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Some of the sweetest, most thoughtful souls alive are introverts. If you’re dating (or thinking of dating) an introverted man, you’ll want to start here.


It’s not news that it can be challenging for the sexes to understand each other.

For men, it’s hard to understand women. There are a million articles and memes a day reinforcing that fact. For women, it’s hard to understand men too—especially introverted men.

The reason introverted men are especially challenging to understand is they’re not as forthcoming with their thoughts and feelings. It’s simply a result of their more private nature.

At the same time, these men are such a pleasure because of their warm, thoughtful, gentle, and quietly bold nature. They are such a charm!

I spend my days helping these same introverted men attract women naturally, so I’m used to telling them how to better understand women. It will be fun to flip it around a bit today and put these years of research to work for you!

Whether you’re a woman who wants to understand introverted men better or whether you’re an introverted man who wants to understand himself better, I hope this article will be helpful for you. Introverted men are wonderful creatures, and here are a few key things to keep in mind as you get to know them better:

Introverted men love an open, no-pressure vibe.

They love the feeling of no-pressure spaciousness when it comes to both social and romantic interactions. They love hanging out with their buddies, all of them laughing without a care in the world.

Dating can be hard for these men because they can often feel on-the-spot, like they have to produce suave content out of nowhere. That’s exhausting for them, especially if they already feel on-edge.

The way to help ease this and bring out a more spacious feel into your interactions with them is to lean back physically—in your own chair or against a wall—while staying engaged.

Keep friendly, laid-back body language with them while still being invested in your interaction with them through your bright, curious eyes and warm smile.

This will have them feeling at ease around you in no time. They’ll feel like you “get it”—that you get them—and they’ll be so grateful!

Here’s another thing you should know:

Introverted men love to feel like they can share at the right pace for
them.

With more reserved men, there’s a lot more going on in their thoughts and feelings than meets the eye, and they’re really only willing to share that when they feel the time is right.

If they’re a little slower to express themselves, or if their expression feels a bit more understated than you’re used to, understand that it doesn’t mean they’re not feeling. They are! They’re feeling a LOT. It just takes more effort for them to express that, and it can take a tremendous amount of effort for them to express it to someone they’ve barely just met.

So if you can trust they’re feeling and thinking things they’re just not letting on yet, and if you can feel excited and curious about that idea, that’s excellent. At that point, you’re giving off positive and relaxed vibes.

This puts them at ease—which is wonderful. Everyone loves to feel as though they’re intriguing to others while also feeling a sense of space to relax and be their most authentic selves. That can only come from an absence of external pressure to perform or be someone they’re not.

Introverted men love to feel like they can relax and be themselves.

When you show them you’re interested in them for who they are, they’ll unravel their thoughts and feelings more openly to you than they’re accustomed to. It may surprise and delight them!

You’ll hear them say they just feel at ease around you. They might laugh nervously and say they’ve never shared so much before.

With the frame of reference that you’ve discovered an incredibly dynamic and interesting person, you put them at ease. At that point, they feel like they can FINALLY just be themselves and that that is enough. It absolutely is.

That’s why we love them so much, why they’re so intriguing to us.

At the end of the day, understanding introverted men is about giving them space, being patient, and enjoying seeing them open up at the pace that feels right for them and delightful for you.

 

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Sarah Jones founded Introverted Alpha to help smart introverted men attract women naturally. Her work has been featured on AskMen, Cosmo, Bustle, Business Insider, San Francisco Chronicle, and more. She loves helping men use their natural strengths to attract women, without having to use tricks or be someone they’re not.

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Dating and Relationship Standards for Introverted Men

What are your dating standards? Do they reflect your real needs as an introverted man?

Clear and balanced standards for dating and relationships are so important. They are a recipe for a happy, healthy relationship for introverted men.

In this post, I’ll share with you eight dating and relationship standards specific to introverted men. These different things range from preferences, to red flags, to deal breakers, depending on the individual.

