Signs he likes you but is afraid of getting hurt

15 undeniable signs he loves you but is afraid of getting hurt (complete list)

Do you feel unsure about his intentions?

Sometimes a man you’re dating loves you but is afraid of getting hurt. And this might make you feel like he’s probably not ready to open up his heart to you.

But this doesn’t necessarily mean that you can never have a relationship with him.

And for this, you need to know these 15 undeniable signs he loves you but is afraid of getting hurt.

1) He only has eyes for you, even when other people are around

Ever noticed his stare when he sees you? Ever wondered why he seems to be getting lost in your eyes?

Well, the truth is that men who are in love with you but are afraid of getting hurt will only have eyes for you, no matter what.

Because when you look at him, he feels like he’s the only person in the world.

If you’ve noticed that your crush only has eyes for you, no matter who you’re with or what you’re doing, it’s another sign that he loves you.

A guy can only have eyes for you if he’s in love with you.

He might not even realize that he’s being obvious.

Nevertheless, when you notice that he only has eyes for you, it’s because he’s completely and utterly smitten with you.

He might look at you adoringly or he might get lost in your beauty, but he only has eyes for you.

A guy might try to impress you by paying attention to other people – just to show you that he’s a good person.

However, when he’s in love with you, he only has eyes for you. His attention is focused on you and only you – even when you’re with your friends.

And this is because he’s afraid of losing you and not being able to see you again. But if you’re thinking that this is just a sign of how much he loves and cares about you, then think again!

This is actually a sign that he’s afraid of getting hurt. And it’s because if something happens between the two of you, he won’t be able to handle it.

Let me explain why.

He might be scared of getting hurt because he is only focusing on you. But this can also mean that he really loves you.

So, if you notice that he only has an eye on you, it’s indeed an undeniable sign that he loves you but is afraid of getting hurt.

2) He is desperate to be with you, even when he’s not with you

It’s one thing for him to want to get close to you and be intimate with you. It’s another thing for him to want to be around you all the time.

Does this sound familiar?

Well, when a guy is desperate to be with you, he is most certainly in love with you. He’s not just in love with you, but he’s also afraid of losing you.

And it’s because he wants to be around you all the time, that he doesn’t want to lose you.

What does this mean?

It means that if something happens between the two of you, he might not be able to handle it.

You see, when a guy is desperate to be with someone, especially when they’re not around, it means that they’re afraid of losing them and not being able to see them again.

And this can also mean that they are totally and utterly in love with them.

This is why many guys are ‘stealing’ other girls’ boyfriends – because they are desperate to get close to them and be around them all the time. They’re afraid of losing their partners and getting hurt themselves.

But you know what?

He might not have been showing it.

But the truth is that he wants nothing more than to be by your side, holding your hand every day of his life.

And this is because he’s afraid of not having the chance again – which is something that can happen when something happens between the two of them (like cheating).

The result?

He perceives you every other date as his last chance to prove his love. And that’s why he feels so vulnerable.

3) A relationship coach can give you real clarity

While the signs in this article will help you understand whether he really loves you but is afraid of getting hurt, it can be helpful to speak to a relationship coach about your situation.

That’s what I recently did.

When I was at my worst point in my relationship I reached out to a relationship coach to see if they could give me any answers or insights.

I expected some vague advice about cheering up or being strong.

But surprisingly I got very in-depth, specific, and practical advice about addressing the problems in my relationship. This included real solutions to improving many things that my partner and I had been struggling with for years.

Relationship Hero is where I found this special coach who helped turn things around for me. They are perfectly placed to help you with doubts in your relationship too.

Relationship Hero is a hugely popular relationship coaching site because they provide solutions, not just talk.

In just a few minutes you can connect with a certified relationship coach and get tailor-made advice specific to your situation.

Click here to check them out.

4) He gets jealous easily, even if it’s not justified​

This one is indeed now one of the most obvious signs that he adores you but he’s afraid of losing you.

Let’s get right to the point.

If your man gets jealous easily, it could be because he loves you a lot. He might get jealous even when it’s not justified but still wants to protect his feelings for you.

A guy who is truly in love with you will never get jealous if you go out with other guys. It’s just not an issue for him.

However, a guy who is only feeling his way through the relationship will get jealous for no reason at all. And he will go to any lengths to prove his jealousy.

Believe it or not, this often manifests itself in unreasonable jealousy in public or other situations where it’s not warranted or even possible (like when you’re both on vacation together).

The thing that makes this so hard to deal with is when those around us think that we are indeed the ones who are being unreasonable, and they don’t even bother to question it.

So, do you notice that he gets jealous easily, even when he doesn’t have anything to be jealous of?

Then, he’s probably afraid of losing you.

I’ve noticed that a lot of guys are very insecure about their relationships with women. They can’t stand the thought of losing their partners.

And this is why they get very jealous when their partners are with other men.  And this is a sign of insecurity, not jealousy.  It means that he cares a lot about you, but is afraid to lose you.

I know it’s hard to accept this, but it’s true.

What do I suggest?

You need to understand that these scenarios are completely unnecessary and irrational, so try your best not to take them seriously – especially if your partner doesn’t have any reason at all to get jealous of you!

5) His actions are different when he’s around you

If you’ve noticed that the guy you like treats you differently when you’re together and when you’re not, it’s one of the signs he loves you.


Because his actions are indicative of respect, admiration, and adoration – feelings that guys don’t show to just anyone.

What’s more, if you’ve seen changes in his behavior and noticed that he behaves more respectfully around you, that’s another sign he’s in love with you.

I get it that you might think if a guy likes you, he’ll be more relaxed and not feel the need to impress you all the time. He’ll be more laid-back and less stressed because he’ll feel comfortable around you.

If he treats you with respect and shows you the attention and affection that he’d show his best friends, he’s definitely in love with you.

But guess what?

Being sure that he’s in love with you doesn’t mean that everything is okay in your relationship. In fact, he might be afraid of losing you.

And this feeling makes his actions different around you.

So, here’s what you should know:

When two people are in love, their actions are not the same when they’re apart.

But that doesn’t mean their feelings for each other don’t exist. What it means is that their love for each other is so strong that even without being together, they still want to spend time with each other.

Still, if you notice he acts differently around you, it’s a clear sign that he doubts he will lose you.

Whether it’s a simple act of anxiety or he seems nervous, that’s what it means.

6) He tries to ignore you

Okay, when you realize that your boyfriend is trying to ignore you, the first thing you think about is that he doesn’t love you.

But you know what?

The truth is that he’s trying to hide his feelings for you.

Sounds familiar, right?

Maybe he’s trying to hide his feelings because he knows you don’t like him or think he’s not good enough for you.

Or maybe he’s trying to hide his feelings because he doesn’t want to ruin your friendship.

And here’s the thing: He doesn’t want to lose you as a friend, but it’s also obvious that he wants to be with you.

He just doesn’t want to make a move, which is why he tries so hard to ignore you.

Let’s see how this works.

If the guy you like tries to avoid spending time with you and consistently forgets about plans you two made together, it’s a big red flag.

This is a sign that he’s trying to ignore you but can’t.

The only reason a guy would be trying to ignore you is if he’s trying to protect himself from getting hurt. If someone you like is trying to avoid you, it may be because he doesn’t want to fall in love with you.

So, if your boyfriend is trying to ignore you, that’s a sign he doesn’t want you to know how much he cares about you.

It means that he thinks if you knew how much he cares about you, it would be too much and he would be too attached to you.

I mean, isn’t this how we all act at the beginning of love?

We try not to seem too interested in the person we love? We don’t want them to know how much they mean to us because we think it will make us too close and we might get hurt by them.

So, let me tell you something:  not knowing what your boyfriend thinks about you is one of the most painful situations for a guy who loves someone.

