What do guys feel during sex

Straight men share what sex feels like when you have a penis

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If you’re a person born with only a vagina, it’s a sad day when you realise you’ll never truly know or understand what it’s like to have sex if you had a penis.

And vice versa, for people born with penises.

It’s a fact of life. An unbridgeable gap in understanding. It is something that will always come up in hypotheticals, when asked what we’d do if we had a penis for the day or whether we’d rather change sex every time we sneezed or always smell like butter.

Sadly, us vagina-havers will never truly know what it’s like to have sex when you have a penis.

But we asked a bunch of straight men to be as descriptive as possible when telling us what it actually feels like to put their penis in a vagina, so we can all get a little closer to understanding.

All names have been changed, because few men want to publicly declare what sex feels like on the internet.

Let’s find out all the bodily sensations men feel when they slip their penis into a vagina.

Sam, 35

‘It feels like a warm cushion.

‘The weird part is, the penis doesn’t really “absorb” the feeling. It’s your head/brain that starts rushing.’

David, 31

‘It feels like a snug glove filled with warm oil.’

Eric, 34

‘Entering a vagina for me is a very intense moment because for me – it’s the ultimate agreement of intimacy between a man and woman.

‘If I am wearing a condom it feels different to going natural – my penis feels less sensitive and less connected to the woman with a condom on.

‘There is a warm soft feeling of entering her, she has a moistness that cant be matched.

‘I guess you could say it’s like scuba diving penis first.’

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Steve, 24

‘It’s hard to describe, but it kind of feels like pushing yourself into a lubed inflatable armband.

‘I’d say it feels a little like going underwater too.

‘Imaging eating the best brownie you’ve ever had, then imagine that sensation over all your nerve endings and taking up your entire headspace, rather than just having a party in your mouth.’

Chris, 43

‘Like your penis is being stroked and hugged from all directions at the same time.’

Ross, 27

‘Warm with a bit of tightness so there’s feeling all over, but soft enough so it’s not like the thing’s getting squeezed.

‘However in some circumstances it can be a bit like penetrating a keyhole where the inside’s lined with some kind of dry rubber.’

Ron, 42

‘Gooey warm softness. It feels like a warm smooth jam doughnut that you’ve just pierced with your cock.’

Aaron, 36

‘There is always the initial sensation when entering the vagina, a certain warmth, and this tickles the nerve sensations up and down the shaft of the penis.

‘It’s a bit like the feeling of heat when you open an oven on a cold day.

‘She gets wetter and wetter, it becomes more difficult to maintain friction and sometimes it can feel as if the orgasm is running away from you.

‘The intensity of my own release can vary, it can always be satisfying, but the bigger orgasms are obviously better, like a volcano erupting inside you – your whole body feeling every part.

‘Sometimes to heighten my orgasm I may suck her toes towards the end (I have a foot fetish)

‘After a particularly big release, there’s little can be done above collapsing on top of her, drained and content. Everything spent, but too weak to just roll over.’

Harry, 30

‘Well, the initial feeling when you first go inside is pretty unreal. Especially when the vagina is really tight and wet.

‘Then when you’re inside the only way to describe it is if you were to squeeze your penis with your hand, like the vagina is gripped to your penis.

‘Then different positions give you different sensations, for example from behind can feel really deep and intense, more so than missionary.’

Jerry, 30

‘Warm, soft and sensitive with that slight rubbing.

‘A rush of adrenaline and excitement and then a satisfying feeling, like when you have that first sip of a cold beer on a really hot summer’s day.

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Mark, 32

‘It doesn’t feel like I expected it to as a young man.

‘Before I had sex, I expected it would feel wet and noticeably warm, Stifler’s words from American Pie ringing in my teenage ears.

‘It is however a different sort of pleasure from masturbation and I wondered why for a while.

‘I think a big part of the erotic sensation comes from the pressure applied to the base of the penis. Men tend to focus on the tip when they masturbate, but during sex there is a lot more going on with the base of the shaft, and it contributes greatly to sexual pleasure.

‘Thrusting sends a tingling sensation down the penis as the sensitive portions of the tip are stimulated. There is no grating shove or resistance, really, another pre-sex misconception.

‘The penis does not feel consumed or surrounded, but functionally positioned like an elevator in its shaft. Pleasure comes in occasional jolts and not a constant sensation of deepening or rhythmic enjoyment.

Tom, 28

‘Imagine a thick sock made of velvet. Then add in some ridges.’

Paul, 24

‘Warm, comfortable and (usually) wet, but if it is dry it’s very uncomfortable. But, in the odd occasion, over quicker than I’m able to actually think what it’s like.’