They can apply to men and women’s love lives, introverted or not!

Just know that I write with the introverted man in mind. That is who I’ve devoted Introverted Alpha to and who I’ve gotten to know so deeply as a result!

With each of the eight dating and relationship standards you’re about to learn (yay!), you’ll also get to know…

  • The special qualities of introverted men in order to even have that need/standard.
  • What qualities they need in a woman in order for it to be a great fit.
  • How to tell if a woman is already / is going to meet that standard or not.
  • How to uphold that standard, even when it’s tough.

Some of these standards below are needs in general, and some are needs with a woman.

They fold together to represent your overall healthily high standards, because if you’re with a woman who is a great match for you as you are right now, but you don’t LIKE how you are… what good does that do?

In fact, it can keep you stuck because then you wouldn’t merely have the existing inertia against making positive changes period. You would also be invested in keeping a relationship going that reinforces that inertia.

So let’s steer clear of that altogether by examining and setting relationship standards that are all yours to bring to life.

 

1. Need to have time and space alone to reflect and/or solo hobbies

Your Unique Quality that Shapes Your Standard: As an introverted man, you have a very rich inner world. This is nourished by enjoying time alone, totally uninterrupted and free.

You might spend this time with a combination of personal reflection and solo hobbies. Perhaps you love outdoor adventures or video game extravaganzas. Maybe you love tinkering around with tools and building things, or deep research into a topic that interests you.

Whatever you love, it’s important that you spend time doing those things alone to recharge and reconnect with yourself.

The 1st of Your Dating and Relationship Standards: This need of yours means that any woman close in your life would be a woman who respects your need for alone time. This is especially true when you are in a romantic relationship. Time to oneself is a need that everyone has in a relationship. It’s important to remain, two distinct people, who have overlaps in life but who still have their own independent time. Being an introvert means you have an even deeper need for that, so it’s even more important for you in a relationship.

How to Tell If She Meets This Particular Standard: Does she have her own world, hobbies, and girlfriends as you get to know her when dating initially? AND, just as importantly, does she maintain that as you date her over time? Or is she overly eager to “drop her life” and merge with yours? If she has and maintains her own life, that is a wonderful sign that you’ll have all the space you need without upsetting her. You’ll get to be yourself and also make her happy.

How to Uphold The 1st of Your Dating and Relationship Standards: Protect your private time early on, and maintain that as a firm need that you have now and that you will always have. If the topic of alone time comes up or if you’d like to talk about it with her, great! Let her know that you love it when she has her own things that she enjoys doing because you have and will always have yours.

Then as chemistry and comfort develop over time, still protect your private time. Remember to do this even if you want to be spending every waking moment with her. The more you enjoy your solo time, the more energy you’ll have for her! So everyone wins in the end, even if you feel guilty drawing that boundary. To protect against that guilt, just remember that this is a REAL NEED you have. It’s just like eating food and getting enough sleep.

Everyone has the need for a bit of alone time, whether they realize it or not, but you have an especially distinct need for it as an introvert. That’s totally okay, and it gives her the freedom to enjoy hers too. And if she doesn’t want to be alone as much as you do, that’s okay too! She can spend that time with friends of hers.

 

2. Need to enjoy intellectually stimulating conversations

Your Unique Quality that Shapes Your Standard: One thing you need in a date or in a relationship is stimulating conversations. That back-and-forth is necessary for you to fully enjoy the relationship. Reason being, of your three areas (heart, mind, body), you connect most with your mind. That is your primary way of connecting if you are a cerebral guy.

The 2nd of Your Dating and Relationship Standards: Because of this, you need a woman who is intelligent and educated enough to engage with you in this way.

How to Tell If She Meets This Particular Standard: If she can talk with you about interesting and/or important matters and contribute new ideas while considering yours, that is a huge win! If she brings in new areas of interest for you to learn and discuss, even better.

