Is he wasting my time quiz
How To Know If a Guy is Wasting Your Time: Signs He Won't Commit
There’s a saying that goes, you can never recycle wasted time, and oh how true that is.
No one intends to get into a dead-end relationship. Most of us want that real, true, long-lasting love and our quest for it can sometimes lead us to stay in situations that are the opposite of what we want.
Why does it happen? Well, we get so caught up in the potential of what could be, rather than looking at what is.
You’re dating this guy and he just checks so many boxes. And you rarely experience this kind of chemistry so you would be foolish to let it slip away! Sure, he doesn’t seem to be on the same page as you, but maybe with just a little encouragement, you’ll be able to get him there.
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Maybe once he sees how amazing you are … maybe if you can help him get over the ex who broke his heart … maybe if you can just wait it out a little longer … then he’ll step up and be who you want him to be.
I’ve deluded myself in this way many times and I’ve seen many others do it as well so I can tell you: this never turns out well!
Don’t let yourself be lured by what could be, look at the situation as it is right here, right now, and then decide what you’d like to do. To help you get there, these are the biggest signs you’re wasting your time with him and he isn’t going to commit to you:
The reasons don’t matter, the facts do. Most likely he means he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you. It’s also possible he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with anyone right now. Maybe he wants to focus on his career, maybe he’s not emotionally ready to settle down, maybe he likes being single and free, it really doesn’t matter.
He may have some really great reasons, but again, it doesn’t change things. He probably also does have feelings for you. Again, it doesn’t change anything if he doesn’t want to be with you.
MORE: 12 Biggest Signs He’s Never Going to Settle Down With You
One day he’s super into you, the next he’s cold and distant. You guys are attached at the hip one week, and then he disappears for days or weeks at a time.
Sometimes he seems like he’s in love with you, other times you feel like a nuisance to him. So what’s going on?
Wishy-washy behavior, or sending “mixed signals” is usually a sign of uncertainty. He’s just unsure of you.
He likes you, he’s attracted to you, he has fun with you, but he’s just not sure if he wants to be in a relationship with you.
MORE: The Truth About Why He’s Hot and Cold
3. He is still active on dating apps
He might be sneaky about this and tell you he deactivated his account … and you believe him until one of your friends comes across him while swiping …
Maybe he makes excuses and tells you, “Well, I never log in so what’s the big deal?”
Or maybe he’s honest with you and says yeah, he still uses his account because you guys aren’t official so he isn’t doing anything wrong.
Either way, if he’s active on dating apps it’s a sign that he hasn’t quite found what he’s looking for.
4. He openly flirts with other women in front of you
A lot of the times we say how we feel through actions more than words, this is especially true of men.
A man might not come out and tell you: “I don’t want to be in a serious relationship with you,” but he’ll show you he’s not serious through his actions. One way to get the point across loud and clear is to flirt with other women in front of you.
Now you might make the mistake of thinking he’s just trying to make you jealous because he likes you so much (at least, that’s a mistake, or rather a self-imposed delusion, that I’ve made in the past!) but what’s more likely is he’s showing and affirming that he is a free man who can do as he pleases.
MORE: Why Doesn’t He Want Me?
5. He talks about the future … and you’re not in it
He might talk about how he wants to go live in Europe for a few years, or he wants to move away and change jobs or get out of the city and live a suburban life.
That’s all well and good, but he doesn’t seem to be factoring you into any of these plans, he doesn’t even ask for your opinion on city versus suburbs, he just tells you this is his plan and doesn’t really seem to care if you’re there for this imagined future or not.
6. The relationship is stagnant
You’ve been in the same spot for months or years. You’re not growing closer in any way, or he refuses to take the next step, whether it’s to be an “official” couple, to move in together, to get engaged, set a date, and so forth.
You just have no idea where this is going and when you try to talk to him about it he deflects or gives you vague answers.
MORE: 11 Signs the Guy You’re Dating is Toxic
7. He doesn’t share his true self with you
When a man is truly invested in a woman, he will share his true self with her. He will allow her to really see him, to see the man beneath the mask.
If your conversations are all surface level and he doesn’t really open up or show vulnerability, then he might not be truly invested in you.
