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English Conversation for Beginners: 45+ Phrases and 10 Videos for Your English Speaking Adventure

By Francisco J. Vare and katyaryabova Last updated: August 16, 2022

Did you know that English conversation can take you on a fun adventure?

Conversing (talking) with others in English opens up a whole new world of opportunities.

I’ve put together a friendly guide to English conversation for beginners filled with useful, basic phrases—from greetings and small talk to saying goodbye—that’ll take you on your first conversation adventure.

Starting an English Conversation
- Informal greetings
- Formal greetings
- Introductions
Making Small Talk in English
Asking and Answering Questions
Asking for Clarification
Bringing an English Conversation to a Close
Using Small Talk to End a Conversation
Saying Goodbye in English
10 Tips for Getting English Conversation Practice
- 1. Try shadowing.
- 2. Practice with Authentic Media Using FluentU.
- 3. Talk to yourself.
- 4. Describe what you see.
- 5. Listen to and watch English media.
- 6. Use conversation apps.
- 7. Try tongue twisters.
- 8. Read out loud.
- 9. Find a language partner or a speaking tutor.
- 10. Take an online speaking course.

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Starting an English Conversation

If you need a push to start having conversations in English, watch the clip below for motivation:

Any polite conversation starts with a greeting (saying hello).

There are many ways to greet someone, and your choice will depend on who you’re talking to.

It may be an informal conversation with a friend or an acquaintance (someone you know, but not very well).

Or you may use a more formal dialogue when having an English conversation with a colleague, a teacher, a stranger or a government employee.

In fact, getting comfortable speaking with strangers is a great way to boost your speaking skills and confidence level in English.

However, it’s important to note that there are a few different ways in which English speakers will spark up a conversation (start a conversation) with a stranger.

Start with the video below to learn the different ways to speak with a stranger. You’ll be chatting with them in no time (very soon) without any problem:

And now let’s get this conversation started.

Informal greetings

Let’s start with informal greetings. Here’s how you can say hello:

Hello!
(A universal greeting that works for every conversation.)

Hi!
(A neutral and friendly greeting. )

Hey!
(An informal and relaxed greeting.)

Greetings!
(This is quite formal and rare these days, but could be used humorously among friends.)

Howdy!
(A casual greeting that’s not commonly used, but can add some flavor to your English.)

Formal greetings

For a more formal way to greet someone, use the model “good + [time of day]”:

Good morning!
(Reserved for any time before noon.)

Good afternoon!
(Typically used between noon and 5-6 p.m.)

Good evening!
(Any time after 6 p. m.)

Remember that “good night” normally means that you’re saying goodbye. It’s also commonly used right before going to bed.

Introductions

What if you’ve never met the person you’re talking to before? Then, after greeting them, it’d be polite to introduce yourself and ask for their name.

You can learn how to do this in this video, where you’ll learn that the easiest way to introduce yourself is to give your name:

My name is _____. What’s your name?
(This is simple, neutral and always works well!)

If you met somebody once before, but you don’t remember their name, you can say this:

I’m sorry, I don’t remember your name. You are…?
(This is a bit more informal.)

If you want to introduce a person to someone else, you can simply say:

Please meet + [name]
Please meet my friend Tom!
(Formal introduction. )

This is + [name]
This is Tom!
(Common introduction.)

Now that you’ve introduced yourself, use one of the phrases below to respond to someone’s introduction:

Nice to meet you!
(The most common.)

Pleased to meet you!
(Simple and polite.)
It’s a pleasure!
(Informal, but nice.)

Making Small Talk in English

Great job! You’re already having a conversation in English!

After you’ve exchanged names and greeted each other, you may go on to make some “small talk,” like the one included in this entertaining video.

Small talk is common in many English-speaking countries, especially in the U.S., Canada and England.

It’s considered polite to add small talk to the beginning of the conversation before talking about its main subject, whether it’s personal or professional.

The most widespread (common) question is “How are you?” In fact, it’s so common that it becomes automatic for people to say, even when they hardly know the person!

“How are you” is often even considered part of the greeting (i.e. “Hi, how are you?”). That’s how necessary it’s become!

There are several ways to ask someone how they’re doing:

How are you? / How are you doing?
(Neutral.)

How’s it going?
(More informal.)

How are things?
(Informal.)

What’s up?
(Very informal.)

An interesting thing about asking these questions is that an answer isn’t really required.