How to Uphold The 2nd of Your Dating and Relationship Standards: Once you find someone who naturally stimulates you on an intellectual level, this is not hard to uphold! Interesting, eye-opening conversations will naturally fill your time together. Just be sure to keep opening yourself to interesting perspectives and experiences. This way, you will have fresh fodder for yourself and for your relationship.

 

3. Need to connect with your heart and relax in peace

Your Unique Quality that Shapes Your Standard: As an intellectual man, it’s important for you to be able to relax in your heart, especially around someone you love.

If you feel disconnected, then you won’t have the intimate sense of companionship you crave. If you feel smothered, then you won’t feel safe and free. So that sense of peace in your heart is so important for happiness and balance in a relationship.

The 3rd of Your Dating and Relationship Standards: To connect with someone heart-to-heart as a thinking-oriented person, it’s helpful if the woman you attract is very comfortable in her heart.

How to Tell If She Meets This Particular Standard: If she communicates her emotions with ease and grace when y’all are together (“I feel so fulfilled by what I do… My niece is adorable, and it makes me feel so free when we play together…”), that is a great sign that she is in touch with her heart and also positive when she is sharing her positive emotions.

If she’s sharing about all the things she hates, that is not good! She is not connected to her heart in a peaceful way if she’s doing that early on in dating. The same is true if she keeps bringing heavy topics into conversations. You want someone who has achieved balance in her heart.

How to Uphold The 3rd of Your Dating and Relationship Standards: This is a huge area to explore! More than I can reasonably cover in this post. If I write one on this, later on, I’ll link to it here. For now, I’ll say start getting more familiar with your own heart. You can do that by asking yourself how you’re feeling during your day-to-day. Then just listen with compassion, without necessarily trying to fix or change anything.

This is how you will become more intimate with your own heart, and it will give you a head start when meeting a woman. Does she relax your heart, which you’ve been getting to know more, or does she not? Then as the relationship progresses, it, of course, becomes more complex, but this is a good thing to start with.

 

4. Need to feel alive and energized in your body

Your Unique Quality that Shapes Your Standard: This ties in with the last point about being connected in your heart. You have three main parts to you: heart, mind, body. (These exclude soul and spirit which are more complex, and which are very connected to your heart, mind, and body.)

Being a cerebral guy, you may be more in your mind than in your heart and body. And yet, all three are important for a truly fulfilled and thriving life and romantic life. Connecting with your body adds to your overall happiness tremendously!

The 4th of Your Dating and Relationship Standards: This is important for your wellbeing, and you may not necessarily connect with your body first and foremost. That’s why, if a woman is connected with her body, that can really help you along. You’ll want to actively develop this part of yourself on your own (more on this in the “upholding” section two paragraphs down). Still, it certainly is nice if she is bringing that into your life in her own way!

How to Tell If She Meets This Particular Standard: If she generously shares her delight through her senses and being present in the moment when she is with you, that’s wonderful! If you sense sincerity and passion or lightness in her (“Oh, these potatoes are delicious… The atmosphere here is so warm and cozy…”), that is a very good sign. It means she is comfortable with herself in her body! Her enthusiasm can refresh you and help you connect with this aspect of life more yourself.

How to Uphold The 4th of Your Dating and Relationship Standards: The more of this you can bring into your life now, the better. Great ways to feel energized and alive in your body are incorporating enjoyable exercise into your day-to-day.

If you’re already doing that, then you can take extra time to enjoy the moment. You can savor how it feels getting ready beforehand, sweating it out during, and feeling that awesome tiredness afterward. This will develop your sensuality and your relationship with your body.

You can also take extra time to soak in other physical joys like delicious, nourishing food and the warmth of the sunshine or the way light plays on leaves. There is always something to enjoy! Doing so only develops your happiness and attractiveness.

 

5. Need to surround yourself with loving, positive community

Your Unique Quality that Shapes Your Standard: Because of your introspective nature, you need to devote extra focus to having people in your life who you love and who love you.

