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Here Are 30 Things To Do When You Don’t Know What to Say

What do you say in one of these awkward situations:

Someone just overshared and told you waaaaay too much information
Someone told you their family member passed away
Someone went off on a tangent, and now you are both staring at each other without knowing what to say

Yikes! You don’t want to be rude or make yourself look bad, but you can practically hear crickets chirping as you panic to come up with a socially-acceptable response.

Whether you’re tongue-tied, nervous, or having a “brain fart,” knowing what to say in uncomfortable conversations is an important social skill. Though you may be cringing internally, these are crucial moments for exuding kindness, confidence, and charisma. Here are 30 things to say when you don’t know what to say.

30 Things To Say When You Don’t Know What To Say

There are plenty of awkward moments in everyday conversations, but the best conversationalists can knock conversation curveballs out of the park with confidence, empathy, and charisma. Next time you struggle with what to say, try these simple responses to difficult situations.

1. What to say during an awkward silence

These three approaches to an awkward silence will generate some discussion or at least give you time to exit the conversation politely. Fill in the blank with these tangent phrases. These phrases are meant to introduce a new line of conversation smoothly.

By the way…
Oh, I have been meaning to mention…
This is so random, but today I was just wondering…

Then you can give a genuine compliment, then ask a question. Like:

“By the way, I love your shirt! Where did you get it?”
“I meant to tell you I enjoyed your presentation on [topic] yesterday. What inspired you to study that?”
“Your voice is so unique. Are you a singer?”

Or you can mention an interesting news item, a funny video you saw, or a question you have been meaning to ask them. Like:

“By the way, have you seen the new schematics the client sent over? They are totally different than we expected. ”
“I’ve been meaning to ask you, did you see the new octopus meme going around? It reminded me of the bumper sticker you have on your desk.”
“This is so random, but have you seen the new show on Netflix? I binged it last night and am dying to talk to someone about it.”

Pro Tip: Always keep a quick question in your back pocket for awkward silences. When it feels like there is nothing to say, a simple go-to is, “What was your favorite part of today so far?”

For a deeper connection, ask story-generating questions instead of “yes/no” questions:

“Anyways, I heard that you are working on [project]. How is that going?”
“What’s something you love doing that you wish you had more time for?”
“That’s so cool you play/do [hobby]. How did you get started?”
“If you had an entire weekend to spend however you wanted, what would you do?”

“Where did you learn to [skill]?”

Learn more in our full guide on Awkward Silence: Make the Most Of It or Get Rid Of It.

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2. What to say when someone thanks you

From casual “thank you’s” to big displays of gratitude, it always feels good to be appreciated. However, if you are prone to people pleasing or feel awkward accepting praise, you may not know how to respond to genuine thankfulness. Here is how to respond in different “thank you” scenarios:

If they thank you for a simple act like holding the door: “It’s my pleasure,” or “No problem!” (with a smile)
If they thank you for a favor: “Happy to help!” or “It wasn’t a bother, I know you’d do the same for me.”
If they thank you for accepting their apology: “No worries, we all make mistakes.”
If they thank you for being there for them in a rough time: “Of course, I’m always here for you.”
If they thank you for a compliment: “No problem, you deserve it!” or “You’re very welcome.”
If they thank you for a gift: “You’re welcome. I’m glad you liked it.”

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3. What to say when someone apologizes

Apologies can feel like relief or a vapid promise depending on the situation. Gauging your response requires emotional intelligence and a keen awareness of your boundaries.

Remember that some people over-apologize due to low self-esteem or a bad habit. For example, many tend to say “I’m sorry” instead of “excuse me.” However, some people have a toxic cycle of verbalizing an apology without changing their actions. Here is how to politely respond in different scenarios while protecting your own emotions:

If they apologize for something minor like bumping into you: “No worries,” or “It’s not a big deal.”
If you aren’t actually upset: “It’s OK; it’s not a huge problem. I forgive you.”
If you have forgiven them: “Thank you, I needed to hear that. I forgive you and hope it won’t happen again. ”
If they apologize via text : “I appreciate the apology, but I hope we can discuss more in person.”
If you still need space: “I’m grateful you realized your mistake, but I need more time to process it.”
If you are still hurting: “Thank you for apologizing and taking responsibility. However, I am still hurt, and I’m not ready to return to usual.”
If it seems their apology isn’t genuine: “Thanks, but I am not ready to accept your apology yet,” or “I appreciate your apology. I need time to reflect and see changes in your actions before we can move forward.”