At the same time, don’t mistake a guy who is all feelings and emotions and vulnerability with a guy who is serious about you. This can also sometimes be a sign of a guy wasting your time because this guy is a mess and just looking for a crutch to lean on while he gets himself together
8. You just know this isn’t how it’s supposed to be
You know that this isn’t what true love is supposed to feel like. You know something is off, you just don’t want to admit it because you don’t want to have to leave and start all over again with someone new. You’re already in this so you try to just make it work and figure it out even if that means wasting more of your precious time!
Inaccurate Signs He’s Wasting Your Time
1. He’s taking space
Sometimes men need space, it’s how they deal with stress and emotional turmoil. If your guy is backing away a bit and not as attentive, it doesn’t mean he’s wasting your time. He’s most likely dealing with something and he wants to work it through on his own so he can come back into the relationship better than ever.
2. He texts less often
At the beginning of a relationship, you’re on a high. You can’t stop thinking about the other person and want to talk to them all day every day. And in the beginning, you may engage in these marathon chat sessions. But this isn’t sustainable long term. People have jobs and school and lives! You can’t just be pinging back and forth all day long.
As things get more settled, he may not text as voraciously but that’s a good thing. First, it’s too much to do that all day! Next, it means he is settling back into a more normal rhythm because he’s getting more comfortable with you.
MORE: Signs He’s Not Serious About You
3. He says he can’t commit right now but….
… he plans on committing to you and he gives you a concrete timeline. Or he explains to you that he wants to wait until he’s more established at his job or until the busy season is over, and he means it. He doesn’t just keep coming up with one excuse after the next. And not only that- he follows through. He doesn’t leave you in no man’s land. You know he’s committed to you. He doesn’t just tell you, he shows you (remember: men communicate through actions more than words).
What to Do If He’s Wasting Your Time
So you’ve read our roundup and have deduced that he is wasting your time and you’re in a dead-end relationship. What now?
Do you pull away and try to make him chase you? If he doesn’t reply to your text for an hour should you wait three hours before responding to him?
No and no. If a guy is wasting your time there is only one thing to do: leave.
That’s it. Don’t wait around. Don’t try to prove your worth. Don’t pretend to be something you think he wants.
Look, if you walk away and he lets you go, then at least you know it was never going to work out. Men don’t just let women they love walk away without a fight.
MORE: Why Won’t He Commit To You?
And if you leave and he comes after you, and not only that, he actually steps up and takes some next step, then great! You have a chance.
Just beware of guys who come after you and then don’t change and fall back into the same pattern. If he begs for you back and you give him another chance … but then he comes up with a whole new slew of excuses about why he can’t commit, then let it go for real. As they say, fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.
MORE: Signs He’s Not For Real
How to Never Waste Time Again
The antidote here is to have high self-worth. It’s to know what you want and know that you deserve to have it. If you want a commitment, don’t settle for the scraps some guy is willing to throw your way.
And don’t tell yourself that you should hold onto this because you’ll never find better. Or that this is better than being alone.
Being alone might be lonely at times, but being in the wrong relationship can be damaging – which would you choose?
You can get the love you want, you just need to be clear on what it is that you want and stop wasting time on what you don’t want.
If the guy you’re involved with checks multiple items on this list, then I’m sorry. I know it’s a bummer when something promising never comes to be but believe me when I say it’s for the best. Conversely, maybe this article made you realize that the guy you’re with is a keeper … however, you feel like you may be pushing him away. If that’s the case, read this next to learn exactly what to do: If He’s Pulling Away, Do This...
Also, do you know what really inspires a man to commit and see a woman as “the one”? If not, read this too:The #1 Things Men Desire in a Woman
Is He Wasting Your Time? (The Top 2 Red Flags to Watch For)
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I talk a lot about letting go of the wrong person. But how do you know if someone is the wrong person? What are the red flags? How can you tell if someone is serious or just stringing you along so that you don’t waste your time?
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I think that every video I’ve ever done could be looked at not simply through the lens of dating and relationships but through the lens of time: The idea of not suffering for longer than we need to, not spending longer with the wrong person than we need to, not repeating the same mistakes that are costly in terms of time. In fact, one of the main questions I get from people is, “How do I read someone’s intentions? How do I know if they’re just stringing me along? How do I know if this person is wasting my time?”