Unless you’re very close friends with someone, they’re not expecting you to give them an honest answer about your day—as this funny video shows:

Instead, a simple answer and a “how are you” in return is enough for a typical conversation in English:

I’m well. How are you?

It’s going well, thank you. How are you doing?

Fine, thanks. And yourself?

Note that you might often hear people say “I’m good” when they mean that they’re well and doing well.

“I’m good” is grammatically incorrect in this context, but it’s very common in spoken English, just like a few other mistakes English speakers make, so be careful!

Small talk can also be the primary goal of a conversation, especially when you’re talking to people you don’t know and are unlikely to meet again.

There are many ways to use small talk successfully, even when you’re still getting comfortable with English conversation for beginners. Use them smartly!

Asking and Answering Questions

A conversation is an exchange of ideas, questions and thoughts, so the best way to keep a conversation going is to ask questions!

There are two types of questions you may ask: closed-ended and open-ended questions.

Closed-ended questions are also called “yes/no” questions, because their goal is to confirm or deny certain information. For example:

Are you having a good day?

Did you just get to the office?

Have you seen my email?

Compare the examples above to the open-ended questions below. They’ll ask a person to elaborate—i.e., to give more information instead of simply saying “yes” or “no.”

How is your day going?
(A perfect example of small talk!)

When did you arrive at the office?

What do you think about that email I sent?

Open-ended questions typically begin with “who,” “what,” “where,” “when” and “why.” They’re important to make your English conversation informative and productive. See more examples here.

When the person you’re talking to is asking you a question, listen to the keywords and pay attention to the verb being used. This will help you construct your answer using proper grammar.

Don’t worry about using difficult words—it’s fine to keep things simple! And if you don’t understand a certain question or word, don’t be afraid to ask.

As a beginner English learner, you may have trouble understanding everything being said in English. That’s okay. You’re still learning!

Asking for Clarification

You’re getting good at conversations in English, but suddenly you realize (understand, see) that you’re lost.

Maybe the other person is speaking too fast. Maybe they have an unfamiliar accent. Maybe you didn’t hear the last thing they said. Or maybe they have a pen in their mouth and you can’t understand what they’re saying.

It’s perfectly normal to ask for clarification or to repeat something. Just remember to be polite!

If you don’t understand something, for example, a word or even some idea relating to your conversation, you could say:

I’m sorry, I don’t understand. Could you please repeat that?

I’m sorry, I don’t understand. Could you please explain that?

or even…

Care to elaborate?
(This very informal question is the short version of “Do you care to elaborate on this?”)

If you simply didn’t hear something, just say it like this:

I’m sorry, I didn’t hear that. Could you please repeat?

I’m sorry, I didn’t catch that. Could you please repeat?

or even…

Could you say that again, please?

Come again?
(This is very informal, and it can sound rude to some people.)

Don’t be shy to ask for help. People are generally very happy to explain or repeat something!

And please, don’t forget to thank them after they do.

Bringing an English Conversation to a Close

Say you’ve got all the information you need from the person. It’s time for you to go.

Maybe you’re running late and want to keep the conversation brief. No matter the reason, it’s always nice to let the person know you can’t continue talking to them for much longer.

There are many ways to do it depending on the situation. For example, if you’re late, say:

I have to get going. / It’s time for me to go.
(This is polite and neutral.)

I have to run—can we continue later?
(This is more informal, but also polite.)

And if you have all the information you wanted:

Thank you so much for your help!
(A very common and useful expression.)

Got it, thanks!
(Very informal and friendly.)

I think I have everything I need, thank you!
(This is formal and may come across as rude if you don’t thank the person after, so use it with caution. )

Using Small Talk to End a Conversation

Hey, guess what? Small talk can be used at the end of an English conversation too!

Before saying goodbye, it’s polite to say something like:

Have a good day!
(This works in any situation.)

Enjoy your day!
(This one’s a bit more formal.)

Good luck!
(If the person needs it; it’ll depend on the situation.)

Talk to you soon!
(This is neutral and doesn’t necessarily mean that you’ll really talk to the person soon.)

Great seeing you / Great talking to you!
(This is informal yet common.)

Catch you later!
(This is very informal and fun.)

And after that, the only thing left to do is…

Saying Goodbye in English

This one’s easy. You really can’t go wrong with just a simple “goodbye” or “bye” in spoken English (unless you get emotional because your friend is leaving for a long period of time).

You can also use any small talk expression to complement your goodbye. For example:

Bye! Have a good day!