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4. What to say when someone brings up an inappropriate topic

You can feel the tension when someone brings up a controversial opinion or an inappropriate topic.

Respond by:

Telling them that you don’t feel comfortable: “I would appreciate it if we didn’t talk about that in this setting. ”
Respectfully disagree: “I understand your opinion, but I do not agree.”
Point out the awkwardness: “Wow, that’s a big topic! Let’s save that for another day.”
Changing the topic: “So, what are you up to this weekend?”

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5. What to say when you want to exit a conversation

A long lull in dialogue is sometimes a sign that a conversation isn’t going anywhere. That’s fine! You aren’t going to “click” with everybody. If the well of conversation topics is running dry, there is no use in wasting either of your time trying to fumble for things to talk about and force a connection.

However, you don’t want to seem rude or like you’re trying to escape. They could be important professional or personal contact in the future! Masterful conversationalists know that it may be best to end conversations on a positive note, regardless of your feelings about the other person—unless they are toxic people. These endings are quick, polite, and straight to the point:

If it’s an old friend you don’t want to reconnect with: “It was so cool to hear what you’ve been up to. I’ll see you around!”
If they are an acquaintance you are interested in: “That’s interesting. I’d love to connect on social media and follow more of your journey.”
If it is someone you want to make plans with (but don’t have time right now): “It was so nice catching up with you. I’d love to continue our chat over lunch soon!”
If you need to leave quickly: “Oh, I just realized I have to be somewhere at 3. Nice talking to you!”
If trying to end a short interaction with a stranger: “I’m so glad we met. Thanks for sharing that story with me. It was hilarious! I hope you have an awesome day.”
If speaking with someone you need to maintain a professional relationship with: “It is so great to see you. I’ll shoot you an email/text about [topic] soon.”

Just be sure you don’t make any promises you don’t plan on keeping. If you’re not going to reach out to them or make plans, simply bid them farewell and go on your way.

Here are another 62 Ways to Politely End a Conversation in ANY Situation.

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What To Say When Someone Shares Good or Bad News

It’s hard to find the right words for someone going through a tough time, but you don’t want to come off as insensitive. Here is what to say when someone tells you bad news and you don’t know how to respond.

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6. What to say when you hear that someone passed away

There is no way to truly comfort someone from losing a loved one. The best option is to express a genuine sentiment that shows you care.

When extending condolences to an acquaintance: “I am so sorry for your loss.”
Offer support for someone close to you: “I’m here for you if you need anything. ” or “Is there anything I can do to support you?”
Validate their feelings: “This must be a difficult time for you.”
Say something kind about the deceased: “They will be so missed. He/she was such an incredible person in our community.”

Avoid saying anything that might trigger a deeper emotional wound or demonstrate that you don’t care. Do NOT:

Don’t compare grief: “I remember when my grandpa died….”
DON’T try to make sense of it: “Everything happens for a reason.”
DON’T say they’re strong: “You are so strong.” (This is praising their emotional containment and can make them feel weaker when they are vulnerable)
DON’T give advice: “You should….”

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7. What to say when someone shares bad news

It’s normal to feel uncomfortable when someone shares unpleasant or bad news. You can’t fix the problem, but you don’t want to gloss it over and make them feel ignored. Try saying:

“I’m so sorry to hear that.”
“If you want to talk about it, I’m here for support.”
“My heart goes out to you.”
“How terrible/sad/awful. Is there anything I can do to help?”
“I can understand why you would be super upset. Let me know if there is anything I can do to help.”

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8. What to say when someone is sick

Everyone faces sickness, from a passing cold to a severe illness at some point in life. If someone shares that they are trying to overcome a health issue, it’s important to express sympathy and, if you can offer support:

“I’m sorry you have to go through this. I hope you feel better soon.”
“Here is a video/tea blend/recipe that helped me a lot when I was feeling similar symptoms last year.”
“Hey, I heard you are feeling under the weather, so I ordered some supplements to send your way. Get well soon!”
“I heard you’re not feeling well. I’m worried about you. Is there anything I can do?”
“Ugh, that’s the worst! I hope you can take some time for self-care and recovery.”
“Sending healing vibes your way for a speedy recovery!”
“I’m sorry you’re feeling bad. Can I bring you some soup this evening?”

