After all i've done for you

"After everything I've done for you!" Why people pleasing isn't 'giving'

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As a recovering people pleaser, I’m all too familiar with how we can feel like some of the most giving, generous people who are often underappreciated for their efforts. When we consider making changes, we feel caught between a rock and a hard place because we think that we will be regarded as ‘selfish’, ‘demanding’, ‘bad’, ‘mean’ and other such criticisms that are really designed to let the takers of this world keep taking from givers.

What motivated me to rein in my pleaser was that I recognised that I was doing good things for the wrong reasons. Yes, I was trying to please but I had a hidden agenda of ‘I’ll do this for you and you’ll give me what I want or spare me from unpleasant outcomes’.

What I wasn’t aware of is that people pleasing comes from what we feel we are obliged to do in order to be a certain type of person but to also gain love, attention, affection, validation and approval, as well as avoid conflict, criticism, disappointment, abandonment and loss.

In truth that means, ‘I feel that I have to do this ‘for you’ so that you feel obliged to give me what I want (or to spare me from unpleasant outcomes)’.

We all, well certainly empathetic folk, do things that despite our intentions, we in retrospect realise that it wasn’t a good idea or that we need to approach it differently next time. We learn from the experience.

When we’re entrenched in people pleasing though, so we don’t even recognise the habit as being an issue, or we do but can’t see another way to be, we keep doing the same thing and expecting a different tipping point result.

It permeates every area of our life and we feel resentful, victimed, powerless, helpless and downhearted.

Invariably there comes a point where we can’t take anymore and we’re forced to confront our pattern, no matter how discomforting it might be. We realise that, yes, people do take the piss, that we are always the one who, for instance, volunteers their time, sorts out problems, keeps quiet. backs down, overperforms, puts everyone first etc, and that we’ve had some pretty painful experiences, but we also realise that we are the common denominator. That doesn’t mean that we’re responsible for other people’s behaviour but what it does mean is that we have to look at what we’re bringing to the situation and calling ‘right’.

Remember that we’re often feeling short-changed, like we’re not ‘good enough’, and like nothing we do is ever enough, yet we still think that being pleasing is ‘right’.

We become aware of such a thing as boundaries (knowing where we end and others begin and knowing our line and our limit so that we live in line with our values) and realise that we are the key player in the management and creation of our own, but then feel genuinely perplexed and anxious about how cutting back on people pleasing isn’t going to turn us into a horrible person that everyone wants to argue with, criticise, reject and abandon.

And let’s be real: a few too many rides at the people pleasing rodeo mean that we’re left trying to figure out a new way to be without becoming bitter and suspicious.

It’s like, ‘Right, world! You’ve maxed out your credit with me and if anyone wants anything from me in future, they’re gonna be put through their paces. No one’s gonna get away with anything ever again’.

We put up a wall and get panicky about boundaries because we quite simply don’t know the difference between giving and sacrificing.

Giving is wholehearted, autonomous and authentic. It’s the free transfer of something so basically, it has no strings attached. If we are giving something with a specific expectation of what we should get back, if the other party is unaware, it’s not a give.

Similarly, if we decide to give (read: do or be) something because it’s just something we decided off our own back or we thought, ‘If I do this, they’ll do that, and then such-and-such will happen’, that’s not a give.

So, for instance, when I was involved in an 18-month affair with a co-worker, I felt entitled to him leaving due to my pain and suffering. I’d given him a grand ole time, made it super comfy for him, and in my mind, given him everything he wanted, and all without him having to cough up a relationship or even be faithful.

Newsflash: He did not ask me to do that. If I’d told him from the outset that this is what was expected, I can assure you that the affair would never have got off the ground.

Now, granted, he did make out like he was going to leave, how tricky the situation was, how he saw me as his girlfriend and blah blah blah, but all of this was in response to my dissatisfaction with the situation.

Truth be told, part of my people pleasing in life has been to pretend that I had less needs than I had, that things didn’t bother me as much, and that I was super independent.

Sure, I’m an independent person but truth be told, that people pleasing was really my form of self-protection that allowed me to feel safe while still trying to get what I want without having to admit that actually, I did bloody well have needs, things did bother me, and while I was independent in some ways, relationship wise I was codependent and acting out issues stemming from abandonment in childhood.

Now, you can apply this to anything you’ve been a pleaser about and that same truth will remain: you’re doing stuff that no one actually asked you to do or that they’re certainly not going to take responsibility for.