He wants everything in his life to depend on his relationship with his girlfriend, and if she doesn’t notice him – no matter what – it means she doesn’t care about him at all.

7) Understand yourself and your intentions

Have you ever tried to start with yourself instead of assessing his actions and intentions?

I mean, have you ever tried to communicate with yourself instead of him?

Now that you understand, you’re dealing with a partner who certainly loves you but is afraid of losing you. But have you considered getting to the root of the issue?

You see, most of our shortcomings in love stem from our own complicated inner relationship with ourselves – how can you fix the external without seeing the internal first?

I learned this from the world-renowned shaman Rudá Iandê, in his incredible free video on Love and Intimacy.

So, if you want to improve the relationships you have with others and solve your boyfriend’s doubts about you, start with yourself.

Check out the free video here.

You’ll find practical solutions and much more in Rudá’s powerful video, solutions that’ll stay with you for life.

8) He doesn’t want to commit yet

Let me ask you a question.

How long have you and your boyfriend been seeing each other?

If you’ve been dating for a while and the guy you like still hasn’t committed, he might be afraid of getting hurt.

Now you probably wonder why this happens.

Well, when a guy likes you, he wants to commit to you completely – but only when he’s sure that you’re the one for him.

But you know what?

If the guy you like is hesitant about committing to you, it means that he’s not sure if you’re the one for him.

He doesn’t want to rush into a relationship only to end up getting his heart broken.

And when a guy is not ready to commit, he’s simply not ready to trust you enough. He might be afraid of getting hurt. However, this doesn’t mean that he’s not interested in you.

Sometimes, it just takes a little more time and effort to get there.

But what can you do to understand why he doesn’t want to commit?

For this, you should try to figure out the exact reasons behind his hesitancy.

Why is he hesitant to commit to you? Is it because he’s afraid of being hurt? Is it because he doesn’t trust you?

If your boyfriend is afraid of getting hurt, this means that he’s not ready to commit to you yet.


But if he doesn’t trust you enough yet, then this means that he’s waiting for the right moment. He might be waiting for the time when things will be easier between the two of you.

And if this is true, then there’s nothing wrong with him – after all, when a guy loves a woman, he wants her to have her own space, time, and privacy.

He wants her to be happy and fulfilled in life without worrying about him or what she should do next.

9) You’re not the only one he’s interested in

Can I be totally honest with you?

If you’re the only girl around your boyfriend, chances are that he’s not interested in anyone else.

If he’s not interested in other girls, then there’s a good chance that he’s in love with you. This, in turn, means that he’s trying to commit that there’s one thing he’s not willing to compromise on.

He’s not willing to compromise and get hurt.

But if he sees that there’s a potential for getting hurt, then he’s not ready to commit to you yet.

You see, when a guy is not willing to commit to someone, he doesn’t want the relationship to be in jeopardy.

And if he’s not willing to get hurt by getting into a relationship with you, then it means that he’s not ready for a serious commitment yet.

So if you’re the only girl around your boyfriend, you should know that he indeed loves you, but something about you makes him stay back.

but now you might wonder: how do you know if your boyfriend is interested in another girl?

Well, when a guy likes you, he starts talking about his feelings for you – and talks about them openly and honestly to other people too.

He tells his friends about how much he likes you and how much he wants to be with you. And this means that there’s nothing left to hide from him – nothing at all.

When a guy starts avoiding the subject of his feelings for other girls, it means that there’s something wrong with him.

And this means that there’s nothing left for him but to get rid of these feelings before they ruin his life completely – because if he can’t control them, then obviously they’ll lead him down the path of destruction.

10) He handles your romantic gestures with care

Have you ever noticed how a guy handles the romantic gestures you make for him?

And most importantly, he doesn’t immediately discard them.

When a guy loves you, he’ll be jumpy when you try to make him feel special. He might be afraid of taking your gifts and rejecting your romantic gestures because he’s not sure how to deal with them.

So you know what you should do?

When you give him a gift or a romantic gesture, don’t try to force him to accept it. However, if he doesn’t reject it immediately and treats it with care, it’s a good sign.

The reason is that some guys might feel awkward accepting a gift, but they know they can’t reject it without hurting your feelings.

This is because he likes you but is afraid of getting close to you. When he takes your romantic gestures and gifts slowly, he’s not sure if he’s ready for a relationship.

If a girl gives her boyfriend a gift, she expects him to be all happy and excited. But when a guy gets a gift, he doesn’t show any excitement or happiness at all.

In fact, he might even get angry or annoyed if he knows that the girl has spent money on him.

The truth is that a guy doesn’t like to be given gifts by other girls – especially not when they’re expensive gifts. And this is because he might think that these girls are only trying to use him for his money and nothing else.

So if your boyfriend is showing no sort of appreciation for your romantic gestures, it means that there’s something wrong with him – most likely he simply does not want anything from you at all.

And this means that there’s nothing left for him but to get rid of these feelings before they ruin his life completely – because if he can’t control them, then obviously they’ll lead him down the path of destruction.

And that might be why he feels vulnerable around you and is afraid of getting hurt,n when he truly loves you.


11) He doesn’t want to share his feelings with others​

This might sound a bit odd but it’s true.

Your boyfriend might be afraid if he shares his feelings with you.

Believe it or not, this is a good reason why guys don’t tell you about their feelings. They know that your feelings for them are genuine and real so they don’t want to risk them by telling you too much about themselves.

They never want to risk losing you because it’s too hard for them to let go of something they really love – even if they feel like they’re having a hard time expressing their love towards you.

But here’s another reason why he acts like this:

He might not want other people to know how much he loves and cares about you, which only makes him love you more.

It’s a sign that he really cares about what happens between the two of you.

Perhaps unsurprisingly, this could also mean that he’s afraid of losing you if others found out about his true feelings for you.

And this could make him feel insecure and worried about the future of the relationship too.

For example: a guy who isn’t comfortable letting people know how much he likes someone would probably avoid letting people know how much they mean to them too, like when they’re out at social events or hanging out with friends and family members.

And this can make them feel insecure and worried about the future of their relationship too.

12) He constantly asks for your opinion and advice

Does your boyfriend constantly try to get your opinion and advice?

Does he always try to get you to agree with him when it comes to important decisions in his life?

If so, then this might be a sign of insecurity.

You see, it’s not that he doesn’t trust you or doesn’t like how smart you are – it’s simply because he doesn’t want to take any chances.

He doesn’t want his feelings for you to fade away – which is why he needs your support and approval.

And if he’s constantly asking for your opinion and advice, then this means that he really cares about how you feel about him.

It also shows that he wants to know what makes you happy and how you think things should go in the future too.

But more often, he will ask for your opinion because he feels insecure about your relationship. And he needs to ensure that you truly are happy and that you still love him more than anything else in the world.


Because he’s afraid of losing you. And he wants to make sure that you aren’t going to leave him for someone else.

13) He doesn’t want to introduce you to his friends and family

Does your boyfriend seem to be avoiding introducing you to his friends and family?

Is he always trying to keep his true feelings for you a secret?

If so, then this could be a sign that he doesn’t want other people to find out about the relationship.

And this can make him feel insecure and worried about the future of the relationship too.

For example: it’s not because he doesn’t trust you or doesn’t like how smart you are – it’s simply because he doesn’t want other people to find out about his true feelings for you.

And if he’s constantly asking for your opinion and advice, then this means that he really cares about how you feel about him.

It also shows that he wants to know what makes you happy and how you think things should go in the future too.

But guess what?

From his actions, you feel that he indeed adores and takes care of you.

If that’s the case, it’s a clear indicator that he loves you but is afraid of losing you.

That’s why he doesn’t want to introduce you to his friends and family.

14) He constantly checks in with you

Want to know another undeniable sign that he loves you?

He checks in with you – all the time.

He constantly checks in with you and wants to know where you are and who you’re with.