Joe, 34

‘The quelling of long standing wonder, akin to Indiana Jones finding a way into a cavern he long hoped he’d find. Like entering a brave new world that’s quite snug, warm, and eventually hot. Good kind of hot.

‘There’s tingling and further hardening and excitement and the feeling of growth and the will to go forward even deeper.’

Oliver, 28

‘Putting your penis in something is a bit like putting your foot in something, but if your foot was extremely sensitive.

‘If you put your foot in a slipper that is cold, hot, dry, wet, small, big, whatever, then you will feel the appropriate feeling. The penis is much the same, although you are generally a lot more careful with where you’re putting it than your big old hoof.

‘Also, what is positive/negative is very different between the foot and the penis. You wouldn’t want your slippers to be wet and warm, although that is absolutely fine when it comes to the vagina.

‘The similarities come in terms of fit, a snug fit is ideal for both and you can certainly notice if your slipper/vagina does not fit as you may have hoped.

‘Much like if you were to try on every pair of slippers in Debenhams, each vagina is different, specifically on entry. Some much more of an issue than others in terms of each of entry. I guess this is just down to shape and size of the respective genitals.

‘Once in, there is notable difference in terms of how snug the fit is and how aqueous the area is, which makes a big difference to the general feel.

‘But, unless circumstances are particularly extreme, it’s all a lot of fun regardless of variables.’

(Picture: Ella Byworth/ Shutterstock)

Ned, 27

‘I once read that it feels like sliding into warm custard.

‘I’ve never slid into warm custard, but that sounds similar to the feeling of going in a vagina – just very warm, wet with a slight thickness, and comforting.

‘It’s also like a well-fitting shoe, or getting tucked into bed. It feels like exactly the right size, nice and snug without cutting off circulation.’

Ryan, 50

‘Every experience is different and very much age and childbirth dependant. It also depends on the type of sex you are having, position and a multitude of other variants.

‘First full penetration is simply heaven – smooth, encompassing, embracing – a huge depth of sensations across your whole penis.

‘Subsequent thrusts – again depending on speed, angle and depth – give you different sensations across different parts of your willy.

‘Getting to know your partner’s fanny and how to work together can build and release all kind of sensations.’

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Kevin, 32

‘In some ways it feels like any broadly comparable part of the body (i. e. soft, wet, e.g. a mouth).

‘But it can vary substantially depending on how lubricated the situation is. It can be so soft you barely feel the movement, or much rougher.’

Mike, 32

‘It’s like feeling different sensations in different parts of the shaft, the tip being most sensitive. Sends a sensation down the whole organ which makes it harder as one begins to enter.

‘Once you’re in, the soft, spongy tissue envelops your dick beautifully with a warm and wet sensation. As you being to thrust, each zone of penis gives a different sensations. All very enjoyable.

‘But the other enjoyable part is when the balls strike against the vulva of the partner, it’s a beautiful sensation for both.

‘I remember having a partner who wasn’t deep enough so I missed that sensation of my balls striking against her vagina

‘For a dick, every sensation is different, So is every vagina depending on how warm, wet, and tight it is.

‘Comparison-wise, put your index finger in your mouth and wrap your tongue around it. Now imagine if your finger had the sensitivity of your clit. That’s what it’s like.’

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What Do Men Think About During Sex?

  1. “Is it okay to fantasize?”
  2. “Am I too small?” 
  3. “Am I doing this right?”
  4. “Don’t come yet!”
  5. “Will I give my partner a good enough orgasm?”
  6. “Should we change positions or do something different?”
  7. “Work sucked today.”
  8. “This isn’t like the movies.”
  9. “Is that all?”

Despite appearances, a man’s mind doesn’t usually go blank when having sex. Considering the standard coital facial expressions, it may not look like there’s a lot of complex thought going on up there, but men actually have a range of thoughts before, during, and after sexual activity—some perfectly healthy, others potentially counterproductive. Justin Lehmiller, a research fellow at the Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want, breaks down the psychology behind some of the most common thoughts men have during sex and how to process them.

The vast majority of men say that they fantasize during partnered sexual activity. This is something that’s totally normal, but some people feel a little anxiety or guilt about it. In one study, 84% of participants admitted to fantasizing during sex, but tellingly, those who felt guilt about those fantasies also experienced less sexual satisfaction (Cado, 1990). 

Many people wonder whether it’s normal to fantasize about somebody other than their partner while they’re having sex. Rest assured, it’s very normal, and there’s nothing wrong with having these fantasies. They can help us maintain arousal and promote greater enjoyment during the experience. It doesn’t necessarily mean there’s anything wrong with you or your relationship. In fact, one review study found that different types of fantasizing can be beneficial for a relationship (Birnbaum, 2019).  