They’ll go, ‘Yeah, sure, I have asked you if I can borrow money off you on a number of occasions but if what you really wanted to do was say no, you could have’.

They’ll go, ‘Yeah, you did sleep with me, listen to my problems and feed my cat when I was away even though I made it clear that I’m clearly not going to give you a relationship, and yes, I did text you, but the fact that you did those things doesn’t mean that I should want to have a relationship and if you really wanted more, you should have told me to jog on’.

They’ll go, ‘Yes, you did go above and beyond at work and it’s appreciated, but that doesn’t mean that I can’t flag up an issue or that you have to be first in line for promotion, plus actually, if you’d asked me what I was looking for to promote, I would have given you far easier suggestions.

They’ll go, ‘Um, yeah, thanks for never being honest with me and not trying to hurt my feelings but I’m a grownup, I didn’t ask you to hold back, and I don’t appreciate you unleashing all this pent-up stuff on me and telling me how I’m a bad friend for not being able to read your mind about something’.

Which brings me neatly to sacrifice, the act of giving up something of value for the sake of something else regarded as more important or worthy.

Being willing to make sacrifices is a part of life. We do it every time we make a decision because there are trade-offs to every decision. We say yes to something while saying no to something else. Sure, we can try and sit on the fence but it never works out well.

If we do something that involves giving us up, pretending to be something we’re not, and suppressing and repressing our needs, expectations, desires, wants, feelings and opinions, this is not giving—it’s sacrifice.

Just so we’re all clear, sacrificing yourself for a relationship isn’t giving; it’s degrading you. It instantly makes the relationship imbalanced and unhealthy.

People make sacrifices within their relationships but when they’re made from a healthy place, they become autonomous gives.

We do something not just because we want to but because when the other person gives, we don’t want him/her to come from a place of feeling manipulated, coerced and guilted, just as we wouldn’t want to either. We don’t want to keep score and say stuff like, ‘After everything I’ve done for you!’

When we feel obliged to do something, it’s an automatic precursor to guilt and resentment and so when it comes to the relationships we value, we gradually work out that we have to decide what we feel we have to do versus what we want to. Wrestling with a sense of obligation becomes a jump-off point for an honest conversation with ourselves and with the party in question.

We consider what the baggage might be behind our obligation, what our motives and expectations are including what we might be afraid of, and we also have to consider the consequences of doing it from a place of obligation, so how we might feel if we go ahead, but also how we might feel if they and life don’t meet our expectations of what we think will happen if we meet that need.

People pleasing is based on the idea that we are obliged to meet someone else’s need quite simply because they have it. To be clear, we’re not.

People pleasing is our attempt to say yes to ‘everyone’ while always saying no to ourselves.

What we don’t often realise is that some of our closest, most valued relationships, interests and causes get sacrificed because we haven’t figured out how to say no and be OK with someone being disappointed [due to us saying no] to meeting a need that we don’t have to meet.

We have to treat ourselves as a person of value and actually, that starts with taking responsibility and figuring out what our values are and living by them, instead of trying to shape shift for everyone. It’s realising that we hate feeling guilty and obliged, so why would we want to do that with others? It becomes clear that we can’t keep ignoring us and putting ourselves last and then expecting others to make up for it. We decide that if we can’t give it wholeheartedly, then we need to speak up about our expectations and be OK with the other person having a different viewpoint, because at least we’ll know where we stand and will have spared ourselves pain and problems. We can consciously choose our preferences, priorities and principles so that we feel like the worthwhile and valuable person we’d forgotten we are.

If you feel guilty, obliged or bad before or after you give, it’s not giving. The truth is, it’s time to stop emotionally blackmailing yourself. It’s a vicious cycle that ironically will leave you feeling far worse than if you’d said no.

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6. "True love stories never have endings." – Richard Bach

7. "The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched—they must be felt with the heart." – Helen Keller

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10. "Laughter is holier than piety, freedom is sweeter than fame, and in the end it's love and love alone that really matters." – Tom Robbins

11. "You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams." – Dr. Seuss

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13. "You're my one in five billion." – The X-Files

14. "Happiness is anyone and anything at all that's loved by you." – You're a Good Man, Charlie Brown

15. "A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you." – Elbert Hubbard

16. "Maybe you don't need the whole world to love you, you know. Maybe you just need one person. " – The Muppets

17. "That's why they call them crushes. If they were easy, they'd call them something else." – Sixteen Candles