And if he’s constantly asking for your opinion and advice, then this means that he really cares about how you feel about him.

It also shows that he wants to know what makes you happy and how you think things should go in the future too.

If that’s the case, it’s a clear indicator that he loves you but is afraid of losing you.


This is because checking up on his significant other all the time means that he doesn’t want to let her out of his sight and that he cares about her more than anyone else in the world – which could make him feel insecure and worried about the future of the relationship too.

So if this is the case, then just tell him how much you appreciate him for caring so much about your wellbeing…

And let him know how much it means to have someone who cares so much for them.

If this is your situation, then just ask him why he checks up on me so often?

You may be surprised at his answer! But most likely, he will say something like:

  • ‘Because I love you’
  • ‘Because I care’
  • ‘Because I’m afraid of losing someone I care about’

An if this is true, then just tell him that you love him too and that you appreciate his concern for your happiness.

And let him know how much it means to have someone who cares so much for them. And don’t forget to make him understand that you’re not going to hurt him!

15) He doesn’t say “I Love You”​

How often does your boyfriend say “I love you” to you?

Even if he doesn’t say “I Love You” to you in your relationship, it doesn’t necessarily mean that he doesn’t love you.

It’s just that he may not feel comfortable telling you that he loves you because he doesn’t want to make you feel insecure or worried about the future of the relationship.


Because he’s afraid that you’re going to hurt him.

And this is because it’s just too much pressure for them to show you what they feel for you when they’re not sure how strong those feelings actually are.

But when a guy loves someone, he has to show his emotions clearly so that the other person knows how he feels about her – otherwise, she might think he only likes her as a friend or something else – which would be very hurtful to him.

And if this is the case, then just let him know how much you appreciate him for caring so much about your wellbeing and for not making you feel insecure.

Just tell him how much it means to have someone who cares so much for them. And don’t forget to make him understand that you’re not going to hurt him!

Final thoughts

All in all, these are 15 of the most obvious signs that your guy adores you and is completely in love with you. But he’s afraid of losing you.

He has moments where he doubts his own self-worth and feels unaccepted by you. He’s not sure if you’re still interested in him or if you’re just going through the motions of being with him.

So if you notice these undeniable signs and want to save your relationship, try to let your boyfriend understand that you’ll never hurt him! Show him that he doesn’t have to be afraid of being rejected by you.

13 undeniable signs he loves you but is scared to fall for you

Is your man giving you mixed signals?

You think he might love you, but for some reason, he appears hesitant about it?

When it comes to dealing with men and their complicated behavior, it can be tough to understand what they’re truly thinking.

After all, sometimes a man is cold BECAUSE they love you, and other times they’re cold BECAUSE they just don’t like you.

However, when you research and understand male psychology, it’s not as complicated as you might think.

So in this article, I thought we’d go over tried and true ways to figure out exactly how he is truly feeling.

We’ll also go over the reasons why he might be scared about falling in love with you.

We have a lot to cover so let’s get started.

1. He can’t help but stare at you

This is an obvious sign that he loves you. Guys generally do it naturally.

Whether you’re doing something boring like working on your laptop, or you’re taking out the washing to dry, he can’t help but look at you doing it.

All you have to do is glance over his way every now and then and see if you catch him looking.

If he is looking, you can bet your bottom dollar that he loves you.

Also, focus on how he looks at you when you’re having a conversation with him.

You’ll see the kind of puppy love eyes with a cute smile that naturally occurs when you start talking.

Once you see your man doing this, it’s a clear sign he is genuinely in love.

Now if he is scared about his feelings, he might quickly look away when he catches you looking. He doesn’t want you to know that he can’t help but look at you.

But if he maintains eye contact with you, then he definitely isn’t scared about his feelings and he is letting you know directly he likes you.

2. He’s ignoring you

Surely if he is ignoring you he doesn’t love you, right?


Sometimes a guy ignores you because he loves you, particularly if he is scared about it.

Sound confusing?

Well, some guys will go out of their way to do anything but appear desperate.

They don’t want to show that they love you because then that will give everything away.

It’s also a way to protect their ego.

If they think that you might not be interested in them, then they’ll pull back on expressing their emotions.

And the best way to do this is to ignore you.

But don’t worry, once you start showing that you’re interested, too, then he’ll come around and start expressing himself better. He won’t be scared that he is falling in love with you because he knows that you’re falling for him.

3. Want advice specific to your situation?

While this article explores the most common signs he loves you but is scared to fall for you, it can be helpful to speak to a relationship coach about your situation.

With a professional relationship coach, you can get advice specific to your life and your experiences…

Relationship Hero is a site where highly trained relationship coaches help people through complicated and difficult love situations, like where you stand with a man you care about. They’re a very popular resource for people facing this sort of challenge.

How do I know?

Well, I reached out to Relationship Hero a few months ago when I was going through a tough patch in my own relationship. After being lost in my thoughts for so long, they gave me a unique insight into the dynamics of my relationship and how to get it back on track.

I was blown away by how kind, empathetic, and genuinely helpful my coach was.

In just a few minutes you can connect with a certified relationship coach and get tailor-made advice for your situation. Click here to get started.

4. He remembers every little detail of what you say

We’ve all heard before men aren’t the best listeners. And to be honest, for the most part, that is probably true.

But if your man loves you, he’ll listen to everything you say. He hangs on it!

If you mention that you’re attending your sister’s friend’s birthday party, he’ll be the first to ask how it was the next day.

If he mentions that your allergic to peanuts, then any restaurant that he chooses for you to go to, he’ll make sure peanuts aren’t on the menu.

When he’s listening unconditionally to what you’re saying, you know it’s true love.

He hangs on to your every word, and he respects what you have to say too. It comes so naturally for him, actually. He just can’t help but take note of every little thing you say.

5. He wants to save the day

When you’ve had an argument with a friend, he’ll naturally take your side.

When you cross the road, he’ll put his body on the side of the traffic.

He can’t help it.

Even if he is afraid to admit that he loves you for various reasons, he won’t be able to control his actions of wanting to protect you and be your hero.

A study published in the Physiology & Behavior journal shows that male’s testosterone makes them feel protective over their mate’s safety and well-being.

So naturally, if he loves you, he would want to protect you.

There’s actually a fascinating new concept in relationship psychology that’s getting a lot of buzz at the moment. It goes to the heart of the riddle about why men fall in love—and who they fall in love with.

Simply put, men want to be your everyday hero. That they want to step up to the plate for the woman in their lives and provide and protect her.

This is deeply rooted in male biology.

People are calling it the hero instinct.

The kicker is that a man won’t fall in love with you when he doesn’t feel like your hero.

I know this might sound a bit silly. In this day and age, women don’t need someone to rescue them. They don’t need a ‘hero’ in their lives.

And I couldn’t agree more.

But here’s the ironic truth. Men do still need to be a hero. Because it’s built into our DNA to seek out relationships that allow us to feel like one.

If you would like to learn more about the hero instinct, check out this free online video by the relationship psychologist who coined the term. You’ll learn the little things you can do and say to trigger this very natural male instinct.

Some ideas are game-changers. And when it comes to making a man commit to a long-term relationship, this is one of them.

Here’s a link to the free video again.

6. He keeps supporting you

No matter what you’re doing, whether you’re cooking dinner for the two of you, or you’re pursuing your dreams in your career, he is always supporting you and cheering you on from the sidelines.

He wants the best for you. He wants you to realize your potential and he wants you to be fulfilled.

He can’t help but encourage you to follow your dreams because your happiness is paramount to his happiness.

Unconditional love and support is a key attribute of the hero instinct. I mentioned this concept above.

The thing is, male desires are not complicated, just misunderstood. Instincts are powerful drivers of human behavior and this is especially true for how men approach their relationships.