Reason being, this is a core human need, and so having that will deepen your happiness. It will relieve pressure on a relationship so that you’re not bringing every single social need to have to one woman. If you were to do that, it would feel overwhelming and would be impossible for anyone to deliver on sustainably over time.

The 5th of Your Dating and Relationship Standards: If a woman already has a community in her life, that is wonderful. Then each of you will have that strong support network to lean back on. Then you can enjoy each other, rather than depend on each other for all social needs.

How to Tell If She Meets This Particular Standard: How available is she to you? If she’s less available because she’s out with friends, that is a good sign even if you might not like it in the moment. But if you are already engaging in your own community, then it will be flowing and natural.

You’ll be spending more time alone, of course, than you would be if you were super extroverted, regardless. Still, having friends and community to enjoy helps you feel balanced. Then you can appreciate your alone time all the more.

How to Uphold The 5th of Your Dating and Relationship Standards: Over time, take special care to keep those community relationships going, spending time with them together and on your own.

Your need for social support outside of only her will always be there, whether it’s immediately apparent to you or not. So trusting that and building community time into your life, just as you do fitness time or hobby time, is a wise and wonderful thing to do for yourself and for your relationship.

 

6. Need to be sexually attracted to your partner

Your Unique Quality that Shapes Your Standard: As a man, you have certain preferences and physical shapes and qualities in a woman that you feel attracted to more than others.

A lot of guys tell me they feel guilty about this, but it is NOTHING to feel guilty about whatsoever. This is a part of being a human, and every single human has preferences! You can discover much more about this here.

The 6th of Your Dating and Relationship Standards: If you’re feeling attracted, then awesome! And if you’re not, then you’re just not. Pay attention to your body and your heart and how they’re responding to her. No apologies needed, just paying attention.

How to Tell If She Meets This Particular Standard: I like to use the analogy of ice-cream. Imagine you’re walking into an ice-cream shop and deciding which flavor you like. If you choose mint chocolate chip, it doesn’t mean that you objectively think all other flavors are bad! It just means that you like what you like. Same thing in dating, from BOTH sides. Both you and any woman you date will be feeling out if you’re each other’s “flavor”… a healthy, natural process.

How to Uphold The 6th of Your Dating and Relationship Standards: Remember, attraction is very personal, and whether you are or are not attracted, you’re not about making any statement about her objectively, so there’s nothing to feel guilty about. It’s just about your “flavor” preference and if you like her flavor. And it’s important to like her flavor if you’re going to be romantic partners!

 

7. Need to pursue and enjoy the way of life that you desire

Your Unique Quality that Shapes Your Standard: As an introverted and introspective man, you are likely to lead your life with purpose and conviction. If you’re not already, it is likely a desire for you to do so.

What kind of lifestyle do you want? Do you want to travel all the time, or do you want to raise a family, or both? What kind of life do you want to lead over the years, and what seasons do you see for yourself?

The 7th of Your Dating and Relationship Standards: Your relationship standard is to only move forward into exclusivity and relationship with women who share at least an overlapping lifestyle and life vision.

How to Tell If She Meets This Particular Standard: As you talk and get to know each other over your dates, let the topic of your futures naturally come up. Then as it does, feel into how much you have in common here, and if there are any big dissonances.

How to Uphold The 7th of Your Dating and Relationship Standards: The more in touch you are with your preferences and deepest desires, the better. That makes it easier to tell if this is a fit or not, rather than having to feel around in the dark and then just going along with whatever she wants.

If you know what you want in advance through personal reflection and conversations with people you trust and admire, awesome! It’s worth it because you will be that much further ahead when it comes to seeing if a woman meets your relationship standards.

 

8. Need to match on deeply held values and beliefs, ways of seeing the world

Your Unique Quality that Shapes Your Standard: In addition to lifestyle, your values and beliefs are also very important standards to match.

Being an introspective guy means that you have likely thought a lot about the world and yourself in it. So it’s important that a woman’s perspectives are harmonious with your own, especially as you aim to build a healthy long term relationship.