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9. What to say if someone is having a bad day

It can be hard to know what to say if someone is having a hard time or feeling down. Empathy is key! Try these:

“I’m here to talk any time you need me.”
“I can’t imagine what you’re going through, but I am here to help in any way I can.”
“I care about you and am here for you if you need me!”

And if you want to know what to say when your friend is sad, try cheering them up with these jokes:

“Why was the little strawberry crying? His mom was in a jam.”
“If it’s any condolence, you look a lot cuter when you cry than I do. ” (then make a silly ugly face)

Here are 76 Ways to Comfort Someone When They’re Feeling Down.

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10. What to say if someone just had a baby

When someone shares the good news that they are pregnant or having a baby, try one of these simple responses:

If the partner is present: “Ahhh, I am so happy for you both! You are going to be such great parents.”
Compliment the baby: “They are so cute. I can see the resemblance to mom/dad.”
Offer a favor: “Wow, you must be exhausted. I’ll bring over some dinner tonight!” or “I’m coming to get your laundry so you can rest!”
Ask about the gender: “Congratulations! Is it a girl or a boy?”
Ask about name ideas: “Oh my goodness, that’s so exciting! Have you started brainstorming name ideas?”

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11. What to say if someone is getting married

Engagements can be a huge turning point in people’s lives, and you may want to share in the excitement. If someone shares the news that they are getting married to their lover, you can say:

“I am so happy for you! Have you started planning the wedding yet?”
“That’s amazing! What are you most excited about?”
“You have to tell me how the proposal went!”
“You guys are such a power couple. It’s about time!”

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12. What to say when someone shares the good news

When someone shares positive news, it is the perfect opportunity to celebrate their achievements and join in on the positive energy. Even if you aren’t feeling quite as excited about your life right now, it’s important to celebrate the high point with them and demonstrate your support. You can say:

“That’s so cool! Congratulations!”
“I am glad to hear that you are making your dreams come to life!”
“That is so amazing! I’m rooting for you!”
“Yay! Thank you for sharing with me! Want to go grab a coffee/drink and celebrate?”
“Well, you earned it. All your hard work is paying off! I am so proud of you!”
“Congrats! What are you most excited about [the new job/raise/new house/new boyfriend/new hobby]?”

If someone is pleased with good news, avoid negative comments or criticism immediately. It’s also best to avoid overwhelming them with too many questions about what’s next. Instead, let them savor the celebration and ask questions about their excitement.

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13. What to say to get past small talk

If a conversation is stuck in the bland small talk phase, you can try a technique called conversational threading. Instead of going through the motions of the same old dialogue, conversation threading is when you find conversation sparks (things that they are interested in or things you have in common) and dig deeper into those topics.

For example:

A simple question starts the conversation: “What’s your favorite hobby?”
The person answers: “I love to travel!”
You follow up with an open-ended question: “Oh cool, where are you most looking forward to traveling next?”
They answer, and you listen for more clues to thread the conversation forward: “I’ve been dying to explore Southeast Asia. I love learning about Buddhist cultures.”
Take the cue and thread it to another really good question: “That’s super interesting. What is it about Buddhist culture that draws you in?”

If you are sincerely interested in what they have to say, this cycle can go on and on. Rather than getting stuck in the boring small talk questions like “What do you do?” or “Where are you from?”, you can open up a deeper discussion with insightful questions like “What inspires you about that type of work?” or “What is your favorite thing about your hometown?”

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14. What to say when you don’t know what to say in an interview

Have you ever been hit with a challenging interview question that made you feel completely lost? Instead of panicking about your lack of words, take a deep breath and respond with the following:

Be honest: “To be honest, I don’t know the answer to that question, but I am interested in learning. ”
Clarify the question: “I don’t quite understand what you’re asking. Could you rephrase the question, please?”
Buy some time: Use thoughtful body language like your hand on your chin or gazing up as you think and say, “Let me think about that for a moment.”

Remember to avoid these 8 Things You Should Never Say in An Interview.

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15. What to say when your boss asks for feedback

When a manager asks for feedback from their team members, it’s usually a green flag that they are trying to improve their leadership skills. But it can be awkward if you don’t know how to respond.

Depending on their performance, feel free to respond with constructive criticism about something on your mind. Alternatively, you can compliment them if they are doing a great job. Try saying:

“Thanks for asking! I need some time to think about it, and I’ll get back to you.”
“I really appreciate how you have been [action] lately, but see room for improvement in [this area]. ”
“Perhaps there is a better way to handle [certain situations].”
“Honestly, your management style differs from what I’m used to. I like how you do X, but I am unsure how to respond to you when you do Y.”