I recently posted something across all of my social media saying, “If you want to know someone’s intentions, watch their actions, not their words, because actions have a far harder time lying. ” Now, someone replied challenging this principle and their reply is worth noting. “Okay… flip that. What if he’s telling you that he doesn’t want a relationship with you but won’t stop calling, texting, wanting to spend time with you, sleeping with you, making future plans with you, sharing hopes/dreams/fears/troubles? Which do you believe?”
I thought this was a great point because it suggests that the literal inverse of what I said is true, in that case. That if you were to watch that person’s actions, you would continue to invest more and more and more because their actions would be saying the right thing, even though their words are saying the wrong thing.
So based on this comment, I want to add an addendum to this principle of paying more attention to someone’s actions than their words.
If you want to know someone’s intentions: Watch their actions, not their words… Unless what they’re telling you is difficult for them to say.
When we’re trying to make any kind of a sale in life, we want to say all of the things that are going to help us make that sale. If, in the course of that sales presentation, someone tells you something undesirable, unwelcome, something that could cost them the sale, what they’re saying in that moment should be given particular attention.
In that case, we shouldn’t be blindly looking at their actions and what they invest in us. We should be paying attention to the small print. I think of it like a pharmaceutical ad. When someone is trying to sell you on a pill, that’s going to take away some pain or ailment that you have, and it shows you this bright meadow and happy people, and after all of that powerful, emotional, good feeling, it reads you as quickly as possible the small print of how this drug is going to make you want to kill yourself.
Ask your doctor today about Kevorka. Side effects may include making you want to kill yourself.
I think of what someone’s selling you when they tell you they don’t want a relationship as being like that. It’s like a commercial for a relationship where someone is walking you through the scenes. “Here’s us going to a movie. Here’s us in a park having a picnic. Here’s a moment where I confide you with something vulnerable, and aren’t we connected in this moment?” Then after all of these relationship-esque scenes that make you feel so invested comes the small print where someone says:
Warning! This romance comes without a title. We’ll never call you girlfriend, just not ready for a relationship and not looking for anything serious right now.
That’s the small print. Because when somebody is telling you, “I don’t want anything serious,” amidst doing all of the right things, or they’re telling you, “I don’t want a relationship,” even though they’re behaving as if you’re already in a relationship, what they’re saying requires effort to say. It may sabotage the very attention they are trying to get. That means it was inconvenient for them to say. And if it was inconvenient for them to say, if it was something that could cost them the sale, then it’s something that should be given extra attention, over and above their actions.
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11 tips on how to learn not to waste time
"Each person must educate himself," said Turgenev's Bazarov. I will tell you about the experience of self-education with the help of time management techniques, which, as expressed in non-scientific popular programs, changed my life.
Of course, they did not change immediately, and the point is not in these methods themselves, but probably in the maturation of the frontal lobes of the brain or something like that. But the fact is that time management played one of the main roles in this process. I was 15 and I had a lot of things to do. There was nothing special in my school then, but they taught something there. It was difficult for me to study, and I did not like to do it.
I was unable to get carried away with either physics, or chemistry, or mathematics, or biology. We had no luck with Russian and literature teachers for a long time, they gave boring and formal assignments. At the same time, they taught us excellent English, but using an extensive method, they made us memorize large amounts of text every day. At school, I was bored and often skipped her. It was difficult for me to sit through the lessons, I did not know how to perceive information by ear, and in order to understand something, I had to read textbooks (which I also could not do, because they are boring).
I liked to chat for hours (at night) on the phone with my friend, walk around St. Petersburg, watch the news on all channels (I was very fond of politics and even tried to join liberal parties - it was in 1998) and . .. write novels about which I knew very well that no one would read them. The novels were something like fanfiction on medieval historical descriptions: the struggle of cities with each other, intrigues, executions, love scenes. In addition, I had an extremely uneven energy flow.
I didn’t want to get up at all, and I was ready to lie on the sofa for days, weeks, then I tried, like that dish on the Strugatskys’ spider legs, to run in all four directions at once. As for my parents, they were just angels: they worked hard and loved each other and me very much, and they had neither the time nor the desire to drag me somewhere or correct me.
It was with such input data that I came to the tenth grade and then began to suspect that something was wrong, that I was spending quite a lot of time completely mediocre, falling behind more and more and not having time, but you have to decide something and about future. I wanted to somehow participate in life, to be in its midst, to understand what was happening in the world. I decided to enter the Faculty of Economics of St. Petersburg State University. But I didn’t know how to study, and it wasn’t realistic to enter the university with eight triples.