Catch you later! Bye-bye!

And, as mentioned at the very beginning of this guide…

Good night!

10 Tips for Getting English Conversation Practice

1. Try shadowing.

The shadowing technique is basically repeating word for word some piece of native audio trying to imitate (copy the way of talking) the native speaker.

This is a great way to help beginners start talking, since the main focus is not understanding what’s being said but imitating the original audio as accurately as possible.

For this reason, shadowing is a fantastic tool to improve pronunciation and stop feeling stressed when talking in English.

2. Practice with Authentic Media Using FluentU.

FluentU is a website and app that takes real-world videos like movie trailers, news clips and music videos and turns them into English language lessons.

Watching videos is an engaging way to learn English. It helps you learn to understand native accents and hear how words are used in everyday scenarios. But when you watch these kinds of videos on streaming sites, you might have a hard time following along with the English.

That’s why every video on FluentU comes with interactive subtitles that let you look up words in the program’s video dictionary. This means you can click any word you hear to get a definition, pronunciation guide, sample sentences and a list of other videos that use the word.

FluentU has many videos that include examples of real English conversations, and several that feature the greetings and phrases we mentioned in earlier sections. In the video pictured below, two roommates are shown meeting for the first time and talking about themselves and their families.

Videos like this one, which features an American and a British English speaker, will also help you learn to understand various native accents.

The program’s personalized quizzes will let you review the vocabulary and phrases you learn in these videos. And if you’re using the FluentU app on iOS or Android, you can also practice your pronunciation using speech recognition.

3. Talk to yourself.

Take some time every day to talk to yourself in front of the mirror or while you’re having a shower.

It’s better if you talk out loud, but it can also be in your mind.

Even if you don’t have perfect grammar or don’t know a lot of vocabulary, practicing simple conversations with yourself will get you ready for the real ones.

4. Describe what you see.

Whenever you have the time, describe what you’re seeing to yourself or to others.

If you’re in a place where you can’t speak out loud, do it in your mind.

Describing what you see doesn’t look like a real conversation, but it helps you think fast and react to what’s happening, which is exactly how conversations work.

If you feel brave enough, you can also describe how your day went to your family, friends or partner, but you’ll need to learn the past simple and past continuous first if you want to do it properly (correctly).

5. Listen to and watch English media.

Using English media, especially English media made by and for native speakers, is also a fantastic way to practice your conversation skills.

English movies, series, the radio, YouTube videos, podcasts… There are many ways in which you can access native English and listen to real examples of conversations you can later reproduce (copy) when you speak.

You can also watch native English media in places such as Netflix, HB, Amazon Prime, Disney+ or Hulu, just to name a few.

For example, I’m completely hooked on (very interested in) Netflix’s series “Snowpiercer.” It tells the story of a group of people who are living on a train called the Snowpiercer after the whole planet has become frozen. If the train stops moving, they’ll freeze to death, so everything in the series happens inside of it.

I also recommend you listen to a good native podcast and try to pay attention to the speakers’ pronunciation, intonation and speed/rhythm. This will help you improve your listening skills, and when you understand better, you learn more, so you can also speak better.

My favorite podcast lately is “Stuff You Should Know,” a podcast perfect for everyone who’s interested in the world around them and wants to know more about it.

In this podcast, you can learn a lot of facts about topics like speed reading, uranium, taxes, circuses, the Titanic and many, many more.

6. Use conversation apps.

There are phone apps that specialize in teaching English conversation.

Apps come in handy (are useful) if you like learning everywhere because you can download them into your phone and use them whenever you need to.

Conversation apps can offer different ways of learning. Some teach you word pronunciation and sentence intonation, others give you vocabulary and examples of conversations, and there are others that even have speech recognition and allow you to record your own voice.

Two fantastic apps I really recommend are SpeakingPal (which is a perfect option for beginners) and ELSA (which is a great option if you want to improve your American pronunciation).

7. Try tongue twisters.

This tip can sound crazy, but it really works.

Tongue twisters normally focus on one or two specific English sounds. These sounds can be difficult sometimes, but what makes tongue twisters challenging (difficult) is having those sounds repeat many times and very close to each other.

If you practice with tongue twisters, your pronunciation will improve, and when you have to pronounce a difficult word or talk faster during a conversation, you won’t have any problem.

8. Read out loud.

Reading out loud is an excellent exercise that’ll help you improve your pronunciation, accent and intonation.

