8 year old acting out
Is Your Child Starting to Push Your Buttons?
Do you have a “good” kid who’s starting to act out? All of a sudden, he’s pushing your buttons, failing to comply with rules and his bad attitude has soared through the roof. You start to wonder what happened to your child—and where you went wrong. Your parenting hasn’t changed, so what’s going on? What’s behind these changes in your kid—and more importantly, how can parents adjust and deal with them effectively?
“If your child has developed a bad attitude and is being rude and disrespectful toward you, one of the best things you can do is not take the bait.”
When kids’ behavior changes—especially at that pre-adolescent age—parents start to worry, and no wonder. Suddenly the sweet child who used to want to do everything with you looks at you with embarrassment, disdain or exasperation. I think it’s important to realize that, just as your child moves on to that next phase of adolescence, you yourself are going through your own phase as a parent.
This phase is really a type of grieving process as you mourn that child who might have been a loving, curious and enthusiastic little girl or boy. At the same time, you’re getting used to the new kid in your house—and that new kid can often be sullen, rude and disagreeable. And what’s worse, it often feels like it happens overnight! My husband James and I went through this with our own son, and it took some adjusting on our parts to get used to the changes.
Is It a Phase?
Here’s the truth. You wouldn’t want your child to stay little forever, so remind yourself that the fact that he’s moving on to the teen years—and all that comes with it—is actually normal and healthy. This doesn’t mean that you should put up with any rude, disrespectful, risky or defiant behaviors—far from it. I just want you to realize that what your child is going through (and how he is behaving) is probably pretty typical. Acting out behavior, as difficult as it is for parents, is often part and parcel of adolescence for most kids.
Whether your child is exhibiting mild, moderate or severe acting out behaviors, it’s all hard to manage, and most parents need some support and guidance. I can’t emphasize enough that parenting programs like the Total Transformation can be really helpful for any parent. (Contrary to what many people believe, the Total Transformation actually helps parents of kids with all types of behavior, not just severe or defiant ones.)
Note: If your child exhibits a sudden or extreme change in behavior, or seems distressed, despondent or anxious for a prolonged period of time, have them seen by someone with professional diagnostic skills. Be sure to have a pediatrician rule out any underlying issues that might be causing any behavior changes.
Phases in life are real for all of us, and adolescence is one of the most chaotic times we go through in our lives. Some kids transition through these years more smoothly than others, but typically it’s a very difficult time for most.
Think back to when you were a 13-year-old awash in hormones and remember how you felt. I don’t know that many of us went through that very gracefully—or would volunteer to do it again!
Along with the physical changes your child is experiencing, there are social and emotional changes as well. Her friends are changing—and all at different rates. Some kids mature physically at 13, while others won’t fully mature until they hit twenty. School becomes more challenging academically, and friendships are forming and dissolving daily. On top of that, your child is going from elementary to middle school, or middle school to high school. Maybe your family made a move to a new town where your kids don’t have friends yet. Or perhaps there’s been a loss in the family, like a divorce or the death of a loved one. All of these things can be very difficult and upsetting for kids, and may cause them to act out (or withdraw and “act in”) rather than talk with you about it. So while your child’s new, disagreeable behavior could have hormonal causes, keep in mind that it might also be something exterior that’s making them act disrespectfully.
Your job is to hold them accountable for their behavior regardless of the reason for it. Even parents of “good kids” who misbehave need skills to deal with the inevitable changes in behavior that happen with every kid. The truth is, you can’t just expect those changes to go away or fix themselves.
Here are five ways you can effectively deal with your child’s behavior changes.
1. Know your child
A big piece of the puzzle here is that you really need to know your child. Does your daughter get grumpy when she’s getting sick? Is your son a pill when his team loses? You have to be a parenting detective sometimes. Ask yourself, “Is my child having a hard time at school? Does he have an infatuation with a peer? Is he being bullied by other students at school?” Knowing your child helps you determine whether what’s going on is something situational, that should pass quickly – like a team loss – or something that may become more problematic – like consistently rude behavior.
2. Talk to Your Child
Sometimes there’s nothing outward that you can point to—everything seems normal, but your child is in a foul mood that seems to last for days. In some cases, the best thing to do is talk to them first. Starting that conversation really depends on the age of your child, but it’s always best to come out and say that you’ve noticed they seem a little less happy than they used to. Or you’re concerned about them because they used to seem to enjoy things more. And really listen to what your child has to say. If they can’t tell you what’s wrong, depending on your child’s age, you might check with their teacher or other parents. Sometimes you can get a sense of how the kids are doing in general in your child’s group or grade. Maybe there’s a lot of bullying going on in your school and you didn’t even know about it.
3. Don’t Give the Behavior Power
While it’s good to know the cause of your child’s behavior, it’s also important that you don’t give it too much power.