So, when the hero instinct isn’t triggered, men are unlikely to commit to a relationship with any woman. He holds back because being in a relationship is a serious investment for him.

How do you trigger this instinct in him? And give him this sense of meaning and purpose?

You don’t need to pretend to be anyone you’re not or play the “damsel in distress”. You don’t have to dilute your strength or independence in any way, shape or form.

In an authentic way, you simply have to show your man what you need and allow him to step up to fulfill it.

In his excellent new video, James Bauer outlines several things you can do. He reveals phrases, texts and little requests that you can use right now to trigger his hero instinct.

Watch his unique video here.

By triggering this very natural male instinct, you’ll not only give him greater satisfaction but it will also help to rocket your relationship to the next level.

7. His friends know how much he cares about you

This is a clear sign that he loves you if his friends know a huge deal about you.

Perhaps they know what your job is, how you two met, and what sport you love to play.

How could this be the case when he is scared to admit that he loves you?


Guys find it much easier to communicate with their guy friends, and they’ll naturally share the details of someone they’re keen on.

It shows that he can’t get you off his mind.

What’s more, he’ll also invite you out with his friends so he can show you off.

8. He is acting nervous around you

This goes back to the point before about ignoring you. The reason he is feeling nervous has to do with his emotions.

He is feeling something strongly and is starting to realize that he loves you.

But because of this, he’ll want to impress you at all costs.

What does this do?

It puts pressure on him to perform! He wants to make you interested in him, which will make him nervous.

He doesn’t want to lose you, and he doesn’t want you to not like him.

So how can you tell if he is nervous?

Nervous people tend to be more fidgety. He also might have trouble speaking clearly around you, which will cause him to speak less.

Another sign that someone is nervous is if their acting hyper or weird.

So if your man is acting a little hyper and telling weird jokes, keep in mind that he is just nervous because he likes you.

Once he starts feeling more comfortable, he’ll come around and start acting normal again.

Remember that if he loves you but is scared to admit that he loves you, this will only add to his nerves when he’s around you.

He’ll realize that he hasn’t exactly got total control over his emotions and that will make him scared, anxious, and fearful.

This will lead to even more nervous behavior that we spoke about above.

The psychology behind why men pull away

If you feel like you’ve tried everything and your man is still pulling away, it’s probably because his fears of commitment are so deep-rooted in his subconscious, even he’s not aware of them. 

And unfortunately, unless you can get inside his mind and understand how the male psyche works, nothing you do will make him see you as “the one”.  

That’s where we come in.

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9. He constantly seeks out your advice

If he is asking for your opinion on important decisions that he needs to make, it’s obvious that he trusts your guidance and might be already in love with you.

It shows that he truly cares what you think. He thinks you’re intelligent and that you actually care about giving him good advice.

This is especially the case if he is revealing details about his life when he seeks your guidance. This is a great clue that he trusts you and desperately wants to bare his soul to you.

And if he really cares what you think, it means that he really cares about you.

10. He struggles to express his feelings with you

This is a clear sign that he’s falling in love with you, but might be scared about those feelings.

He knows he cares for you deeply, and it’s starting to worry him.

Why would it worry him?

Because men can struggle to process and deal with strong emotions, such as love.

Men like to be in control, and his feelings for you are becoming so strong that he doesn’t know how to handle it.

If he can’t process his emotions, he won’t be able to talk about them. The best he can do is avoid talking about it.

Few people realize that male and female brains are biologically different. For instance, the limbic system is the emotional processing center of the brain and it’s much larger in the female brain than in a man’s.

That’s why women are more in touch with their emotions. And why guys can struggle to process and understand their feelings.

If you’ve ever been with an emotionally unavailable man before, blame his biology rather than him.

The thing is, to stimulate the emotional part of a man’s brain, you have to communicate with him in a way that he’ll actually understand.

I learned this from relationship expert Amy North. She’s one of the world’s leading experts on relationship psychology and what men want from relationships.

Watch this excellent free video to learn about Amy’s life-changing solution for dealing with men who won’t open up to you.

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11. He wants to be around you all the time

When a guy loves you, they can’t help but try to get as close as they can to their love interest.

If you’re out to dinner with a group of people, he’ll somehow find a way to sit next to you.

If you’re at a party, then he manages to position himself near you for the majority of the time.

The funny thing is, he doesn’t really mean to. It just happens subconsciously because he loves being around you.

Watch for body language signs that show he just wants to be near you. It’ll show where his subconscious intentions are.

12. He can’t stop complimenting you

He looks at you and says you’re beautiful. He comments on how kind and caring you are. He tells you how much he appreciates the meals you cook or the job you’ve committed yourself to.

He goes out of his way to let you know that you’re awesome. And it’s obvious you’re having a bad day, he’ll do his best to lift you up by complimenting you.

It’s not because he is trying to suck up to you, it’s just that he finds it hard to say that he loves you, and instead says it in other ways.

According to Dr. Suzana E. Flores, when someone is in love, they tend to show strong empathy:

“Someone in love will care about your feelings and your well-being…If he or she is able to show empathy or is upset when you are, not only do they have your back but they also probably have strong feelings for you.”

13. He displays little signs of affection.

Don’t get twisted. The little things DO count.

Little gestures of love show that he is in love with you. He cares for you and he is thinking of you.

Those little things can be as simple as holding hands or buying you a small gift to lift your spirit ups.

It’s also a key sign if he is doing it not to impress you, but just to make you feel better.

It shows where his mind is at and what he is truly feeling. After all, it’s difficult to constantly pre-meditate little signs of affection.

And we all can say whatever we want but it’s our actions that count.

Nicholas Sparks sums it up quite perfectly:

“You’re going to come across people in your life who will say all the right words at all the right times. But in the end, it’s always their actions you should judge them by. It’s actions, not words, that matter.”

Reasons why he might be scared to fall for you

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It’s all well and good to work out that he loves you and is scared about it, but the deeper issue is why the hell is he scared about it?

There could be several reasons he is scared about falling for you, some of which are more innocent than others.

So if the signs are pointing that he is scared to be falling for you, here are the most common reasons why:

1. He has just got out of a long-term relationship

He’s had a long-term relationship, and he’s been going through a tough break-up. This is extremely common.

He’s told himself he doesn’t want to be in a relationship for a while, and then you come along which starts giving him the feels.

Love physically hurts because our bodies release hormones and endorphins to protect us and ready us to move as quickly as possible away from the perceived threat.

But that threat lingers in our mind for days, weeks, months and even years in some cases after a bad break up. That’s why he is scared about falling for you. He doesn’t want to get hurt again.

Or perhaps something more sinister is going on (like he already has a girlfriend). This is rare, but it’s not out of the question.

2. He’s been hurt in the past

When you’ve been hurt in the past because a previous partner has cheated on you, or abused you, it can make you very skeptical of getting in a relationship with someone else.

This is why his guard might be up, and he is naturally afraid of getting close to anyone again.

But don’t worry. All this means is that you have to build trust with him. The more he trusts you, the more he’ll open up and eventually let his guard down.

Remember that dating a person that’s been hurt in the past is all about making them feel safe and secure in the relationship.

When he understands that he can trust you, it will alleviate his worries about falling for someone that could potentially hurt him.

3. He doesn’t think you like him back

Can you come across as a bit of an ice queen? You know the old resting bitch face even when you don’t intend to?

When it appears like you’re not interested, then you can bet your bottom dollar that he’s going to be scared about falling for you.

This is can even happen in relationships, where a partner fears that they are falling much harder for their lover than their partner.

Nobody wants to be the one with stronger feelings. It can lead to neediness, desperation, and getting hurt.

The good news is that there is an easy way to overcome this. All you have to do is show him that you are interested, and he’ll realize that the feelings are reciprocated.

There are different ways to show him that you like him, whether it’s buying him gifts or showing him affectiob when he least expects it.