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16. What to say when you want to be funny

Humor is scientifically proven to make you more likable. When people don’t know what to say in a difficult or awkward situation, a quirky or silly response can help break the ice and get people laughing. Here are some hilarious one-liners to toss in a conversation when you’re at a loss for words:

“So, what’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done?”
“I tried to be normal once… worst two minutes of my entire life.”
“I like to be an example for others. Usually a bad example, though.”
“I’d like to help you out today. Which way did you come in?”

For more, read our full guide on 140 Funny Things to Say In ANY Situation.

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What to say at a networking event

Networking can be the bane of your existence or a grand opportunity to level up your career and business. The difference lies in how you engage with others. Pro networkers make unique first impressions and ask questions that spark interesting discussions. Instead of asking, “How are you?” or “What do you do,” try these conversation starters:

“Working on anything exciting recently?”
“Are you enjoying the conference so far?”
“What brought you to this conference?”
“What has been your favorite session/speaker?”
“What brings you to this conference?”
“Who is the most interesting person you have met here?

Here is more on How to Network at a Conference: 10 Ways to Make Contacts Like a Pro.

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18. What to say when you’re talking to a stranger

When we’re kids, parents warn us of “stranger danger,” but as adults, you have to talk to strangers nearly every day at work, coffee shops, parties, and out in public. How do you approach somebody and start a conversation without feeling awkward or creepy? You can say:

“Don’t you love the vibe of this place?”
“How is the [food/coffee/event]?”
“What brought you to [current city/place]?”
“How do you know the host?”
“Hey, how’s it going? I’m Logan.” (reaches for a handshake) “What’s your name?”
“I really like your [shirt/jewelry/tattoo/accessory]. Where did you get it?”

Read our full guide on How to Talk to Strangers Like a Pro (& Avoid Awkwardness).

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19. What to say when someone insults you

Children say, “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me,” yet adults can say some pretty harmful things.

If someone openly insults you, the shame, embarrassment, or awkwardness of the situation can make it hard to know what to say back. If you want to avoid conflict, it’s typically best to stay calm and respond in one of these ways:

Say nothing: Sometimes, the best response is to say nothing so you don’t give a bullying person the satisfaction of hurting your feelings.
Play it off with a joke: “Remember when I asked for your opinion? Yeah, me neither!”
Be positive: “Well, nobody is perfect! We’re all just out here doing our best.”
Be sarcastic: “Wow, thank you so much for your kind words!”

When in doubt, a witty response is an easy way to disarm someone throwing insults and ensure that you don’t take their rudeness personally. Here is how to Be an Expert at Witty Banter…How to Charm With Your Words.

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20. What to say when someone compliments you

Social scientists have found that expressing a compliment provides just as much joy for the compliment giver as it does for the recipient. However, receiving compliments can be hard for people with low self-esteem, social anxiety, or perfectionist tendencies. Demonstrate your thanks for a compliment by saying:

“I really put a lot of thought into this. Thank you for recognizing it. ”
“I appreciate that! I’ve been working on….”
“Thank you. I really like your [related item or attribute] as well.”
“You are so sweet/kind! Thanks for noticing.”
“Wow, that totally made my day! Thank you so much.”

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21. What to say when someone is irritating you

It’s normal to get annoyed, but it is not socially wise to insult people irritating you. Instead of blaming or accusing the other person, you can use these “I” statements to request that they stop an aggravating behavior politely:

“I need some space right now, please.”
“Listen, I need to let you know that [behavior] makes me feel [emotion].”
“Honestly, I get really irritated when you [irritating behavior]. Could you please do [alternative] instead?”

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What to Say When You Don’t Know What to Say in Romantic Situations

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22. What to say if someone expresses feelings for you (and you don’t share them)

Dealing with unrequited love can be one of your most awkward conversations. But it is also a big test of your emotional intelligence. You have to clarify that you aren’t interested, but you must communicate it politely, so you don’t hurt someone’s feelings severely. If you don’t know what to say, try responding:

“Aw, thank you. I think you’re a great person, but I’m not interested in you that way. Can we just be friends?”
“Thanks, you are so kind. Unfortunately, I am already involved with someone else.”
“I appreciate you saying that, but I don’t think we are a good match based on our life situations. I hope you find what you’re looking for.”
“I appreciate that so much, but I’m not looking for anything serious right now.”