If your child has developed a bad attitude and is being rude and disrespectful toward you, one of the best things you can do is not take the bait. Keep the expectations in your house clear: “In our family, we treat each other with respect.” Don’t get sucked into a power struggle and argue the point—remember, you don’t need to attend every fight you’re invited to. If your child has acted out, wait until you’re both calm and then you can give them consequences for their behavior if that’s what’s warranted. But don’t give their bad attitude or backtalk power in the moment, because that only teaches your child that they can push your buttons.
4. Pull back and don’t react
Like most of us, you’ve probably reacted the same way every time with your child when she has acted out, and it didn’t do any good. So take some time and really think about what’s called for in the situation. Ask, “What direction do I need to go here? What does my child need from me right now?” In the Total Transformation, we talk about the need for parents to do coaching, problem solving and limit setting with their kids.
These are roles that every parent needs to play, regardless of whether or not they have a so-called “typical” kid, or one who is defiant and acts out a lot.
So take some time, think about the situation at hand, and begin to make a plan for what you will do depending on what the inappropriate behavior was. Is it something that is an ongoing problem with your child, or is it just a one-time event? Are you going to set some limits right away, or start by talking to your child first? Then follow through on what your child needs—and what you need, according to your bottom line.
5. Stake out your bottom line
It’s so important for you to figure out what your bottom line is and stick to it. If you feel that your child’s behavior was mildly disrespectful—maybe she said “whatever’ as she left the room, but complied with the request you gave her to empty the dishwasher—you might let it slide. But if your teen daughter says something sarcastic, hurtful and rude, then she’s crossed a limit.
Be clear about what your bottom line is: “We don’t talk to each other that way in our house. Now hand over your cell phone. You can have it back when you speak to all of us in a polite way for the next two hours.” The other thing to remember is, when your kids are trying this stuff out, they don’t always know how it sounds—they’re pushing limits and testing boundaries. So as they push, you have to say, “Hold up. You can only push so far and here’s the limit.” Do it matter-of-factly and in a calm, neutral tone of voice. Address what needs to be addressed. And on the other side, ignore what isn’t important.
Realize that there’s also a match between what you’re going through as a parent and as a person, and what your kids are going through in their lives. When life is going more smoothly, it’s easier to cope with more challenging behaviors. If you’re under stress at work, financial strain, or having difficulties with another family member, it’s much harder to deal with a child who starts acting out.
It’s important to remember that all kids have bad days and bad times. They can be hungry or tired or have problems transitioning from school to home. There are millions of reasons why kids act out or push buttons—remember, pushing buttons is just what kids do. Our job is to tell them the limits and hold them accountable for their behavior.
Child Acting Out in School: What to Do
Every parent of an acting-out child knows that once your kid has a reputation for being a troublemaker at school, it’s very difficult to undo that label. That’s because your child becomes the label. When the teacher looks at your child, the teacher often just sees a troublemaker.
Sadly, it’s hard to change that image because even when your child tries harder, the label is reinforced when they slip up.
And then they’re really in trouble, because not only are they still a troublemaker—now they’re seen as a manipulator, too.
We all know that teachers and other adults (including us) assign labels to kids all the time.
And we know that doing so doesn’t help the problem. Labels are unfair, subjective, and stick with a child even if that child manages to change for the better.
Nevertheless, school teachers, like all of us, label kids. And that’s not going to change. Make no mistake, teachers talk and are well aware of who the troublemakers are before they get to their class at the beginning of the year. After all, it’s part of their job to anticipate and plan for the behavioral issues they will be dealing with in their classroom.
Be Honest With Yourself About Your Child’s Behavior
I advise parents to be honest with themselves about their child’s behavior. Have an open mind about your child so that you can help the school improve your child’s behavior.
Part of what you have to do as a parent is distinguish between the label and your child’s style of functioning in school. In other words, if your child has been called a troublemaker, ask yourself what exactly that means. How do they make trouble? Do they speak out of turn in class? Are they easily distracted and bothersome to the students sitting next to them? Or are they disrespectful, threatening, or abusive?
Don’t Defend Your Child When They’re in the Wrong
It’s important to assert yourself as a parent and advocate for your child at school.
But it’s just as important not to defend them when they’re in the wrong.
Understand that defending your child when they have behaved inappropriately will not help them develop appropriate behavior skills. So if your child is known as a school troublemaker and is disruptive and rude in class, you must acknowledge that.
Don’t forget, for many parents of kids with behavior problems, it’s easier to fight with the school than it is to change their child’s behavior. And when you fight with the school, you let your child off the hook instead of having him or her make needed changes.
Therefore, whenever possible, though it can be difficult, parents need to work in tandem with teachers and the school.
The New School Year: Starting Off On the Right Foot
If your child is in danger of having the troublemaker label follow them from grade to grade, you’re probably wondering how to start them off on the right foot.
At the beginning of any school year, coach your child about the importance of first impressions.
Let your child know how important the first couple of weeks of school are in terms of getting along in class and doing well in the eyes of the teacher. Tell them that presenting themselves as respectful and responsible will make a big difference for them. You can say to your child:
“Remember how we talked about what you would do differently in school this year to get along better? Well, one of the things we mentioned was that you should be polite to your teachers and not talk back. When you have the urge to talk back or be rude, what could you do differently?”