Once he knows that you like or love him, he’ll be more willing to show his feelings, too.

Does he love you? Or doesn’t he?

The truth is that he may not even know the answer…

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A man likes a woman: how to understand it

The best way to find out what emotions and desires overcome a man you care about is, of course, to ask him about everything directly. But if first you want to understand if you are not mistaken in your feelings, pay attention to the signs that are described in this article. Thanks to them, you can quickly determine whether he likes you or not.

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Many people are afraid to admit their feelings to others. And this is normal: we are afraid to face misunderstanding, rejection or even criticism from the object of our sympathies and wait until the last moment before we speak openly about anything. nine0003

Experts believe that both women and men behave in the same way when it comes to romantic situations. Both sexes have common patterns of behavior that show interest in someone else. And knowing the approximate signs of such models, we can assume that a man likes you.

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1. He leans towards you during a conversation

A proven fact: if one person feels sympathy for another, he imperceptibly for himself constantly leans towards him during communication. If the guy you like listens carefully and brings his face closer to yours when answering, this is a sure sign that he cares about you too. nine0003



His body is relaxed

Open body language also indicates that the young person enjoys spending time with you. Pay attention to the position of his body. If a man is relaxed and seizes the opportunity to turn to you more often, this is a good sign. But if he is tense and deviates his body from you, this can indicate both a lack of sympathy and strong excitement.

3. He finds the slightest reason to compliment

When a man is inspired by feelings, he finds even non-obvious reasons for compliments. If a young man sincerely praises everything about you - from the color of your eyes to your undertakings in work, this may be a sign that he really likes you.

4. He looks into your eyes

Eye contact is both a sign of attraction and a psychological device of people who consider it important to look into the eyes of each interlocutor, afraid to show them indifference during a conversation. Pay attention to how the man looks into your eyes. If he lingers on your face even after you take your eyes off him, it could mean something significant. nine0003

5. He steals a glance at you

Even if he makes eye contact with everyone he talks to, it's a different story if you keep noticing him looking at you even when you're on the other side of the room. Such secret glances are a classic sign that he is fascinated by you.

6. He makes you stand out from the rest

When you are in a big company, and he still finds a way to spend time alone with you, it says a lot. But pay attention to the less obvious ways a man gets close to you: for example, when he raises topics in the company that are somehow related to you, tries to answer your questions that you ask everyone, and also laughs at your jokes. nine0003

7. He wants to be alone with you

If your crush is a friend, co-worker, classmate, or someone you occasionally run into at a fitness club or at a party and he's looking for ways to spend one-on-one time, this is a clear sign that he is trying to connect with you on a personal level. Of course, this could just be the beginning of a friendship. But it can also mean that he likes you romantically as well.

8. He finds ways to gently touch you

An occasional hand touch, an attempt to fix your hair, or playful shoulder thrusts - he can come up with different ways to make physical contact with you. But the main thing is that you like it.

9. He actively plans dates

If you met a guy on a dating app, it's especially hard to know if he has strong feelings for you or is just trying to charm you into sex. The key point here is how actively he initiates your further meetings and plans for the future. Usually this is a sign that he sincerely likes you and wants to continue communication. nine0003

10. He maintains a special connection after a date

After a personal meeting, it is difficult to find an interesting topic for conversation and not slide into complete romance. But if a man is interested in you, he will find something to talk about. He can say that he had a particularly fun yesterday, or send you a meme about the topic that you discussed yesterday, and then, as if by chance, set up a date again.

11. He keeps in touch with you on social networks

Someone who is really interested in you will not disappear from view for a long time, but will appear when he needs something from you. But if he himself initiates a conversation on social networks, likes and comments on your photos, posts and stories, this indicates that he is trying to get closer to you.

12. He responds quickly to messages

Of course, some of us are very busy at work or do not have the habit of constantly checking instant messengers. But if a young man quickly responds to your messages, this may indicate that he is intentionally waiting for them and wants to communicate with you as much as possible. nine0003

13. He keeps up the conversation

This sign is especially noticeable during correspondence, if he asks you additional questions, pays attention to new topics, gives detailed answers. If he answers in monosyllables or just sends emoji and after a while does not become more verbose, he is unlikely to be interested in communicating with you.

14. He blushes next to you

Did you notice that a blush appears on his face? This is due to the release of adrenaline associated with excitement. People feel "caught" when they are attracted to another person. nine0003

15. He is a little nervous

If a guy is usually noisy and cheerful around his friends, but next to you he is constrained and confused in words, this can be a sure sign that he likes you and he is a little carried away, trying to impress you.

16. He laughs a lot next to you

Does he laugh sincerely, as if from the heart? Or maybe he often smiles next to you - that warm, intimate smile that seems to come from his eyes? Laughing and smiling are the best ways to connect and connect with other people, so keep that in mind! nine0003

17. Nothing distracts him from you

When you are around, he never steals a glance at the phone or TV screen. He gives you all his attention, or even deliberately eliminates distractions that might prevent you from being together.

18. He takes the initiative

There are common cultural scripts that people use to show their liking. Of course, most of them are related to gender stereotypes and ideas of patriarchy regarding the fact that men actively show interest, and women do not like to be proactive. But nevertheless, all this can still play into your hands if you are afraid to take the first step and want the man to invite you on a date. nine0003

19. He reacts positively to your initiative

If you are strong, independent and courageous with regards to making dates, this does not mean that you have to wait for the man to take the initiative himself. Relationships in which a man and a woman are equal are most appropriate today. If a young man likes you and he is not inclined to follow masculine stereotypes, he will only be happy if you ask him out, kiss him first, or even hint at something more. nine0003

20. He is frank with you

Alas, some people do not know how to openly express their interest. And others, on the contrary, are too prone to tactile contacts and can mislead you. That is why, if you are afraid of getting confused in feelings, ask him directly what he feels for you. Yes, it sounds scary. But thanks to this step, your love story can begin! Find the right words that are easy to pronounce and act. For example, tell him that he is cool-funny-cute and you start to like him. He has no right to say nothing in response :)

The whole truth about men: He just doesn't like you: August 03, 2014, 13:37

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A man can say: "I have a terrible blockage at work; I recently experienced the breakup of a serious relationship, which was a big blow for me; the divorce of my parents left an indelible mark on my soul and brought a lot of new troubles; now I need to focus on my career; I can't get into a relationship until things get better in my life; as soon as my situation improves, I'll leave my wife, girlfriend, lousy job; I'm terribly busy. " It's easier for us to jump out of a window than to say, "You're not good for me." We are one hundred percent sure that in this case you will kill us or yourself, or both of us, or, even worse, start crying and screaming. Even if we do not talk about it, we clearly show you our attitude. Stop making excuses for us, our actions speak for themselves: you just don't like us. nine0003


Because if he likes you, trust me, he will make an appointment with you.

Variant of excuse: He may not want to destroy our friendship

I really hate to tell you about it, but this excuse does not stand up to scrutiny. Unfortunately, throughout the history of mankind, this excuse has never been used by those who really meant it. If we really care about a woman, we can't bring ourselves to stop - we want more. And please don't tell me he's just "afraid". The only thing he is afraid of - and I say this, feeling sincere sympathy for you - is to admit that you do not attract him at all. nine0003

Variant of excuse: He probably does not dare to make the first move

You can hint to a man that you have sympathy for him, but you should not help him ask you out on a date. I repeat again, dear ladies: the fact that you smile and playfully wink at him will be quite enough.

Variant of excuse: Maybe he doesn't want to rush things.

If a man really likes you, but there are deeply personal reasons why he does not want to rush things, he will immediately tell you about it. He will not leave you in the dark, as he needs confidence that you will not be disappointed and will not disappear from his life. nine0003

An excuse like "But he gave me his phone number."