18. "Once upon a time there was a boy who loved a girl, and her laughter was a question he wanted to spend his whole life answering." – Nicole Krauss, The History of Love

19. "Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired." – Robert Frost

20. "At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet." – Plato

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21. "Love is a snowmobile racing across the tundra and then suddenly it flips over, pinning you underneath. At night, the ice weasels come. " – Matt Groening, The Big Book of Hell

22. "All you need is love. But a little chocolate now and then doesn't hurt." - Charles M. Schulz

23. "I love being married. It's so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life. " – Rita Rudner

24. "Love is something sent from heaven to worry the hell out of you." – Dolly Parton

25. "I just happened to be nowhere near your neighborhood." – Singles

26. "I'm afraid once your heart is involved, it all comes out in moron." – Gilmore Girls

27. "Falling in love is not at all the most stupid thing that people do, but gravitation cannot be held responsible for it." – Albert Einstein

28. "Real love amounts to withholding the truth, even when you're offered the perfect opportunity to hurt someone's feelings." – David Sedaris

29. "Marriage is like a game of chess except the board is flowing water, the pieces are made of smoke and no move you make will have any effect on the outcome. " – Jerry Seinfeld

30. "Love is a two-way street constantly under construction." – Carroll Bryant

Short Love Quotes

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31. "I love you and I like you." – Parks and Recreation

32. "Who, being loved, is poor?" – Oscar Wilde

33. "I like you very much. Just as you are." – Bridget Jones's Diary

34. "True love is inexhaustible. The more you give, the more you have." – Antoine De Saint-Exupery

35. "Nothing compares to you." – Prince, "Nothing Compares 2 U" lyrics

36. "Love loves to love love." – James Joyce

37. "You make me want to be a better man." – As Good As It Gets

38. "To me you are perfect." – Love Actually

39. "Love me—that's all I ask of you." – Phantom of the Opera

40. "I'm in lesbians with you." – Scott Pilgrim vs. the World

Inspirational/Beautiful Love Quotes

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41. "Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own." – Robert A. Heinlein, Stranger in a Strange Land

42. "But the heart's not like a box that gets filled up. It expands in size the more you love." – Her

43. "There is no remedy for love, but to love more." – Thoreau

44. "There's only one thing that cuts through all our realities and that's love—the bridge between all our differences. " – The L Word

45. "Some love stories aren't epic novels. Some are short stories, but that doesn't make them any less filled with love." – Sex and the City

46. "All, everything that I understand, I understand only because I love." – Leo Tolstoy, War and Peace

47. "Give in to love, or live in fear." – Rent

48. "Because through love, we feel the intensity of our connection to everything and everyone. And at the core we are all the same. We're all one." – Loving Annabelle

49. "Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into a friend." – Martin Luther King, Jr.

50. "We accept the love we think we deserve." – Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower

51. "We loved with a love that was more than love." – Edgar Allen Poe, "Annabel Lee"

52. "Absence is to love what wind is to fire; it extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great." – Roger de Rabutin

53. "My love she speaks like silence,
Without ideals or violence,
She doesn't have to say she's faithful,
Yet she's true, like ice, like fire.
People carry roses
Make promises by the hours,
My love she laughs like the flowers,
Valentines can't buy her."
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54. "If you find me not within you, you will never find me. For I have been with you, from the beginning of me." – Rumi

55. "Lonely days of uncertainty, they disappear when you're near me, when you're around my life's worthwhile, and now I long to see you smile." – Big Star, "My Life is Right" lyrics

56. "I may not always love you,
But long as there are stars above you,
You'll have no need to doubt it,
I'll make you so sure about it."
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57. "I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where,
I love you simply, without problems or pride:
I love you in this way because I don't know any other way of loving."
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58. "I can't do everything but I'd do anything for you
I can't do anything except be in love with you. "
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59. "In all the world, there is no heart for me like yours. In all the world, there is no love for you like mine." –Maya Angelou

60. "If I never see you again I will always carry you
on my fingertips
and at brain edges
and in centers
of what I am of
what remains."
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61. "A simple 'I love you' means more than money." – Frank Sinatra, "Tell Her You Love Her" lyrics

62. "The real lover is the man who can thrill you by kissing your forehead or smiling into your eyes or just staring into space." – Marilyn Monroe

63. "Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies. " – Aristotle

64. "The best thing to hold onto in life is each other." – Audrey Hepburn

65. "Sometimes the heart sees what is invisible to the eye." – H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