For decades, men have been reporting issues with spectatoring. That means during sex, you’re stepping outside it mentally and critically evaluating your own performance. Am I attractive enough? Is my penis big enough or hard enough? Am I pleasing my partner? When people engage in this spectatoring during sex, it pulls them out of the moment. It can create performance anxiety, and it can make the experience less satisfying for both partners. It can also impede a man’s ability to reach orgasm. 

The starting point is sex education. Most men who think their penis is too small actually have perfectly normal-sized penises (Veale, 2015). Educating yourself about what’s normal when it comes to sex and the human body can provide reassurance so those anxieties aren’t coming to the forefront during the act. 

If you still find that anxieties arise during sex, another approach is to practice mindfulness techniques. That’s when you learn to be attuned to your body sensations and not get lost in your head, so you can focus on the pleasure you’re experiencing in that moment. The odds of people having a wandering mind during sex increase when they’re not engaged in a really immersive sexual experience. So, adding elements of newness, novelty, and excitement to your sex life can help you better maintain your focus and attention during the sexual experience. 

This is one of those areas where having really good sexual communication with your partner is one of the keys to ensuring your partner is getting what they want, and they’re giving you direction and feedback that is going to ensure you provide them with pleasure. Building trust, intimacy, and communication with your partner can help alleviate many of these concerns men have about their performance. 

If you’re dealing with premature ejaculation, it’s worth looking into solutions other than getting stuck in your head because that can interfere with enjoyment and pleasure. Maybe it’s trying a delay spray that decreases penile sensitivity temporarily. Maybe it’s trying the stop-start technique or the squeeze technique. Or maybe it’s doing Kegel exercises. All of these are behavioral strategies men can try to last longer in bed so that they don’t have to be focused on worrying about it in the moment (Pastore, 2014).

It’s really important for us not to pressure ourselves or our partners to orgasm. When people start to look at orgasm as an achievement that has to happen every time to have a successful sexual experience, that can start to interfere with arousal and excitement. When you’re trying so hard to make it happen, it can actually make you and your partner less likely to orgasm. Remember that sex can still be enjoyable even if an orgasm doesn’t happen. Don’t put undue pressure on yourself or your partner for that orgasm to happen.

There are different ways to approach this, and you have to figure out what works well for you and your partner. Verbal communication is sometimes intimidating, so we often recommend nonverbal communication as an easy way to start. That’s when you’re communicating through moans, groans, and other signs of pleasure, or you’re looking for those nonverbal cues from your partner as signs of what they enjoy.  

So, if you feel particularly anxious about having the actual conversation—and especially having it during sex—start by focusing on nonverbal cues to get in tune with what your partner enjoys. That’s also a way you can positively reinforce the behaviors you like.

It’s really important to work on maintaining a good work/life balance and having a clear separation between the two. When we don’t have that, that increases the odds of us thinking about that email we need to send or what we need to do at work tomorrow when we’re supposed to be having an intimate, fun experience with our partner. Setting boundaries is a very helpful tool. That could include not checking work emails outside of work hours or disconnecting from your mobile devices a couple of hours before bed so that, by the time you go to bed with your partner, you have a clear mind and can actually be in the moment.

There’s nothing wrong with watching and enjoying porn, but it’s important for men to try not to measure themselves up to porn stars in terms of their penis size or stamina. What you see in porn isn’t an accurate reflection of how most men’s bodies look, how long sex tends to last, or how hard a man’s penis usually gets. It’s important to look at porn in context as fantasy, not a reflection of reality. The key is to stop comparing yourself to porn performers and to get comfortable with yourself.

There are actually some men who feel sad after orgasm. It’s called post-coital dysphoria. But the vast majority of men tend to report positive feelings and emotions upon reaching orgasm. The key thing to keep in mind is that just because you’ve reached an orgasm, that doesn’t mean the sexual act has to be over. It’s important to ensure that it’s a satisfying encounter for you and your partner. Don’t look at orgasm as the end of sex. Ensure you find a way to bring your partner the pleasure they’re seeking as well.

If you have any medical questions or concerns, please talk to your healthcare provider. The articles on Health Guide are underpinned by peer-reviewed research and information drawn from medical societies and governmental agencies. However, they are not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

