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Finding Love (and Marriage) as a Single Mom

Finding love isn’t easy as a single parent, but it’s possible. Learning about dating when you have kids can help you enjoy the experience.

Dating for single parents might sound intimidating, but a time can come when you think about the idea. Finding love as a single parent is possible, and it’s an exciting part of the journey. Learning how to make it a positive experience can make all the difference, and the tips discussed here can help.

You may have many emotions when you decide to start dating as a single primary parent. It can cause negative feelings, including frustration or disappointment, but it can also bring excitement and hope.

Dating is always an adventure, but it’s an entirely different experience for single parents looking for love. They must consider their children rather than only thinking of themselves. Plus, they’re not as readily available as a single person with no kids.

Although it’s a complicated experience, a single parent deserves happiness and love. Don’t be afraid of the unknown because you can embrace the chance at a new start.

1. Waiting until you’re ready

If you experienced a breakup or divorce, consider thinking about your mental health moving forward. Experts indicate that overcoming a previous relationship can trigger depression symptoms. You can take all the time you need to grieve and heal before considering dating as a single parent.

Making sure you’re ready to handle potential setbacks in modern dating (like this, this, and this) can help you stay positive and confident. It can help you prioritize self-love, making all the difference in finding a long lasting partnership.

2. Determining where you can meet someone

Once you’re ready to start dating, consider where you can realistically meet people. Meeting new folks is essential to the experience, and you might make a few new friends during the process.

Consider attending local events or joining social outings. You can also try online dating sites to connect with people outside your inner circle. A few other ideas include meeting someone at:

the gym
single parent support groups
kids’ sporting events
work (depending on your company stance on workplace romance!)
community workshops

3. Sticking to your ‘love list’ but keep an open mind

Having a love list can help you identify what you want in a partner and relationship. It could prevent you from settling and perhaps even bolster your confidence as you find love.

Your love list can include characteristics and qualities that you want in a partner. It’s wise to keep your list short, only focusing on your core needs to allow yourself to maintain an open mind.

You can also keep an open mind about how someone can meet your needs rather than assuming there’s only one way. You may update your list as your life changes because your needs will shift, too.

4. Being honest (with prospects, your kids, and yourself)

Honesty is essential for finding love as a single parent. Consider being open and honest with your children and dates about everything. It promotes trust early on, allowing you to build on a solid foundation.

You don’t have to tell your kids immediately but try being as honest as you can when you start dating. If your children are older, you could use it as a learning opportunity. With younger kids, you might only want them to be comfortable and aware.

Being honest with your partner is essential, too. You can make it clear that you have children — it’s a big part of who you are. You might consider not dating anyone who isn’t OK with you being a parent.

When to introduce your kids to a steady romantic partner?

Psychiatrist Dr. Domenick Sportelli suggests not setting a specific timeframe for introducing your kids to a romantic partner.

Every family is different, and being mindful of your child’s feelings will help you determine when they’re ready.

He also suggests not telling your child about your romantic partner at home. Try choosing a neutral place that your child enjoys. It’ll help them relax and process the information.

Sometimes your child might feel like they will betray the other parent by liking the new partner. It can make them resist forming a connection, and it often takes time for them to come around.

Whichever way you choose to tell your kids about a dating partner, it’s helpful to ensure they know they’re still your priority in your life.

Consider whether your romantic relationship has a stable future so that you don’t inadvertently expose your child to fleeting partners.

Another thing to be honest with your prospective partner (and yourself!) about is what you want in a relationship. Here are some helpful resources to take an honest look at where you’re at and what you really want in dating:

How to Navigate Friends with Benefits
Do I Like Him, the Attention, or Something Else?
What Is Aromantic?
Am I in Love? Love or Lust Relationship Quiz
What Does Exclusive Mean in a Relationship?
Is Your Partner Jealous of Your Baby?
When to Move in Together

5.

Tune in to your kids’ feedback and tune out unwelcome opinions

Experts describe “mom-shaming” as someone criticizing your decisions and parenting styles. And this shaming can happen to any gender of single parent. When you decide to start dating, not everyone will love the idea.

You might hear opinions from other people and comments said behind your back. There’s a way to take in constructive feedback that comes from a place of love and protection — and keep out others’ opinions of you.

Your kids might have a hard time adjusting to your lifestyle change. It helps to actively listen to what they have to say and consider their perspective. If your kids have trouble coping, therapy can make all the difference.

You might feel like you don’t have enough time or energy left, but you can still find companionship — and love if you want it. It’s not always easy, but you can enjoy the experience of finding a new partner.

Percentage of single moms who get married

Statistics show that approximately 40% of children born in the United States in 2020 had unwed mothers.

Another 2021 study looking at the living arrangements of parents with children at home indicates that just over 50% of single parents have never married. Indeed, many single parents choose to stay single.

One study shows that many people are willing to date a single parent, so you can avoid thinking there’s no chance for you. You might keep up hope of finding a partner to complement your existing family.

With many people willing to fill the role, remember not to settle because you are worthy and deserve love.