When you read out loud, you’re going from a passive to an active activity.

This means you’ll be more focused while doing the activity, which will help you remember more words and grammar patterns you can later use in conversation.

In addition, when you read out loud, you try to sound more like a native, so if you don’t know how to pronounce a word, you’ll probably look for its pronunciation online.

The result is an improvement in your pronunciation and speaking skills.

9. Find a language partner or a speaking tutor.

Another way to get some English conversation practice is to find a language partner or a speaking tutor.

Language exchange partners are normally free because you’re teaching them your language and they’re teaching you theirs in return.

There are many websites where you can find a language exchange partner living in your area, although (but, however) having a language exchange online is getting more and more popular.

Another option is to find a tutor who specializes in English conversation.

Language tutors and teachers cost money, but their knowledge of the language and their teaching skills will normally allow you to get better and faster results than with a language exchange partner.

If you want to find a good English tutor, you should check out Verbling.

10. Take an online speaking course.

My last tip for you is to take a conversation class or course.

This type, of course, is specifically designed to make you speak and lose the fear of making mistakes. You’ll be surrounded by other classmates with a level of English similar to yours, so you’ll feel more comfortable talking around them.

This will give you a taste (an example) of what having a real conversation in English is, and when the situation comes, you’ll be ready to impress everyone with your English.

Online speaking and conversation courses are a perfect alternative to in-class speaking courses because you don’t have to leave your house to take them.

Thanks to the internet, it’s now possible to choose among thousands of courses directed to students who want to improve their conversation skills.

Many of them (especially if they’re MOOCs) are completely free, so there’s no valid excuse not to start improving your conversation skills today.

If you want two high-quality courses to start with, my recommendations are:

Speak English Professionally: In Person, Online & On the Phone. This is a MOOC offered by the Georgia Institute of Technology. It’ll help you improve your pronunciation and teach you how to speak English correctly in different situations.
Speak English With Confidence: English Speaking Course. If you’re at the A2 level and want to start speaking more and better about everyday topics, this course is perfect for you.

Simple, right?

You’re now an English conversation master!

Having a conversation in English doesn’t have to be complicated. You may feel a little awkward and shy about your English speaking at first, but it’s okay.

If you’re scared of making a mistake, it’s understandable. But mistakes are going to happen when you get started with spoken English—it’s absolutely normal.

Making mistakes is a big part of learning English conversation for beginners. This is how you get better, so just go for it. Just start talking, because now you know what to say!

Stay curious, my friends, and as always, happy talking!

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Francisco J. Vare

Francisco J. Vare loves teaching and writing about grammar. He's a proud language nerd, and you'll normally find him learning languages, teaching students or reading. He's been writing for FluentU for many years and is one of their staff writers.

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Lesson 1: WHERE ARE YOU FROM?

Hello.
Hi.
How are you?
I’m good. How are you?
Good. Do you speak English?
A little. Are you American?
Yes.
Where are you from?
I’m from California.
Nice to meet you.
Nice to meet you too.

Lesson 2: DO YOU SPEAK ENGLISH?

Excuse me, are you American?
No.
Do you speak English?
A little, but not very well.
How long have you been here?
2 months.
What do you do for work?
I’m a student. How about you?
I’m a student too.

Lesson 3: WHAT’S YOUR NAME?

Excuse me, what’s your name?
My name is Jessica. What’s yours?
John.
You speak English very well.
Thank you.
Do you know what time it is?
Sure. It’s 5:10 PM.
What did you say?
I said it was 5:10 PM.
Thanks.
You’re welcome.

Lesson 4: ASKING DIRECTIONS

Hi Michael.
Hi Amy. What’s up?
I’m looking for the airport. Can you tell me how to get there?
No, sorry. I don’t know.
I think I can take the subway to the airport. Do you know where the subway is?
Sure, it’s over there.
Where? I don’t see it.
Across the street.
Oh, I see it now. Thanks.
No problem.
Do you know if there’s a restroom around here?
Yes, there’s one here. It’s in the store.
Thank you.
Bye.
Bye bye.

Lesson 5: I’M HUNGRY

Hi Sarah, how are you?
Fine, how are you doing?
What do you want to do?
I’m hungry. I’d like to eat something.
Where do you want to go?
I’d like to go to an Italian restaurant.
What kind of Italian food do you like?
I like spaghetti. Do you like spaghetti?
No, I don’t, but I like pizza.