This is where time management comes in.
1. The goal should NOT be set
Looking back at that time, I can say with confidence that I did not set myself the goal of “entering the University”. Although she meant that, in principle, she should do it. The real goal of preparing for the exams came to me around March of my senior year. It was then that I, having classically distributed the tickets by day, began to prepare for them. Before that, my main goal was ... to free myself. Get legitimate free time to chat, party, and write novels—and not feel like you're constantly underachieving. I had very good helpers - parents who didn’t put pressure on me at all, didn’t get on my nerves and didn’t set goals. They intervened only at my request (for example, they paid me a tutor in mathematics; by the way, at the age of 14-15 I myself, not without success, acted as an English tutor, but my services were cheaper).
2. Work or leisure - no middle ground
My first discovery at that time: curtail or limit those activities that can eat up an unlimited amount of time. Forty minutes of chatting with a friend is no worse than three and a half hours. A sleepless night is a dull day. A few hours of Doom-2 do not bring happiness. Intrinsic motivation helped me: I did not like this feeling of absolutely thrown away, lost time after the "spree" (whatever they were). If after some business there is a feeling of complete emptiness, this business is either not worth starting at all, or it needs to be severely limited. This business is not work, and not rest, which means, well, it.Photo: istockphoto.com
3. Can't you? Do it or quit
What else was eating up my time? Things I didn't know how to do. For example, I could struggle with chemistry or physics for several hours, but I couldn’t understand or solve anything. As a result, time was wasted. I decided that since it’s impossible to do everything, I’ll just drop some things or leave them at a very low level.
It’s quite easy to make a three out of two — it’s enough to show at least a minimum of goodwill
At the same time, by the way, it becomes clear what is hopeless and what is not. So, I discovered that with some effort I can master mathematics. Here I had to look for help. I started going to a tutor and, in the end, fell in love with her and began to get fours and fives. But I thought I was completely stupid. It was important to "scatter" subjects and activities into those that you should not do at all, and those that are still worth spending time on.
As for history, literature, economics and language, I already loved them and was ready to study on my own. All that was needed was a great deal of consistency.
4. Difficulties - in small pieces
I started setting an alarm for 15, 20, 30 minutes. It was exactly that piece of time during which I did not have time to distract myself from the English text or from the essay and physically or mentally jump somewhere. In general, I am very hurried and like to rush, so little artificial rushes always help me: “I’ll strain myself now, I’ll do it quickly and - cheers.” At the same time, the quality does not suffer or almost does not suffer. I think that such a tool is not suitable for everyone: the ticking of the clock simply drives many into a stupor. But perhaps this approach can also cure someone of excessive perfectionism.
5. Don't sit at the table (and don't lie down on the couch)
A hyperactive teenager like me needs a different learning environment. He has long and firmly associated the table with mess, coercion (or self-coercion), dullness and procrastination. When you understand that you really need to learn something, and not just pretend and deceive yourself or someone else, then it turns out that many things are best learned in motion, for example, walking around the room or running in the park . And in general, the ways of introducing information into oneself must be diversified. A blackboard and a marker, a computer, large sheets that you lay out on the floor, tiny cheat sheets that you write in beaded handwriting. Now there's a whole lot more, starting with audiobooks.
6. What are called “mind maps”
Not really, of course. It's just that it is at 14-16 years old that the ability to arrange information on a sheet of paper (or in general - in space) is formed. Any information. Arrange and eat. Blocks, arrows, abbreviations, points and questions, one follows from the other, some things happen at the same time. And history, and biology, and literature are easily schematized, folded, and then rolled out of this folded state. Gradually, this turns into a kind of sport (“schematize everything!”), And how it helps at a university - there are simply no words.
7. Schedule? Nope
I tried. There was no sense from this. The internal impulses to do this or that were stronger than the pleasure of keeping to the schedule. Another trick helped me: to know how much time I have today, and to figure out what things I can do and what little result I can achieve. You write the list in large paragraphs on the same board, and then put pluses in front of what you have done. And for a very long time I was mistaken, overestimating my strength.