Don't let him use cheap tricks to get you to ask him out. If you are interested in a man, he will take care of everything. It sounds a bit old-fashioned, but when a man likes a woman, he asks her out.

An excuse like "Maybe he forgot about me. "

Be sure you made an impression on him. Now leave everything as it is. If he likes you, he will remember you even after the tsunami, the flood or the defeat of the Russian team in the next match. If he forgot about you, do not waste time on him. Do you know why? Because you are great. nine0003


  • Any excuse basically means that he doesn't care much about you. Men are not afraid to "destroy friendships".
  • Don't fall for his tricks and don't ask him out. If he likes you, he will invite you.
  • If you can find him, then he can find you. If he wants to find you, he will.
  • "Hey, let's meet at such and such a party / at some bar / at a friend's house" is not a date invitation. Even if you live in New York. nine0213
  • A man remembers well whether he liked you when you met, so hang up.
  • You are good enough to be asked out on a date.


Men know how to use the phone.

An excuse like "But he's on the road so often."

Take note: the man who is interested in you wants to spend time with you. And he will only be satisfied with five phone calls if he does not have time for a plane to rush to you. nine0003

An excuse like "But he has other things on his mind."

The most important question here is: "Is it okay if a man forgot to call me?" I answer: "No." Unless he needs to rush someone to the hospital, or if someone stole his Ferrari. He should never forget that he promised to call you. If I really like you, I will never forget about you. Don't you expect the kind of guy who would rather forget about everything that happened in his life than forget about you? nine0003

An excuse like "He doesn't say what he really thinks."

Here's the problem: at the end of a date or phone call, many men tell you what they think you'd like to hear. They think it's better than nothing. So if the guy you're dating doesn't call you despite all his promises, is it worth getting hung up on? After all, you need a man who can at least keep his word.

Excuse like "But he's very busy."

And now I'm going to make an outrageous, harsh and peremptory statement regarding the relationship between a man and a woman: the word "busy" is complete nonsense, donkeys usually use it. The word "busy" in one gulp can destroy any relationship. Extremely "busy" may seem like a plausible excuse, but in fact, behind this concept there is always a man who was not interested in calling you. Remember: men always have time to get what they want. nine0003

One hundred percent of the men surveyed said they would always find a moment to call the woman they really like.


  • If he doesn't call you, he doesn't care about you.
  • If he makes promises and then fails you over small things, rest assured that the same thing will happen when it comes to more serious things. Keep this in mind and keep in mind that this guy will not have a hard time disappointing you. nine0213
  • It is not worth building a relationship with someone who is not able to keep his word.
  • If he is unwilling to make the slightest effort to calm you down and smooth out the brewing conflicts in your relationship, then he simply does not respect your feelings and needs.
  • Busy is the same as donkey. And "donkey" is the same as the guy you're dating.
  • You deserve a damn call.


Spending time together is not dating

An excuse like "He just went through a painful breakup."

He may be one of your closest friends, but as a man, he is not very attracted to you. Beware of the word "friend". It is often used by men or women who are in love with these men to justify their most piggy behaviour. When choosing friends, I prefer people who don't upset me.

An excuse like "But we do date."

Men, like women, seek to find a sense of security and security when they see a relationship become serious. One common way to achieve this is to lay claim to a loved one. A man who is truly infatuated with you will want you to belong to him completely. What's wrong with that, girls?

An excuse like "It's better than nothing."

Let me remind you: you need a man who wants you, calls you regularly, and makes you feel like the sexiest and most desirable woman in the world. He longs to see you more and more often, because each time his feeling grows stronger, growing from sympathy into true love. A relationship in which you meet a man once every two weeks or once a month, without feeling any love or sympathy from him, can last a day, or a week, or a month. But can they last a lifetime? nine0003

One hundred percent of the men surveyed said that the fear of a serious relationship has never kept them from starting a new romance. One young man even remarked: "The fear of a serious relationship is one of the myths of the big city." And another guy said, "That's what we say to girls we don't really like. "


  • Men talk about their feelings, even if you refuse to listen or do not believe their confessions. "I'm not ready for a serious relationship" means "I'm not ready for a serious relationship with you" or "I'm not sure that you are the right woman for me." (I beg your pardon.)
  • "Better than nothing" should not suit you.
  • If you don't understand what's going on in your relationship, it's okay to slow down and ask him a few questions.
  • Smells like uncertainty? Don't expect good.
  • There is one guy in the world who wants to let everyone know that he is your boyfriend. Stop fooling around, go find him.


If a man likes a woman, he always wants to touch her.

Dear ladies, you have already met and will meet a great many men. I hate to tell you this, but some of these men will just decide you're not their type. And none of those men who don't like you will ever tell you about it. And he will say that ... he is afraid, worried, languishing from fatigue, in pain from a broken leg, suffering from a cold, afraid (again). But the truth, simple, cruel and bitter, is clear as daylight: you do not attract him, and he does not want to hurt you. nine0003

An excuse like "He's afraid he'll get hurt again."

Is he afraid? Yes, he is afraid to offend you. That is why he did not clarify the situation with your relationship. Perhaps he is even trying to make himself feel at least something for you, talking about his love and that he does not want to lose you, but he could just as well sign your diary. He loves you as a friend. If he loved you as a woman, he would not be able to control himself and would have a whirlwind romance with you, despite all the fears and unpleasant memories. nine0003

An excuse like "I drive him so crazy he doesn't show any interest."

Of course, many people have suffered in the past, and now they are afraid of a serious relationship. But you know what? If a man really likes you, nothing will stop him from achieving you, even the fear of a serious relationship. If he's really in big trouble about it, he might go for pointless treatment, but he'll never keep you in the dark.

An excuse like "But it's so great."

It used to be that a woman refuses to have sex when she wants to gain power over a man. It seems that the representatives of the stronger sex also learned to use it. If a guy, lying on the couch with you, joyfully eats cookies and watches a movie (and is not gay at the same time), then you simply do not attract him.

An excuse like "He finds a bunch of explanations for everything."

You can believe his excuses if you like, but first ask yourself a couple of questions. Are you satisfied with such relationships? The most important thing here is do you want to feel this way, perhaps for the rest of your life? Sex is also one of the greatest pleasures a person can experience. Therefore, it is at least strange when the person you are dating interferes with your enjoyment. nine0003


  • People talk about who they really are all the time. If a man tells you that monogamy is not for him, then there is no reason not to believe him.
  • Communication is wonderful. But if communication is combined with sex - it's even better. Call a spade a spade, or rather, call a friend a friend. And find yourself a friend who can't resist touching you.
  • If you have low self-esteem, then you will have to spend more time improving it than looking for a new boyfriend. So prioritize according to your needs. nine0213
  • If you are seduced by the thought of a thousand and one nights spent in the arms (and only) of some man, then get yourself a puppy.
  • Hottie, there is a man walking around who really wants to make love to you.

5. HE DOESN'T LIKE YOU SO MUCH IF HE SLEEPS WITH ANOTHER WOMAN by another woman. Don't ask what's wrong with you. You don't have to take the blame. And if he tells you that it happened by accident, then remember: betrayal is not accidental. This is not an accident like "I stumbled, and I was sucked in by a swamp called Treason." He planned and executed it, fully aware that it could end your relationship. Remember: if he sleeps with another woman without your permission and approval, then he behaves not just like a man who is not so passionate about you, but like a man who is not interested in you at all. nine0003

An excuse like "He has no excuse and he knows it."

Cheating is bad. And the inability to explain why you cheated on a person is even worse. If one red flag isn't enough for you, how about two? Don't date men who don't know why they did something.

An excuse like "But I got fat."