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Lesson 6: DO YOU WANT SOMETHING TO DRINK?

David, would you like something to eat?
No, I’m full.
Do you want something to drink?
Yes, I’d like some coffee.
Sorry, I don’t have any coffee.
That’s OK. I’ll have a glass of water.
A small glass, or a big one?
Small, please.
Here you go.
Thanks.
You’re welcome.

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Mary, would you like to get something to eat with me?
When?
At 10 O’clock.
10 in the morning?
No, at night.
Sorry, that’s too late. I usually go to bed around 10:00 PM.
OK, how about 1:30 PM?
No, that’s too early. I’ll still be at work then.
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That’s fine.
OK, see you then.
Alright. Bye.

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Jennifer, would you like to have dinner with me?
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Is today OK?
Sorry, I can’t go today.
How about tomorrow night?
Ok. What time?
Is 9:00 PM all right?
I think that’s too late.
Is 6:00 PM OK?
Yes, that’s good. Where would you like to go?
The Italian restaurant on 5th street.
Oh, I don’t like that Restaurant. I don’t want to go there.
How about the Korean restaurant next to it?
OK, I like that place.

Lesson 9: WHEN DO YOU WANT TO GO?

Hi Mark.
Hi.
What are you planning to do today?
I’m not sure yet.
Would you like to have lunch with me?
Yes. When?
Is 11:30 AM OK?
Sorry, I didn’t hear you. Can you say that again, please?
I said, 11:30 AM.
Oh, I’m busy then. Can we meet a little later?
OK, how about 12:30 PM?
Where?
How about Bill’s Seafood Restaurant?
Oh, Where is that?
It’s on 7th Street.
OK, I’ll meet you there.

Lesson 10: ORDERING FOOD

Hello sir, welcome to the French Garden Restaurant. How many?
One.
Right, this way. Please have a seat. Your waitress will be with you in a moment.
Hello sir, would you like to order now?
Yes, please.
What would you like to drink?
What do you have?
We have bottled water, juice, and Coke.
I’ll have a bottle of water, please.
What would you like to eat?
I’ll have a tuna fish sandwich and a bowl of vegetable soup.

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Take the lead. This question shows your partner that you are ready to put some work into your relationship.

7. What do you like to do when you are alone?

What secret things do you do when no one is watching? Can you practice dancing or singing? 💃

8. What am I doing that annoys you?

Sometimes the most annoying things your partner does are also the cutest. Do you agree?

9. What do you think is the most difficult and beautiful thing in marriage?

Those who believe that it is enough to love each other to maintain a marriage live in a dream world. Marriage also means constantly working on your relationship. In addition to obstacles, there are many positives in marriage.

10. What achievement are you most proud of?

Asking your partner what he/she is proud of shows that you care about your partner's life. Plus, it makes your partner feel good about themselves.

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Here are some intimate questions to ask your girlfriend/boyfriend that will bring you closer.

1. What do you like most about my personality?

Getting compliments about your appearance is good. However, getting compliments about your personality feels even better.

2. Has our relationship changed you?

I think every relationship changes us a little. How has your relationship changed you?

🤓 We bring you: A list of the best icebreaking questions that will spark conversations

3. Do you believe in unconditional love? Why or why not?

Is unconditional love a romantic myth or fact? What do you think?

4. Do you have sexual fantasies that you would like to try with me?

Let's talk about sex. Don't be afraid to talk to your partner about your sexual preferences. When you are open about your sexuality, your sex life will get even better.

5. What is your favorite part of my body?

What makes this body part so unique?

6. What do you think is the most sexual characteristic or trait of a person?

Not only looks can make you sexy, but also your personality. What personality traits can't you resist?

7. If you had three wishes from me, what would they be?

You are not allowed to wish for a new wish. 🤓

8. What is your favorite memory of us?

Reveling in pleasant memories with your partner can be something very beautiful.

9. What was the strangest (good or bad) sexual experience you have ever had?

Have you ever tried some weird sex fetish and haven't told your partner yet? Tell your partner, maybe he/she will like it.

10. If your partner cheated on you, would you give him/her a second chance?

This is a difficult question. Do circumstances matter, or is this behavior simply unforgivable?

11. Would you put your career ahead of your personal life?

Career or love? What comes first in your life? Do you and your partner feel the same about this topic?

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12. Do you regret your decisions?

