on the contrary, it increases interest in each other.
- Unflattering comparison with previous wives and partners. There is a risk of getting taunts about culinary abilities, habits, skills. The main thing here is to gently but firmly make it clear that you are you. What he was used to was left in the past, with which he himself decided to part. nine0046
- Reluctance to have children. He has children from previous marriages and wants no more. He, as they say, "ate" and wants to live for his own pleasure, while the young woman is ripe for the family.
- Disharmony in activity. An ideal weekend for a man is at home on the couch, and his partner misses skiing. Here it is important to negotiate, find compromises and spend leisure time both together and separately from each other. For example, one weekend you stay at home, the second you spend in nature, the third - the husband lies on the couch, and the wife goes skiing with her friend. nine0046
The chances of a long-term relationship
If the parent-child relationship suits both, the chances of the couple staying together are high. What is important is not the age difference as such, but how old each of the partners is. With age, we better understand who we need, learn to build relationships, discuss problems, instead of slamming the door, and try to be more condescending to each other's shortcomings. It all depends on the emotional maturity of each of the partners and the desire to be together, despite the differences. nine0003
About the author
Olga Kuznetsova is a psychologist, author of the Zygmund Trend channel.
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with him, the disadvantages of such a relationship
We fully understand those girls who like men much older - adult men seem completely devoid of the flaws inherent in their peers. But sometimes a serious relationship with a gentleman of respectable age is not a good story. Let's explain why we think so. nine0003
Pros and cons
Couples in which the woman is noticeably younger than her chosen one are eye-catching. The people around begin to guess whether she is walking or having lunch in a cafe with her dad or with her lover. It seems that awkwardness in these cases haunts all parties - both observers and the main characters. But our message is not connected with the concepts of youth and old age, as such. When a man in a couple is much older than a woman, the essence of the arguments against this union comes down to objective factors. nine0003
He may be an old bachelor
A man who has never been married or has been for a long time. A man who did not have a really serious and really long relationship. Do you know why? Because he never wanted to. And he doesn't want to now. If a man is much older than a woman, she is unlikely to be able to change it.
The problem is that an allegedly serious romance lasting a couple of years suits him perfectly and he will not want to let you go earlier. And do not hope that you can easily leave or, on the contrary, become for him the very first and only woman whom he will finally marry. We wonder why a girl chooses a man much older than herself, believing in his reliability. But the whole paradox is that, alas, this is not so. In terms of loyalty, he will probably be all yours, but that forever is not a fact at all. nine0003
Couples where the woman is older than the man
“Everything will be different with me” is a myth that is very dangerous to believe. Because he is a pro, and you are not even an amateur yet, and so, a cook. How many noteworthy novels have you had? Three? Five? Don't make his moccasins laugh. Before you, he manipulated dozens of women with great success. And he didn't marry a single one. What can you, with your meager (for him) life experience, oppose to this? Couples where the man is much older do not necessarily continue their journey together through the registry office. He is satisfied with everything and he is sure that you are too. nine0003
Most likely, he has Pygmalion's syndrome
But, let's say your dear not a convinced bachelor, but just a man who, for one reason or another, turned out to be free in adulthood. Why is this wonderful option bad, the way is a man and much older? The fact that he may well suffer from Pygmalion's syndrome. That is, not to suffer, but to enjoy. You will suffer.
As you remember, the Greek sculptor Pygmalion sculpted a beautiful statue, named it Galatea and immediately fell in love with her - well, he created the ideal. Then the mighty Aphrodite took pity on the unfortunate and revived the statue. And they lived happily ever after. Very cute myth. Especially when you consider that before meeting with Pygmalion, Galatea was just a piece of ivory. But you are still a living person. And meeting a man with Pygmalion syndrome will not bring you anything good. nine0003
Very often a mature man starts a relationship with a young woman, hoping to change her "for himself." To put it bluntly - train. Yes, like a dog. They don’t even hide it: “I’ll find myself a young fool and make a comfortable wife out of her.” Therefore, the love of a much older man is more like a desire to avoid loneliness and creating greenhouse conditions around yourself. This is blatant moral violence. And it’s not a fact that you immediately recognize the problem.
You have a different cultural background
“Our common childhood was spent on primer books alone…” — who sang this? If you're in your thirties, you probably know. If it's less, it's unlikely. Well, it doesn't matter, though it was Makarevich.
When a man is much older than a woman, their cultural upbringing and psychology are very different. The problem is that you and your sweetheart did not have any common childhood at all. And common youth. You are people of different generations. You have nothing to remember and discuss, laughing or crying. This man will understand your mother from a half-word, but will not understand you. As, by the way, and you. This is another gross myth - "people are always the same." No. People are always different. How can people be the same, one of whom spent his youth to the songs of Vysotsky, and the other to the songs of Lagutenko? nine0003
You will adapt
Someday you will test it for yourself, but for now just take my word for it: people of respectable age are not able to change their habits. And they don't want to. Because it's extremely hard. That's the way we are, and there's nothing you can do about it.
You are frank with your girlfriend: "I love men much older, I am drawn to them...". But in reality you underestimate the situation and idealize it. Remember your experience of a serious relationship: immediately after the “candy-bouquet” period, the grinding period begins. Partners adjust to each other in order to find the very state in which everything suits everyone. nine0003
So, if a man is much older, you and only you will adjust. He will not change anything in himself for the sake of your relationship, and not even because he does not want to. He just can't. When you do this for decades and not otherwise, you will not break out of the hackneyed rut. This is such a tricky feature of our brain, which is always looking for simple ways. In general, do not rely on compromises. They won't.