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23. What to say when your significant other is upset

When your partner is upset, you can feel at a loss for words. Whether they are sad, angry, frustrated, disappointed, or hurt, emotional validation is one of the most important things you can give them. It’s essential to show that you care without invalidating their experience or trying to make them change their emotions instantly. Try saying:

“Tell me more. I want to hear everything.”
“I completely understand why you would feel that way, and I’m really sorry you’re upset. Let me know if there is anything I can do.”
“I’m here to listen.”
“I know you’re feeling [emotion] right now, and I want to let you know that I am here to listen and support you.”
“It is completely reasonable why you feel [emotion]. I’m so sorry, and I want to make it right. What can I do to fix this?”

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24. What to say when you want to flirt

The modern-day dating game isn’t always easy to demystify, but the science of flirting points to one major formula you can use when you feel tongue-tied in front of a crush: Compliment them + ask a question. Instead of a pick-up line, say:

“You’re the most intriguing people in this room. I’m dying to know, what’s your story?”
“Your [hair/eyes/style] is stunning. Did you get them from your mom or dad’s side?”
“I really like your tattoo. Where did you get it?”
“That is a cool band t-shirt. What kind of music are you into?”
“I feel really drawn to you. I would love to know more about you.”

Here are 30 Ways to Effortlessly Start a Conversation With A Guy and 25 Ways to Masterfully Make Conversations With Girls.

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25. What to say when you ask a girl or guy out

The good old days of asking, “Will you go out with me?” seem gone. If you don’t know what to say to ask your crush out, try a simple, confident invite such as:

“Do you want to grab a coffee with me tomorrow morning?”
“What do you think about taking our dogs to the park this weekend?”
“You mentioned you love [a band/movie/hobby]. I have two tickets to [event] next weekend. Would you join me?”
“What’s your favorite food?” (wait for answer) “Could I take you out to [restaurant] this week?”
“Have you seen [latest movie]? Want to go together?”

Here is more about How to Ask Someone Out: 8 Steps for a Yes Every Time.

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26. What to say when you break up with someone

Anyone who has been heartbroken will probably feel afraid to break someone else’s heart. If you need to end a relationship, it’s much kinder to say something directly than nothing. Wait for a quiet, private moment and tell them:

“I’ve had a great time with you, but I think it’s best if we part ways.”
“I have to talk to you. [Specific problem] isn’t working for me in our relationship. We want different things, so maybe we should break up.”
“I’m sorry, but this isn’t working between you and me. I think it’s best we go our separate ways.”
“I appreciate all you’ve done for me, but I’m just not ready for a relationship.”
“You are awesome, but I don’t think we are right for each other.”

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27. What to say when you miss someone

Whether you’re in a long-distance relationship or unable to see your partner for a while, you may not know what to say to express how much you miss them. Here are a few cute and thoughtful ways to say “I miss you”:

Send a photo of where you are: “I wish you were here.”
Tell them they’re on your mind: “I think about you all the time.”
Fun morning texts: “It’s not the same [waking up/going to the gym/making dinner] without you.”
Send a photo or meme of something they like: “This reminded me of you. I can’t wait to see you again.”

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28. What to say if someone rejects you

Researchers have validated that being rejected triggers the same parts of the brain as physical pain. According to our polls, most people would instead feel physically hurt than heartbreak! Still, almost everyone gets rejected at some point in their life.

Because this can be highly emotional and confusing, it is helpful to pause and calm yourself before responding. You don’t want to appear desperate, dramatic, or overly intense. Instead, you can gracefully reply with the following:

“I understand. That’s nice of you to let me know how you feel, and thanks for the great times we shared.”
“No worries, maybe we can just stay friends instead? Let me know if you want to hang out soon.”
“I appreciate your honesty. I wish you all the best!”
“That’s fine. I hope you find the type of partner you’re looking for.”

Learn more about Why Rejection Hurts So Much And How To Heal The Pain.

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29. What to say if someone says I love you

When someone you’re dating randomly pulls out the “L” word, it can often leave you frozen. You may not know what to say or how to react, but you shouldn’t feel pressured to respond a certain way. You can say:

If you truly love them back: “I’m crazy about you, and I love you, too!”
If you’ve been craving to hear it: “I can’t tell you how much it means to me to hear those words. ”
If you need time to reflect: “Thank you. I like you, but I need more time to understand what I’m feeling.”