Don’t Undermine the Teacher’s Authority
If parents have a problem with a teacher or the school, they should never discuss it in front of their child. Make no bones about it, if you undermine the teacher openly at home, it becomes almost impossible to get your child to behave appropriately with that teacher.
I understand that parents won’t always agree with their child’s teacher. In certain cases, I thought my son’s teachers had some rules that didn’t make sense.
My wife and I talked about it and discussed it with the teacher, but my son never knew it. That was because we wanted to uphold the image of the school as an entity that has to be respected—and one in which our son knew he had to behave respectfully.
Teach Your Child That Life Isn’t Always Fair
Don’t try to eliminate everything your child doesn’t like in life. Instead, help them manage things even when life isn’t fair. After all, there’s going to be injustice in school and life, and parents should explain that to their kids. I think it’s good to say to your child:
“That’s an injustice, and you’ll have to deal with it. Life isn’t always fair.”
Some things in life aren’t fair, and part of growing up is learning to deal with that fact. There is no such thing as a school where everything is fair, and there is no such thing as a workplace where everything is fair.
Teach Your Child That School is Like a Job
In my opinion, going to school is like having a job.
You coach your child through their school career the same way you might give them advice when they start a profession. You can say:
“You have to learn to get along. There are going to be good people and bad people. There are going to be good times and bad times. There are going to be people who don’t like you and people you don’t like.”
When I worked with kids who didn’t get along with their teachers, I would say:
“Look, it’s your job to get along with your teacher, not your teacher’s job to get along with you.”
A teacher’s job is to be respectful of their students and to help them learn. It’s not their job to humor kids when they’re in a bad mood or when they act out. No workplace does that. So when your child complains about their teacher, I would say:
“Whether you work at a gas station or a law firm, your boss and co-workers won’t put up with that kind of behavior. You have to learn how to get along. That’s part of becoming a grown-up.
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We all know that some of the most important criteria for success at a job are: “How well does this person manage adversity? How well do they get along with people they don’t like? How do they deal with supervisors who are a pain in the neck?”
We’re all going to have that in life. So the idea is to give your child the skills to get along no matter who he or she is dealing with.
When to Give Additional Consequences at Home for Behavior at School
Let’s face it: every parent whose child acts out in class gets sick of hearing from the school—even if they know their child is legitimately a problem.
Many parents don’t want to hear from the school about their child’s behavior. Rather, they want the school to handle it. But, often, the school thinks parents should be more involved in dealing with inappropriate behavior.
So when should parents get involved? I think the answer to that is straightforward. In my opinion, it depends on whether the problem is functional or relational.
Let me explain.
A functional problem is an inability to follow the rules consistently. Functional problems include being late for class, chewing gum, or running down the hall. I think schools should handle those problems. It’s their school, and they need to manage it. I do not think parents should give additional consequences at home for functional behavior problems.
But the whole game changes when it comes to relational problems. Relational problems are an inability to get along with others or an inability to respect the rights and property of others. Disrespect, threatening, verbal, and physical abuse are all relational problems.
If your child steals, if he’s physically abusive, if he’s threatening, if he gets into a fight, the parents need to hold him accountable and give consequences at home in addition to the consequences the school assigns.
How to Handle Functional Problems — The Inability to Follow Rules
If your child tells you, “I got detention because I was running in the hall,” the thing to ask them is:
“All right, so what are you going to do differently next time? What did you learn from this?”
Don’t give speeches.
Rather, just ask simple questions that help your child clarify the situation. Don’t judge them and be as matter-of-fact as possible. Just shrug and say:
“Well, that’s life. You can’t run down the halls in school.”
And teach your child by simply saying:
“Look, you know what you’re doing. You made a choice. Now take your consequences and learn from them.”
And leave it at that—no long lectures. Just state the facts and allow them to bear the consequences of their choices to break the rules.
How to Handle Relational Problems — Disrespect, Violence, and Abuse
If your child has been caught destroying property, speaking rudely or obscenely, or hurting someone at school, as a parent, you need to deal with that very strongly. Find out the facts and then let your child know very clearly that there are consequences at home for that kind of behavior in school. And the first consequence is:
“I’m not going to defend you—I’m not going to fight with the school to protect you.
You need to pay the price for your actions.”
And then give a consequence in addition to their school’s consequence. For example, if your child has a fight in school and they’re suspended, I recommend no electronics for the length of the suspension. They should not be suspended from school and then be allowed to goof off and relax at home all day.
Make the suspension unpleasant for them. If it’s not unpleasant, it’s not going to shape their behavior. The whole theory behind a consequence is that the unpleasant memory of it will shape the person’s behavior next time. So don’t undermine the school’s consequences by making the suspension a week of play and vacation for your child.
Don’t Shield Your Child From Consequences
Again, one of the things parents have to avoid is shielding their child from consequences. You’re making a big mistake if your child destroys property or assaults someone at school, and you do everything you can to protect them so that they don’t have to face the consequences.