Every decision you've ever made has led you to this moment. Therefore, it can be argued that people should not regret anything. I think we've all made choices in our lives that we're not proud of. The best thing we can do is learn from our mistakes and forgive ourselves.

13. If you had to describe me in three words, which words would you choose?

Choose these three words wisely.

14. What do you think about Valentine's Day? Is it overrated?

Do you celebrate Valentine's Day as a couple, or do you think it's stupid? Why do you like or dislike?

15. If you could change something about yourself, what would it be?

Your partner probably wouldn't want to change something about you. However, would you?

16. What are your goals in this relationship?

It is advisable to talk about your ideas for relationships in a couple. If the goals of two partners differ too much, they should talk about it (for example, one wants to get married, and the other does not).

17. What are the biggest differences between us?

Opposites attract, don't they? In my experience, good mediocrity is the best recipe for a working relationship - not too similar, but not too different either.

18. What are three things you can never live with?

We all know that you love your partner and wouldn't want to live without him. However, think about the different things you don't want to live without.

19. Are we satisfied with our proximity?

Start talking honestly about how satisfied you are with your relationship. This will instantly improve your relationship.

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20. What do I do that turns you on?

I hope something you do turns her/him on - just kidding 😄. I'm sure your partner can come up with something.

21. If you could have one quality or ability at this moment, what would it be?

Is it a physical or cognitive ability? What would you do with your new skill?

22. When you die, how do you want people to remember you?

A little painful, but still a good question.

23. What place did you like as a child, and why did you like it so much?

What made this place so special?

24. Have I ever said or done something that made you feel uncomfortable?

This is a very thoughtful question. Sometimes we offend our loved ones without knowing it.

25. Do you miss something we used to do?

What was it and why did you stop doing it?

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Bonus: Top 10 Relationship Questions for Couples 💓

As a little bonus, we have created a list of our favorite questions to ask your boyfriend/girlfriend.

1. How much alone time do you need in a relationship?

Everyone needs time for themselves, some more and some less. Therefore, it is important to discuss with your partner how much time you want to spend alone.

2. What do you think is our strongest and weakest side as a couple?

Honesty is one of the most important things in a relationship. It can strengthen relationships if you reflect on your strengths and weaknesses together.

3. What is your favorite way to express love?

Do you express your love with words or actions? My favorite way would be a combination of both.

4. What do you think our life will look like ten years from now?

This question indicates that you are planning to have a future with your partner.

5. What do you think is the key to a happy and healthy relationship?

Is it intimacy, communication, or just love? Maybe it's different for everyone.

6. Which member of my family do you like the most and which do you like the least?

Decide if you want to answer this question. I think there's nothing wrong with telling the truth about how you feel about your partner's family, as long as it's respectful.

7. Do you feel jealous if your partner associates with a friend of the opposite sex?

If yes, why do you think you are jealous? Did something happen to you in the past that prevented you from trusting your partner?

8. Given the realities of your current life, how often would you like to have sex with your partner?

I've been sad about this a hundred times before - talking to your partner about sex is crucial.

9. What makes you feel most loved?

Is this something special or is your partner saying something?

10. What's the best compliment you've ever received?

Was it from your boyfriend/girlfriend or someone else?

You can find more interesting questions for couples here: 👉 200 questions for couples

9 ways to start a conversation at work with anyone

With the founder of the company or its head

You: Hello! How is your week going?

Bosses: “Not bad. Many affairs! And how are you?"

You: “Great. Very excited to be working on [the most important part of the project for you].”

In this scenario, you give the opportunity to tell your boss about yourself. An open-ended question can get your boss to share his progress (in which case, prepare to listen carefully and ask a well thought out question at the end). Or he will politely ask how things are going with you. Be prepared for this question and answer it directly and intelligently. Tell us exactly what you are working on and in which department if there is a question about your role in the company.

Large companies employ a lot of people, so there is nothing wrong with inserting information about yourself during a conversation with the head or owner of the company. If you're not sure if your boss knows your name, it's time to reach out to him and say, “Looks like you and I don't know each other. My name is [your name]."

Newbie

You: Hello. You came [this week, last Friday], didn't you? I am [your name] from the [X] team. So, how did you get on in your new place? Have you been to [a popular cafe nearby] yet?”

Newbie: “I'm fine, thanks. Much, of course, still to be learned, but I like everything. How long have you been working here?"

You: “From [the time you started working]. I still can’t believe that [there is some memorable event from the life of the company that you caught here].”