I could write down eight tasks for two hours. Gradually, I began to estimate time better and was even able to plan things two or three days in advance. This horizon remained my limit for a very long time, only after 20 years I was able to move on to at least some kind of planning for the week ahead (and still not very successful). The important thing is that I always planned not only the necessary, but also the pleasant! After all, it also takes time.
I lacked freedom. At the end of the tenth grade, I voluntarily transferred from my school to the Anichkov Lyceum. There I began to study much more. Studying in Anichkovo is built more freely than in a regular school: lessons start later, last longer (like couples in an institute), there are no bells, fewer compulsory subjects and more electives. In my time, there was no mandatory attendance there, and teachers were not scolded or shamed for triples and deuces - because it was clear that it was impossible and unnecessary to be an excellent student here and know all the subjects at a high level. In general, the regime and regulations are not the best friends of time management. Of course, you can adapt to the regime, but for many it is not a help, but an additional difficulty.
9. Consider yourself very smart and act like a smart guy
In the Anichkov Lyceum, I finally stopped considering myself a two and three student and imagined myself, on the contrary, very smart. So I started doing what, in my opinion, smart people should do. I outlined NTV news releases, creating my own agenda, translated Shakespeare and even Polish poets (analyzing every line with a dictionary, because I didn’t even know the basics of grammar), drew up alternative budgets of the Russian Federation for the next year and created a draft of a new single tax. All this not only entertained me and flattered my opinion of myself, but later turned out to be very useful. Was it "preparation for university" or "study"? Not! Pure pleasure, a hybrid of pleasant and useful.
There were no diaries in the Anichkov Lyceum, and I got myself a notebook, arranged according to the same principle as the school diary. I still keep such notebooks: on one side - Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday, on the other - Thursday, Friday and Saturday-Sunday. I write there all the cases in a row, in a list: both work, and personal, and children. I didn't have any other planning tools.Photo: istockphoto.com
11. Experiments with one's own will
Fifteen years is the best time to experiment with your volitional and emotional self-regulation. Here, for example, is the familiar state of apathy, when you are “just nothing”, you have no strength and you don’t want anything. I used to have it often when I was a teenager. It was in this state that I made it a rule to ask myself in detail, in detail, like Schwartz’s Baba Yaga:
“What do you want, darling? Seagull or water? From a well or from a swamp?” It often turns out that you just want to ... sleep
And you feel much better after sleeping. Then I want tea. Then write a poem. And then you can already - just a little bit! - to work. What is absolutely impossible in such a state is the things from point two (time wasters). Apathy will only intensify, and the sense of the meaninglessness of everything will reach its climax.
So, gradually discovering all these quite banal things for myself, I not only became more and more organized, but more and more conformed to myself, learned to manage myself. Let not dominate - I am still far from that now - but at least independently determine what I want to do today or this weekend, and not go with the flow, not follow too obediently an external schedule and at the same time not rush there - here on the first impulse.
As a result, I entered the University of Economics - I barely went there, with a creak and with all my strength, and even graduated from it, working at the same time from the first year. When I was 18, my first novel was printed in 200 copies, and when I was 20, my third novel was printed in 5,000 copies and already in a large good publishing house. Now I am 32, I have a lot of printed books, I don’t deal with economics at all, but I am proud that, being a creative person by nature, I nevertheless always turn in my work on time.
Psychological test for the ability to properly distribute and spend working time
| To what extent are your employees able to correctly allocate their working time, especially the time for the provision of services? Quality often suffers from excessive haste, in addition, it may seem to the client that he was given too little attention. This will offend him, leave a bad impression about the salon. |
On the contrary, “downtime” wastes the client’s time, bores him, after all, someone else could be served for the saved time. Do your employees know how to count time and choose the optimal number of minutes (hours and seconds) so that the procedure is carried out at the highest level, and the client feels comfortable, and the working day is not wasted? Another 9 will help answer0003
Does it happen in practice: you have so much time for each client that it remains?
No - 2
Quite often, but there is not much time left - 3
It happens, but only a few minutes - 4
It happens all the time. There is a lot of time left – 1
Do you get bored during the provision of a service because too much time is allotted for it, the service is extended in time?
Never - 4
Sometimes - 3
Regularly - 2
Constantly - 1
What do you “mortgage” by allocating this or that time for the provision of this or that service?