The 8th of Your Dating and Relationship Standards: If you’re religious, is she as well? If you are very family-oriented, is she too? Religion, spirituality, family, politics, education, social standing, finances, culture, background… These shape you as a person. So the more these fit together beautifully in you with someone else, the more peaceful and uplifting the relationship will be.

How to Tell If She Meets This Particular Standard: Once you’ve noted what is particularly important to you and what shapes you most as a person, that’s helpful! At that point, you have discovered more of your values and general world view. Then in conversation with a woman, see if she mirrors those same perspectives. You can tell by what she says and the way she talks about the world and people in general.

How to Uphold The 8th of Your Dating and Relationship Standards: The more closely matched you are with someone, the more harmonious you two will be. This is true in things like education and finance and spiritual/religious practices and other key elements to a worldview. So if you want to be with someone you admire in one or more of these ways, you can. Just make sure that you yourself are crushing it too!

 

In Conclusion, Your Dating and Relationship Standards:

Which of the above 8 standards do you feel most liberated and inspired by as you consider them? What struck you as something to improve in your own life, either mindset-wise or lifestyle-wise?

You can review my post on Susan Cain’s Quiet Revolution site on how to communicate your relationship preferences as an introvert.

I’ve written a follow-up post here on how to know if your standards are too high. Setting high standards that aren’t healthy or realistic could affect your dating relationships. Feel free to check that out as you start setting standards for your own loving relationship.

Also, make sure you’ve downloaded my ebook if you haven’t already as well as peruse the site for more nuggets. This will set you up to receive new posts from me as well on everything from using dating apps to meeting different people out and about to setting the stage for a quality relationship in every facet.

If you are wanting to build a strong foundation of confidence and dating skills to attract a quality match for yourself, you are welcome to check out our 12-week program, Launch Your Dating Life.

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The well-known theory of Jung's personality typology divided all the people of the world into 2 types - someone ended up in the "clan" of extroverts (and considers himself lucky), and someone - in half of quiet and withdrawn people (consider "on your mind") - introverts. But this does not mean that someone is good and someone is a bad type. Being an introvert is not bad and, moreover, such a person has a lot of advantages, but not many people know how to find an approach to him. Especially if the beloved man or partner for whom you feel sympathy turned out to be an introvert. nine0003

In this article, we will talk about what qualities an introvert man has, how to communicate with a guy or an introvert man, and how introverts behave in relationships with women.

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  1. The guy is an introvert. Signs of this type of personality
  2. nine0029 How to recognize an introvert? Characteristic demeanor
  3. The guy is an introvert. How to communicate with him in love and relationships nine0030
  4. Features of an introvert man
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  6. Expert opinion
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    Introvert guy.

    Signs of this type of personality

    The division into certain types of personality did not just happen. The Swiss psychiatrist and educator Carl Gustav Jung observed people's reactions to various events, analyzed their similarities and differences, behavioral patterns and personal preferences, and deduced a certain pattern - a certain set of psycho-emotional reactions, personal qualities that are characteristic of two types of people - extroverts and introverts. nine0003

    An extrovert is tuned in to the environment, cannot live without society, he needs a company to be in the center of attention in it, easily makes contact, impulsive, open, active, explosive. An introvert is its opposite: he often thinks to himself, keeps all his experiences inside himself, if he wants to communicate, then only with those whom he himself let into a “narrow circle”, analyzes a lot, is emotionally stable, calm, closed.

    In each of us there are signs of both an extrovert and an introvert, there are no absolutely pure types. Much depends on the specific situation, personal attitudes, developed patterns of behavior. But often girls, not knowing how introverts behave in love, not understanding the characteristics of this type of personality, get scared and get lost in the question of how to build relationships with such a man. They ask if an introverted man is suitable for marriage? Male introverts do not make good contact with others. However, this does not mean that relationships are not needed and introverts do not want to find love. nine0003

    Important! You can understand an introverted man, most importantly, be an open, reliable, patient person. They do not like pressure and haste. Do not force or force them to do anything, otherwise the introvert man will close in the relationship, he will not show his emotions, he will not explain his behavior, he will become closed and cold.