I think it’s okay to support your child while they deal with consequences—I would. But the more you shield them from consequences, the less likely their behavior will change. Let’s face it, people don’t change until there’s pressure to change. And unfortunately, that pressure often comes from negative consequences, whether it’s a ticket for speeding or a suspension for being physically aggressive in school.
As adults, we understand that people get tickets all the time for speeding. You may not like getting a ticket. And you may not think it’s fair that you were singled out. But the bottom line is that the ticket makes you look at your behavior and change it.
When a child gets in serious trouble at school, many parents become worried that it will go on their permanent record. Is that a legitimate worry for a parent? Yes. But you don’t soothe those worries by sweeping the problem under the rug.
Let me be clear: if your child assaults someone at school and doesn’t get a record now, they’re going to get a worse one later—that’s all there is to it.
Tell the Teacher What Works for Your Child
I recommend that you tell your child’s teacher how you deal with their behavior at home. If your child has a history of behavior problems, meet with their teacher early on in the year and say:
“We know that Jake can be disruptive. This is how we deal with it at home. And if there’s any way we can help you, please let us know.”
Certainly, you should tell a teacher what works and what doesn’t work at home. This doesn’t mean you’re limiting them. Instead, you’re helping them be more effective with your child’s behavior in the classroom.
So if you have specific techniques you use, share them. An example might be:
“We find Jake does his homework better when his door is open, or he’s sitting at the dining room table. So he might do better in school if you have him sit close to your desk.”
Or:
“We find Jake does better at home when we get him started. So if you could take a minute to get him going on the assignment, it might work out better.
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Be sure to ask your child’s teacher how you can be helpful. Be open to what they say—they might have some great ideas. Ask the teacher:
“What can we do at home to help support you at school?”
Parents and Teachers: Be on the Same Team
Parents and teachers should be on the same team. But too often, they’re not. There was a time when teachers and parents worked together—when if the teacher called a parent, the parent genuinely worked on changing their child’s behavior. Kids were held accountable at home, and their behavior was better at school. Nonsense just wasn’t tolerated the way it is today.
Things are different now. Too often, parents blame teachers, and teachers blame parents. And children are in the middle and often get away with their inappropriate behavior by playing their teachers and parents off one another. Kids can be highly manipulative in this respect. A misbehaving child doesn’t want the parent and teacher on the same team.
I think the parent’s attitude should be, “How can we help the teacher do their job? What can we do at home?”
Similarly, the teacher’s attitude should be, “In what areas do I need the parents’ support, and what is my responsibility? How can we work together to get this child on track?”
I’ve heard a lot of stories about bad teachers. I’ve met one or two myself. But, by and large, I believe most teachers are trying their best. And if you have an issue with a teacher, I recommend you go to that teacher and talk about it. And if that doesn’t work, set up a meeting with an administrator.
Just realize that the more adversarial your relationship with the school, the more your child’s behavior will go unchecked. And the more the troublemaker label is going to stick. And that’s not good for your child. Don’t forget, when parents and teachers fight, nobody wins. And the result is that your child doesn’t feel they have to change their behavior.
Conclusion
The bottom line: support your school if your child has a discipline problem.
That is what is best for your child. It may not feel best for your ego, but that is what’s best for your child. Is this a lot of work? Yes, it is. But I think parents need to try to find the time to do it.
I know that sometimes I expect a lot from parents. But kids need a lot of parenting nowadays. And often, that means working with your child’s school.
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Yesterday, the eternal opponents, the capital's Dynamo and Spartak, played the first match of their series, and the game turned out to be bright as expected: six goals, 125 penalty minutes. Surprisingly, in the history of the KHL, this is only the second series of white-blue with red-white.
The first took place exactly ten years ago, and although it came out fleeting, it was unforgettable - as it should be in the confrontation of such principled rivals. Dynamo Moscow - Spartak
Season : 2009/10 Round of 16
Dates : March 10th to 14th
Matches played : four (in the 2009/10 season, the series of the first stage went up to three victories): 3:4 OT, 0:1, 3:1, 0:4
Background
After Spartak, having missed the 2006/07 season, returned to the top echelon, they spent three years in the middle peasants, steadily finishing the regular season in the range from ninth to eleventh place. That for the club, emerged from the deepest crisis, was a completely satisfactory result.
Jiri Hudler and Dmitry Kochnev. Photo: Vladimir Bezzubov
Dynamo performed a little better, but fell short of the group of giants - and for their ambitions, this was rather unsatisfactory.
Before the 2009/10 championship, they seriously strengthened the squad by inviting such players as Jiri Gudler, Oleg Saprykin, Dmitry Vorobyov, Linus Omark, Leo Komarov, Vadim Yepanchintsev, and during the season they also strengthened Konstantin Panov and Alexei Semyonov - not counting less high-profile acquisitions . This included Dynamo in the circle of the main favorites "on paper", but on the ice it did not go so smoothly. And although, in comparison with previous seasons, the blue and white took a step forward, they still did not reach the “big three” of that regular season (Salavat Yulaev, SKA and Magnitogorsk). Moreover, the HC MVD let themselves go ahead, taking fifth place. Of all the recruits, the then 23-year-old Umark, who was bursting with creativity, showed himself the brightest. Goodler has been criticized from time to time for allegedly not playing at his full potential, not giving his all. It is difficult to say whether this was actually the case; but even what he demonstrated was enough to average one point per match and become the team's second scorer after the main leader, Matthias Weinhandl.