On the other hand, people in a long-term relationship may get tired of simply responding, “I love you, too.” Here is how to spice it up with a sweet response:

“There is nothing better than hearing you say that. I love you so much, too.”
“You make my world brighter.”
“I appreciate you so much, darling.”
“I don’t think I can express how much I love you.”
“Thank you for loving me. I love and adore you!”

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30. What to say if someone ghosts you

Ghosting is a modern dating trend where someone suddenly stops responding to your messages and completely ignores any attempts to reach out. Their communication vanishes. This is a harmful way of breaking up or ending a “situationship” without having to do the dirty work of simply saying, “it’s over.”

There’s no denying that ghosting hurts! The lack of closure can trigger all sorts of anxiety, confusion, and lack of self-esteem. Still, you must understand that they are probably doing this because of their trust issues, attachment style, past relationship trauma, or fear of confrontation.

Most dating experts recommend not texting anything after being ghosted. If you absolutely must reach out, wait at least a week and then respond with one of these options:

Check on them: “Hey, are you OK? It’s been a minute.”
Ask for clarity: “Hey, I totally understand if you’re not feeling this anymore, but I can’t read your mind. Would you like to go our separate ways?”
Make a joke: “Well, see you never Casper!”

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Key Takeaways: When You Aren’t Sure What to Say, Ask Questions and Show Empathy

Navigating uncomfortable or awkward situations is a social skill that can help you in all areas of your life. When you genuinely feel lost about what to say, remember to:

Ask questions: People like to talk about themselves, and when you ask them questions, you show that you are genuinely interested in what they have to say. If you don’t know what to say, ask another question about your conversation partner.
Be honest: If you don’t know the answer to a question or must confront a complex topic, it’s best to be straightforward about your feelings.
Show empathy: Whether it’s good news or bad news, understanding and validating someone else’s emotions is vital for forging more profound connections.

To feel more confident in your daily interactions, here is How to Have and Hold Dazzling Conversation With Anyone: We Review 11 Science-Backed Steps.

6 Solutions To “I Don’t Know What To Say”

Have you ever wondered why you get stuck, thinking “I don’t know what to say!” All the while you see many people who always seem to know what say and have the right words?

This is so annoying, you might think that “I don’t know what to say” is a syndrome. It actually isn’t at all, it’s something entirely normal if your conversation skills aren’t that sharp.

This article will open up 6 new possibilities for you to know what to say. And we’ll do that in key situations where you’re most likely to run out of things to say.

1. When You Don’t Know What To Say To Someone You Just Met

When you meet someone for the first time, you don’t know much about them. You don’t have enough information about who they are, what they do, and what kind of things they like. In the same way, they don’t know very much about you.

This is what makes both of you wonder what you could talk about.

Each time you think of something, you wonder whether or not it’ll be interesting to them. You don’t know what to say to make good conversation.

The solution to this is to do small talk. You start talking about the context you’re in and the occasion or event that made you come together. After that, you talk about other things each of you do in your lives. You start with work, then working out, and any other leisure activities.

The key here is to lower your expectations. Don’t expect the first conversation you have to be spectacularly interesting. It’s just a casual conversation.

You go over a series of topics, one by one, jumping from subject to subject. As you do that, you’ll find that you have things in common, and have some topics both of you love to talk about.

Once you find those special things you both like, you’ll be able to converse freely and as long as you want.

2. When You Don’t Know What To Say To Keep The Conversation Going

As you talk to friends, old or new, you sometimes worry that the topic will run its course soon. You get anxious about not being able to keep the conversation flowing beyond a couple of minutes.

This happens usually when you are having a logical exchange of information. And you start to feel that it’s not a fun or exciting conversation, especially in a social setting where people come to have fun.

A quick solution here is to get in touch with your emotions, instead of your logic. Try and feel the energy in the room, and the sort of emotion you’d like to have as you’re socializing.

You make yourself feel great, first. You smile, you feel the rhythm of the music, and then you can talk.

This unlocks your emotional brain. The part of your brain that can connect with others. When you’re in that emotional state, you can talk about anything. Even the silliest things are okay because the priority is not to exchange information, but rather connect and build friendships.

3. What To Say When Your Mind Goes Blank

If you find yourself in situations where you feel like your mind can’t function enough to make conversation, then understand this: it’s a state of mind and an emotional state.

You get into that state by the way you think, and the way that makes you feel. You should strive not to get into that state in the first place.