Your task is to start a conversation and make the newcomer relax. No, of course, you can look away at the sight of a new person, grunt “hello” to him and run further to brew your coffee, but you are capable of more, right? Friendly relationships with colleagues are worth it.

Remember, being a beginner is always difficult. If the company and your role in it is important to you, respect its culture and development - for starters, do not ignore newcomers, thinking that someone else should befriend them.

With a colleague who has been working here for a hundred years (and who you are afraid of)

You: “I'm thinking about where to go for lunch. I don’t know the local places yet, but you have been working here for a long time. Can you tell me where there are good places?

Colleague: “What exactly interests you?”

This opening opens up many options for conversation. This, of course, is not the kind of situation where you need to quickly strike up a conversation, but since you are so afraid to talk to this person, you should overcome yourself and say not only “Hello. How are you?".

It's not rash to start a conversation about work, but it will be easier if you have at least a little understanding of what exactly your colleague is working on. Try to point out his or her experience (in this case, knowing a place to dine). It is possible that this is the kindest person, and you have a wrong idea about him. The only way to find out is to boldly start a conversation.

With event organizer

You: “Great place. Thank you for arranging all this for us. Do you plan to do this often?

Organizer: “You know, of course I plan to, because in my company…”

Have you heard that most people like to talk about themselves? So take advantage of this. This approach is especially useful if you have no idea what to talk about with the person you just met, or are afraid that you have nothing interesting to say.

If you start a conversation with the organizer in this way, it is unlikely that you will have to answer anything. You just need to periodically insert a few phrases in order to keep the conversation going and make a good impression.

VIP

You: Hello. My name is [your name]. I know you are very busy, but I realized that I will regret it all my life if I don’t come up and tell you that your application is simply brilliant.”

Most likely, the maximum that a celebrity will do is thank you, and this gratitude should not be taken personally. A compliment is always a good start to a conversation. If you have something good to say about this person's company, program, or product, then why not start a conversation with that and see where it goes next?

With former boss

You: “Good to see you! How are things at [company name]? I read that you expanded [department or production]. Surely you are happy with this development.

Former boss: “Yes, I'm glad. Now everything is a little chaotic, but it is interesting to work. I like being able to focus on something."

No matter under what conditions you left the company, there is still no need to pretend that you do not see your former boss at the snack table. Be polite to him. Thus, you will demonstrate your character and professionalism. This isn't the first time you've run into someone you don't want to hang out with, but as they say, skill comes with experience.

Even if your ex-boss is angry with you after you leave, he is unlikely to be able to ignore your kindness.

With an employee from an unfamiliar department

You: “Well, how is your week going? Busy with projects?

Interlocutor: "Better than usual because we're working on [the team's main project]."

You: “Oh, interesting. Didn't know you were doing it too. What exactly are you doing?"

This vague start of the conversation makes it clear that you don't know what this employee does (don't worry, he probably doesn't know what you do either). But, nevertheless, this way you can start a conversation about his affairs and the work of his team.

If your interlocutor has been talkative, perhaps he will describe in detail what his department is doing, and you will have something to talk about at the next meeting. If he is uncommunicative, then you can talk about your work.

With your boss' other half

You: “It's good that you could come. It's great to finally meet the person I've heard so much about. Susan said you love to cook together. What dish did you make the best?

Interlocutor: “It's hard to say. Probably chicken in the oven ... ".

Starting a conversation like this implies that you will remember something that you heard from the boss about his "soulmate". If nothing comes to your mind, try to find out about it in a more popular way by asking: “I wonder what business we distracted you from with our event?” or “What else interesting happened to you this week (besides this meeting!)?”.

When talking to your boss's “soulmate”, don't act too relaxed and as if you've known each other for a long time. But don't treat her like a stranger. As with a seemingly unfriendly co-worker, try not to get nervous. If you already have a good working relationship with your boss, then communicating with his "soulmate" will only improve them.

With trainee

You: “How was the weekend? Are you watching or reading anything interesting right now?”

Intern: “Great. I'm now hooked on [series one] and [series two]. Do you watch them?

You: “Oh, I heard [the first series] was cool, but I haven't watched it yet. But I'm watching [the second series]. I love the actor who plays dad."

Starting a conversation with a topic about series, books or films, you are unlikely to have problems continuing the conversation. Unless, of course, the trainee lives in a cave and does not know what is happening in the world. Find some common interests or discuss things you strongly disagree with.

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