I am absolutely sure that you need to lose 90 kilos in the form of your worthless boyfriend, and not at all the twenty kilos he talks about. He cheated on you and called you fat. How much humiliation can a person endure? If something in your relationship does not suit him, then he should talk about it with you, instead of seeking solace in the vagina of a strange woman. Also, think about how he will react if you get pregnant, get old, or have a few wrinkles? Or if you dye your hair a color he doesn't like? Get rid of this loser immediately, or I myself will come to your house and throw him out of there. nine0003

An excuse like "He needs more sex than I do."

There is no excuse that he is cheating on you. Dot. There are many ways to solve this rather common problem that arises from the difference in sexual appetites. As a rule, people start by talking frankly about this topic, and everyone agrees to do everything in his power to make the partner happy. And you don't have to jump into bed with someone else!

An excuse like "But at least he knew her."

I explain in other words: it doesn't matter if he loves you or not. He has made it clear to you how he feels about your novel. He went along with his feelings and arranged everything so that he was alone with another woman, kissing her, taking off her clothes and doing everything else that usually happens when two adults have sex. Can you continue to love him after this?

One hundred percent of the men surveyed reported that they had never made love to a woman by pure chance. (But many of them wanted to know how such an accident occurs and what needs to be done to take advantage of it.)


  • There is no excuse for cheating. Let me repeat: there is no excuse for cheating. Now say it yourself: there is no excuse for cheating.
  • The only thing you are responsible for in the moral fall of another person is your own feelings.
  • Treason is treason. It does not matter with whom he cheated on you and how many times this happened.
  • Change becomes easier each time. It is difficult only the first time, when you feel remorse and guilt because you did not justify the trust of another person. nine0213
  • Deceivers are never happy. (Because they are all scoundrels.)
  • An unfaithful man first of all cheats on himself, since he cannot build a normal relationship with you.


If he likes you, he'll want to see you when his mind isn't clouded by the fumes of alcohol. If your clown puts on a red nose every time it comes to intimacy, then this indicates that there are serious problems in your relationship. nine0003

An excuse like "But I like it when he's drunk."

If, while sitting in a bar, he is drunk and says something like: "Baby, you are so beautiful!" and at the same time hugs you a little tighter than it should be, then it’s time to learn something: you can’t believe everything that a man says when he is drunk. And listen to the former bad guy: "bad guys" are called bad guys because they have a lot of trouble, no self-esteem, besides, they absolutely do not believe in sincere love relationships, but very often they dress cool and drive cool wheelbarrows. Do you really need this one? nine0003

An excuse like "At least he doesn't drink the strongest drinks."

Don't be fooled. A guy who doesn't fall off his feet and pee in his pants from drinking shouldn't get away with quietly shutting his brain off in a different, easier way every time you're together. It's still intoxication, it's still a desire to avoid responsibility, and it's still not good for you.


  • His words mean nothing if he said them while drunk. "I love you" or the like, spoken under the influence of any drink stronger than grape juice, has no power in court and in real life. nine0213
  • The use of alcohol and drugs is not the way to the innermost feelings of a person. Otherwise, people would not break empty beer bottles on their heads and try to touch the flames of fire to find out if they feel something or not.
  • If he wants to see you, communicate with you, have sex with you only when he is tipsy, this is not love, this is sport.
  • Bad guys are called bad guys for a reason.
  • You deserve a man who doesn't need to pump up anything to spend time with you. nine0213


Love cures the manic disease of commitment.

Every one of your former men who has told you that he doesn't want to get married, or doesn't believe in marriage, or has doubts about marriage, is bound to tie himself in sacred bonds someday. Just not with you. Because he's not saying that he doesn't want to get married at all. He says that he does not want to marry you.

Excuse like "It's all very complicated now."

If you take your finances into account when choosing the time for your wedding, this auspicious period will never come. If a boyfriend is using a lack of money as an excuse not to marry you, then it is your relationship that is at risk, not his bank account.

Excuse like "But he's just like that. "

If you have to sit and think about how to start a conversation about marriage with a person with whom you have been in a close relationship for quite some time, then this is a wake-up call. Immediately call him for a frank conversation and sort things out. Then, as soon as you are ready, go in search of a person whose only thoughts will be occupied with how you feel. nine0003

A dilemma like "Is this really an excuse not to get married?"

Marriage is a tradition that we inherited from previous generations, which is why marriage has so many opponents. So be it: if a man is categorically against marriage, and you are in favor with both hands, then please make sure that behind his unwillingness to marry lies only dislike for the very institution of marriage, and not any other feelings or their absence.

"I'm just not ready" excuse.

I hate to tell you this, but he doesn't want to rush for one reason: he still isn't sure you're the one.

An excuse like "He's seen enough of other failed marriages."

For a worthy man, a meeting with a woman with whom he wants to share his life always becomes a real event. And, probably, if he realizes that this is exactly the woman, he will not immediately tell her that the mere thought of registering their relationship disgusts him. nine0003

One hundred percent of the men surveyed admitted that they would no doubt propose a hand and heart to a woman if they were completely sure that she was the love of their life. One representative of the stronger sex said: "What kind of idiot do you have to be in order not to marry the woman you love?"


  • "Does not want to marry" and "Does not want to marry me" are two different things. Make sure that you correctly determine which category your chosen one belongs to. nine0213
  • If you have opposing views on marriage, then there are sure to be other issues that will lead to disagreement. It's time to make a problem list.
  • If nothing changes in your relationship, what are you waiting for?
  • Somewhere on earth there is a man who wants to marry you.


"I don't want to be with you" still means exactly that.

"He needs me" excuse.

Do not be satisfied that he is bored without you. He must be bored. You are so unique. And yet he, as he was, and remained the man who left you. Remember, there is only one reason he can miss remembering you: he thinks that he does not want to spend this day with you.

An excuse like "It's much easier after this solution."

If he dates you, asks you on dates, leaves you and continues to sleep with you, which, in fact, removes any responsibility from him for your feelings for him. There is one thing that a young man will never do if he cannot imagine his life without you: he will never leave you. The only way for you to know if you love yourself is to get rid of him, and as quickly as possible. nine0003

An excuse like "But everyone does it."

Stop holding on to his cock, get dressed and quickly go home to your best friend. And don't look for an excuse to stay with him. And do not think that all this crazy passion will inevitably lead to the fact that you will be together again. Oh yes, sex after a breakup is not bad at all, because it's great to sleep with someone you know. It's also great to sleep with someone you have strong feelings for. This combination makes sex after parting so bright. But now you know that because of this, a real confusion arises in the head and you begin to feel terrible. Face the truth: you are a woman, and women do not know how to separate love and sex. And don't make those mistakes again. Got it? He doesn't like you that much. He's much more into a very bad idea that masquerades as a very good idea, which is sex after a breakup. Like this. nine0003

An excuse like "But then he wants to go back."

Unfortunately, after you break up, your boyfriend starts looking for something better. And when he fails, he is seized by loneliness and returns "home". It doesn't sound like he likes you very much. He just really doesn't like being alone.

An excuse like "I refuse to accept the fact that he left me."

I'm sorry he left you. By trying again and again to get him back, you make your ex-boyfriend think: "What the hell did I find in this crazy bitch?" Remember one simple piece of advice, ladies: always be on top. Never go crazy. Well, in fact, this is not even one, but two whole pieces of advice. But trust me, you will never regret listening to them. At the very least, it will save you from the unpleasant memories of how you cut into pieces his clothes or threw away all the photos with him. nine0003


  • You can't stop a breakup by talking. Debating won't help here. Termination of relations is a final decision, and it is not subject to appeal.
  • Sex after a breakup doesn't mean you're back together.
  • Stop talking to him. Let him miss you.
  • No need to remind him how great you are.
  • He can take care of his cat himself.
  • nine0212 "Posh woman" will never torment his answering machine.
  • Somewhere a young man is waiting for you who will be just happy that you have not gotten back together with your horribly nasty ex-boyfriend.


Sometimes you have to put an end to it yourself.