  1. Birnbaum, G. E., Kanat-Maymon, Y., Mizrahi, M., Recanati, M., & Orr, R. (2019). What fantasies can do to your relationship: the effects of sexual fantasies on couple interactions. Personality & Social Psychology Bulletin, 45(3), 461–476. doi: 10.1177/0146167218789611. Retrieved from https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30122104/ 
  2. Cado, S. & Leitenberg, H. (1990). Guilt reactions to sexual fantasies during intercourse. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 19(1), 49–63. doi: 10.1007/BF01541825. Retrieved from https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/2327895/ 
  3. Pastore, A. L., Palleschi, G., Fuschi, A., Maggioni, C., Rago, R., Zucchi, A., et al. (2014). Pelvic floor muscle rehabilitation for patients with lifelong premature ejaculation: a novel therapeutic approach. Therapeutic Advances in Urology, 6(3), 83–88. doi: 10.1177/1756287214523329. Retrieved from https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4003840/ 
  4. Veale, D., Miles, S., Bramley, S., Muir, G., & Hodsoll, J. (2015). Am I normal? A systematic review and construction of nomograms for flaccid and erect penis length and circumference in up to 15 521 men. BJU International, 115(6), 978–986. doi: 10.1111/bju.13010. Retrieved from https://bjui-journals.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/bju.13010 

Dr. Steve Silvestro is a board-certified pediatrician and Manager, Medical Content & Education at Ro.

What does a man feel when he is in a woman?

When a man has sex, he wants to get maximum pleasure, feel the woman with all his senses and really experience an orgasm. As practice shows, it is easier for men to experience an orgasm than for women.


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Today the editors of HOCHU. ua decided to ask how guys feel during sex and consider it using the example of individual sense organs. Go! nine0005

What a man feels during sex: vision

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If you never show yourself naked in front of your man, you are making a serious mistake. Understand that there is nothing indecent in the human body, so having sex with the lights on and completely naked is normal. So do not be shy and then the man will get incredible pleasure during sex. nine0005

How men feel during sex: touch

What feelings can a man experience when touching the body of his beloved woman? Pleasure and excitement. Absolutely every part of the body reacts to touch, especially when the skin is soft, clean and elastic.

During sex, men are freed from all problems, enjoying the partner's body and only this moment. So what does a man feel during an orgasm? Some perceive orgasm as a "painful" tickling, to which the feeling of merging with the second half joins. As a result - satisfaction, happiness, ecstasy. Many men experience a feeling of exorbitant happiness, a surge of strength, vigor, love for a partner. A man experiences an orgasm 100 times stronger when he has feelings for a partner. nine0005

How a man feels during sex: taste and smell

During sex, the skin has a slightly salty taste. Kissing the female body during sex, a man will feel a pleasant taste. Only the body must be clean - an unwashed body has an unpleasant bitter-salty taste that can avert any desire to kiss a partner, even if a man is deeply in love.

The smell of pure vaginal secretions creates the most powerful and long-lasting reflexes, and even without understanding what the smell is, a man will be aroused and sexually react to you on an unconscious level. The natural smell of every woman is unique, so a man will recognize you from hundreds of other representatives of the fair sex. This fact explains the increased attractiveness of some women compared to others. nine0005

What a man experiences during sex: hearing

Hearing is the least sensitive to uncleanliness during sex, but it still occupies the most important place in the usefulness of love games and caresses. Listening to the gentle cooing and sweet babble of a woman who express admiration and satisfaction from what is happening, a man is even more excited, his impulses and sensitivity increase.

What a man feels after sex: stories of men

Artem from Nikolaev

"It is extremely difficult for me to describe my condition. I am mentally and physically exhausted at the same time, but at the same time I feel a pleasant tension that gives me a feeling of strength and attractiveness. I immediately want to repeat my feat again and, possibly, conceive a child with my beloved woman. Unfortunately, the state of euphoria does not last long, after which I want to smoke, eat and sleep at the same time. "

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Semyon from Zhitomir

"During sex, I feel a pleasant and exciting ache in the lumbar region, which immediately falls off me immediately after ejaculation. I immediately feel light, empty and freed from a heavy burden. It's damn nice!" .

Petr from Ternopil

"I feel elated, happy, a painful tingling runs through my whole body. I want to repeat everything again and again, scream with pleasure and again look into my girlfriend's eyes, look at her satisfied face and listen to the gentle purr. nine0048

Vasily from Pavlograd

"It is always more important for me to know if my partner is satisfied and whether she has experienced an orgasm. For me, this is something like an emotional release - during an orgasm, women are so defenseless, fragile and uncontrollable, which I want, so that this state lasts forever. After sex, I like to lie next to a girl, talk about something pleasant or watch a light comedy. "

Igor from Konstantinovka

"After sex, I only feel tired and want to sleep. I don't feel like talking, I don't feel in harmony with myself and the world around me. I just want to sleep, period!"

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Sex is just a pleasant feeling. And during orgasm, a lot of heat is concentrated on the penis, and then the exit is like a discharge of current, but it's nice. But the intensity of orgasm is always different. Sometimes it doesn’t exist at all, for example, when you let go of your hand, but sometimes it’s just wow when you slowly accumulate this energy and let it go inside a woman)




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