Its technology, time for meeting and parting with a client, time for waiting for a late client - 2
Her technology, time to communicate with a client about services or home care, time for a client to be late, time to meet and say goodbye to a client - 3
Her technology, the time for a client to be late, the time to communicate with a client about services or home care, the time to put her office (workplace) in order to receive the next client, the time to meet and say goodbye to a client - 4
Her technology , time for a client to be late, time for your rest - 1
If the client does not distract you from the provision of the service, it passes quickly, how much time do you have left after his departure until the next client (excluding time for cleaning the workplace)?
No more than 10 minutes - 4
No more than 15 minutes - 3
No more than 5 minutes - 1
Not counted - 2
5-10 minutes late, go to the toilet, ask to rest a little - 3
5-10 minutes late, take a break, ask you to distract yourself and show him the home line (tell him about a new service) - 4
Being late for 5 minutes, coughing for a long time, slowly getting into the office, getting dressed after the service is rendered - 2
To be 5 minutes late, not to rush during the service - 1
Do you allow yourself to be late to the client?
Never - 4
Very rarely, in exceptional cases - 3
For a couple of minutes, sometimes - 2
Up to 5 minutes, you are also a person - 1
ended much sooner?
Relax and chat with colleagues - 1
Look at professional literature - 2
Try to communicate with this or another client about new services (home line) - 3
Try to serve another client, if this is not at the expense of the quality of the service provided - 4
Look at the situation from question number 7. What Will you think after her?
That everything worked out well - 1
Did you do everything right, since the service went so quickly - 3
Nothing - 2
Did you correctly calculate the time for the service. Why did she go so fast? – 4
Are you often late on your way to work?
Sometimes - 2
Very often - 1
Sometimes - 3
Never - 4
Does it happen that you do not have enough time to provide a service?
Never - 4
Happened a couple of times, but you "got out" - 3
Happened a couple of times, had to wait for a new client - 2
Happens - 1
Reread question 10 such situation. Your actions?
Start working faster, even at the expense of quality - 1
Start working faster, save time on communication with the client - 3
You will count on the new client being late or his consent to wait - 2
Save time on the client’s rest, your rest + handicap between clients – 4
If a client asks you to tell in detail about the home line, will slowly settle down in the office, get dressed even more slowly after the service is rendered, can this disrupt your schedule and delay the provision of services to a new client?
No, you can adjust the time so that everyone has time to do everything - 4
Most likely not, but you will try to gently rush things - 3
You will have to rush the client and part with him as soon as possible - 2
Sometimes, then You have to rush the first client, make the second one wait - 1
Do you often get delayed when you go on business if you know the route for a long time in advance? For example, during trips to the supermarket, to training, for the child to school?
Almost always - 1
Often - 2
Almost never - 4
Very rarely - 3
Did you participate in the calculation of the time for each service + time to prepare the workplace for the next client?
No, and you don't even know who made them - 1
They were made by the manager with your minimum participation - 2
Mandatory! – 4
You gave your advice during the preparation of the calculations – 3
You have noticed that the time for the provision of a particular service is calculated incorrectly, it is too much. Your actions:
Sound the alarm! Losses! – 3
Rest in peace – 1
Calculate exactly how much time remains and come to the manual with specific calculations – 4
Try to spend it on a new client when possible – 2
You notice that the time for the provision of a particular service is not calculated correctly, it is too small. Your actions:
You will immediately raise this issue with the management - you cannot work in this mode - 4
You will try to meet the allotted time without losing quality, although you will reduce, for example, communication with the client, reviewing the home line, cleaning the workplace in front of a new client - 2
You will try to meet the allotted time - 1
You will calculate in a few days how much time is really needed and raise this issue with the management - 3
Do you happen to count the time “by the minute” in your mind or even on paper when planning your affairs?
Often - 4
Only in emergency cases - 3
Never - 1
Do not remember - 2
service and break between two customers?
Always on paper and with the participation of at least one colleague – 4
Yes, almost always - 3
Happened a couple of times - 2
It's none of your business - 1
The client is obviously in a hurry during the service. Your actions:
Try to please him, fully complying with the technology and not at the expense of quality - 3
to the detriment of the result) - 4
You will try to work well and mentally scold the client - 2
Try to speed up the process even at the expense of quality – 1
Do you allow yourself to be in a hurry while providing a service?