Well, everything is very clear here. He made it clear to you that you are so not his type that he didn't even bother to leave you any news about himself. The only thing you have to take away from this love story is the fact that he decided to leave you. And he did not have the courage to tell you about it, looking into your eyes. Case is closed. nine0003

An excuse like "Maybe he's dead."

There is nothing worse than not getting an answer from a loved one. But the trouble is that the lack of an answer is the answer for you. He may not have written a farewell letter, but his silence speaks plainly: "I don't like you." The only reason why you should write to him again is the desire to receive an explicit refusal, now in verbal form. Have you forgotten? You are too busy with your fans and you don't have time for such nonsense. nine0003

Excuse like "So what, I can't even fight him one last time?"

At first, it may seem that you feel better if you call him and make a scandal. You may feel like you let him get away with it. But trust me, nothing you want to tell him will come as a revelation to him. And you already have something to spend your time on.

An excuse like "But I just want an answer." nine0003

Do you deserve to know what really happened? Undoubtedly. I can tell you what happened: you dated a terrible person. The easiest way to correct this mistake is to draw certain conclusions for yourself, live on and continue to be more selective in choosing a partner. Do it all quickly without wasting a minute of your precious time.

One hundred percent of the males surveyed who "disappeared" from the woman's field of vision stated that they were fully aware that they had done something terrible, and no phone calls or belated conversations would change their minds. nine0003


  • He may indeed be in the hospital suffering from amnesia, but he's probably just not that into you.
  • The absence of an answer is his answer to you.
  • Don't give him the opportunity to reject you again.
  • Let his mother make scandals for him. And you are too busy for that.
  • There is no mystery here: he just left your life, and he was not worthy of you.

10. HE DOESN'T LIKE YOU SO MUCH WHEN HE IS MARRIED (this includes all the other most incredible reasons why he can't be with you)

If you cannot love each other freely and openly, then this is not true love. No matter how strong and sincere your feelings for another person are, if he cannot answer them honestly and fully, that is, with mutual love, these feelings mean nothing.

Excuse like "But his wife is such a bitch!"

No matter how unhappy his marriage is and no matter how badly his wife treats him, everything is definitely not so bad, otherwise he would have left her long ago. Sincere love relationships do not deserve to be hidden. Find yourself a man who will not hide his feelings. nine0003

An excuse like "But he's such a nice person."

Please don't try to ignore this fact. He is married to another woman. I know you are not like everyone else, and in your case everything is different, but the fact remains: he is married. If in your entire life you are ready to stop at a red light only once, then this is exactly the case. It's just that for everyone who plays this game, the stakes are too high.

An excuse like "I just have to wait. " nine0003

If, at a certain stage in the development of a relationship, there is talk of "waiting for him", this is an alarming signal. It's not a stock you're going to invest in. He is a man whose heart must be open enough to be ready to meet you and fall madly in love with you. If someone really likes you, he will quickly solve all his problems and make a lot of efforts so as not to lose you.


  • He is married. nine0213
  • If he doesn't belong to you wholly and completely, then he belongs to her.
  • There are a lot of cool and gentle single men in the world. Try to meet one of them.
  • If a man yells and curses at his ex-wife or mourns a previous girlfriend, go to the movies with someone else.
  • He is married.
  • No need to join the ranks of those same women.
  • You are not easily forgotten. Let him find you when he is ready for a new relationship. nine0213


If he really loves you, he will do his best to make you happy.

An excuse like "But he really wants to get better."

Loving people try to treat each other well and even take pleasure in showing tenderness and care to their loved ones. If your partner is very bad at this, then in the end you reap the same benefits as in the situation called "He doesn't like you that much." nine0003

An excuse like "But that's just how he was raised."

He doesn't have to be crazy about your CD collection. It doesn't have to be that he likes all your shoes. But any full-fledged and prudent man simply has to make an effort on himself and fall in love with your friends and your family, especially if they are all such wonderful people.

An excuse like "But he will change."

Short temper is not a temporary problem. People who yell at others simply don't know how to control themselves and need psychiatric help. People who yell at others feel they have a right to do so. Hey, beauty, do you really want to create such a family? nine0003

An excuse like "After all, what matters is what happens between us alone."

Why be with a person who needs to humiliate you in order to feel his own superiority? Especially in front of friends! And why should you pay attention to the fact that he treats you better when you are alone? After all, he is only waiting for how to bring you to the people in order to humiliate you. Drop it! Go to college and write a diploma on the topic: "How to find a man who is not ashamed to show his friends." nine0003

An excuse like "But he's just trying to help."

It is not only the behavior of a man beating a woman that is considered offensive. It can and should also be considered offensive behavior when a man yells at a woman, publicly humiliates her, or reminds her that she is too fat, thereby making her feel unattractive. It is very difficult to believe that you deserve true love when someone is trying their best to convince you that you do not deserve anything in this life at all. But, as I see it, all the exhortations to part with him still do not work on you. So for starters, just realize that you are too good for such a relationship. nine0003

An excuse like "He just hasn't found himself yet."

People are constantly faced with difficult situations. But, as they say, if there was a hunt, the work would go well. And a strong, independent man will never ask you for five hundred bucks to pay his bar bill. Therefore, your thoughts should only be occupied with how to find such a man who would not agree to parasitize on you and your family for anything in the world.

An excuse like "Maybe it's one of his little oddities!" nine0003

You will surely meet men who do not enjoy hugging, kissing or having sex. You will spend a lot of time trying to figure out how to deal with this and whether you are the cause of this behavior. Or you simply come to the conclusion that these people do not like doing what you think is an integral part of a fulfilling life, and you go in search of such a person who shares your views.

The joke goes like this: "Hey, Björk called, she wants to take her dress back." And the insult is like this: "God, well, you are corroded!" But the most important thing is to understand what you need. You all definitely deserve better treatment! nine0003

One hundred percent of the men surveyed said they had never tried to humiliate or upset a woman they really liked. And this is the most important thing.


  • Don't complicate an already difficult life by sharing it with someone who gives you a lot of trouble.
  • You are worthy of such a man who in any situation will behave with you as it should. (Don't forget that you should treat him well too.)
  • nine0212 There is no reason to yell at another person unless they are in mortal danger.
  • Assholes belong in the circus, not in your apartment.
  • You already have one ass, why do you need a second one?
  • By getting rid of useless people, you get a lot of free time that you can spend on what gives you pleasure.
  • Believe in yourself. How could it be otherwise?

13. SO WHAT SHOULD YOU DO? nine0003

Then you ask: "What if there is no next novel at all?" And we will answer: "Send these terrible thoughts on a long voyage on a ship that will surely sink, because it is destined to crash on the reefs of the Isle of Sorrow. And we do not want you to be on this ship."


  • I will not date a person who does not ask me out on a date.
  • I will not date a man who makes me wait hours for his call. nine0213
  • I won't date someone who isn't sure they want to date me.
  • I will not date a person who makes me feel sexually unattractive.
  • I will not date a person who abuses alcohol or drugs, so this makes me uncomfortable.
  • I will not date a person who is afraid to make future plans with me.
  • Under no circumstances will I waste time on a person who has already rejected me once. nine0213
  • I will not date a married man.
  • I won't date a man unless he's actually a kind, sincere, and gentle person.

Now it's your turn. Only you know what other requirements you want to make to your future chosen one. Write them all down. And don't forget about them.



This should mean: "I would never intentionally do anything that could hurt you." nine0028 In some cases, this means: "I just don't like you that much."


This should mean "Today was my inauguration as President of the United States."
In some cases it means: "I just don't like you that much."

Bad boy

This should mean "Guy to stay away from".
In some cases it means: "The guy you need to stay away from." nine0003

I'm not ready

This should mean "I can't find my pants".
In some cases it means: "I just don't like you that much.

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