66. "Love is when he gives you a piece of your soul that you never knew was missing." – Torquato Tasso

67. "Love is a friendship set to music." – Joseph Campbell

68. "If I know what love is, it is because of you." – Herman Hesse, Narcissus and Goldmund

69. "Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get—only with what you are expecting to give—which is everything." – Katharine Hepburn, Me: Stories of My Life

70. "It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages." – Friedrich Nietzsche

71. "If one day the moon calls you by your name don't be surprised, because every night I tell her about you." – Shahrazad al-Khalij

72. "How odd I can have all this inside me and to you it's just words." – David Foster Wallace

73. "If you were in an accident, I wouldn't stop for red lights." – The West Wing

74. "I would rather share one lifetime with you than face all the ages of this world alone." – J.K.K. Tolken, The Lord of the Rings: The Fellowship of the Ring

75. "I love you. I've loved you since the first moment I saw you. I guess maybe I've even loved you before I saw you." – A Place in the Sun


Bible Love Quotes

There's no doubt that the Bible is the ultimate guidebook for love. Whether you're looking for a Bible love quote for a religious occasion or you're exploring love and faith in your own life, these love quotes are a beautiful place to start.

76. "Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. " – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

77. "The flowers have already appeared in the land; The time has arrived for pruning the vines, And the voice of the turtledove has been heard in our land. The fig tree has ripened its figs, And the vines in blossom have given forth their fragrance. Arise, my darling, my beautiful one, And come along!'" – Song of Solomon 2:12

78. "Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves." – Romans 12:10

79. "But Ruth said, 'Do not urge me to leave you or turn back from following you; for where you go, I will go, and where you lodge, I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God, my God.'" – Ruth 1:16

80. "Don't just pretend to love others. Really love them. Hate what is wrong. Hold tightly to what is good. Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other." – Romans 12:9-15, New Living Translation

81. "Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. " – 1 Peter 4:8

82. "There is no fear in love, but perfect love drives out fear, because fear involves punishment. The one who fears has not been perfected in love." – 1 John 4:18

83. "We love because He first loved us." – 1 John 4:19

84. "Most of all, let love guide your life, for then the whole church will stay together in perfect harmony." – Colossians 3:14

85. "Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love." – Ephesians 4:2

World Religions Love Quotes

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86. "Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth, for your love is better than wine." King Solomon, Song of Songs 1:2

87. "Radiate boundless love towards the entire world—above, below, and across—unhindered, without ill will, without enmity." Buddha

88. "Love and compassion are the true religions to me. But to develop this, we do not need to believe in any religion" Dalai Lama

89. "A husband and wife are one soul, separated only through their descent to this world. When they are married, they are reunited again." The Zohar, 191a

90. "Love is a gift of one's inner most soul to another so both can be whole." Buddha

91. "A man should eat and drink less than his means, clothes himself according to his means, and honor his wife and children beyond his means." Talmud, Chullin 84b

92. "Love is the absence of judgement" Dalai Lama

93. "The way is not in the sky. The way is in the heart." Buddha

Famous Love Quotes

The whole world swooned when Jerry Maguire aimed those smoldering eyes at Dorothy and said, "You complete me." If you want to make a splash with just one quote, a famous love quote is the way to go. After all, they're timeless for a reason!

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94. "You had me at 'hello.' " – Jerry Maguire

95. "'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all." – Alfred Lord Tennyson, "In Memoriam A.H.H"

96. "Love means never having to say you're sorry." – Love Story

97. "What do you want? You want the moon? Just say the word and I'll throw a lasso around it and pull it down." – It's a Wonderful Life

98. "All you need is love." – The Beatles, "All You Need Is Love" lyrics

99. "Where there is love there is life." – Mahatma Gandhi

100. "Of all the gin joints in all the towns in all the world, she walks into mine." – Casablanca

101. "Pleasure of love lasts but a moment. Pain of love lasts a lifetime." – Bette Davis

102. "And don't forget—I'm also just a girl, standing in front of a boy, asking him to love her." – Notting Hill

103. "Nobody puts Baby in a corner. " – Dirty Dancing

Shakespeare Love Quotes

These quotes about love come straight from the master of love himself—you guessed it—William Shakespeare! If you want to dazzle your partner with some of the most poetic sentiments around, then trust the bard. These Shakespearean love sayings will take your beloved's breath away.