You will lose your friends
There is such a thing as ageism. Age discrimination. Initially, the term was introduced as a designation for discrimination against the elderly and old people. But Russian sociologists criticize this concept: why only the elderly? For us, ageism works in the opposite direction! There is nothing to be proud of here, but it is true: the problem of "fathers and children" is still relevant. nine0003
Ordinary ageism: all about age discrimination
In a couple, when a man is much older than a girl and she has an environment of peers, it will not work to bring him closer to him. This means that your man will never accept your friends. They are "too stupid" for him. And, if you dare to invite your sweetheart to a party with your friends, you will feel as if you brought a hyena on a string into a decent society. Yes, he will bite, yelp and even shit under the table. That is, he will probably start an ugly quarrel on the subject of "the current generation is a generation of idiots. " And of course you will lose your friends. Maybe forever. nine0003
You won't make new friends either.
Don't expect to make new friends either. Those close to your man will never become friendly to you. The most you can count on is condescension: "Lovely, what a fool" from men and "Lovely, what a baby" from women. And why do only girls fall in love with much older men, subjecting themselves to similar humiliations and injustices?
Everything that is important to you now, they have already experienced. They have nothing to talk about with you - well, apart from the fact that they are always ready to teach. Do you remember about ageism? You will run into him even if his friends treat you kindly. And there can be no talk of any full-fledged friendship, of course. nine0003
Why would a fifty-year-old woman be friends with you, twenty-five? She dreams of a decent end to her career, and yours hasn't even started yet. There are simply no points of contact and mutual understanding. If she is married, then she has long "grown" with her husband into a single whole, and you are on the threshold of a new relationship. She may soon have grandchildren, and you are only thinking about children. But what can I say - she at the concerts of "Kino" "Eighth Grader" voted. Were you even born after Tsoi passed away? In this age sandbox, there will be only envy (for your youth) and complete misunderstanding. nine0003
He probably has children
If you like older men, and they are not much inferior in age to your parents, be prepared to meet their children. Most likely they are your peers or slightly younger than you. And if you think that this is not a problem, you are deeply mistaken. Because these children have a mother. Even if your man broke up with her when you walked under the table, the children will compare you with her. Not in your favor, of course. nine0003
However, it can be different, it's true: you can make friends with them. But only if they want it. And if they don’t want to, you will have to put up with the fact that there are and always will be people in his life who hate you. And somehow live with it. That's why being in a relationship with a much older man teaches you to build up a protective armor against hate. Not much fun, to be honest.
It is difficult to raise children together with him
If your man does have children, he may not want new babies. What for? What is the point of going through all these difficulties again, when here they are, ready-made descendants: already grown, already adults. And even if he wants to have more children, you must understand that you will not see any paternal awe. This is a first for you. This is pregnancy for you - a suddenly opened inner universe, and a child is the center of your world. For a man who raised children, everything is different. For him, your common child is just a child. Nothing special. He's already experienced this. nine0003
And if he still hasn't had children, it's even worse. For some reason, fathers of respectable age almost always turn into troublesome mother hens with a paranoia. The child will grow up under a glass jar - and you never know what! Will still blow! It's hard. For you. Because holding the glass jar is your responsibility.
As a result, it remains to think what to do with the prospect of parenthood, if you like men who are much older. If this is an important and fundamental issue for you - to become a mother - such moments are discussed in advance. Without wasting months and years on unpromising relationships. nine0003
A new world will open up for you - a very unpleasant one
A world about which you probably don't know much yet. The world of doctors, hospitals and drugs. With age, we all break somewhere, there is no getting away from this. And one way or another, you will be involved in all the problems of his body with mileage. The most annoying thing is why women choose men much older than themselves and forget about this key side of the issue?!
His back hurts in the morning. He cannot go on a spree all night - then he will lie in bed for two days. He must regularly take the prescribed drugs and be examined because he has some kind of chronic sore. Hypertension. Ulcer. Haemorrhoids. Are you sure that you really want to know all this and become a free nurse in the prime of your life? nine0003
He is morbidly jealous
There are exceptions to this rule, but they are very rare. In every young man who is next to you, your sweetheart will see a potential rival. Because any youngster in the future will acquire everything that your man already has: life experience and financial well-being will not go anywhere from him if he is not a fool.
But your man will no longer have a strong, young and beautiful body. Everything, finita. And if you think that jealousy will please you, you are mistaken. Because there are a lot of young men. So many. So it’s easier to deprive you of your personal freedom: throw wild scenes at you for being 5 minutes late, arrange interrogations with passion and demand constant proof of love from you. Nightmare story. When you once again share with your friends the problem a la “I fall in love with men much older”, remember that passions will rage more likely in his unfounded accusations, and not in bed. nine0003
You are too much for him
We become less emotional as we age, it's true. A worn out nervous system must be protected. This is another reason why girls like much older men. Less Italian passions and slamming the door, which with a young lover can be unrealistically fed up.
But here there is a bias in the other direction. The excitement that fills your week will be enough for a woman of his age for a month, and for him himself for a year. What makes you seriously worry, he has already lived and experienced. If he doesn’t have empathy, you won’t get any support: “What are you doing nonsense, everything will pass, and this too.” If his empathy is highly developed, he will move away from you. Because you are too much for him. It is hard for him to get involved in so many joys and problems. Tu match. A safe harbor without much manifestation of feelings and emotions. Complete calm. nine0003
And one more thing...
We have to disappoint you, but erectile dysfunction is getting younger. Especially in metropolitan areas. If at first sex with a much older man you may be madly in love with the manifestation of reverent care and special tenderness, then it remains to play roulette. What if it doesn't shoot today?
So, maybe you have 10 years of active sex life ahead of you, and then... And then you will be 40, and he will be 65. And, you know, that is not pleasant enough.