Branko Radivojevic and Leo Komarov. Photo: Vladimir Bezzubov
At Spartak, the ball was ruled by the Slovak brigade led by Branko Radivojevic: Ivan Baranka, Yaroslav Obshut, Stefan Ruzicka and Martin Cybak.
Despite the fact that the Dynamo squad looked more formidable, and that the blue-and-whites played better in the regular season, Spartak had the upper hand in face-to-face meetings. Dynamo confidently won the first match (5:1, a double on Hudler's account), and the other three lost: 1:4, 2:4 and 3:4 in a series of post-match shots. In each of the four meetings, Omark scored at least one point; in three matches, Radivojevic, Ruzicka, Tsibak, Dmitry Upper and Eduard Lewandovsky (who moved to Neftekhimik during the season) differed.
Trainers
Spartak was led for the third season by Milos Rzhiga , who provided the team with some pretty attacking hockey, and achieved slightly better results than expected from a squad that was not full of big names.
By the time he joined Spartak, he had two titles of the champion of Slovakia, two silver medals of the championship of the Czech Republic and little experience of the Russian Super League - he worked for a year in Mytishchi. If Spartak took a step forward under Rzhiga, the same can be said about Riha in Spartak - he also reached a new level. A year after the events described, Rzhiga was recognized as the best coach in the KHL, worked again in Mytishchi, then in SKA and Avangard, and eventually rose to the Czech national team.
At the end of the 2008/09 season, Dynamo's mentor Vladimir Vuytek decided to end his coaching career (but resumed it in Yaroslavl after a year's break), and Sergey Koto in , who was part of Vuytek's headquarters, took the helm. The blue-and-whites failed to start the championship, winning three matches (including against Spartak 5: 1), and losing six, after which Kotov resigned. Dynamo President Mikhail Golovkov did not accept the resignation at first, but after a week and a half the name of the new head coach was announced: he became Andrey Khomutov , who previously worked without much success in the HC MVD and Siberia, and at that time was generally unemployed.
Andrey Khomutov. Photo: Yury Kuzmin
He managed to rectify the situation, however, information was leaking to the press that Khomutov - like Kotov before - could not cope with the management of the stellar team. Which, strictly speaking, is rather a group of people than a collective.
Series
By the playoffs, both teams lost one of their leading defenders (Spartak Obshut and Dynamo captain Alexei Zhitnik), otherwise the lineups were close to optimal. Although the first link of the white-and-blues could be considered optimal only with a very big stretch: Weinhandl played with a concussion, Panov did with an injury that healed “on the job”; it is not surprising that the shock trio scored only one puck in the entire series (it is on Weinhandl's account; Hudler scored another transfer as part of the majority's special brigade).
The opening match of the series turned out to be bright. Dynamo, as befits the favorites, dominated for almost a period and a half, but the score was opened only in the 27th minute.
And on the 30th it was already 3:0. However, the red-and-whites showed character and recouped; and in overtime they snatched the victory.
Ivan Nepryaev and Dmitry Upper. Photo: Vladimir Bezzubov
The second game was "dried" by Dmitry Kochnev. In the third, Vitaly Yeremeev already shone, reflecting 41 throws - this was the only match of the series in which the Spartak team transferred an opponent; at the same time, the white-and-blue, who faced the threat of relegation (then the series of the first round were held up to three victories), looked calm. The only puck of Spartak was abandoned in the third period and did not affect anything.
Two defeats with a minimum gap in the score and a fairly confident victory created a false impression that despite the 1-2 in the series, Dynamo remains the favorite. In the fourth match, the “favorite” finally fell apart, having received four unanswered goals, three of which went “to the locker room” for a little over two minutes.
It should be noted that both teams did not hesitate to fight beyond the brink of a foul, alternately spending quite a lot of time in the majority. And both showed catastrophically low implementation, using only one attempt each - Spartak out of 28, Dynamo and even out of 30.
Heroes
Dmitry Kochnev . No matter how messed up the Dynamo attack was, it was still a very stellar attack. Kochnev, on the other hand, "dried" two games out of four, and in one more, having missed three goals in a row, he found the strength not to fall apart - and eventually won.
Stefan Ruzicka . If Spartak's top scorer Radivojevic earned four assists in this series (strictly one in each match), Ruzicka scored only twice, but he did it at the most crucial moments. The only puck that decided the outcome of the second game, Evgeny Lapenkov scored with his help, and in the fourth meeting, when Spartak was leading 1-0 and remained in the minority, Stefan scored himself - and this goal finally knocked down the blue and white.