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104. "Love is not love which alters when it alteration finds, or bends with the remover to remove: O no! it is an ever-fixed mark, that looks on tempests and is never shaken." – "Sonnet 116"

105. "Doubt thou the stars are fire, Doubt that the sun doth move, Doubt truth to be a liar, But never doubt I love." – Hamlet

106. "Now join your hands, and with your hands your hearts." – King Henry V

107. "Love is a smoke and is made with the fume of sighs." – Romeo and Juliet

108. "I do love nothing in the world so well as you." – Much Ado About Nothing

109. "Love looks not with the eyes but with the mind." – A Midsummer Night's Dream

110. "Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none." – All's Well That Ends Well

111. "The sight of lovers feedeth those in love." – As You Like It

112. "Hear my soul speak. Of the very instant that I saw you, Did my heart fly at your service" – The Tempest

113. "Love comforteth like sunshine after rain." – "Venus and Adonis"

114. "Who ever loved that loved not at first sight?" – As You Like It

115. "Hear my soul speak. Of the very instant that I saw you, Did my heart fly at your service." The Tempest

116. "What is light, if Sylvia be not seen? What is joy if Sylvia be not by?" The Two Gentlemen of Verona

Country Love Quotes

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Give your sentiments a country-style kick with our list of romantic and sentimental country love quotes. Whether you're looking for a quote to match your wedding's country vibe, or simply love country music, we've got you covered with these quotes about love.

117. "This much I know is true
That God blessed the broken road
That led me straight to you."
– Rascal Flatts, "Bless the Broken Road" lyrics

118. "Through weakness and strength
Happiness and sorrow
For better, for worse
I will love you with every beat of my heart."
– Shania Twain, "From This Moment On" lyrics

119. "From here on after
Let's stay the way we are right now
And share all the love and laughter
That a lifetime will allow."
– George Strait, "I Cross My Heart" lyrics

120. "The way we work together is what sets our love apart
So closely that you can't tell where I end and where you start."
– Clint Black, "Something That We Do" lyrics

121. "Life with you makes perfect sense
You're my best friend."
– Tim McGraw, "My Best Friend" lyrics

122. "Be a best friend, tell the truth
And overuse 'I love you.'"
– Lee Brice, "Love Like Crazy" lyrics

123. "Holding you I held everything." – Garth Brooks, "The Dance" lyrics

124. "What's meant to be will always find a way." – Trisha Yearwood, "She's in Love with the Boy" lyrics

125. "They didn't have you where I come from
Never knew the best was yet to come
Life began when I saw your face
And I hear your laugh like a serenade."
– Dixie Chicks, "Lullaby" lyrics

126. "There ain't a cowboy hat in Dallas if I ain't in love with you." – The Charlie Daniels Band, "Cowboy Hat in Dallas" lyrics

Disney Love Quotes

We're crushing hard on Disney love quotes because, well, it's Disney. Simple, sweet, and dipped in nostalgia, you can use these love phrases for just about anything. Just don't call them cartoonish!

Megan Rubey

127. "When somebody loved me
Everything was beautiful." – Toy Story 2

128. "Some people are worth melting for." – Frozen

129. "It's enough for this restless wanderer just to be with you." – The Lion King

130. "It's there, I know it is, because when I look at you, I can feel it. And I look at you, and I'm home." – Finding Nemo

131. "All at once everything looks different, now that I see you." – Tangled

132. "Love is a song that never ends." – Bambi

133. "Tell me, princess, now when did you last let your heart decide?" – Aladdin

134. "You mean more to me than anyone in this whole world." – Peter Pan

135. "You are my greatest adventure." – The Incredibles

136. "One song, my heart keeps singing, of one love only for you." – Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs

137. "I have just met you and I love you." Dug, Up

138. "I'd rather die tomorrow than live a hundred years without knowing you. " – John Smith, Pocahontas

139. "You were my new dream" – Flynn Rider, Tangled

140. "Love is an open door." – Anna and Hans, Frozen

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Whether you want to surprise your someone special with a romantic card "just because" or find the perfect love saying for your wedding vows, we've got you covered. These 140 love quotes and love phrases will give you the right words to say to express what's truly in your heart. If you need a little more inspiration on writing unforgettable vows, take a look at all of our wedding vows advice and tips.

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I don't intend to share you with anyone. You are either mine or you are free. I need someone who will have me in the lead roles. I didn't sign up for the crowd.

Unknown author (1000+)

- Tell me honestly, what do you feel for me?
- Patience. Huge patience.