    How to recognize an introvert? Characteristic demeanor

    If a man is an introvert, then he will often be immersed in his thoughts, he will be thoughtful and focused, he has clear goals and plans, and he will go towards them without spraying everything around. nine0003

    The behavior of this type of personality is characterized by the following features:

    • the man is rather a loner, he does not like noisy companies and prefers to stay away
    • does not make contact first and does not like to meet people
    • prefers to communicate through instant messengers, chats, and not in person "face to face"
    • calm, polite, disciplined, correct, precise, punctual
    • nine0061 conservative, likes to think, stingy with emotions (as a rule, hides them inside under a mask of equanimity)
    You may get the impression that an introvert is a gloomy person. But this is not so, it is just that he is more often immersed in himself and rarely leaves his comfort zone. And his comfort zone is to hide thoughts and feelings inside and deal with them himself.

    Since an introvert does not need constant communication, he prefers to spend his free time outside noisy companies and, if possible, not to communicate with strangers. He admits into his "social circle" only those whom he trusts and with whom he has known for a long time. nine0003

    To please an introverted man, he must understand that you do not pose a threat to his inner world, you can be trusted, you do not rush him and do not try to change him. Only a patient young lady who is not afraid of difficulties can fall in love with such a man.

    Example

    The famous actor Johnny Depp has repeatedly admitted that he is very shy and does not like to be in the spotlight, but his profession obliges him to communicate a lot. All of his characters are often closed and reflect the features of the actor himself - in fact, Johnny Depp as Edward Scissorhands, Willy Wonka, Sweeney Todd was himself. nine0003

    The guy is an introvert. How to communicate with him in love and relationships

    If your boyfriend or husband is an introvert, then the following tips are for you. You will learn how to find a trip to him and what to do to become a good wife.

    1. Be patient, listen carefully, don't interrupt and don't expect quick responses - this type needs to think things over well, and only then make a decision.
    2. Behind the seeming calmness there is a rather emotional man, only for him to show his emotions, you need to really “try”. nine0030
    3. You need to get used to the leisurely pace of your man's life. If you have an opposite pace of life, then in order to avoid conflicts on this basis, try to come to a compromise and adopt each other's character traits.
    4. A man will never admit that he is in love, but if he decides to build relationships with you, cares for you, takes care of you, then know that he cares about you. For this type, this is a serious step.

    Sign up for an online consultation if you feel that an introvert guy has fallen in love with you and you want to build a relationship with him, but you find it difficult to accept his personality traits. Our psychologists will help you understand and accept your partner's "habits". You can get advice at any time convenient for you. nine0003

    Characteristics of an introverted man

    Here are a few features of male behavior that you should know and keep in mind if you want to make friends with this type of people, you have plans to build strong interpersonal relationships, you are already married, but you want to “lay straws” and avoid conflicts in the future.

    • he first thinks for a long time, and then slowly does
    • “digests” conflict situations for a long time, constantly thinks, analyzes his own and other people’s actions
    • does not like to violently express his emotions, always restrained, "a man of action, not a word"
    • constant communication strains him, wants to be alone, indulge in thoughts, philosophize
    • can talk for a long time with someone he truly trusts
    • patient, observant, purposeful, but at the same time not without imagination and a good sense of humor

    FAQ

    How do you know if an introvert guy likes you?

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    An introvert in love is very secretive - you can’t bring him to emotions in ordinary life, and if it comes to amorous relationships, then even more so. They love the classic "model" of building a family, when a man is the head and breadwinner. Since this type does not like long communication, you can understand his attitude towards you by how long he is ready to talk with you. If he steps out of his comfort zone for you, he likes you. nine0003

    Does an introvert man like to travel alone or in a company?