Dmitry Kochnev and Vitaly Yachmenev. Photo: Vladimir Bezzubov
Vitaly Yachmenev . In a situation where the game did not go well for all, without exception, the leaders of the blue and white, partners tried to lead the 35-year-old Yachmenev, who came out in the fourth link. By the third match, Khomutov finally put on the bench the main disappointment not only of this series, but of the whole season, Johan Harju, and transferred Vitaly to his place with Umark and Alexei Kalyuzhny. Yachmenev did not pull out a series, but he was almost the only one in the Dynamo squad, to whom there were no questions about both the quality of the game and dedication.
Quotes
Milos Riha , after the first game:
- Our playoffs started in the third period, before that we stood for 40 minutes, forgetting about our game. Only losing, the guys began to fight and play Spartak hockey. I am happy with the "return" from the score 0:3.
Andrey Khomutov , after the first game:
- The first two periods were played hard in the body. And then, apparently, they began to feel sorry for themselves. And the opponent immediately spread his wings, began to manage in our area. Caught up in overtime. Created three more dangerous moments. But in the end they scored us. Another reason for the failure is the depressing implementation of the majority.
Karel Rachunek and Dmitry Upper. Photo: Vladimir Bezzubov
Dmitry Upper , after the second game:
- We managed to hold back the starting onslaught of Dynamo; In fact, we were ready for it. The most difficult thing, of course, was in the last minutes, when the judges left the three of us. But Dima did not disappoint, for which many thanks to him. Doesn't he speak? Well, everyone has signs. I, for example, did not wash the sweater after the first match.
Andrey Khomutov , after the fourth game:
- Having conceded in the minority, we climbed forward, trying to win back, and as a result missed counterattacks.
Two of them ended with goals against us. The fourth one was drawn by ourselves. I think our game in the playoff series is unsatisfactory. I want to apologize to the fans. They expected a good game from us, but they saw it only in the first match, in which we also lost.
What's next?
Further, Spartak, strengthened by the recovered Obshut, went to Lokomotiv. Yaroslavl began the series powerfully, winning 5:1 - the red-whites were honored only with a prestige goal in the third period. But the next four matches were played on an equal footing: they won twice and lost twice; all games - with a gap of one puck, two of them - in overtime. But in the end, like their previous rivals, Dynamo, the red-whites fell apart in the last meeting, getting 1:8 at home. They conceded two goals out of eight within 37 seconds in the first period, two more in 57 seconds of the third segment.
Dmitry Kochnev had a much harder time against Lokomotiv.
Photo: Yury Kuzmin
Even worse was the further fate of the blue and white. A month after leaving the playoffs, contracts with a group of leading players were terminated “by mutual agreement”, and two weeks later Golovkov resigned. At the same time, the creation of a completely new organization, the United Hockey Club Dynamo, was announced. Formally, Dynamo was merged with the HC MVD, but in fact, the HC MVD, in an almost complete administrative and sports composition, was “merged” with the name Dynamo, or simply renamed.
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The second victory of Dynamo over Avangard, winning back Amur from 0:3 - Hockey News match against Lokomotiv.
Muranov's super goal and Vedin's first goal for Dynamo
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Both Avangard and Dynamo lost three of their last five matches. They already met with each other in early September, and the blue and white then won a convincing victory 5:2, and Vadim Shipachyov participated in four goals, two of which he scored himself. Today, Bob Hartley, apparently, decided to pay special attention to Shipachev's link, declaring Alexander Dergachev and Nikita Komarov as the first three good destroyers, to whom he assigned Egor Serdyuk, who made his debut in the KHL. However, Alexei Kudashov sent the second link for the starting throw-in, and Hartley, as the owner of the site, did the same. He released Dergachev's troika in the next shift, but Kudashov opposed her with the third link, again leaving his leaders on the bench. In the future, Hartley seems to have abandoned the idea of \u200b\u200b"catching" Shipachev, and with the exception of failures caused by playing in unequal lineups (and rest after it), the Avangard and Dynamo links began to appear on the ice in the usual manner.
Vadim Shipachyov, Dynamo forward:
— We really needed this victory. Today I will note the whole team: they did a great job with the coaching instructions. Yerema played brilliantly at the last frontier.
Most opponents played once in the first period. The special brigades of both teams are among the leaders in the implementation of the championship, but neither one nor the other has achieved success. The guests played their attempt more interesting, while the hosts looked more dangerous in equal compositions.
The account was opened only in the second segment. It was Shipachyov's link that excelled - and specifically Stanislav Galiev - this was done in equality, but in a positional attack, very similar to the draw of the majority. And Avangard at that time had a combination of Korban Knight on the ice, in which Peter Tseglarik was replaced by 20-year-old Serdyuk - shortly before that, Ilya Kablukov was injured, and Hartley had to "shift" the attackers.
Bob Hartley, head coach of Avangard:
— Congratulations to Dynamo on the victory.
We played well, but they scored first, went on the defensive and did not give us the opportunity to enter their zone. Both teams played well, they didn't give each other so many chances. It turned out to be such a tight and fighting match. Unfortunately, Ilya Kablukov was injured. We do not know the details yet, tomorrow there will be an examination. He hit the open gate hard. Ilya is a fighter, but he could not continue the game. This says a lot.