Finding companionship or romance as a single parent is possible, even as you might need to overcome obstacles. You can make it happen using these tips, finding the opportunity to enjoy the type of intimacy you may crave.

The dating journey might get complicated, but don’t lose hope because you can fall in love. If you want to find love, the person meant for your family is out there.

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Who does the law consider a single parent?

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Who is considered a single parent by law?

The administration of our district approved that certain categories of citizens (military personnel, police officers, etc.) and additionally working single parents have the priority right to places in kindergartens. Who is considered a single parent by law? The Department of Education says - those who are not married, including those who are divorced. Those. are not married, but have a father (mother), as well as widows, widowers. Is it legal? After all, if the parents are divorced or not officially married, then the child still has both parents! The mother (or father) can apply for alimony, widows (widowers) can receive a survivor's pension for children. My child does not have a father (there is no record on the father's certificate), I am not married and have not been, I am the only breadwinner. Shouldn't a single mother have priority over divorced women whose children didn't lose their father when their parents divorced? But the Department of Education claims that the benefit is given not to single mothers, but to "single parents. " So who are "single parents"? Those who are really single, and are the only parent for their child, or who are not married? They are not the only parents! And if I get married, will I no longer be a single parent? And if I am both a police officer and a single parent, do I have a priority right to get a place in a kindergarten if I have two benefits at once? Help me to understand. Thank you!

Olga

Olga, good afternoon.

On the territory of the Voronezh region, the definition of a single mother (single parent) includes persons who meet all of the following requirements of the law:

have a divorce certificate issued at least 300 days ago, or not be married at all;
not have a court decision recognizing the fact of paternity;
not have any document that would confirm the consanguinity of the father and the child.

It turns out that the status of a single mother can only be obtained by a woman who has given birth to a baby without first marrying his father and who has issued a birth certificate for the baby without records of the father (a certificate in form No. 25 will be issued at the registry office).

Situations where a woman believes that she is entitled to the status of a single mother, however, this is not the case:

father.
The baby was born out of wedlock, and less than 300 days have passed since the dissolution of the marriage or the death of the husband (the woman's ex-husband is then recognized as the father, even if he is not the biological father).
The mother and father of the baby did not register the marriage, but the common-law spouse did not abandon the children and issued a certificate of paternity.
The baby's father was deprived of parental rights.

If there are several conditions for obtaining a benefit at once, we recommend that you contact the education department and clarify which one is better for you to use.

Please note that there is the concept of "single parent", which means the absence of a child's second parent due to death, recognition of the parent as missing, declaration of death.

Maxim Dyukanov,
lawyer, specialist in family law

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The departure of one parent from the family changes the established way of life. Children are given new responsibilities for which they are not always ready. The most important thing in such a situation is the cooperation of the parent with the child. Usually, children show empathy and are ready to help if they are honestly discussed with them about the upcoming difficulties. When a child participates in decision-making, he/she is more successful in fulfilling his/her new responsibilities and more easily survives the difficulties that have arisen. If there is mutual respect in the family, then there will be mutual assistance.

The danger of accelerated maturation

If a child grows up in a family with one parent, then he grows up much faster than his peers who live in a complete family. In most cases, a single parent has to work hard, he is often forced to be absent from home, so the children themselves have to take care of cooking and cleaning. As a result, the child learns to rely only on himself.

If the parent manages to maintain a trusting relationship with the child, then he performs his duties without reminders and shouts. However, if family relationships are bad or an adult constantly criticizes and finds fault, then children have a negative attitude towards their duties, protesting against them. They may start skipping school, coming home late, ignoring requests and instructions. In this case, one should learn to refrain from criticism, since children tend to cooperate only with a polite and friendly attitude towards them.

If a parent does not clean up his things when he comes home, but requires the children to maintain order, naturally, they will not obey the requirements. No child understands double standards. If children do housework only because the parent does not like it, and not because of the real lack of time, this will also cause protest and resentment. Sharing household chores helps build good relationships between children and parents.

The child in a new role

If the father leaves the family where the boy is growing up, the mother, as a rule, concentrates her attention on her son. It is not uncommon for mothers to label their sons as "the main man" in the house. They begin to consult with their sons about problems at work or relationships with relatives, as a result, the “role of a husband” falls on the boy’s shoulders, which is unbearable for the child. When such children grow up, they often have difficulties in communication, as well as problems in their sexual life. Girls can also play the “husband role” for their mother: they take care of her emotional state, try not to upset her, take on most of the household chores. In adulthood, it will be difficult for them to build their own family, because they are used to being responsible for their mother. Therefore, it is important for parents to remember who is really responsible for whom, and under no circumstances should they place unbearable worries about themselves on the child.

Advice for single parents:

If family circumstances have changed, you should:

honestly discuss new circumstances with your children;
in the event of the departure of one parent, convince the child that this is not his fault;
be sympathetic to the feelings of children regarding the events that have occurred;
share household chores as reasonably as possible;
maintain honest and open communication with the child;
solve common problems together;
treat the child with respect.

Happy children grow up in incomplete families, if all members of such a family treat each other with respect and the child feels care for himself, attention to his needs.

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