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    Before a man goes on a trip, he will plan it carefully - not only the time and place, but also the company. He will not be upset by a solo trip, but if a company gathers, then it will be a few chosen people, and not a buzzing crowd.

    Do introverts always get along with their opposite, extroverts? nine0003

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    No. Not necessary. There are a lot of couples who are close to each other because they have the same personality type and preferences. Although from a psychological point of view, opposites attract, but such a union requires work from each partner.

    Expert opinion

    Personality type allows each of us to learn a little more about ourselves, about our loved ones, friends and partners. Knowing each other's characteristics, we can "extinguish" emerging conflicts, communicate more effectively, build long-term relationships, achieve goals, make useful connections, etc. nine0003

    Do not be upset if your partner turned out to be an introvert - this is not a bad type, this is a wonderful person, a reliable husband, a family man, a breadwinner and a purposeful individual. You just need to know how to approach it.

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      Updated: September 26, 2022

      Updated 26. 09

      The well-known theory of Jung's personality typology divided all the people of the world into 2 types - someone ended up in the "clan" of extroverts (and considers himself lucky), and someone - in half of quiet and withdrawn people (consider "on your mind") - introverts. But this does not mean that someone is good and someone is a bad type. Being an introvert is not bad and, moreover, such a person has a lot of advantages, but not many people know how to find an approach to him. Especially if the beloved man or partner for whom you feel sympathy turned out to be an introvert. nine0003

      In this article, we will talk about what qualities an introvert man has, how to communicate with a guy or an introvert man, and how introverts behave in relationships with women.

      Article content

      1. The guy is an introvert. Signs of this type of personality
      2. nine0029 How to recognize an introvert? Characteristic demeanor
      3. The guy is an introvert. How to communicate with him in love and relationships nine0030
      4. Features of an introvert man
      5. nine0029 FAQ
      6. Expert opinion
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        Introvert guy.

        Signs of this type of personality

        The division into certain types of personality did not just happen. The Swiss psychiatrist and educator Carl Gustav Jung observed people's reactions to various events, analyzed their similarities and differences, behavioral patterns and personal preferences, and deduced a certain pattern - a certain set of psycho-emotional reactions, personal qualities that are characteristic of two types of people - extroverts and introverts. nine0003

        An extrovert is tuned in to the environment, cannot live without society, he needs a company to be in the center of attention in it, easily makes contact, impulsive, open, active, explosive. An introvert is its opposite: he often thinks to himself, keeps all his experiences inside himself, if he wants to communicate, then only with those whom he himself let into a “narrow circle”, analyzes a lot, is emotionally stable, calm, closed.

        In each of us there are signs of both an extrovert and an introvert, there are no absolutely pure types. Much depends on the specific situation, personal attitudes, developed patterns of behavior. But often girls, not knowing how introverts behave in love, not understanding the characteristics of this type of personality, get scared and get lost in the question of how to build relationships with such a man. They ask if an introverted man is suitable for marriage? Male introverts do not make good contact with others. However, this does not mean that relationships are not needed and introverts do not want to find love. nine0003

        Important! You can understand an introverted man, most importantly, be an open, reliable, patient person. They do not like pressure and haste. Do not force or force them to do anything, otherwise the introvert man will close in the relationship, he will not show his emotions, he will not explain his behavior, he will become closed and cold.

        How to recognize an introvert? Characteristic demeanor

        If a man is an introvert, then he will often be immersed in his thoughts, he will be thoughtful and focused, he has clear goals and plans, and he will go towards them without spraying everything around. nine0003

        The behavior of this type of personality is characterized by the following features:

        • the man is rather a loner, he does not like noisy companies and prefers to stay away
        • does not make contact first and does not like to meet people
        • prefers to communicate through instant messengers, chats, and not in person "face to face"
        • calm, polite, disciplined, correct, precise, punctual
        • nine0061 conservative, likes to think, stingy with emotions (as a rule, hides them inside under a mask of equanimity)
        You may get the impression that an introvert is a gloomy person. But this is not so, it is just that he is more often immersed in himself and rarely leaves his comfort zone. And his comfort zone is to hide thoughts and feelings inside and deal with them himself.