Never - 4
It happened a couple of times in emergency cases - 3
Sometimes - 2
Sometimes - 1
No way, it depends on the technology + you need to take time to communicate with the client, without this he will not be comfortable, because no one wants to be served in a hurry - 4
Not at all, except for a couple of minutes decreased - 3
Slightly decreased - 2
Decreased significantly - 1
Why do you hesitate during the provision of a particular service?
It is new and you control your actions more carefully – 3
A lot of time is devoted to it – 2
The procedure is complex, individual and should be carried out with special care – 4
You have nowhere to hurry – 1
When looking at a new service, do you pay attention to how long it will take? At what stage?
Immediately, teachers often talk about it or you can read it - 3
Only after practical classes: It is important for you to understand how much time you will spend on the service, to “feel” it personally - 4
It doesn’t matter to you, the administrator will tell you – 1
You didn’t think about it – 2
How do you feel about the expression “a girl must always be late”?
A beautiful girl can afford it - 2
Completely agree - 1
Applicable when you need to torture a fan - 3
This is not your style - 4
Do you like to work in mode?
No, then nothing really works out for you - 2
Yes, although sometimes not everything works out - 1
Sometimes you can endure a well-planned emergency with a guaranteed result - 3
Even with a successful result, this is a punishment for you - 4
What do you consider the worth of the series?
A new interesting plot that keeps you in suspense - 4
It takes a long time, you can "get involved" and have a long rest under your favorite movie - 1
It comes at a convenient time and is interesting, it will not drag out - 3
It goes at a convenient time , and you can watch, skipping a couple of episodes - 2
How would you choose or would you choose which foreign language to learn?
Choose the most useful one + calculate when you can communicate with a dictionary on it, when you speak fluently - 4
Choose the most beautiful language - 2
Choose the easiest language - 1
Consider the needs of work, communication + calculate when you can use – 3
Do you have a daily routine? What does it depend on?
Depending on the work schedule only - 1
Depending on the work schedule and mood - 2
You have a clear distribution of what and when you do, although sometimes you have to change it - 4
Do you have a clear distribution of what and when you do, and you do not like to deviate from it - 3
Do you like to make lists of things to do, purchases, gifts?
Yes, it gives you pleasure - 4
You rarely do it, when there is a lot of business - 2
Yes, it helps - 3
You don't like it, you rarely do it or never do it - 1
When you receive your salary, do you divide it into "heaps"?
Yes, you have fixed items of expenses, the amount and list of which you approximately know in advance. Of course, their set and value vary depending on the situation - 4
You have a list of expenditure items for a long time + You leave a small margin if one of them suddenly increases sharply - 3
There is a specific list of the names of "budget items" and their values , but often everything gets mixed up and you get lost - 2
Very roughly, almost none - 1
During the service, the client lost her earring. You are looking for her together. Your thoughts:
If I don’t find it in a few minutes, my schedule will fly off - 2
So that you and your earring ... - 1
If the client was sitting here, then the flight path of the earring ... - 4
I would rather find and we're back in business! – 3
Choose the correct “chain” on the go:
Kilogram – gram – centimeter – 1
Gram - centimeter - minute - 3
Carat - gram - troy ounce - 4
Centimeter - gram - cubic centimeter - 2
You have exact numbers, depending on whether it is a day off or not – 3
You didn’t think about it – 2
there are exact figures depending on whether it is a day off or not, but often you have to reduce the time of a walk for the sake of business, but then you can make up for it - 4
When you read something “for a reason”, for example, a manual for a new service for you, do you calculate how long it takes to study this manual?
No - 2
You try to understand and remember faster and faster - 1
You know approximately how many times you will remember the text well - 3
You can say it after the first reading - 4
for yourself, how long does each of the stages of a particular service last?
Very, very roughly – 2
Never thought about it – 1
Yes, you calculated it well based on the technology of the service and your experience – 4
You know from experience with minor deviations – 3
What do you remember from your work when you hear the proverb “Hurry slowly”?
A colleague who does not know how to manage his time - 4
You often try to be guided by her yourself - 3
The client who was in a hurry and stumbled - 1
The master who started working without learning - 2
Would you take part in competitions "do a favor for speed"?
No way! This is your worst nightmare! – 3
You don’t see the point in them – 4
You already have them at work – 1
Just for fun – 2
You will complain about the idle time and try to keep yourself busy - 2
Do your best to find a client or at least communicate with one of the clients about services and choosing a home line, at least this will pay off the time - 4
Try to find a client – 3
What harm do you see first of all in the fact that too much time is allotted for the provision of a service?