The minimum score at the end of two periods should not be misleading: both Szymon Grubets and Oleksandr Eremenko were more than enough dangerous at the gate, but both acted reliably. Andrey Sergeev, who retired at the beginning of the third segment, unwittingly helped to equalize the hosts. This majority - like the previous two - the Avangard players did not convert, but when Sergeyev had already returned to the site, the puck ricocheted from his skate into the Dynamo goal.
Less than two minutes later, the blue-and-whites took the lead again - Ivan Muranov did not score the puck into the near top-ten, but naturally threw it.
The hosts, having missed, expectedly increased their momentum, while the guests did not sit back on the defensive, and a double-edged game went on - or rather, continued. Grubets gave way to the sixth fielder a minute and a half before the siren, and Anton Vedin put an end to the empty goal with a throw.
Aleksey Kudashov, Dynamo head coach:
— I want to thank the players, because there was a truncated squad. There were many young people, and I am very glad that they coped with their task. I would like to thank the fans, although they are few in number, but we heard them and felt their support. We played a complete game from start to finish. At the right time, we worked on defense, where necessary - we kept the puck. Therefore, such a disciplined good victory. A pause in the championship is in our favor, but all the injured will not have time to recover - the deadlines do not allow. I hope Voinov will play after the break. Lindbergh, Fedorov, Klinkhammer are questionable, they may appear in the first games.
Yakimov, Efremov - side by side.
Alexander Dergachev, Avangard forward:
- Lucky, so to speak. Billiard goal: a couple of rebounds, and the puck went into the goal. I thought it would help us win today, but it didn't.
highlights of the match
Hit-trick Zhafyarova brought the Nizhny Novgorod to the Nizhny Novgorod
5-1
2-11-02-09
07.11.2021
966 with a match with the Torpedo Sochi before the November pause. This game has become the third between these teams. In the first two matches, the rivals exchanged victories. Nizhny Novgorod and Sochi have recently scored a good move. But if the victorious tread of the Volga players consisted of only two matches, then the southerners won four victories in the last five games. Both mentors did not look for good from good and did not make changes to the compositions that bring results. The only exception was the absence of the Fedotov brothers in the Torpedo application. Instead of defender Maxim, Yegor Martynov was declared recovered, and the place of striker Ilya remained vacant this time.
David Nemirovsky, head coach Torpedo:
- An important victory before the break. Sochi players' injuries certainly affected the game. But it was difficult for both teams after the episode when the puck hit Dmitry Kolgotin in the face. Nobody is happy with such moments. Andrei Tikhomirov continues to play confidently, so the goal is now his. Alexey Murygin was absent from the application today, but everything is fine with him, and he will still appear at the gate. The Fedotov brothers left for the Russian national team, so they were not in the team today. They were supposed to leave on the 4th of November, but we agreed that they would play the match with Dynamo Minsk.
From the first minutes, Nizhny Novgorod tried to take the initiative into their own hands and transfer the game to someone else's zone. Strong help in this was provided by the guests, who earned the removal already in the 2nd minute. The implementation of the majority turned out to be unnecessarily dramatic.
In the very first seconds of the draw, the puck, after a powerful shot by Theodor Lennström, hit Dmitry Kolgotin in the head. The attacker was able to leave the site only after a few minutes with the help of partners. The misadventures of the Sochi residents did not end there. A little more than ten seconds passed, and Yegor Babenko was already on the line of fire, and after the puck hit his leg, he literally crawled to the bench with an incredible effort of will on one leg.
Ziyat Paygin, Torpedo defender:
- We had a great and brave three home games. Unlike the two previous games against Sochi, today they approached the implementation of their moments more responsibly. Result on the face. In the case of the third goal, the opponent's goalkeeper hit the puck after my shot, and it flew off him into the front board, and then to the nickel, where Kirill Urakov finished it off at the goal. Of course, it's a shame that the opponent's players get injured or sick, but it's important for us to score points.
Everyone knows what position we were in before the home games and we can't lose points in any way. Now they are worth their weight in gold.
Torpedo, not intentionally gaining an advantage of two players for some time, converted it. Damir Zhafyarov from the faceoff circle with an irresistible throw stopped Maxim Tretyak's "dry" streak at 62 minutes. "Sochi" in two minutes, being without two attackers and in the role of recouping managed to quickly restore equality in the score. Ivan Mishchenko, right, chose the time to shoot from the blue line, and Andrey Tikhomirov, covered by two players at once, failed to react properly to the flight of the puck. Nevertheless, the game in the first period continued to go under the dictation of the home team. The quintessence of this was the second goal of Zhafyarov in the 16th minute.
Andrey Nazarov, head coach of Sochi:
- The score is not on the game today. We tried to create chances, but the Torpedo goalkeeper played phenomenally today.