The way you can prevent getting there is not to second-guess, criticize, or constantly wonder what others are thinking of you. When you’re socializing, that constant self-doubt is just a waste of energy. It brings you down emotionally and makes you lose your ability to mingle.

What you can do, is whenever those self-doubts and anxiety come up, do something to interrupt them. Move around physically, do something or go somewhere and come back.

Don’t argue with self-doubt, you’ll lose. Instead, interrupt it and distract yourself from it.

In your mind, tell yourself that you’ll worry about it later when you get home. Never analyze yourself as you’re socializing, leave it for after you go back home. This is like procrastinating on feeling anxious.

The good news here is that you don’t have to stop self-doubt all at once. If you can reduce it each time you’re having conversations or socializing, then that’s good enough. Just focus on reducing the self-doubt every time.

That way, you’re conversation skills will grow over time and your mind no longer goes blank, not knowing what to say.

4. What To Say When You Have Nothing To Talk About

If you think you’re someone who doesn’t have a lot of things to talk about, then you can definitely change your situation.

One way to start is to notice how every topic is related to many other topics. Take one of your favorite topics. Notice how you can divide it into a set of subtopics. They are like subcategories. Notice how you can take each one, and divide again it into mini categories.

You probably know exactly what to say and what to talk about when it comes to all those subtopics.

They’re all different, and yet, they’re related at the same time. Well, it’s that way with everything else. Every subject has many parts and facets to it that are related to other subjects.

Another way to look at it is to notice how every movie you’ve ever seen reminds you of another that similar in some way.

When you can always go from one topic to another, and find the relationship, then you’ve mastered this skill.

If you’ve never used this principle in conversation, try and practice at home. Think of one topic, then how it relates to another, then how that relates to the next one. Keep practicing until you feel like you can start with any topic and come up with other related things to talk about.

After a little practice at home, try and use that skill in conversation. Try going from one topic to the next as you socialize with people. The amazing thing about this is that you only have to learn it once.

You automatically get better at it as you use it and you start to feel like you’ll always have things to say.

5. What To Say To Make The Conversation More Interesting

There are things you can say to turn a somewhat dull conversation into an interesting one. There are topics you can get into and conversational turns that you can use.

To make the conversation instantly more interesting, you can go into more personal topics. If you’re with a friend you’re not so close to, maybe it’s time to get to the next level of what you are used to discussing.

Another way to make things interesting is to share a vulnerability, a quirk, or anything about you that is a tiny bit embarrassing. This is something you do half-jokingly, and it shows that you have confidence. It also makes you relatable, because everyone else has little quirks too.

Another quick tip to bring the conversation to an interesting turn is to use the time perspective. What you do is take the topic you’re talking about, and project it either into the past or into the future. Think “How people used to do (…) back in the day?” or “In a few decades, how would we do (…).”

For any topic or activity, the way we used to do it is way different from now, and will probably be very different in the future. Whenever you think about what to say next, consider the future and the past of the topic you were talking about. It might be just what you need to revive the conversation.

6. What To Say To Move Past The Small Talk

As you work on your conversation skills and start to do good small talk, you’ll have a new need. It’s the need to know just what to say to move past the small talk.

At some point, you want to transition to deeper and more meaningful conversations. To do that, you discuss a topic more in detail. You spend more time on it instead of moving on quickly to another one.

You ask more questions, share more of what you know about it, and recall any stories you’ve heard or experienced in that area.

What’s great about small talk is that it’s exactly what reveals to you what you can discuss in detail with the other person. Once you find those very special topics, you can discuss them for several minutes and with passion.

When this happens, you know exactly what to say. Once the other person starts to share more and get deeper into that the conversation is much more enjoyable and meaningful.

For your friendship, this becomes something you can relate on. You both start to realize that you can be closer as friends and spend more time enjoying each other’s company.

With some practice, you can always know what to say. The key is to never let yourself get stuck in an emotional state of self-doubt. Try and shake it off and do whatever you can to feel good. Your feelings influence how you socialize a great deal. This is why it’s a great place to focus on when you don’t know what to say.

90,000 Years go by, and sadness, sadness in your eyes, And I don't know what to tell you. Find words, or answer your love without words, So that you become my destiny. - Discuss Years go by, and sadness-sadness in your eyes, And I don't know what to tell you. Find words, or answer your love without words, So that you become my destiny. — Discuss

Dan!!!