You see no harm at all - 1
Money is lost - 3
You are bored - 2
You are terribly annoyed by the loss of time and money - 4
Do you mentally divide the service into stages of different duration and stick to it?
Yes, it really helps to keep to the technology and stay on schedule – 4
Yes, almost constantly – 3
You know about it, but it doesn’t matter to you – 1
Approximately, most often when it comes to a new or a very complex service - 1
160 - 150 points. This employee may be nominated for the Nobel Prize for Mathematics. He has everything accurately calculated and everything is taken into account: how much time it will take to provide the service, and to present the home line, and to clean the workplace in front of a new client ... The rest is at least, really take a break and gain strength. Downtime is excluded. But, even if they happen (for example, the client did not come and it became known at the last moment), be sure: this specialist will find something to do with himself.
There are two reasons for such behavior: firstly, this person not only understands, but feels with his skin the truth “time is money”; secondly, he is simply collected and punctual by nature. Doesn't like to waste a minute. Very important: when others waste their time, they are often irritated. Therefore, you will act very wisely if you involve him in any calculations of working hours, both for himself and for colleagues. Most likely, this is an experienced professional or just a talent…
149- 140 points. Employee can count minutes. Almost always punctual to the point of pedantry. I have long been convinced from my own experience that all calculations are approximate, life can always make its own adjustments to them, therefore it usually leaves itself a “reserve” of time. There is no need to scold him for this: the “reserve” is necessary in order to serve the client qualitatively and slowly in any situation and at the same time not make him wait for the next one. After all, this master first of all follows the proverb “You go slower, you will continue”, which he translates as “take your time, serving the client, it will work out better.”
If he considers time with caution, then money is very good. Therefore, unnecessary downtime tries to avoid. Do not forget to involve this employee in those time calculations that concern him. But it is better not to ask him for advice about other specialists. Most likely, he himself will not want to give them.
139 - 120 points. You also need to be able to hurry. This employee tries to do everything in time, to serve more customers, and with high quality! Also, chat with them! And take a breather! And even do something for himself during working hours, for example, run between two clients to the store next door ... The most amazing thing is that very often he succeeds “as it should”, only ... at the last minute. Over time, it is always “cramped”, hence the constant haste and a little confusion in work (especially with a lack of experience). Most often, this is not even noticeable, but from time to time either the master is late for the service (very little, but late), or the new client has to wait until the old one is released (also very little). Or the master is in a hurry during the provision of the service. However, most likely, this person will not dare to serve poorly, but he will save time on attention to the client (communication) and advertising other services and the home line. Incorrect timing can cause . .. downtime for this wizard. Although this happens infrequently.
Advice: Ask him not to fuss, to work calmly and steadily. Please help me calculate the time. Moreover, beginners often suffer from the shortcomings described above. Attention! Or too "creative" nature. And they don't like being taught.
119 - 90 points. Almost the same employee as the one who received 139 - 120 points, only he very rarely succeeds in doing everything. Result: constant uncontrollable haste and confusion. Constant lack of time. Constant rush. Frequent delays and delays. And at the same time, significant downtime is possible. It can save time even at the expense of the quality of the services provided, which is completely unacceptable.
Ask them to reconsider their attitude to working time, not to be distracted for anything by extraneous matters, to concentrate and think only about work. Help to calculate the time. Control your consumption! By the way, this master does not need to finish his studies? This often happens with those who are not yet confident in their abilities as a specialist. In this case, you will most likely be grateful for any help. The worst option: a person just works carelessly, at work he is busy with his own affairs. Then be stricter. This employee is quite capable of understanding and considering everything.
89 - 60 points. This employee urgently needs to learn how to count both time and money. He loses both. Why? Does he need money? He either spends too much time and has a lot of downtime, or works in emergency mode. If in the first case, customers are not yet suffering, then in the second they may not like to feel like refrigerators assembled on an assembly line. Still, they go to a beauty salon not only for the result, but also for pleasant sensations. The employee needs to urgently change, although people of this type rarely want this and rarely agree to help, rather they change jobs.
59 points or less. Most likely, this person is almost never involved in calculating working hours. He doesn't need it and doesn't care.