Caught everything possible and impossible. And some streak of bad luck with injuries. In the first three shifts, three players were injured. I had to redo the links. Bad start to the match. It's hard to play three lines on the road. Now we have to look for replacements for these players, because it looks like the injuries are serious. A pause after the third missed puck? I cheated a little, as it seemed that the opponent was offside. But they called me from above and said that there was no offside. Unlike the last game, today I am not satisfied with the game at the face-off point. The reason is that youth can play well in one match, and in the next they show completely different results. Youth and enthusiasm. If you manage to get into a “bouncy” day for a player, then he can play perfectly.
Despite the problems with the squad, which forced Sochi to switch to sometimes spontaneous combinations of threes of attack, Torpedo's advantage in the second period was episodic. The hero of two such moments was Ziyat Paygin.
First, with a direct throw, he made Tretyak's goal frame ring, and a few minutes later he unsuccessfully threw past the goal, but the puck treacherously jumped out after bouncing off the front board from behind the goal, and Kirill Urakov, being in the right place in time, increased his team's advantage to two goals. Following Kenny Agostino had a great chance to bring the score gap to a comfortable number three, but after a beautiful carousel in the “four by four” format, he completed a beautiful combination with the second ringing of the goal frame.
In the third period, "Torpedo" did not "dry" the game and, after accurate shots by Lennström and Zhafyarov, secured a third victory in a row - 5:1.
Yaroslav Dyblenko, Sochi defender:
- It's a bit unusual to play the second match without fans. Usually in Nizhny Novgorod, the stands are sick and screaming the whole game. The sound of the stands is more familiar to the players. We are fighting with Torpedo for a place in the playoffs, so the match turned out to be active today, everyone wanted to win.
Player injuries did not affect the nature of the game. We are always ready for it. The risk of injury is high. Hockey is a contact sport and the puck flies at high speed. We supported the guys and it's a pity that they were injured. Of course, we are worried about them, but the team continued to play and fight for the victory. We conceded five goals, but Andrey Tikhomirov had a lot of chances at the gate. If we had realized our potential, the score would have been approximately the same as in the match with Avtomobilist.
Theodor Lennström
Goal + assist. It was useful in attack, with a minimum number of errors in defense.
Andrei Tikhomirov
Played well, the goalkeeper was not at fault for the missed goal.
Highlights of the match
Comeback and Amur's second victory in a row
3 - 4 B
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the last match of the leader of the championship "Metallurg". Igor Nikitin's team scored two important points and secured themselves in the playoff zone.
"Cupid" was also in excellent spirits. Khabarovsk won in Moscow against Dynamo. However, while the Far East still remain outside the cup eight in the East.
Mikhail Kravets, Amur head coach
- A very difficult game for us. We lost to Lokomotiv for a period and a half, we were crushed, we lost martial arts, we made many individual mistakes, so goals were conceded. But still, from the middle of the second period, the guys found strength in themselves, added to the movement, stopped losing the puck in the middle zone, threw it, won martial arts, in connection with which they scored the first year, which inspired us. In the third period, we agreed to fight for the victory and the guys pulled the game out of character. Shootouts are a skill, today we showed it and won. Thanks to the team, a very decent match. For hockey, the heart, character, soul is very important, everyone is great. What did you play for? First of all - the character, the guys do not give up and continue to do the job correctly.
For the first time this season, the head coach of Lokomotiv announced 17-year-old goalkeeper Sergei Murashov, who plays in the MHL for Loko-76 this season, for the match. He was in reserve. Anton Sagadeev returned to the squad, and the link of Pavel Kraskovsky also crashed - instead of Alexander Polunin, Artyom Anisimov appeared there. "Amur" in the fourth three was Kirill Slepets - a graduate of the Yaroslavl hockey school.
Interestingly, Nikitin's permutations worked. It was Egor Korshkov from the Anisimov link who opened the scoring. This was logical, since Lokomotiv outplayed the opponent throughout the first period. "Cupid" did not stick to the combination game. Even in the “5 on 3” format, at the end of the first segment, the Khabarovsk team could not create anything dangerous at the gate of Edward Pasquale.
In the second period, the advantage of Yaroslavl was total. The hosts quickly made the score 3:0. Korshkov scored a brace, and Artur Kayumov scored another goal.
"Cupid" could not return to the game. Nikitin's wards completely dominated the court, but the Khabarovsk team was saved by Michal Jordan. He finally hit Pasquale. This puck gave the guests emotions. They attacked with a completely different mood. And when Alexander Kuznetsov reduced the gap to a minimum, Lokomotiv got very nervous and began to press against their goal. This led to an equal score - Amur's comeback was made by the efforts of Ivan Nikolishin. The meeting went into overtime, and then into a series of shots, where the guests turned out to be stronger thanks to Vladimir Galuzin's puck.
Igor Nikitin, head coach of Lokomotiv
- We're still marking time. Of course, it is difficult psychologically to lead in the account and lose. We will be stronger. Our problem is not relaxation. The question is how we react to mistakes, because hockey consists of mistakes. So far, we somehow react nervously to this and give the opponent an impulse. As for fatigue, all teams play the same way.