Unknown author (1000+)

Mom, they told me that I look like you. It was the best compliment in my life..

Unknown author (1000+)

If I am part of your Destiny, someday you will return to me.

Alchemist (Paulo Coelho) (50+)

I proposed to my wife on the third day of our acquaintance, and all my life I regretted only two lost days...

Al Pacino (30+)

Do you know what is the worst thing in the world? I confess to you in secret: that in the end you get used to everything.

Erich Maria Remarque (100+)

She belongs to me, and I to her, our separation, quarrels, cooling are just patterns against the background of eternal love.

In the days of the comet (HG Wells) (20+)

At night, when you look at the sky, you will see my star, the one on which I live, on which I laugh. And you will hear that all the stars are laughing. You will have stars who know how to laugh!

The Little Prince (Antoine de Saint-Exupery) (100+)

There will be what should be and will not be otherwise. You cannot influence it. The only change you have the strength to make is yourself.

Amu Mom (50+)

Happiness is when you are loved for what you are and for what you are. Regardless of what you have.

Victor Hugo (100+)
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14 Manipulation and Control Techniques Narcissists Use


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Narcissists distort reality by misinforming, oversimplifying, ridiculing and sowing doubts. Many of them are fluent in the classical techniques of mind manipulation. In order to resist this manipulation, it is important to think critically and recognize in time the methods by which they consciously or unconsciously distort reality. Family therapist Dan Newhart lists 14 of the most common manipulation and control tactics narcissists use.

1. Appeal to emotions

Narcissists try to get others to give in to emotions (fear, guilt) instead of thinking logically. By appealing to emotions, they try to pass off false statements as truth. Since they are generally inclined to throw tantrums and scandals, this turns out to be quite natural for them.


“How dare you argue with me! After everything I've done for you!"

2. Relying on "majority opinion"

They try to force others to comply because "everyone does it." Narcissists are well aware of the mob power phenomenon. For them, the number of “likes” on social networks and other indicators of popularity are incredibly important. A large number of subscribers, friends or followers helps them feel their own value. They use the power of groupthink and the pressure of the collective to their advantage, making it clear that anyone who goes against them risks being an outcast.


"By the way, all your friends agree with me."

3. Black and White Thinking

These people present the situation as if there are only two choices, view the world in terms of "yes" and "no". Subtleties and semitones are inaccessible to them. They operate on the principle of "Divide and Conquer".


"You are either with me or against me."

4. Unsubstantiated claims

Narcissists believe that they do not need to prove their point of view, on the contrary, it is the opponents who will have to work hard to refute it. They also like to take credit for other people's accomplishments, but they don't want to take responsibility.


“I know for sure that I am right. This is true until proven otherwise.

5. Flattery and fake compliments

Such people adore any compliments and are sure that others love them in the same way, and therefore they flatter them in order to convince them that they are right.


"I couldn't manipulate you anyway - you're too smart for that."

6. Distrust of the words of the interlocutor

Not understanding what the interlocutor is saying, narcissists often pretend that what is said is simply absurd and not worth discussing. In this way they try to brush aside well-founded objections.


“Do you really think other husbands are better than me? Do you think that other wives receive from their husbands even a small fraction of what I give you? You have no idea about the real world!”

7. Labeling

Narcissists like to label people they don't like or ideas they don't agree with. In a word, they seem to humiliate the other and cross out everything he said. This gives them a sense of power.


“You always need something. You're just a loser."

8. False Compromises

They like to offer a "compromise" solution in situations in which one can do either right or wrong. “Compromise” then turns out to be just a lesser injustice.


“Okay, you won. I'll pay you back $50 of the $100 you borrowed, and we're even. It's better than nothing!"

9. Empty promises

Narcissists easily make promises without intending to keep them.


“Your turn will come. I promise".

10. Quotes taken out of context

These people often repeat what the interlocutor said, taking his words out of context and thus trying to discredit him and force him to justify himself.


"You always said that people should be responsible for themselves, so when the ambulance took you to the hospital, I thought you didn't need my help."

11. Ridicule

With the help of ridicule, disparaging or sarcastic remarks, unkind humor, narcissists put others down, showing that they do not take them seriously.


“I've never heard anything stupider in my life. Do not embarrass yourself!"

12. Consequence Intimidation

Such people often try to present some minor problem as “the first step on a slippery slope”, which supposedly will lead to catastrophic consequences in the future. This is done in order to divert the attention of the interlocutor from well-founded claims with the help of far-fetched threats.

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