        Since an introvert does not need constant communication, he prefers to spend his free time outside noisy companies and, if possible, not to communicate with strangers. He admits into his "social circle" only those whom he trusts and with whom he has known for a long time. nine0003

        To please an introverted man, he must understand that you do not pose a threat to his inner world, you can be trusted, you do not rush him and do not try to change him. Only a patient young lady who is not afraid of difficulties can fall in love with such a man.

        Example

        The famous actor Johnny Depp has repeatedly admitted that he is very shy and does not like to be in the spotlight, but his profession obliges him to communicate a lot. All of his characters are often closed and reflect the features of the actor himself - in fact, Johnny Depp as Edward Scissorhands, Willy Wonka, Sweeney Todd was himself. nine0003

        The guy is an introvert. How to communicate with him in love and relationships

        If your boyfriend or husband is an introvert, then the following tips are for you. You will learn how to find a trip to him and what to do to become a good wife.

        1. Be patient, listen carefully, don't interrupt and don't expect quick responses - this type needs to think things over well, and only then make a decision.
        2. Behind the seeming calmness there is a rather emotional man, only for him to show his emotions, you need to really “try”. nine0030
        3. You need to get used to the leisurely pace of your man's life. If you have an opposite pace of life, then in order to avoid conflicts on this basis, try to come to a compromise and adopt each other's character traits.
        4. A man will never admit that he is in love, but if he decides to build relationships with you, cares for you, takes care of you, then know that he cares about you. For this type, this is a serious step.

        Sign up for an online consultation if you feel that an introvert guy has fallen in love with you and you want to build a relationship with him, but you find it difficult to accept his personality traits. Our psychologists will help you understand and accept your partner's "habits". You can get advice at any time convenient for you. nine0003

        Characteristics of an introverted man

        Here are a few features of male behavior that you should know and keep in mind if you want to make friends with this type of people, you have plans to build strong interpersonal relationships, you are already married, but you want to “lay straws” and avoid conflicts in the future.

        • he first thinks for a long time, and then slowly does
        • “digests” conflict situations for a long time, constantly thinks, analyzes his own and other people’s actions
        • does not like to violently express his emotions, always restrained, "a man of action, not a word"
        • constant communication strains him, wants to be alone, indulge in thoughts, philosophize
        • can talk for a long time with someone he truly trusts
        • patient, observant, purposeful, but at the same time not without imagination and a good sense of humor

        FAQ

        How do you know if an introvert guy likes you?

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        An introvert in love is very secretive - you can’t bring him to emotions in ordinary life, and if it comes to amorous relationships, then even more so. They love the classic "model" of building a family, when a man is the head and breadwinner. Since this type does not like long communication, you can understand his attitude towards you by how long he is ready to talk with you. If he steps out of his comfort zone for you, he likes you. nine0003

        Does an introvert man like to travel alone or in a company?

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        Before a man goes on a trip, he will plan it carefully - not only the time and place, but also the company. He will not be upset by a solo trip, but if a company gathers, then it will be a few chosen people, and not a buzzing crowd.

        Do introverts always get along with their opposite, extroverts? nine0003

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        No. Not necessary. There are a lot of couples who are close to each other because they have the same personality type and preferences. Although from a psychological point of view, opposites attract, but such a union requires work from each partner.

        Expert opinion

        Personality type allows each of us to learn a little more about ourselves, about our loved ones, friends and partners. Knowing each other's characteristics, we can "extinguish" emerging conflicts, communicate more effectively, build long-term relationships, achieve goals, make useful connections, etc. nine0003

        Do not be upset if your partner turned out to be an introvert - this is not a bad type, this is a wonderful person, a reliable husband, a family man, a breadwinner and a purposeful individual. You just need to know how to approach it.

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        Monakhova Albina Petrovna clinical psychologist

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