Years go by, and sadness-sadness in your eyes,
And I don't know what to tell you. nine0007 Find words, or answer your love without words,
So that you become my destiny. year eye word fate love sadness sadness

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nine0002 Marina

May this autumn bring happiness,
With its music filled with mystery,
Love will give and sing in the soul,
Autumn rain . .. drops are not accidental.

They compose a melody for you,
Wonderful blues with rain streaming
And melt the ice in your heart
He will be born with joy in the soul!

Silver Raindrops
Filled with crystal ringing,
The string of the soul so gently tugging,
With their love they bribe the heart. nine0003

Warm autumn with its gold,
Your harmony is only complementing.
More than once we will repeat this song
Opening hearts, resting soul!

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Dan!!!

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Vera Basenko

Hello! My name is Vera As a successful consultant, I want to make you 2 proposals! nine0007
1) Income without sales, with my help! By the method of rapid growth.

2) You can simply buy cosmetics, clothes and household goods with a discount of up to 26% + gifts

Dan!!!

Money immediately came out and we are even!

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Olga Dyachkova

I, obeying sweet attraction,
I want to come to you, my love,
You are all stations, destinations,
You are all my roads and ways,

When your palm touches mine,
Goosebumps running down the back,
In the vastness of the sky, an angel smiles,
Blessing the look of us with you!

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Alvitina Cigankova

nine0116 Words haven't touched me for a long time
“I want”, “I dream”, and “I love” - even more so.

Don't believe? You are superman! And there,
At your feet is a crowd of women in love?
And everyone is obedient, everyone is submissive to you?
Well….. that means one less today…..

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Dan!!!

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Alvitina Cigankova

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Dan!!!

WoW How lovely

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Mila Petrova

I understand that this is written for everyone who decides to see who it is with different names .. ... your poems = for young and not very experienced .... someone may be tempted .... to the words of an unshaven brunette ....

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Dan!!!

It's all just for you!

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Mila Petrova

laugh.....

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Dan!!!

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nine0002 Mila Petrova

keep laughing......

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Nadezhda Nesterova

Always conquers that there are such men in the world. With such a vision of life.

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Dan!!!

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Larisa Demidova

Beautiful words, but think about it, it's very sad that a person does not know how to express his love.. what old words and how dizzy..

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Dan!!!

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Larisa Demidova

It's really sweet to hear such a simple I love you..very touching

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Galina Raspopova (Frolova)

It's just a divine performance. ... Demis Roussos.... From youth to old age you want to listen without ceasing...

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Dan!!!

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Galina Raspopova (Frolova)

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Lyubov Vasilievna

The last day has left us
How the Shadow Disappears at Noon
Love leaves with yellowed leaves
And we part with you

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Lyubov Vasilievna

The last day has left us
How the shadow disappears at noon0007 Love leaves with yellowed leaves
And we part with you

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Lyubov Vasilievna

The last day has left us
How the shadow disappears at noon
Love leaves with yellowed leaves
And we part with you

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Alvitina Cigankova

nine0354 Someday.

..and smoldering in thoughts,
What, he will understand, for sure,
After all, not everyone can become,
The one that will love forever...

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Dan!!!

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Alien.

Here some romantic fool reads and falls in love with you .... Then she will suffer .... Do you need it? nine0003

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Dan!!!

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Alien.

You can't play with the feelings of others.

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Dan!!!

I only play mine!

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nineteen0003

Alien.

And yours too. There is only one life.

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Dan!!!

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Alien.

Some blood.

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Dan!!!

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Nina Samokhvalova

I give you the last day
And thank you for the love
I recognize you again among passers-by
And again, as in my youth, I sing

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Larisa Byzeeva

You on the wings of cranes
Somewhere in the sky they took
You are forever in my memory0007 My love is even stronger

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Larisa Byzeeva

you on the wings of cranes
Somewhere in the sky they took
You will forever remain in my memory
My love is even stronger

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Lidia Albanova

I give you the spring world
And thank you for the love0007 I recognize you again among passers-by
And again, as in my youth, I sing.

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Dan!!!

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Lidia Albanova

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Dan!!!

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Valentina Gorelova

yeah, the years fly by without even noticing, autumn quietly wanders around the birches and pines and in your eyes, and in your eyes it’s already winter

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Galina Miroshkina

Oh!! how sweetly Roussos sang this song, to tears! you know, sir, how to touch the hearts of women!!

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Dan!!!

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Galina Miroshkina

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Gohar Safaryan

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Do I need a comma before "what" here? And why?

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